meat collar

The Right Collar

I’m finally wearing my original collar again; the one Master gave me when I first visited him.

The big, unmistakable chain you’ve all seen me wearing in so many of my recent photos we call my “meat” collar; a really impressive piece for sure given the response from my audience. But it was only ever intended to be a “show” piece for special occasions. Impractical for day to day wear.

It was tragic that only a couple months after getting my original collar, a pin was lost and I was unable to continue wearing it.

It stung, to be without something so precious, but finally on the trip to Master just gone it was able to be fixed, and we both breathed a sigh of relief.

In my early days as a sub, I romanticized the collar a lot, what it meant. So many friends had theirs, and I was without. I yearned for it so. I expected the moment it went on to be so transformative. It both was and wasn’t what I expected. The collar has a quiet power on me; normally just a part of who I am, it is when feeling fear or stress I find myself clutching it to remind me I am loved, I have someone waiting for me to come to them.

Not long now, I’ll be with him. Thank you for repairing my collar Master. I don’t ever want to be without it again.

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memorable neal & peter scenes → 1.05 the portrait

anonymous asked:

what life advice would you give to someone just graduating??

Disclaimer: I’m still a fresh post-grad myself practically, so this list is more or less a work in progress at my end too. In between tragicomic losses of keys/dignity/sunglasses, however, I have managed to scrape together a few thoughts:

1.) Learn how to say “no.” Just “no.” No to bad friends, bad relationships, unfair bargains and bad ideas without explaining yourself; you do not owe people who treat you badly, make you uncomfortable, or exploit your time and energies an explanation. This goes triply for women especially, who are generally conditioned to be non-confrontational. This isn’t “don’t be polite.” This is “know how to decline and do just that—decline, because something isn’t for you, or because a path doesn’t lead to a destination you want to go to anymore.”

2.) Keep doing stuff. Keep making time. When you go into the working world, your social and free time collapse drastically. Making time for other things can start to feel like, well, work—meeting with friends takes commuting, trying new hobbies means time, money, energy. Make that time—that time is important, even if sometimes you don’t know it until after the fact. It’s like that old adage—nobody looks back on their deathbed and thinks “man, I should’ve spent more time in the office.” Not to mention your brain needs the exercise to keep from ossifying.

3.) Get that “adult stuff” down, even if it takes watching Youtube videos, reading how-to articles, or cringe de la cringe, asking your parents how to do it. You aren’t born knowing how to sear meat, iron a collared shirt efficiently, and do your taxes. Some people have been doing this stuff since they’re fifteen, and some people couldn’t tell you how to light the stove at twenty-five. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you try and keep trying, and that every mistake makes you smarter. (And that you destroy a few silk shirts first just to really bring that point home. Rest in peace, blush colored cinched-sleeve blouse.)

4.) Know that at approximately no point will you have your shit together and that this is pretty much natural. And no, no one else does either really, so learn to take a step back from Facebook FOMO and Instagram envy. The better faster richer cooler race leads only to the bottom and is a natural but stupid waste of energy: you’re trying to match somebody’s crazily curated self PR with your live update 24/7 reality. Nobody ‘grams their 15 hours in the office, even if they snap the drinks that follow it with more coverage than most celebrity trials.

5.) Decide to be happy. Decide to be kind.  Take ownership of your decisions and make peace with the fact that sometimes they contradict each other. No Tumblr list or super rebloggable quote is going make you do these things, and yeah, sometimes you just want to reach out and throttle someone but! You are the steward of your own emotional state. What are you gonna do with that knowledge?