median-system

man. you know what I really wanna do? make a comedy play/tv show script about being in a system.
because let’s be honest, it’s not a dangerous thing, dramatic yes, confusing yes, but not dangerous to people outside of your system.
BUT IT CAN BE HILARIOUS
JUST IMAGINE

  • “Wait, WHAT DO YOU MEAN (bilingual alter) WON’T WAKE UP WE HAVE A TEST TODAY!!!!!”
  • “…who put the body on a roof again?”
  • “uh…”
  • “GODDAMMIT (teenage alter) WHAT DID WE TELL YOU”
  • “…no, no (little), go to bed, it’s past your–No you can’t stay up the body is doing adult stuff– JUST GO TO BED!”
  • “questions we ask the host:
    what’s for dinner?
    what’s this word?
    who’s this?
    how do we talk to this person?
    what’s the equasion for this?
    things we ask (older alter):
    where’s the host?”
  • “okay, careful, careful, careful…AND WE’VE OFFICIALLY GOTTEN OUT OF BED, GOOD WORK PEOPLE, I’M PROUD OF YOU!”
  • “why is everyone asleep it’s literally 7pm?”
  • “why is everyone awake it’s literally 3am?”
  • “can everybody shut up I’m trying to front”
  • “CAN EVERYBODY SHUT UP THIS IS IMPORTANT”
  • arguments about what to do
  • including over what we eat
  • arguments over going to friends’ houses
feel free to add some system friends…

Hey

You

Yeah, you.

That otherkin/soulbond/system/fictionkin goin’ through this tag and sifting through the bullshit to find things that matter to you. Struggling hard past the trolls and antis.

You’re valid and shit.

Just a reminder that your beliefs are your own, no one can take your spirituality from you if you’re a spiritual -kin/soulbonder.

That you can’t help your mental illness if that’s what causes your -kin/system/bonds.

You don’t gotta explain yourself/ves to anyone. You don’t owe the world a damn thing.

There’s lots of different ways to be median, and they’re all OK.

Some median systems have several members who all have different identities, looks, pronouns, names, etc, but still all see themselves as being the same person. And that’s OK!

Some have facets that are all the same person in different modes or ages or roles, and that’s OK too!

Some median systems are really stable, the same persons or facets day in, day out always and forever. Others are more fluid, with persons or facets shifting and blending and changing. And both ways are OK!

Some have facets that are easily discernible from each other. Some are much harder to tell one from the other.

“Median” means being somewhere between singlet and multiple. It’s a spectrum, and it’s all beautiful. So no matter how your median system is set up, it’s still valid. You are still valid. And you’re lovely.

-Mod Willow

Howdy! Name’s Bendy! Can ya do me a favor and reblog this if you post any of this stuff please?

~ Bendy and the ink machine

~ Bendy and the Kink Machine

~ Rubberhose animation

~ Stim stuff *Especially writing!!!*

~ Early 20s aesthetic

~ Part of a system/System blog

~ Electro swing

Thank ya kindly!

to all median/bpd/non-did/osdd "systems"

it is really frustrating to see all these kids claiming that they have a “system” from bpd or that because they dont know who they are half the time that that *must* mean they have alters/a system

and that there are people who encourage them to believe this and run with it!

this is honestly horrendous

*you can dissociate and depersonalize without having a system*

*you can have identity disturbance​ and confusion without having a system*

and saying that these things inherently make you a system is extremely harmful!

if you have identity disturbance from bpd or depersonalization and you push the idea on someone or yourself that you have alters, it will only cause that person with those symptoms to have a harder time dealing with them and cause even more damage in the long run!

and i know a lot of these people claim that “oh but saying/pretending i have alters/“headmates” helps me cope” or “i cant afford or get access to therapy so this is how i manage”

TELLING PEOPLE/YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE A SYSTEM AND PUSHING YOUR PROBLEMS AND TRAUMA ONTO IMAGINARY ALTERS IS NOT COPING. IT IS A BANDAID THAT WILL HURT LIKE FUCKING HELL WHEN YOU FINALLY RIP IT OFF!!!

PLEASE i implore you, if you are feeling like you depersonalize, have identity disturbance, dissociate symptomatically, or dont know how to cope with your trauma and cannot afford help, to not just shove all of your symptoms into the closest disorder that makes you feel good or important.

and i know its confusing and its tempting to put a name to whats wrong but if you put the wrong name to it it will only hurt you more in the end, i promise

***FOCUS ON YOUR SYMPTOMS, NOT THE DISORDER. THIS IS HOW YOU SUCCESSFULLY TREAT MENTAL ILLNESS AS A WHOLE, DID/OSDD/BPD/PTSD OR OTHERWISE***

PLEASE DO NOT SELF-DIAGNOSE DISORDERS LIKE DID AND OSDD.

AND **PLEASE** FOR THE LOVE OF GOD LISTEN TO YOUR THERAPIST OVER YOUR TUMBLR FRIENDS. THE PEOPLE ON HERE ARE NOT PROFESSIONALS AND CANNOT DIAGNOSE YOU, NO MATTER HOW MANY “TEXTBOOKS AND ARTICLES THEYVE READ” AND ARE MOST LIKELY BIAS AS FUCK AND MIGHT BE MANIPULATING YOU

- d

Being a system is not an identity. It’s a disorder, dissociative identity disorder. You can’t identify as a system, you have a dissociative disorder or you don’t. It cannot occur naturally because of the way it occurs in the first place.

There is no other possible way to develop a system because DID is literally what being a system is. Stop spreading misinformation and blatantly ignoring psychological fact.

- Celia

PSA

Okay, so a note on Singlet vs. Median vs. Multiple. The simplest explanation I have is (and please note that even this is pretty generalizing and probably doesn’t apply to all):

  • singlet = 1 body, 1 mind, 1 entity
  • median = 1 body, 1 mind, 2+ enitities
  • multiple = 1 body, 2+ minds, 2+ entities

I say “entity” because some medians may not consider themselves different people. And that’s okay! “Median” just means between singlet and multiple.

Some medians consider themselves “parts” that function as a single person. They may have their own names for the sake of organization, but that doesn’t change how they think of themselves. They’re still median, but they may be closer to singlet (if they choose to descibe themselves that way).

Other medians consider themselves different people but think they are too closely linked to call themselves multiple. They can have their own names/pronouns/appearances/etc. They’re also median, but they may be closer to multiple (if they choose to descibe themselves that way).

And other medians can be any mixture of the two examples! Maybe they’re “the same person” but have their own identities, or maybe they’re different versions of “the same person” and consider themselves different people. That’s all fine!

What isn’t fine? Telling medians what they can or cannot be based solely on your own experiences.

Thank you, this has been a PSA.

Thanks for your reply, @fuffee

The term “median system” is used for two different groups. That’s-

A small portion of people with OSDD-1a (trauma required for diagnosis), who interpret the indistinct alters or blurring of alters as focused around a core/middle

People with BPD or occasionally other PDs (who can also have trauma) misinterpreting facets or fragments as alters (harmful to label as a system because it encourages fracturing of one’s identity!)

The only disorders that can cause a system are DID and OSDD-1a/1b. Just wanted to clarify why I said this!

honestly why do some ppl /want/ to have a system i genuinely don’t understand why
like
sure being a system has some stupid fun moments or whatever the mcfuck but its also suffering ??? when someone’s upset you feel it and when someone takes front and you come back to front its like ?? hella disorienting and if said person did smth to upset someone you have to apologize and feel horrible even if you didnt do it ????
plus if someone fronts thats like time taken out of ur schedule and you have even less time to complete smth and then you stress tf out

so again like sURE it can be literally hilarious as fuck and you have fun with it sometimes but its h a r d
its not jsut smth like some extra buddy pals in ur head to talk to or ur favourite fictional character or w/e

so
why do ppl want to have a system?????¿¿¿ i am genuinely confused