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PRIDE MONTH 2017 READING LIST

Looking for some YA books with queer main characters to read during pride month? Here’s a list of titles I’ve read and/or heard great things about. Most of these were published within the past year or so. Feel free to add on!

You Know Me Well by David Levithian and Nina LaCour

Two classmates, one gay and the other lesbian, meet during pride month in San Francisco and help each other through relationship problems.

 Tell me Again How a Crush Should Feel by Sara Farizan

Finally! A cute F/F novel where no lesbians die in the end! The main character is an Iranian American with traditional parents.

 Last Seen Leaving by Caleb Roehrig

Mystery/thriller about a closeted gay boy who’s girlfriend goes missing, and he becomes the focus of her disappearance. I can usually figure out what happened in mystery novels early on but this one had me guessing until the very last page.

The Abyss Surrounds Us and The Edge of the Abyss by Emily Skrutskie

Lesbian pirates and sea monsters. Need I say more?

When the Moon Was Ours by Anna-Marie McLemore

This one’s like reading a modern day fairy tell starring a trans boy named Sam, who’s family immigrated from Pakistan, and a Latina girl named Miel who grows flowers out of her wrists. And there’s a glass coffin. It’s super creepy.

Queens of Geek by Jen Wilde

Y’all, this is set at SupaCon (like Comic Con!). There are two narrators. Charlie, an Asian movie star who is bisexual, and Taylor, a blogger who has ASP.

Radical by E.M. Kokie

This one’s a little darker. It’s about a butch lesbian doomsday prepper who accidently gets involved in a dangerous plot that could get her and her family into some serious trouble. I liked this book because Bex’s views about guns are completely different than mine. But that’s why we read, right? To learn about people who are different from you.

 Of Fire and Stars by Audrey Coulthurst

This book was pitched to me as a fantasy book about a princess betrothed to a prince but she falls in love with his sister. It’s pretty good.

PS: Dear Mrs. Coulthurst, thank you for Chapter 34

 10 Things I Can See From Here by Carrie Mac

A f/f story set in Vancouver about a girl with anxiety who goes to live with her dad and falls in love with a musician.

 How to Make a Wish by Ashley Herring Blake

Like Sarah Dessen? You’ll love How to Make a Wish! It’s about a girl, who’s bisexual, who falls in love with a biracial dancer. It’s part love story, part mother-daughter story and super amazing and emotional!

 History Is All You Left Me by Adam Silvera

Keep your tissues close. You’ll need them. Griffin’s ex-boyfriend, Theo, drowns and he’s left devastated. He grows close to Theo’s boyfriend, Jackson, who is one of the few people who knows what he’s going through.

We Are Okay by Nina LaCour

Speaking of tissues, you’ll also need them for Nina LaCour’s latest YA/NA crossover. Marin is staying at school alone for Christmas holidays and her best friend Mabel comes to visit. It’s a tear jerker but also amazing and beautifully written.

The Upside of Unrequited by Becky Albertalli

I’m gonna cheat with this one because the main character isn’t queer. BUT she has two moms, they’re a biracial couple, her twin sister is a lesbian, and the sister’s girlfriend is pansexual. And her moms’ wedding is a big part of the plot. Great book to read during pride month!

Dreadnought by April Daniels

Superhero novel with a main character who’s transgender and a lesbian. I’ve read this and heard mixed reviews but for the most part, it’s a good book if you like superheroes.

The Better to Kiss You With by Michelle Osgood

This is a f/f story that I’m not entirely sure how to categorize. It’s part paranormal romance, part mystery/thriller, but could also be NA. The love interest is a butch lesbian who’s a werewolf!

Girl Mans Up by M-E Girard

Main character is a butch lesbian who comes from a traditional Portuguese family.

The Cursed Queen by Sarah Fine

If you’re a Clexa shipper, you’ll love The Cursed Queen. A fantasy novel with a bisexual main character who falls in love with her chieftain’s daughter. You can’t help but fall in love with Ansa and Thrya. And the best part? No dead queer girls!

Because lesbians were so frightened about divulging themselves and often had no idea where to meet other lesbians for social contact, life could be lonely even if they were lucky enough to have found a mate. May says she met her lover at the University of Texas in the late 1920s, and though they stayed together for more than twenty years, they told almost no one about the nature of their relationship. It placed such a strain on them that May often thought of leaving Virgie, especially during the ’30s, because “I was tired of hiding in a corner. And there was no question of coming out. I wanted so much to be able to talk freely with people, to be like everyone else, not to feel like we loved in a wasteland, but that was impossible. I had a lot of heterosexual women friends, but I thought that as long as I was in that relationship I could never have a close friend. I knew how people would have looked down on us if they’d guessed.”

Although May and Virgie had heard about homosexual men, they knew no lesbians. May claims that she did not become aware that there were other lesbians in the world until 1950, when they began going to dog shows and occasionally saw lesbian couples there, but even then they did not talk to them. At one point in the late ’30s they befriended two heterosexual couples who suspected they were lovers, but those friendships did not last long: “Both the men thought all I needed was a good fuck, and they let me know it.” When May left Virgie in 1953 she felt that although she was “going through a horrible time,” she had to suffer in silence, because there was no one in whom she could confide. It was not until the advent of the feminist movement in the 1970s, when she was already in her late 60s, that she felt she could talk about those years of her life. But the scars remained for women of her generation, as she indicates now. She says she still feels free to talk only in “appropriate circumstances.”
—  Lillian Faderman, Odd Girls and Twilight Lovers: A History of Lesbian Life in Twentieth-Century America

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Who: We, the mods at butches and femmes, are hosting our third match making event in celebration of reaching 1000 followers, in which we aim to match up all our bookworm lesbians based on their literary tastes! We hope to build upon our past experiences in hosting these events to make this a fantastic experience for everyone

How: First, read the Terms and Conditions which can be viewed below and found on our about page. Then simply fill out the lesbian library card application below and copy it into our submission box. Please include as much detail as you can! We will match lesbians based on similarities in literary tastes and writer/reader aesthetics AND we will post a list of reading groups, again based on literary tastes and aesthetics so you can all hang out and fangirl over your particular interests together. Once we have posted the groups it’s up to you to get in contact with one another, although we will happily provide help, advice, prompts and other useful resources for you should you need them.

Where: the event will happen right here on this blog! Please don’t hesitate to ask if you have any questions or queries about the event and we will get back to you as soon as we can. Make sure to check back here for updates and announcements (we will be tagging any updates or information about the event with #lesbian library)

When: we will be accepting applications until 10:00pm April 21th 2017 GMT so make sure to send your form in before then. Pairs will be individually messaged the results and the reading group posts will go up on April 27th 2017 7:00pm (ish) GMT

Why: our intention is quite simply to help bookworm lesbians meet other bookworm lesbians (most of us being quite introverted) and hopefully find love and/or friendship. We do all the work for you!

Notes: The cover art used was created by mod w and the drawing is hers, although the photos used are public domain! Please, for the love of Patricia Highsmith, read our terms and conditions before submitting, thank you. Reblogs are appreciated.

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anonymous asked:

Awkward question incoming (I'm sorry)... I see you mention your wifey (aw, super sweet!) and I assume you are female (did I assume correctly? I hope so. You know what they say about assuming...) So now here comes the really awkward question... HOW DO YOU MEET OTHER LESBIAN/BI FEMALE REYLOS??? Help, I am a nerd lesbian Reylo trapped in the Midwest, surrounded by high school football and cows!

Hi! You’ve just met one! I’ve interacted with many lesbian, bi, demi, pan, ace reylos so far, the Fandom is so diverse and everyone is really friendly. You just have to go and say hi I guess. I know it’s easier said than done, I have social anxiety too. My ex gf hated reylo and my current partner is indifferent. But what you gotta do is convert them, 😂😈, I think that’s the trick.

And about @reylorobyn2011 “my wifey”, well as much as I’d love it if she were my wife in RL, alas, she isn’t. She is married and has two beautiful kids though.

We are each others reylo wives. It started off as a joke I think, I honestly don’t remember, but now it’s just something else. We do talk to each other more than anyone, if that makes sense to you, lol. Because reylo consumes our lives, we like and dislike the same things.

Nevertheless I do love her a lot and thankful to have her. ☺

thanks for the ask, if you wanna talk about it more send me a pm, I know how hard it is to be who we are if we don’t have a supportive environment. I’m from a Muslim family, lol so I do understand. ☺

Any LGBTQ+ reylo wanna give anon a shout?

You’re invited!

Who: Our blog, butchesandfemmes, is having our first ever sockhop, Valentine’s Day themed of course!
What: This is kind of your own personal matchmaking service in a super fun way, just in time for Valentine’s Day! The admin from our blog will match you with other lesbians based on your application. Feel free to pop a question in the ask box if you need further clarification!
When: We will be announcing matches February 14th, on Valentine’s Day, 7pm PST. Your application must be in before February 13th, 7pm PST, so we have time to go through them all and make the right selections!
Where: Right here on this Tumblr blog, @butchesandfemmes Here you’ll find all of the updates and announcements, as well as your match!
Why: The intention of this is to easily make other lesbians meet each other, we do all of the work for you!
How: Simply fill out the questions of the application below, (you’re more than welcome to add a picture of yourself too if you’d like) toss it in our submit box, and patiently await to be matched with another fellow lesbian, by us!


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anonymous asked:

Hurley and Sloane roller derby au???

1) Give me a pairing. 2) Give me an AU setting. 3) I will write you a three-sentence fic.

(forgive me anon, i’m an awful lesbian and know absolutely nothing about roller derby)

Hurley’s eyes darted away from the collage of flyers she was scanning through when she noticed someone come up alongside her. From her strained sideways look, the someone was taller than her (not unusual), had ripped up black jeans and scuffed-up shitkickers, and was wearing an Evanescence shirt in the year 2017. Probably looking for an application for a pop punk band to join.

They stood there in silence for a moment, both of them looking up at the mess of photocopied paper on the corkboard and shifting in their places, when finally Hurley reached up to grab one of the last few contact info slips for the local derby team.

… except, of course, as always, she couldn’t reach.

Then a lean tan hand reached up and snagged the two remaining slips, and Hurley’s blood ran cold - no, she needs that, how else is she supposed to meet other lesbians -

And then the someone says in a low, amused voice, “You reachin’ for this?” And Hurley looks up, intending to snark right back… except oh god she is a lesbian because the someone is beautiful. Her words stop in her throat and she is left gaping, and it’s embarrassing but what else can she do?

The someone half-smirks at her, then says, “The name’s Sloane. I suppose I’ll be seeing you at tryouts?”

Hurley nods a couple of times, not quite sure what else to do.

Sloane nods back, winks, and then turns on their heel, walking down the hallway and leaving Hurley to gape.

… and then Sloane trips on nothing and eats shit on the tile floor.

Sloane turns around, still on their ass, their cheeks flushed with embarrassment but still valiantly trying to keep on a cocky smile. “Keep ‘em guessing, am I right?”

Hurley isn’t fooled, and can’t help her bark of laughter as she turns to go. “I’ll definitely see you at tryouts, Sloane, but I just don’t know if I’ll see you on the team.”

anonymous asked:

I'm a lesbian and I find it so hard to meet other lesbians. And dating apps suck for real. If you know any lesbians who are into athletic / fem girls hook a sista up ! 😩

^

one thing about being a radical lesbian out of the english speaking imperialist countries is that most of the the time we educate ourselves in a foreign language and/or in translations, even when we do read in other languages it is still translation.. the translation to our reality, a colonized one, a latin american one, an indigenous one, a non-usa black one, the list can go on

it is a major step to actually start writing, start making our own theories

for me it has always been a mine field, in the past every time I went on a frenzy to decolonize I ended up deradicalizing my politics, I am still looking for some balance

This blog may be a part of the problem, because I read in english here and write mostly in english, but, at the same time, there is a silence rule all over that I (years ago when this started) only felt free to talk in disguise, a triple one: anonymity, language and virtual world 

but way before I had a tumblr account I looked for feminist involvement where I was, in Campinas, I enrolled in “gender” courses and went to the university soon to be dead feminist collective.. it was disappointing

I got deep into internet reading and it was then that I start meeting other brazilian lesbians that were reading the same english radical lesbian stuff that I was.. ok, ohooo, we finally met

but this whole process has a very sour taste on my mouth

Hi everyone!

Hi! My name is Aloe and i’m a 17 year old lesbian girl that lives in Spain. I love watching series ( my favourite ones right now are: The 100, Breaking Bad, Orange is the new Black, Black Mirror, Wrecked, People of Earth…) I also love learning new languages, in fact, i’m trying to learn German.

I mainly listen to Spanish music, but I also like Amy Winehouse, Ariana Grande, Stromae, Jain, Imagine Dragons, Selena Gomez…

I’m looking for someone between the ages of 16 to 19, any race, gender, religion…but you have you be respectful with everyone! I would like to meet other lesbian girls, just cause there’s not many people like me in my town, but that’s not really important.

I can speak Spanish and English, and I would like to talk through skype or something similar, but if you don’t feel comfortable we can talk through Tumblr first :) 

My account is aloe77. I hope to hear from you! 

lesbian groupchat 2017!

looking to start a lesbian groupchat! 

requirements: 

- be a lesbian, aged 18-22, looking to meet and interact with other lesbians! 

- must have whatsapp or be willing to download, just so that anyone anywhere can be in the groupchat!

how to join: 

message. @angelicnut​ and/or @indig0-wavess, the creators of the group, so that we can get a feel for who you are and if you would be a good fit for the group!

disclaimer: this is NOT a nsfw group and no sexual photos/texts will be exchanged. if that is what you’re looking for, please move along.

anonymous asked:

R u lesbian ? (you don't have to answer if you don't want to but it's nice meeting other lesbians !)

thanks for the q, curious anon! 🌿 i just refer to myself as queer - i like who i like, regardless of assigned gender. i do prefer more feminine qualities in those people but my heart is very open-minded. when i met the love of my life, he identified as female. i was with him throughout the transition and ive done my very best to make him feel at home in his own skin ever since 🌼

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anonymous asked:

Hey friend! Do wlw have an equivalent of Tindr or grindr? I don't know how to meet other lesbians. I'm a sad little bean, all by myself

i think a lot of wlw use her! you could try that?

anonymous asked:

I'm 18 and I struggle with meeting other lesbians, any tips?

They seriously travel in packs. It’s kinda weird. Find the leader. Offer a gift of peace, and then draw a line in the sand. Either she will eat you alive or ignore you.  Good luck. 

anonymous asked:

How do you even meet other lesbians or bisexuals on tumblr. Like idk i just want to talk to someone. I'm so confused and I want to try it out

Okay I’m going to post this with the message: ANYONE WHO LIKES OR REBLOGS THIS IS SAYING “HI YOU CAN COME TALK TO ME”

The rest is up to you

How to meet other lesbians?

Have you accepted the fact that you’re a lesbian, and now want a girlfriend? Do you feel like you’ll never meet the girl of your dreams? Are you shy, not sure where to begin? Here are some tips!

Step 1: Go out and meet girls. Keeping to yourself, staying at home, and being isolated will never be helpful. You need to get out there, girl! The more places you go to the more girls you’ll see. Introduce yourself to people (even guys, because you never know, one of them might have a gay sister).

Step 2; Join a group at school or church. If you have an LGBT youth group at your school, join it! You will get to talk to people who are going through some of the same issues you are facing and you might find a date. Or, there might be such a group at your church. If there isn’t, ask for permission to start one. Networking with others in groups based in your own city or town will help you meet others with interests like yours.

Step3: Be yourself. Being someone you’re not just to get with someone is a big no-no. If she doesn’t like you the way you are, then she’s not “The One”.

Step4; Do the things you love to do. If you are into gardening, go to gardening shows or fairs. If you’re a Trekkie/Trekker, go to a con. If you’re into reading, go to the library or your local bookstore/coffee shop. If you’re interested in photography or art, take a class at your local adult school or community college. If you enjoy sports, look into leagues in your area and go out and join a team. Anyplace you go where things you love are happening, your chances of meeting the right girl increase. If she’s there, then you and she have something important in common!

Step5: Participate in online groups. Get involved in LGBT groups online - there are loads of fun people to talk with there. Using care and awareness, it might even be safe to meet one or two (in a public place at first). Bottom line: the more places you go, the more people you meet, the more of them are girls, the better your chances of meeting a girl you’ll want to learn more about!

Step6: Put your best foot forward. Of all the steps here, this is probably the most important. Remember that you never get a second chance to make a first impression - even if you’re dressed casually or are a complete mess physically, the thing to remember is that your attitude IS you. If you seem angry, sullen, pouty or petulant, no girl that has herself together will be interested - too much drama. Instead, work on creating an outer aura of confidence and good humor, a friendly face, if you will. If you present yourself with assurance and a smile, you will definitely attract a more assured and optimistic woman. That old saying that opposites attract may be true, but it’s much better to attract the sort of person who complements you, and is willing to make the best of whatever situation comes her way.