median-system

What Are Facets?

Hi! I realized today that I’ve never seen a post concisely explaining just what a facet is/how they’re different from alters. 

I don’t have DID/am not a multiple system, so I’m not suuuper qualified to talk about alters, but essentially they’re what many people consider “multiple personalities” although this term is offensive to many and should not be used. I have friends who have them, and it basically just means you have two or more people living in the same body (often called the vessel). The main/core person is often called the host. Sometimes alters come out when the host is stressed or anxious. Alters can form either naturally or as a result of trauma (or other reasons too, I’m sure). 

Facets are sometimes considered a more minor variety of alters. While alters are entirely separate people with their own thoughts and memories, facets are more like distinct personalities within the same person. For some people they can be created on purpose and can be switched between voluntarily. The way I tend to explain my experience with facets is that it’s like my personality is fragmented, and different aspects of it come out at different times, but they’re still connected, I’m still aware that I’m the same person when different facets are active, and I don’t experience memory loss like some (but not all) people with alters do. People with alters often call themselves multiple systems, while people with facets often call themselves median systems. Facets can exist for a lot of reasons— like alters, they are often a result of trauma, but not always— and seem to be pretty common in people with BPD. 

Some people don’t bother differing between their facets, even if they’re aware of them switching, and some consider their facets completely separate people. Many peoples’ facets have their own names and pronoun sets. Any way your facets manifest and any way you choose to handle them is completely valid and okay! 

Please feel free to reblog or link to this post and add more information/your own experiences if you want to! My askbox is always open if you have any questions! 

PSA

Okay, so a note on Singlet vs. Median vs. Multiple. The simplest explanation I have is (and please note that even this is pretty generalizing and probably doesn’t apply to all):

  • singlet = 1 body, 1 mind, 1 entity
  • median = 1 body, 1 mind, 2+ enitities
  • multiple = 1 body, 2+ minds, 2+ entities

I say “entity” because some medians may not consider themselves different people. And that’s okay! “Median” just means between singlet and multiple.

Some medians consider themselves “parts” that function as a single person. They may have their own names for the sake of organization, but that doesn’t change how they think of themselves. They’re still median, but they may be closer to singlet (if they choose to descibe themselves that way).

Other medians consider themselves different people but think they are too closely linked to call themselves multiple. They can have their own names/pronouns/appearances/etc. They’re also median, but they may be closer to multiple (if they choose to descibe themselves that way).

And other medians can be any mixture of the two examples! Maybe they’re “the same person” but have their own identities, or maybe they’re different versions of “the same person” and consider themselves different people. That’s all fine!

What isn’t fine? Telling medians what they can or cannot be based solely on your own experiences.

Thank you, this has been a PSA.

Listen up.

If you don’t have a dissociative disorder, you are not allowed to call yourself or identify with any of these terms:

  • “multiple” or “multiple system”
  • “plural” or “plural system”
  • “median” or “median system”
  • “headmates”
  • “alters”

These terms were created by and for people with dissociative disorders as a way to cope with our disorders and create a community for ourselves. These terms help us separate ourselves from the stigma surrounding dissociative disorders, and by identifying with them we’re able to connect with others who understand our experiences. 

These are not terms to describe your spirituality. These are not terms to describe being otherkin. These are terms to describe a unique perspective and sense of self that comes only with dissociation and having a dissociative disorder. 

Get your ableist ass out of our space.

following spree~!

hey there! i’m looking for some similar blogs to follow, so if three or more of these apply to you, please reblog/like this post! (it would be appreciated if you could say what applies to you in the tags, too c:)

please reblog/like if you ARE….

-fictionkin
-otherkin
-a median or multiple system
-autistic
-divine
-neurodivergent/neuroatypical
-not cis or straight
-nonbinary

please reblog/like if you POST….

-homestuck (really important!!! its my special interest and i’m looking for more autistic homestucks like me!)
-davekat, sufferer (or any other ancestors), arafef, homestuck AUs, terezi
-autistic tips/support
-fire emblem awakening (especially gaius, i luv him)
-don’t starve
-splatoon
-animal crossing (any generation but new leaf is preferred)
-video games in general
-game grumps
-tokyo ghoul
-lush stuff
-makeup
-knitting and yarn stashes
-aesthetics: divine/religious, pastel, pink, fashion
-baking and baking recipes

and i’ll probably follow you!

the only exception is if you post attack on titan or any fandom from superwholock. i’ve just had bad experiences, nothing personal!

and if youre considering following me back, please, please, PLEASE read my before you follow! thanks ♥

“Otherkin doesn’t help with mental illness”
Sometimes I get so anxious and paranoid I feel like I’m going to be murdered but then I remember that I’m a ghost, I can’t be killed. I’ll be okay.
And sometimes I get stuck on little things like not stepping on the cracks in the sidewalk or having every app on my phone closed before I turn it off but then I remember that I am a monster, I am imperfect and that’s what makes me who I am. It will be okay.
“Otherkin isn’t a healthy coping mechanism”
Sometimes I worry that all my loved ones really don’t love me, that they don’t care about me at all but then I remember that I am a Sylveon, I evolve through love. There will always be someone who loves me. I will be okay.
“Being a system is delusional and will make you worse”
Sometimes we feel so utterly alone in the world we want to die, but we will never be alone. We have each other and that makes us feel better. We will be okay.

Semiplural personal pronouns for median and multiple systems

re: this post

wit thought of a personal pronoun set for people who aren’t quite singular and aren’t quite multiple! (this is mostly for median systems but if a multiple system felt it applied to them too that would be okay. no singlets allowed tho)

Wit propose it be called semiplural

Additional info:

  • because it would be too much work to come up with semiplural forms of all verbs, semiplural personal pronouns go along with plural verbs, e.g. “Wit love ireseld.” 
  • the “-seld” ending of the reflexives is because self is singular, and selves is plural, so it seemed like having a semiplural form would be a good idea.
  • “wit” and “hio” are both contracted like “we” and “they”, e.g. wit will is wit’ll, pronounced like wittle; wit are is wit’re, pronounced like witter
  • here is an audio clip of iss pronouncing them all
  • if you have any other questions message iss!

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Rules
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If you have any questions at all, please shoot me an ask! 

Hey. So I’m looking for some more people to interact with.

Reblog if you are:
Shadowkin
Ghostkin
Spiritkin
Deathkin
Alienkin
Robotkin or anything similar to that
Any form of elementalkin
Are a median system
And neurodivergent.

Please tell me which of these apply in your tags. You don’t have to be all of these. Also, this is a side blog, so if I follow you, it’s going to be under some other blog.

EDIT: I am no longer looking for other people to interact with right now in regards to this. Thanks to everyone who reblogged and liked this post.

Hey so I’m pretty close to 100 followers and I want some more kin stuff on my dash, so like/reblog this if

- you’re otherkin/fictionkin (especially from gravity falls, Life on Mars, Gorillaz, Welcome to Night Vale, or Teen Titans) 

- if you post nature/space/creepy/dark

- if you play mtg (because I love to nerd with people)

- if you’re a median system

AND/OR

- if you’re pretty rad 

chances on I’ll follow

I don’t mind if we share kintypes, but I would like to let you know I’m over 18 so if that’s uncomf for you, please don’t reblog. Here are my kintypes and my about

Go wild kids

anonymous asked:

i think i might have did (i have a median system) but i don't think i've really been through trauma? the worst thing to ever happen to me is that i've been suicidal for a few years now, but i've never acted on it. i dissociate, constantly. what exactly is the line between what counts as trauma and what doesn't? is trauma even required for a diagnosis? thank you!

Please correct me if I am wrong, but a median system is something like having multiple facets/alters without the amnesia, right? I am not completely familiar with the natural multiple terms. In that case, it sounds like OSDD and dissociation can be caused by multiple different disorders, including anxiety, depression, and borderline personality disorder. Dissociation is a symptom of many different mental illnesses. 

Trauma is subjective. There is no “line” between what is considered traumatic and what is not considered traumatic, due to the fact that people react to events differently. There is no specific diagnostic criteria in the DSM-V that says that trauma must be present to be diagnosed with DID, but due to the high correlation rate between trauma and DID, professionals usually will ask about trauma before diagnosing. PTSD is a co-morbid condition with DID and trauma is required to receive a diagnoses of PTSD. 

I hope this helps some! 

-Nopeosaurus

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If you had DID, it would be highly unlikely for you to receive a diagnosis without having some form of trauma to report, and if you did receive a diagnosis, the diagnostician would likely be under the impression that you had been through trauma that you for whatever reason were simply unable or unwilling to report. However, OSDD-1 works a bit differently. While it’s still highly correlated with trauma, like Nopeosaurus said, what’s traumatic can be subjective, especially for children. Trauma doesn’t have to refer to abuse, neglect, witnessing a death, living in a war zone, or having an illness or disability that required frequent hospitalization or intensive care. It can also refer to bullying, living with a mentally or physically ill caretaker or a caretaker who is otherwise rendered unable to provide a stable environment for the child, watching a family member or close friend survive trauma, surviving natural disasters, being threatened with parental abandonment, or struggling with an early onset mental illness. While trauma has to be repeated and relatively severe for DID to form, OSDD-1 can form as the result of “less severe” or short-term traumas because it doesn’t require the same dissociative barriers to be formed and reinforced for diagnosis. Additionally, what an adult versus a child consider more or less severe can vary considerably. OSDD-1 can form slightly later in life, as well.

All that said, while it is highly likely that you survived some form of trauma, what that trauma actually is might not be anything that you would recognize as particularly significant or “enough” now. This is true whether your condition could more accurately be labeled DID or OSDD-1.

-Katherine of Those Interrupted

carryonmywaywardpug replied to your post:“fictives are bad because they claim to have DID…

would u mind explaining median a little more? if you’re comfortable with it and want to that is

its sort of a middle ground between singlet and multiple- singlet is one entity in one body, multiple is several distinct entities in one body (im not multiple but friends of mine who are strongly consider themselves as full-fledged beings independent of each other, not "personalities” or “alters”) and median is like. one entity split into different parts? its sort of weird and nebulous but its like. you know how sometimes you think of yourself as being different people, not in terms of totally different people acting separately but theres “childish you” and maybe “boy you” and “girl you” (which is how i id’d back when i thought i was bigender) and that kind of thing. its like that.

and it sounds like a totally normal thing, which imo it is! and i think a lot of people feel this way without actively identifying as median, which is fine and cool.

so like, in my case, theres a version of me who identifies as one character, and a part of me who identifies as another, etc. and sometimes i do get the feeling that one part is more in control (i use the term fronting which i dont think is appropriative? i first heard it used wrt multiples and not specifically people with did) but i dont dissociate and theres less of a sense of different people piloting as there is me becoming a different person at different times.

its… kind of weird and confusing and for me it feels a lot like gender stuff? like sometimes i id as more femme and sometimes as more masc and sometimes as super agender. like that but with fictional characters and monsters and junk. 

i hope that wasnt too confusing!! if other median people wanna add stuff they can? ill put this in the tag i guess

okay, figuring this out will be easier if we have people to talk to and have around, so…

if you’re a median or multiple system like or reblog this post & i’ll check out your blog and probably follow! the follow will come from my main/aes blog moecangacha.

you’re also free to follow me here, though be careful if you go through my blog because theres some triggering stuff in it. (i tag everything but just in case!)