mean girl mentality

Tips for Dealing with Mean Friends

1. First, decide to love and believe in yourself, and to see your worth and value as a person. Don’t allow the rudeness or cruelty of others erode your personal respect for yourself.

2. Next, don’t allow the actions or words of other people make you feel as if you really don’t belong. It’s better to detach, and to choose to be with others, than to spend time with “friends” who are going to treat you badly.

3. Knowing that, decide not to treat them the way that they treat you. Don’t lower your standards – you’re more mature than that.

4. Don’t acknowledge their messages or answer their calls. Don’t take part in their plans, or do things that they suggest.

5. Make sure you have excuses to not hang out with them – but make sure your excuses are always plausible (For example, you have too much homework, you need to go to soccer practice, you need to do stuff with your family, or don’t have any time).

6. If you happen to see them: smile, say “hi” … then keep on walking. You don’t want to get pulled into some drama with them.

7. Ignore them if they’re rude, or sarcastic and mean. They want you to react, and to feel hurt and rejected.

8. Find a different group of friends who will value who you are – who will always treat you well, and who do things you enjoy.

I suffer from depression and anxiety, and having a show and having a character that portrays a young woman who is dealing with that and the consequences of it — how it affects her friendships and her relationships with her mom and her sister — it’s beautiful to see that. Someone who’s seemingly so perfect on the outside is very much broken on the inside and trying to piece themselves back together.

Me: Opens Persuasion AU document. I AM GOING TO DO THIS. I AM GOING TO UPDATE THIS.

Also me: Stares at shirtless Diego pictures. Folds laundry that has been sitting in a basket for 12 days.

I got a little upset when I saw people on my dash reblogging TLJ anti posts with thousands of notes and got that feeling of being horribly outnumbered again… but then I remembered that their brand of shallow faux moral superiority and snotty condescension is basically playing to the base on Tumblr dot com and went back to my very nice breakfast and morning Reylo fics.

back from the party thing and it was better than expected and i also got called hot three (3) times

mentally-unstable-with-reason  asked:

Jacksepticeye with 5C ?

It…it’s not like it means you like that person when you give your heart..! (original size here)

tsundere Jack senpai bc lets face it that emoji just screams tsundere buuuut sorry for this mess of a drawing aaaaaaaaaaaa the idea seemed cute in my head… the execution of it is where I failed… I have another C5 request for Jack so I might try chibi style with that one…

anonymous asked:

GoM + Imayoshi being forced to watch a chick flick with their s/o?

Aomine Daiki: Aomine doesn’t even attempt to hide the fact that he finds the movie boring. Much to your irritation, he shifts into a new position every couple of minutes, in the hopes of getting comfortable, and only settles down when he’s done a complete 360 to stretch out across the couch like a contented cat, resting his head in your lap and letting his feet dangle off the edge of the couch before promptly falling asleep.

Kise Ryouta: Kise begrudgingly watches the film with you, although only after he’s complained enough about how he’d rather watch something else. He sits sideways on the couch, stretching his legs out so that you can fit between them snugly, and proceeds to play with your hair to amuse himself when you start the film. However, towards the end, you realise that Kise has stopped braiding your hair and is watching the screen just as intently as you are. 

Midorima Shintarou: Midorima simply looks on with a deadpanned expression when Karen feels her own boobs and claims that it’s 68 degrees and there’s a 30 percent chance that it’s already raining in Mean Girls. Mentally cursing himself for not being able to refuse anything you ask, he maintains an unamused look throughout the entire film, but you swear that the corners of his lips twitched at the part where Regina George gets hit by a bus. 

Murasakibara Atsushi: Murasakibara only agrees to watch a chick flick with you because you’ve bribed him with your homemade popcorn. He insists that you feed him, and makes low rumbles of disapproval in his throat when you forget to, or accidentally press popcorn to his nose instead of his mouth due to being too distracted by the movie. 

Kuroko Tetsuya: Kuroko mentally grimaces when you ask him to watch the movie with him, but forces himself to grin and bear it. He smiles at all right parts, although you’re aware that he’s only copying your actions in order to not hurt your feelings. Touched by this thoughtfulness, you promise to watch his favourite movie with him next time.

Akashi Seijurou: Akashi watches the movie and actually tries to determine why you find chick flicks so entertaining, but in the end, he simply has to accept the fact that it’s probably something he’ll never be able to understand. He doesn’t really mind watching it with you, though, since it’s relaxing to be able to sit back, gather you up in his arms, and just not think every once in a while. 

Imayoshi Shoichi

“Shoichi, you promised you’d watch this with me.”

“I am watching with you.”

“You’re stroking my thigh.”

“…I can multitask.”

Rant: Do Not Be A Mean Girl In Roleplaying Because That Is Not Fetch

I have a bit of a tiff with the Mean Girl mentality here on tumblr, especially towards roleplaying and fandoms in general.

A lot of the fandoms have been great to The Countess despite the fact The Countess is a historical original character, historical because she was a true historical figure; original, because I take of what I believe would fit into her and try to fill in the blanks. Thankfully, The Countess found her way around in interacting with not just vampire characters and werewolves, but with various characters throughout the fandom and original characters. I admit The Countess has difficult and I am difficult at times to find a niche with certain writers, and with other writers I seem to hit it off quickly.

I made mistakes and learned from them, but what I absolutely cannot agree with is the Mean Girl mentality when it comes to writers or whole fandoms discriminating and bashing on writers who take up canon or OC (Original Characters)characters. Not only bash on them but then go around to people who have never written before with Person A character and bias them to the writer without giving them a chance. 

I admit, I did this when I first came to tumblr, but I cleaned that up because how would I feel if someone came to moi and said ‘Hey, so and so told moi you were a horrible writer or had a horrible  character, but I don’t agree or I do agree only because they told me so’. That is horrible to hear that people are talking down your character because your character just might not have hit it off with your character. Instead, I thank the writer for the experience we had and I inform them if they ever make another OC or Canon to still look moi up. I even tell them we can still chat OOC, but unless the other writer severely offended or pissed me off, I have no reason to go to their friends to trash talk them.

I absolutely hate it and I could spit fire at these writers, however, I found this was a great opportunity to shed light on it. 

Now, I know there are elitists within many fandoms who I admire, there are the good ones (yes, there are since a few are willing to give you lessons on the fandoms and anything of importance one should keep in mind and the inhabitants), and then there are the bad ones. Now those I wish to speak upon and thankfully, I have not come upon any who give moi lip or attitude, because I would give them lip and attitude right back for thinking they can talk down to moi. 

I do not put up with the mean girl attitude, I will ask you in private if you are mature about it what is going on and how to solve the problem. I have no problem taking hours upon hours to hash it out, it sometimes ends well, sometimes end in anger, but at the end it is either resolved or we keep to our separate ways. Sometimes writers will not get along or their characters will not get along, but it does not mean you then have to make a lynch mob and gather up your posse to harass the writer into either deactivating, giving in to your ways, or driving them to tears. I know there are those lovely writers who might not have my gumption and are pressured to write a certain way to appease those writers or end up being ostracized because their character is different.

You know what that is?

Bullying.

If you had the tables turned on you and you were bullied, how would you feel?

Horrible. Bad. Worthless. Sad. Weepy.

Yes, that is what I thought honey, does not feel good so why would you do that to someone else who is unique in their way of writing?

In fact, I have rped with canon characters who interpret and write their characters differently than another characters. No two canon characters are the same and the same should be said about original characters. Just because I or someone else had a bad experience with a canon or an original character does not mean everyone is the same. It does not mean I am going to be mean girl, roll my eyes, and tell them they are idiots or Mary Sue’s for being here.

What good does that do? Answer: You just put someone in tears and it was not constructive criticism.

You know what you can do instead of being an asshole and making the writer feel like shit? ANSWER: Give them constructive criticism, ask them if they want help, or if you really just cannot stand the character, just unfollow.

UNFOLLOW and move on. I unfollow and move on, and have I lost sleep over it? Have I wasted my breath and my energy hating them every day? No. Have I gone to their ask box and given them shit? No, because that is high school, that is middle school mind set. This is taking a safe haven and a fun place like tumblr and turning it into the worst experience for people.

This happens in almost every fandom from the Dr. Who to the Sherlock to the Vampire Chronicles to the Supernatural to the Greek Verse to the Marvel verse, just to name a few ones that are popular off of the top of my head. 

It happens to a lot of fandoms and even to group roleplays because even in group roleplays there is a pack mentality of either 'You are with us or against us’. This is not a war, this is not a bid to see who has the best writing nor how many people to make feel insignificant because their style of writing or interpretation of a canon or an original character is different than what people would see, read, or hear about in fandoms. I never appreciated nor enjoyed the drama that came with any fandom, but the worst is observing and lurking (yes, I lurk so much, that tingling feeling you get that someone is reading your thread, that would be moi) over writers who would belittle other writers because they are not bowing down and kissing your writer behind.

Who cares if there are original rpers or canon rpers who do things their way here on tumblr? Who cares if these original characters and canon characters want to interact with characters outside of their fandom or interact with different fandoms? Who cares if they are not top notch right out the gate? Who cares if they need a little bit of help or need time to get their groove in writing? Who cares they are not perfect and awesome right out the gate?

Is that not what tumblr is all about?

To explore and to have one’s character meet with different fandoms and characters that are not canon or were originally written in movies, shows, books, plays, even historical figures? 

If you have a problem with a writer, keep it between you two, and I have seen very great writers take it in private. Those are the classy writers, those are the writers who will not name names, granted they will make a broad OOC post that would warn future writers about certain things not to do to their character. However, they will politely say what is between the other writer and themselves is between them. It does not need to be taken up as a cause to bully other writers or tell them they should stop writing. 

It is appalling to see how many writers are left in tears because another writer or even a band of writers huddled around to terrorize them on anon or rant about them in a passive aggressive manner. 

Stop it. 

You are not Regina and you are not a Mean Girl, unless you are getting paid or you roleplay as one of the Mean Girls, cut it out.

—-Marguerite, The Countess’ writer

[[Reblog if you like, I would appreciate it considering Mean Girl mentality is not something to be tolerated when we are all here to have fun, make connections, even friends and family. Not a place to fear nor to hate to be on because of cliques or 'mean girls’]]

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Tonight was a really good prairie excursion for Priya – like, the best ever. She checked in voluntarily, turned right around at the sound of her name, and was obviously keeping an eye on me.

I mean, she also rolled in unspeakable things, found a nest of bird eggs and tried to eat them, and tried to swim across the pond after a deer…but let’s focus on the positives here. 

Nathan: [finally walks out through the hospital’s entrance, a bag over his shoulders containing his personal effects and just stays still for a moment, overwhelmed by the scenery]

Margot: [was outside all along, waiting for the right moment to snap a few pictures of him fresh out the hospital]