mean mad men


Kelly: Well, I manage my department, and I’ve been doing that for several years now, and God, I’ve learned a lot of life lessons along the way.

Jim: Your department’s just you, right?

Kelly: Yes, Jim, but I am not easy to manage.

‘Search Committee’ The Office, 7x25/26

What she says: I’m fine.

What she means: Mad Men  is ending tonight, and nothing feels okay anymore. I love this show to pieces. I’ve dedicated so much of time time and energy into it, and I don’t know what I’ll do with my time now. Are the characters going to be okay? Are they happy? Are they sad? If they’re sad, will they be sad forever? Why? How can I help? For so long this show has meant something to me, and I don’t know what I’ll do when it’s over. I’m falling apart on the inside and hoping no one has noticed.

Let’s not forget that Don is a CSA victim; having been exposed to explicit sexual situations when he moved into the brothel (around age 9ish?) and then being raped by Aimee after she nurses him while he’s sick (around age 14). His view of sex, love and women is inextricably tied with these events, and also with the fact that he is an unwanted child whose mother, a sex worker, died in childbirth. 

It’s never explicitly stated in the series but Betty shows all the classic symptoms of a CSA victim as well- the perpetrator is hinted at in her dream sequence in “The Fog”. 

They are two people whose lives are shaped by abuse- physical, sexual, and emotional. They both inflict abuse on others (Don on his partners, Betty on her children) without meaning to.

Mad Men has a lot of great commentary on many, many, many social issues- but it explores most deftly the ways in which people are shaped by abuse.

I am amazed at misogynistic women who go to strip clubs or places where there are female dancers and strippers, and just sit there with their arms crossed slut-shaming and judging. Especially the ones with their boyfriends or partners. You mad? I mean, men do it too, but damn, y’all really don’t have to go if you don’t like it. Why you sitting up there mad? Just admire and cheer. I bet, they be the same women trying to copy those ‘hoes’ moves to impress their boyfriends or whoever, and then be like, “But I do mine with class.” Shut up, some of y’all are no more sexual than the next woman. Stop it.