F*CK THAT: A Guided Meditation

by Jason Headley

fizzywits asked:

This is probably a dumb question and I'm sorry for taking time from your busy day but I was curious as to how you deal with stress

Not a dumb question at all!

The answer comes in a few parts.

(a) In terms of passive management: First, accept stress as unavoidable. Seriously, a lot of people cause themselves more stress by attempting to reach, for prolonged periods, some semi-mythical state of being where there isn’t any. A friend used to say, only half humorously: “If you came looking for a life without problems, then I hate to tell you this but you’ve come to the wrong life.”  Because it’s problems all the way down. Right to the funniest one, right down at the bottom: “I should be way more stressed about this. Something’s wrong!”  I catch myself at that and I just bust out laughing.  …While at first glance this whole stance may seem daunting, it’s really quite freeing once you get to grips with it.

And a corollary: Even if you achieve pure stresslessness for a short time, the thinking person knows that inevitably, possibly within minutes, that state will slip away. The lesson here: let it go.* Grasping at it just makes it worse: it will resist returning because it’ll remember how grabby you got the last time. Let it go and when it returns again it’ll do so more easily.

(b) In terms of active management: When dealing with specific incidents of stress over the course of the day, and depending on what the stress is, choose the most vulnerable aspect of the thing that’s stressing you and target that specifically for intervention. Got a time sensitive job and feel you’re falling behind? Stop and breathe – the brain when perceiving time- or urgency-based stress, for example, needs more O2 and will communicate its distress to you by increasing it. …Generally speaking, deep breathing is always useful. Get up and take a five minute walk. Get up and stretch. Just get up. (In nursing school they told us that any time you’re in a chair for more than 30 minutes, you need to get up and move for five minutes. This has proven to be really good advice.)

In terms of mental stress management: Too many people dismiss meditation as being somehow weird or weak. A silly opinion. Managing your own mind is often going to require methods that are immaterial and difficult to quantify in the physical sense, and it’s definitely work; but it gets easier and more effective the further you go with it, like weight work. The house motto on the blog – “A little science, a little magic, a little chicken soup” – while originally derived from Berne’s analysis of the way that people required different kinds of psychotherapy depending on their personal mindsets, and how offering science to someone whose preferred brand was chicken soup would get you nowhere – anyway, that concept has value here. Figure out which brand of meditative intervention works best for you and start giving different modalities a try. Give them a fair shake before you discard them, of course. Local stress levels might make something that’ll prove really useful seem less so the first few times out.

One approach that I personally find useful – partly because I tend to come down on the “science” side with a splash of “magic” in the form of attention to the spiritual – is to close my eyes for a few minutes, when things are getting particularly fraught, and indulge a sense of proportion quite hard. This thing that’s making me crazy, the computer acting up, these people behaving idiotically badly or cruelly to each other over on the other side of the internet, the rent being due and having no idea where the money’s coming from, this plot situation that won’t iron out no matter how I heat the iron, this incredibly stupid political situation or person that seems to admit of no solution except being nuked from orbit “because it’s the only way to be sure” –

I sit back and consider what it’s all happening on: the surface of (or just above the surface of, let’s not forget the ISS) a single planet in a wee cute little star system out at the edge of a galaxy that just one of many, many, MANY similar, in a volume of space and vast possibility that, with consideration, reduces all the bother and frustration on this speck of dust to what it properly is. I just sit there and let myself feel interstellar cold slide down the synapses and know, in utter certainty, that at the level where I’m working, none of this will matter to any of that in the slightest; and even here, none of it will matter for, oh, more than a century or so at most. Past that, past then, everything will have changed, and these issues will count for nothing.

I find that realization really refreshing. After five minutes of that I’m ready to go again. I know the problems are still there. But a few moments of that kind of perception-of-the-real-but-easy-to-forget makes a lot of the unnecessary open tabs on my mental browser close themselves down in the face of the immensities.

Again, everybody’s most effective interventional method will be different. The point is to look at yourself and work out whether “science” works better for you (in terms of modalities like purposely manipulating alpha rhythms in the brain, etc), “magic” (the more spiritual- or religious-based forms of meditative experience) or “chicken soup” (more strictly affective and emotion-influencing methods, and maybe guided imagery gets into this a bit as well). Work out your branding and then start shopping for something that looks useful to you with that in mind. There are tons of possibilities out there.

And once you find one you like the looks of, give it a chance before you throw it over for something new. Some of these approaches need time to build up a useful effect, the way some drugs have to build up a serum level in the bloodstream before they start to work properly. Consider establishing a habit in meditation, whatever modality you prefer, as like building up that serum level.

Hope this helps. :)

*And by all means burst into song as well if you feel that’ll help. :) (Seriously, when was the last time an Oscar-winning song had the word “fractal” in it?)

“Dreamystars” collaboration with Eugenia Loli por Mariano Peccinetti 

Buddhist Extremist Cell Vows To Unleash Tranquility On West

WASHINGTON—In a 45-minute video posted on Tibetan websites Thursday, Tsuglag Rinpoche, leader of the Buddhist extremist group Kammaṭṭhāna, threatened to soon inflict a wave of peace and tranquility on the West.

Speaking in front of a nondescript altar surrounded by candles, burning sticks of incense, and a small golden statue of the Buddha, Rinpoche did not specify when or where an assault of profound inner stillness would occur, but stated in no uncertain terms that the fundamentalist Buddhist cell plans to target all Western suffering.

“In the name of the Great Teacher, we will stop at nothing to unleash a firestorm of empathy, compassion, and true selflessness upon the West,” said Rinpoche, adding that all enemies of a freely flowing, unfettered state of mind will be “besieged with pure, everlasting happiness.” “No city will be spared from spiritual harmony….. 

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Hey Lovely People!

As promised here are my own Self-Care September Goals! I hope that by the end of the month, by doing these things, I will be a lot happier and healthier and have a whole lot more self care and love ^.^

1. Recognise and Celebrate my achievements and efforts

2. Recognise when I need a mental health day.

3. Nourish my body with the food it needs to thrive.

4. Meditate every day - even if it’s just for a little while

5. Treat myself with the kindness I would show to a friend.

6. Get those endorphins going by exercising each day.

7.Take the tablets and vitamins I need to.

8. Start taking care of my scars and my body in general.

9. Reach out and ask for help when I need it.

10. Stick to a daily schedule because it keeps my mind ordered.

11. Avoid common stress factors by working on improving them
(E.g managing my finances, making a study schedule etc)

12. Recognise that I am doing the very best I can - and know that it is enough.

So there we go! I’m super excited to get started on these and become a kinder person to myself and hopefully a lot happier for it.

If you would like to do Self-Care September with me then make a list of your own as to how you want to start practicing more self care this month and let me know you’re doing it so I can cheer you on all the way! ^.^

For more info about this take a look at my original post I did about this earlier today.

Have a wonderful month everyone, and take care!


Ffion xxx


Stitching photographs by Melissa Zexter

Melissa Zexter was born in Rhode Island and currently lives and works in Brooklyn, NY. She holds a BFA in Photography from the Rhode Island School of Design and an MFA in Photography from New York University/International Center of Photography,

For many years Zexter  has combined the slow and meditative process of hand-sewn embroidery with the technologically more immediate medium of photography. Her portraits and figurative work explore identity and representations of femininity.  She also continues to photograph people, using both traditional black and white techniques and digital processes.


Keywords:  Psychic, Sobriety

Amethyst is a meditative and calming stone which works in the emotional, spiritual, and physical planes to provide calm, balance, patience, and peace.

Amethyst is used as beneficial when dealing with legal problems and money issues, which can lead to prosperity and abundance, though it is not the best known prosperity stone.

In the psychic and spiritual realms, amethyst is an excellent all-purpose stone that can increase spirituality and enhance intuition and psychic powers of all kinds. It does this by making a clear connection between the earth plane and other planes and worlds. Amethyst is also excellent for meditation and lucid dreaming. It is used to open one’s channels to telepathy, past life regression, clairaudience, clairvoyance, and communication with angels. Amethyst also protects against psychic attacks, especially during spiritual work.

Amethyst is not only a psychic protection stone, but is also used to protect one from thieves, and to protects travelers.

Emotionally, amethyst is used in crystal healing  to help heal personal losses and grief, bringing one gently past. Amethyst has a gently sedative energy that ca promote peacefulness, happiness, and contentment. It also is said to bring emotional stability and inner strength. This stability and strength not only helps one hold firm in one’s life, but it can enhance flexibility and cooperation. To be flexible at need is a sure sign of strength.

Amethyst is very well known – as from the ancients – as a sobriety stone. It has been used for millenia to prevent drunkenness, and is used to assist in getting rid of addictions to alcohol, drugs, smoking, etc, and destructive compulsive behaviors of all kinds.

Physically amethyst is said by spiritual healers and mystical lore to heal the withdrawal symptoms of any sort of addiction, help with headaches, insomnia, arthritis, diabetes, pain relief, circulatory system issues, endocrine system problems, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, immune system deficiencies, asthma, phobias, pregnancy and preventing miscarriage, menopause, PMS, and general healing. Note that healing crystal meanings are spiritual supports to healing and are not prescriptions or healthcare information.Amethyst is associated with the third eye and crown chakras primarily, but can also open the heart chakra. It is also associated with both air and water elements.As a variety of quartz, amethyst has the energies inherent in quartz, as well as its own unique vibration.

 More on Amethyst, from My Personal Perspective.Amethyst is a crystal whose energy can be multi-faceted. It can be as gentle as a petal or as wild as a storm. Many seem to see it as always gentle and calming. It certainly can be. Amethyst is a type of quartz, though, full of all the energy and power of its parent stone. Don’t hesitate to use Amethyst when great power is needed. It can bring in that energy with both force and balance.

Hardness (Mohs):  7
Color(s):  Purple in various shades, Violet
Lustre: Vitreous
Transparency:  Transparent/Translucent
Common Locations:   Brazil, AfricaRock Lore & Tidbits:  

Amethyst is a purple quartz believed by the ancient Romans to prevent drunkenness.
The word amethyst comes from the Greek word “amethystos” meaning not drunken, or intoxicated. Amethyst is a purple quartz. Crushed amethyst was used by the AncientGreeks and Romans as a way to ward off intoxication.

 One story is told that partly this was due to the fact that the Romans sometimes put amethyst in their wine. Then the wine could be watered down and still retain its purple color from the stones within. That meant less alcohol, and thus, less intoxication. Both the Greeks and Romans made drinking cups of amethyst and wore talismans of amethyst to prevent intoxication.

There is a Greek legend of how amethyst got its purple color. Once Dionysus was so annoyed by Artemis that he set his sacred tigers upon a maiden attending her shrine. To preserve the maiden, whose name was Amethyst, Artemis petrified her in sparkling quartz. Lamenting this virgin’s demise, Dionysus poured a the contents of his cup over the statue, which immediately became infused with the purple of the grape. 

meanings crystals and jewelry

God becomes physical to become conscious of itself. From singular form it becomes apart embodied into life as you and I and all life, God on earth develops knowing and becomes awareness of our Exploring and Learning conscious self to self reflect and contrast out our evolution in human form consciously, We return back to God spiritually skilled with expanded and higher lifted conscious spirits, and so this is ever lasting until we meet our purpose. -Ra Ziuh-
Isaiah 55:11-“So will My word be which goes forth from My mouth; It will Not return to Me empty, Without accomplishing what I desire, And without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.” #evolution #expandyourmind #awakened #awareness #self-hosted #reflection #reality #truth #consciousness #oneness #spiritual #soul #god #universe #Bible #knowledge #wisdom #dimension #change #meditation #feedthesoul #vibration #awakening #newearth #intuition #lifepurpose #enlightment #creator #mindpower #art


I wanted to show you guys part of my collection of crystals, rocks, etc. I don’t know what all of them are but I know I have amethyst, ruby, emerald, lapis lazuli, citrine, opal, and various quartz. The boring gray rock is actually a piece of granite from where my ancestors lived in Maine. I use it in ancestor communication and it represents Earth on my altar. The lapis is extremely special to my mother so she keeps it on her altar. Many of the little stones in jars were mined in North Carolina, which is one of our favorite activities. I also keep a lot of amethyst around because it’s my birthstone and holding it helps me focus harder on meditation. If I’m having to do a lot of spirit communication, I keep it around my area to clarify and amplify what I experience. These are not nearly all of my stones but it’s a good cross section of what I have.

Half our life is spent trying to find something to do with the time we have rushed through life trying to save.