So there’s a post flying around about mindfulness being bad for people who disassociate.
And I just wanna say: NO.
Not saying this person is wrong when it comes to them, personally. Their doctor may have told them this, or their doctor may feel that they should not practice mindfulness because SOME mindfulness practices CAN lead to disassociating. As someone who disassociates, I absolutely can say that most mindfulness practices are PERFECTLY SAFE.
I REPEAT: MY MENTAL ILLNESS, WHICH INCLUDES DISASSOCIATING, EMPLOYS MINDFULNESS FOR TREATMENT.
This post floating around is dangerous because people who could USE DBT are going to see it and decide to avoid that instead, when some mindfulness exercises would actually be beneficial.
asshole jock with anger management issues who uses 'gay' as an insult
thinks gender roles suck, loves his boyfriend, brings herbal tea to parties, does have anger management issues but is doing his best to address them with therapy and meditation so that he can have better relationships
Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. Psychiatrist Dr. Susan Vaughan has argued that the talking cure works by ‘talking to neurons,’ and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a 'microsurgeon of the mind’ who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.
What Gemstones are Beneficial to Promoting Loving Relationships?
Amethyst enhances peace, understanding, and humility. It brings contentment, healing, happiness, and love. Wearing this beautiful purple stone calms the mind and opens the heart. Amethyst is “A Master Healer” and is known to heal the Heart at the highest spiritual levels. It purifies negative emotions and promotes feelings of flexibility, cooperation and peace. Amethyst provides protection and balance during major personal transitions and reduces feelings of being victimized by others. Amethyst supports all aspects of spiritual growth with peace and calm to fulfill one’s mission on Earth, Amethyst helps you love again, and again.
Green Jade is considered one of the most precious stones of the East. It strengthens love and happiness and fortifies the physical body. It is a stone of the heart, both physically and emotionally. It is said to fulfill dreams and encourage long life. Green Jade is “A Stone of Fidelity” and is well known in Asia for soothing the emotions and protecting your health. Jade keeps the peace in family relations, improves self-worth, and self-sufficiency. It promotes peace, harmony and tranquility through emotional detachment. It can protect love from straying away and helps build dreams into reality.
Kunzite supports calm and balance, and enhances good fortune and spiritual equilibrium. It is the stone for finding true love, harmony, compassion, and inner peace. It is a delicate pink ornamental stone known to be a symbol of romance and marriage. The main power of Kunzite is said to be its ability to reduce stress and depression. It is often used by those suffering from a wounded heart. Kunzite is an ideal gift for someone you love, to signify eternal love. Kunzite is “A Consciousness Elevator” and opens the Emotional Heart to the highest level. It Relieves emotional distress (this gemstone has a high lithium content). Kunzite provides peace, dissolves negativity and stimulates sensuality. It dispels loneliness and allows you to surrender rather than resist and is excellent for physical heart problems.
Moonstone holds protective energy and is balancing for the emotions. Moonstone is thought to be powerful with regard to love and passion. The name itself is somewhat romantic; in ancient times it was believed that it drew moonlight, some cultures even thought it was created from solidified moonbeams. Whereas rose quartz is the gem of love, Moonstone is most definitely the gem of passion, with powers that are thought to cause fervor and create sexual energy, often stoking arousal and provoking feelings of eroticism. It is also believed that Moonstone can help lovers to predict the fortune of their relationship, indicating good or bad times ahead, and some even used it to promote fertility. Moonstone is believed to be best used in stoking the flames of passion. Combined with other stones, Moonstone can be used to intensify physical relationships. Combining Moonstone with Sunstone is thought to increase sexual energy and amplify attraction. Combined with Rhodonite, Moonstone is said to help bury old feelings and memories of past affairs, further increasing the passion in current relationships. With Rhodochrosite, Moonstone will encourage creativity and eroticism, promoting a sense of adventure and spontaneity between you and your love.
Rose Quartz promotes romantic love as well as self-love and acceptance. It is the stone of forgiveness, humility, and patience. It teaches us to open our hearts and to be tender, peaceful, and gentle. Perhaps the most infamous love stone is Rose Quartz, which is known to be the stone of unconditional love. Its calming energy is thought to help give one a sense of inner peace and love for one’s self. Rose Quartz also encourages sensitivity and compassion, even helping us to build trust in others, all attributes that are harmonious with the act of falling in love. Essentially, Rose Quartz puts you in a state of mind that allows you to receive love. If you are suffering from lost or unrequited love it will help to comfort you; if you have been betrayed in love it will help bring back faith and trust, as well as a sense of self-worth and self-esteem; if you have simply never been in love, it will open up all the possibilities of falling in love. Rose Quartz opens the Heart for love, and gives love to the wearer who might other wise have trouble giving love to themselves or to others. Rose Quartz shows you the power of your emotions and of the ability of Love to “Conquer All”. This crystal brings softness to hardened Hearts, teaching you to Trust Your Heart. It dispels negative emotional states, such as gloom, despondency and possessiveness, and promotes harmonious relationships. Rose Quartz is very calming and loving.
Ruby, “A Stone of Love and Endurance” is another ancient Love Stone which encourages romantic love and promotes the ideal relationship. This crystal brings focus to the Heart and releases disoriented, trapped love energy. It protects the Heart from unnecessary love-suffering and promotes the attainment of love objectives: health, happiness, wealth, spiritual knowledge The luminous Ruby is associated with romantic love and love of self. Ruby brings integrity, devotion, and happiness. It is said to strengthen both the physical and the emotional heart, bringing courage to the wearer. Confidence, vitality, stamina, and strength are all qualities associated with Ruby. The Ruby is filled with love. It also helps sexual love to be more passionate. Persons lacking in self-love should have and meditate on the Ruby. It also gives the courage to be the best potential that a person has.
- Sit alone (or with someone, if isolating yourself would have a negative effect).
- Buy a cheap face mask and put it on.
- Read a book.
- Watch a movie.
- Video chat with someone.
- Call someone.
- Clear up your contacts and consider removing people you don’t need.
- Write a journal.
- Write a letter (to yourself or someone else).
- Drink some water, herbal tea, hot chocolate or juice.
- Eat a healthy snack that you like.
- Drive aimlessly (but safely).
- Write a poem/song.
- Listen to music.
- Be with a pet.
- Cry, then do one of the others.
- Give yourself a massage.
- Have a bath/shower.
- Volunteer with something that means a lot to you.
- Treat yourself (not impulsively, but something you want).
- Allow yourself to feel how you feel and talk to a therapist/mental health charity.
- Do your makeup/nails.
- Go to a park and watch the world go by, either paying attention to the details or releasing all focus (except safety).
- Watch relaxing videos on YouTube.
- Forgive yourself and others (this does not mean allowing people to mistreat you).
- Say no (sometimes it’s necessary or you’ll be worn down).
- Embrace your “flaws” and remind yourself that things we see are usually edited.
- Lightly learn some interesting trivia.
- Unplug for a little while (but be safe).
We do so much to help our friends, family and others, but often forget about ourselves. Take 10+ minutes a week to do something to make yourself feel refreshed. Things may be tough right now. They may get better or it may be something that doesn’t, but you are worthy of happiness and support. There is no shame in seeking therapy and it would benefit nearly every person on earth. Taking care of yourself is not giving up or being selfish - it’s incredibly important.
My latest work, beginning a new meditative project that is not just going to be good for the creative soul, but for the psyche as well. Lots of line work, and time consumption, but very relaxing. Working on 3 of 30!
My therapist gave me a really good image on how to react to my urges to pull. She said “imagine yourself on the top of a mountain. You are the Buddha and you’re just sitting and meditating. When you have the urge to pull your hair, imagine a small child running up the mountain. They are frightened and scared. How do you treat this child? You don’t become angry at him, you welcome him into your arms. You say ‘come my child’ and invite them into your lap. You are after all the Buddha, and you must care for your children. Your urges are this child. Your urges arise through fear, and anxiety. Don’t shove this child away. Care for it, nurture it, take it into your arms. Find out what it is that is giving you this urge, and tend to it. Treat your urges like a child in need of your help. Buddha would not pull and hurt the child.“
Black Tourmaline clears negative emotions and thoughts and opens us to joy and honesty. Aids in the receptivity of inspiration, to flow into the mind. Radiates light protection for wearer. Black Tourmaline (Schorl) does not absorb negative energy. It repels it. It is suggested to carry this stone when you feel surrounded by negativity. Great for use in times of crisis or for periods of extreme stress. It is a powerful protector until we are strong enough in our own power. Good for those who are highly sensitive and easily influenced by inharmonious energies. Breaks through old patterns and fears. Cultivates inner wisdom, courage, stability and patience.
Black Tourmaline (Schorl) Gemstone Meaning:
Rub Black Tourmaline for luck and happiness. This is a powerful stone and a very lucky stone. When the Tourmaline is rubbed it becomes charged with magnetic electricity and the luck intensifies. Tourmaline is black, but also shades of red, pink, green, blue and what is known as Watermelon Tourmaline, which is a crystal with green on the outside and pink in the middle. The Green Tourmaline brings success. The Pink Tourmaline will bring love and friends. Tourmalated Quartz aids peace of mind. It is found in many countries including Burma, United States, Brazil and Zimbabwe.
Healing Properties of Black Tourmaline:
Tourmaline uses differs as its colors differ. All colors are very powerful and it must be used carefully. Each person seems to react differently to Tourmaline. It has been used with intestinal problems, but only a healer should use it. Black Tourmaline pushes all negativity away.
Chakras: Base Astrological sign: Leo, Ophiuchus Color: Black Zodiac: Sagittarius Pisces, Libra (Ancient) Planet: Sun Birthstone: October May (Ancient) Energies: Luck, Healing Anniversary Stone: 8