What Are Facets?

Hi! I realized today that I’ve never seen a post concisely explaining just what a facet is/how they’re different from alters. 

I don’t have DID/am not a multiple system, so I’m not suuuper qualified to talk about alters, but essentially they’re what many people consider “multiple personalities” although this term is offensive to many and should not be used. I have friends who have them, and it basically just means you have two or more people living in the same body (often called the vessel). The main/core person is often called the host. Sometimes alters come out when the host is stressed or anxious. Alters can form either naturally or as a result of trauma (or other reasons too, I’m sure). 

Facets are sometimes considered a more minor variety of alters. While alters are entirely separate people with their own thoughts and memories, facets are more like distinct personalities within the same person. For some people they can be created on purpose and can be switched between voluntarily. The way I tend to explain my experience with facets is that it’s like my personality is fragmented, and different aspects of it come out at different times, but they’re still connected, I’m still aware that I’m the same person when different facets are active, and I don’t experience memory loss like some (but not all) people with alters do. People with alters often call themselves multiple systems, while people with facets often call themselves median systems. Facets can exist for a lot of reasons— like alters, they are often a result of trauma, but not always— and seem to be pretty common in people with BPD. 

Some people don’t bother differing between their facets, even if they’re aware of them switching, and some consider their facets completely separate people. Many peoples’ facets have their own names and pronoun sets. Any way your facets manifest and any way you choose to handle them is completely valid and okay! 

Please feel free to reblog or link to this post and add more information/your own experiences if you want to! My askbox is always open if you have any questions! 


Okay, so a note on Singlet vs. Median vs. Multiple. The simplest explanation I have is (and please note that even this is pretty generalizing and probably doesn’t apply to all):

  • singlet = 1 body, 1 mind, 1 entity
  • median = 1 body, 1 mind, 2+ enitities
  • multiple = 1 body, 2+ minds, 2+ entities

I say “entity” because some medians may not consider themselves different people. And that’s okay! “Median” just means between singlet and multiple.

Some medians consider themselves “parts” that function as a single person. They may have their own names for the sake of organization, but that doesn’t change how they think of themselves. They’re still median, but they may be closer to singlet (if they choose to descibe themselves that way).

Other medians consider themselves different people but think they are too closely linked to call themselves multiple. They can have their own names/pronouns/appearances/etc. They’re also median, but they may be closer to multiple (if they choose to descibe themselves that way).

And other medians can be any mixture of the two examples! Maybe they’re “the same person” but have their own identities, or maybe they’re different versions of “the same person” and consider themselves different people. That’s all fine!

What isn’t fine? Telling medians what they can or cannot be based solely on your own experiences.

Thank you, this has been a PSA.

This is a network for Multiple and Median Systems. 
System - A group of persons in one body.



  • you must be part of a system (obviously)
  • respect triggers and please try not to start drama
  • must reblog this post if you are applying
  • please fill out the application!


  • new friends and people to talk to!
  • a skype group!
  • reblogs on selfies and lots of support!


System Ask

1. Give examples of their different writing styles/handwriting.

2. Who argues a lot?

3. Does anyone have any weird habits that they do with the body that annoy the others?

4. Who makes cofronting the worst decision ever?

5. Do you have any alters/headmates you keep away from your friends at all costs? (because they are embarrassing or weird)

6. Who will listen to you talk about something and then tell your friends your secrets as soon as they front?

7. Is anyone dating each other?

8. What does your headspace look like?

9. If they could all chose to have their own bodies, would they?

10. Do you have any non-human members?

11. Do you have any members that no one ever sees or talks to?

12. Do you have a schedule for fronting?

13. How many have blogs on here that are separate from each others?

14. Who is the dad/mom/parent of the system?

15. Who hates everyone and doesn’t want to be there?

16. Who talks all day in the headspace and then never opens their mouth while fronting?

17. Who would be most likely to blow all the money on food?

18. Who would be most likely to antagonize a fight and then leave front right when it starts?

19. Are there any familia relationships in the system? (brothers, sisters, moms, cousins, etc)

20. Do you have any fictives?

There’s lots of different ways to be median, and they’re all OK.

Some median systems have several members who all have different identities, looks, pronouns, names, etc, but still all see themselves as being the same person. And that’s OK!

Some have facets that are all the same person in different modes or ages or roles, and that’s OK too!

Some median systems are really stable, the same persons or facets day in, day out always and forever. Others are more fluid, with persons or facets shifting and blending and changing. And both ways are OK!

Some have facets that are easily discernible from each other. Some are much harder to tell one from the other.

“Median” means being somewhere between singlet and multiple. It’s a spectrum, and it’s all beautiful. So no matter how your median system is set up, it’s still valid. You are still valid. And you’re lovely.

-Mod Willow

Semiplural personal pronouns for median and multiple systems

re: this post

wit thought of a personal pronoun set for people who aren’t quite singular and aren’t quite multiple! (this is mostly for median systems but if a multiple system felt it applied to them too that would be okay. no singlets allowed tho)

Wit propose it be called semiplural

Additional info:

  • because it would be too much work to come up with semiplural forms of all verbs, semiplural personal pronouns go along with plural verbs, e.g. “Wit love ireseld.” 
  • the “-seld” ending of the reflexives is because self is singular, and selves is plural, so it seemed like having a semiplural form would be a good idea.
  • “wit” and “hio” are both contracted like “we” and “they”, e.g. wit will is wit’ll, pronounced like wittle; wit are is wit’re, pronounced like witter
  • here is an audio clip of iss pronouncing them all
  • if you have any other questions message iss!



Yeah, you.

That otherkin/soulbond/system/fictionkin goin’ through this tag and sifting through the bullshit to find things that matter to you. Struggling hard past the trolls and antis.

You’re valid and shit.

Just a reminder that your beliefs are your own, no one can take your spirituality from you if you’re a spiritual -kin/soulbonder.

That you can’t help your mental illness if that’s what causes your -kin/system/bonds.

You don’t gotta explain yourself/ves to anyone. You don’t owe the world a damn thing.