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Time out: Removal from reinforcement that gives a child a chance to calm down. It is not a punishment.

 1. The regular environment (time in) must be positive and reinforcing… this means that being put on time out actually removes the child from an engaging and warm interaction or situation. 

2. Time out is implemented immediately after misbehavior, or after only a single verbal warning… this means that you need to put the child in time-out as soon as they disregard a request, or act inappropriately for the situation.  

3. All disciplinarians (parents/caretakers) must be consistent in time out structure… it does not good to have one parent follow the timeout structure, and another caretaker ignore it. children thrive with consistency.

4. No stimuli, reinforcement, or activity should be available at the time out location, and timeout typically lasts a minute for every year the child is old... dont send the kid to their room. put them in a specific area where they dont have books, or their phone/tablet, TV, video games, friends, the dog, whatever. they need to focus on self-soothing and processing the situation in a developmentally appropriate way. a 2 yr old should be on timeout for about 2 minutes, ( i usually tell little kids that they are on timeout until they are done crying, as that seems to give them more control over their own emotional coping and is more developmentally appropriate, as time is arbitrary at that age) and a 10 yr old can manage 10 minutes. while you would hope that a 15 year old should be able to figure their life out; but if they cant, stick the kid on timeout for 15 minutes and process with them.

5. Timeout is enforced, and child is returned to timeout if they escape or leave without permission… they dont get to get return until they process. the caretaker is in charge, not the child. also, if the caretaker puts the kid on timeout longer than is developmentally appropriate, the child has the right to call attention to that fact. The time is VITAL. if the kid isnt ready to process at the end of the time, it is ok to start the time again. 

6. Timeout ends when the child is calm and the adult determines release after processing the situation with the child. caretaker and child discuss the misbehavior and how the timeout could have been avoided through appropriate behavior. the child commits to act appropriate and as a team, caretaker and child determine a consequence if the misbehavior occurs again. I also believe that this is a great time to give your kid a hug and let them know that you really care about them and your relationship.

7. Follow through and compliance of original command after timeout has ended. child does the required action, (maybe chores, or apologizes to others, or whatever) and the situation is moved past. I believe that it is a perfect time to figure out if the required command needs some assistance (maybe the chore was too overwhelming and a parent can assist with showing the child how to complete it, or provide step by step instructions)

anecdotally, ive found it helpful for a caretaker to place themselves on timeout when they get overwhelmed with the kids… tell the kids that “mom/dad/whoever” needs to take a timeout. once you catch your breath, call the kiddos over and let them know why you were needing a timeout, and what they can do to help keep things smooth for the rest of the day. if you do this, all of a sudden timeout is a powerful tool that can be modeled for every age and enhances everyone coping and communication.

adapted from chapter 14 (family interventions) of McWhirter, J.J., McWhirter, B.T., McWhirter, E.H., & McWhirter, A. C. (2017). At-risk youth: A comprehensive response (6th ed.). Pacific Grove, CA: Brooks/Cole. Cengage Learning. ISBN: 978-1-305-67038-9.

This is a warning to anyone about to get a tattoo - just because an artist is good at one style, DOES NOT mean they will be good at any style. I saw a neo-traditional artist (Christine Ward, Black Throne Tattoo) who is fond of colour, to get my greyscale traditional tattoo done. She informed me when I walked in the shop door, she had never actually tattooed a banner before. The entire time she was doing the outline, she kept trying to convince me to add colour, after I had been very specific I wanted it grey wash. It ended up irritating me so much, that I said that was fine and walked out. The top photo shows you how badly it healed. It dropped out, lines were uneven, and the amazing artist who fixed it (Hamish McWhirter, City Body Art) later informed me that she had tried to do thick lines with a thin needle. Please be so careful and RESEARCH your artist! Fix ups are not at all fun. Oh, and Buddy is my dog, don’t judge - he means the absolute world to me.

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African American soldiers returned from fighting in WWI…they attempted to exercise their social, political and economic rights here at home. They were met by riots and lynchings led by white mobs throughout black communities in 15 states and 27 cities across America from April to November, 1919. According to Cameron McWhirter’s…Red Summer: The Summer of 1919 and the Awakening of Black America, the NAACP’s James Weldon Johnson called it the “Red Summer” because it was so bloody. In total, millions of Americans had their lives disrupted. Hundreds of people—most of them black—were killed.

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