Leaders of groups

Warning: English isn’t my first language, so I’m obviously going to do some mistakes (probably also some stupid ones).


Okay, can I just say how much I love and respect the leaders? Seriously. They. Are. The. BEST!

 I mean, they are literally the parent of the group and have to take care of the members, not to forget that almost all of them are going through puberty and are stressed af. The amount of pressure leaders have, is incredible. They are the ones who have to do the acceptance speeches, communicate between agency and the members, have to lead the members through pretty much everything, motivate them, talk like 24/7, so it won’t be awkward during interviews and the list goes on. Oh, and most of them are like 18+ and have to take care of 3-12 members, which can be very stressful and tiring when they don’t listen or are always hyped af. And the leaders usually are the ones that get the hate, if something “bad” happens in the group(member leaving, dating scandal…)

We all know, it’s freaking exhausting as an idol and most of the idols are already really busy with their own stuff, but the leader doesn’t only have to get their own shit together, but also from the others. It has to be damn exhausting and stressing job. Yeah, I call it a job, because it’s literally that. So I really don’t understand the ppl who say “Oh, [insert name of a leader] never smiles. He/She is so boring on variety shows and is such a bad leader.” I mean, being a leader is hard af. I mean, like, really hard.

It’s okay, I say it again, it’s OKAY for leaders to feel exhausted (I’m to 99% sure that they always do). It’s okay for them to take a break from being a leader after YEARS of being the leader (as I said it’s an exjausting job). It’s okay if they aren’t the BEST leaders from the start, because leaders grow and aren’t made.

Anyway, shout out to all the leaders, because they are the best and only deserve to be loved.

glassslippers-and-tinywhiskers  asked:

Could you discuss delayed desexing and the alternatives like an ovary sparing procedure? It seems clear that in breeds like the GSD it benefits their health, but do we know much in regard to smaller breeds? (I know this topic can be controversial so if you'd prefer not to delve into it, or already have I understand) Also I've been loving the breed posts, thank you for taking the time to write them up!

I don’t at all mind discussing the topic when everyone remains civil about it. It’s very interesting and an aspect of veterinary medicine that’s bound to change as we gather more information. I’m happy to discuss it as long as all participants refrain from making personal insults.

It’s a long discussion folks. I’d grab a cuppa tea if that’s your thing. Also, unfortunately I can’t hide it under a ‘read more’ because it’s an answer to an ask, and Tumblr will eat the hidden part if I do. I will try to make it look pretty if you’re not interested.

Traditionally in dogs we have performed desexing (spey) by performing an ovariohysterrectomy, removing both ovaries and the uterus. Some alternatives have been suggested including tubal ligation, hysterectomy (removing only the uterus), ovariectomy (removing only the ovaries) or doing nothing. This is good. Science as a process should periodically review data, question the knowledge base and make recommendations based on new research. Otherwise it’s just dogma.

I don’t think you can claim that it is ‘clear’ that leaving the ovaries benefits the health of breeds like the GSD. The practice is still controversial at best, with some veterinarians outright labeling it at malpractice. There is some breed variability in terms of what relative benefits and risks might be expected, but I really wouldn’t call it ‘clear’.

Originally posted by wolfyoubemyvalentine

Before I talk about various cancer risks, let’s talk about relative risks of non-cancerous conditions.

With an ovariohysterectomy (traditional spey)that is properly performed, there is zero risk of pyometra. Stump pyo can occur if remnants of the uterus or ovaries are left behind. Cruciate tears are affected by multiple factors, but desexed dogs seem more prone to them than entire dogs. Weight gain and obesity is more common in desexed dogs.

The relative risk of pyometra in non-desexed dogs is about 25%. Risks typically increase with age.

With an ovary sparing spey (hysterectomy), only the uterus is removed. Pregnancy is prevented. Pyometra can still occur if any uterine or cervix tissue remains (a stump pyo). With the apparent influence of oestrogen, these dogs may be less at risk of cruciate disease and are less at risk of obesity.

With an ovariectomy, only the ovaries are removed. This renders the dog infertile and removes the influence of oestrogen. The uterus will atrophy and shrink down without stimulation from female hormones, rendering the risk of pyometra basically zero. It may still increase the risk of obesity and cruciate disease like the traditional spey.

Considering that pyometra is often lethal, while cruciate disease is painful but treatable, personally I would err on the side of preventing pyometra. Also keep in mind that obesity in dogs can be moderated with owner control of the diet, and obesity will predispose to cruciate injury. I would recommend removing at least the ovaries.

Male dogs have less surgical options. Vasectomy can be considered, but these dogs are basically entire but infertile.

An entire male dog is more at risk of perineal hernia, benign prostatic hyperplasia, perianal adenoma and inter-male aggression. A castrated male dog is relatively more at risk of, again, obesity, cruciate ligament disease, and possibly diabetes.

With the information above, and I haven’t brought cancers into the equation yet, you might wonder of preventing obesity in desexed dogs might reduce the incidence of cruciate disease and subsequently other conditions that we know are more common in obese dogs, namely cruciate ligament disease and diabetes. You might conclude that there is little benefit to leaving a dog entire if you’re able to control its weight.

I think that’s a reasonable assumption so far, though it’s clear to me that the benefits of traditional desexing are more pronounced in females.

Originally posted by heartsnmagic

Now lets talk about cancers.

There are multiple types of cancer. Some are more devastating than others. Some are more common than others. In terms of highly malignant cancers that show up relatively commonly in dogs, the ones we talk most about, and of most interest in this topic, are mammary cancer, haemangiosarcoma (HSARC), Mast Cell Tumor (MCT) and osteosarcoma (OSC).

  • Mammary cancer is extremely common in entire female dogs. In European countries where prophylactic desexing is not routinely performed mammary tumours make up 50-70% of all cancers seen. They are relatively rare in countries with a high desexing rate but extremely predictable in dogs desexed late in life or not at all. Speying earlier appears more protective compared to being left entire: speying before the first heat reduces risk to 0.05%, before second heat to 8%, and before 3rd heat to 26%. after the third heat there is negligible reduction in risk of mammary cancer compared to intact dogs.
  • Osteosarcoma may be three times (3x) more common in desexed large breed dogs.
  • Mast Cell Tumors maybe up to three times (3x) more common in desexed dogs of certain breeds. Lymphoma may be up to 10% more common in desexed dogs of certain breeds.
  • Haemangiosarcoma may be more common in neutered dogs of some breeds, but less common in neutered dogs of other breeds.

There isn’t much consensus across ALL dog breeds in ALL situations. There are numerous retrospective studies, and more coming out all the time (Science!) but more data needs to be analysed.

What is fairly clear is that there is a dramatic reduction in otherwise common mammary cancers by early desexing of females. There is probably some benefit in reducing other cancer risks to later desexng, or not desexing, dogs also.

So do you? Or don’t you?

There’s certainly more incentive to desex female dogs, as even pyometra on its own is a sneaky, life threatening condition. I recommend desexing most female dogs in their senior years if they haven’t already been done for this reason alone.

Assuming you do chose to desex, and I’m talking about procedures that involve at least removal of the gonads, it becomes a matter of when. If you don’t remove the ovaries then you have no benefits from desexing other than infertility. There’s no significant benefit in leaving the ovaries compared to leaving the dog entire.

For a small dog, OSC is incredibly rare. HSARC is rare. MCT can happen to anything. We weight up those relatively low risks compared to the very high risk of mammary cancer and pyometra, and I would advise speying before the first heat. With males timing is not as critical unless behavioural factors are involved.

For a larger dog, I personally think it’s worth delaying desexing to between the first and second heat. I would get too nervous about mammary cancers to wait beyond the second heat but there may be some benefit in preventing osteosarcoma by delaying surgery until more skeletal maturity, and same for cruciate injuries.

(I have a theory that osteosarcoma occurs in its predilection sites due to increased bio-mechanical forces in these areas, so waiting for skeletal maturity before removing the gonads might be helpful.)

On the other hand, screening for hip dysplasia and desexing if the dog definitely has it so you can perform a JPS also has benefits, because you’re addressing pathology the dog definitely has right now.

There are so many unknowns in these hypothetical scenarios. This makes it a challenge to make recommendations when clients just want the ‘right’ answer.

The best plan for the individual dog may depend on breed or breed mix (genetic testing would be ideal, but an added cost) or any known predispositions within the family or bloodlines.

So, this explanation is getting rather long, but there’s so much interesting information on this topic and it’s growing all the time.

Originally posted by mensweardog

TL:DR there is probably a benefit to delayed desexing in dogs prone to OSC, cruciate injury and HSARC. Some of the other risks may be mitigated by weight control. There is minimal if any benefit, and definitely some risk, in delaying desexing for small breeds.

But this field may change as more information is gathered. It will be worth watching over the next decade.

NB: shelters and rescues will always desex as young as possible, because their primary aim is population control. They are justified in doing this and their cases shouldn’t be considered in these scenarios.

(Majority of these statistics come from ‘The spay/neuter controversy’ presented at the OVMA by John Berg, DVM, DACVS and ‘ Long-term health effects of neutering dogs: comparison of Labrador Retrievers with Golden Retrievers‘ by Hart, Hart, et al)

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—  Meu coração é teu.
NCT MTL to date a foreigner


Anon: Hi I’d like to request please of a Mtl in nct to date a 99liner who is also a foreigner / non Asian thank you 😃

Hi! I know you ask for a MTL to date a 99 liner and a foreigner but it’s too complicated. Like I think some of them would be at the bottom for one reason, but then at the top for another if you get what I mean lol.

You can find the other part of your request here (NCT MTL to date a 99 liner)

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Originally posted by yoon-to-the-oh




Johnny and Mark are both first to be honest. They both come from Western countries, so would be pretty westernised in their ideal partners, but would also hold eastern preferences too. Because of this, they’d be willing to date any race, Asian or non-Asian. As long as you got on, they wouldn’t give two fucks about race or ethnicity.

Chenle seems like the type of person to want to try dating someone foreign. He’d like how exotic foreigners could be and would be intrigued to find out more about their culture and way of life. If given the chance, he’d definitely approach a foreigner confidently.

Ten is Thai so would defiantly date a foreigner. As long as you could communicate, he wouldn’t care what race you were or how you looked. It wouldn’t be something he really paid attention to or thought about - if you got on well and could communicate, that would be enough for him.

Jaehyun would like how different a foreigner looked to him. If he ever dated one, he’d constantly be complimenting them and their features. If your cultures were very different, he’d be able to compromise with some things and would be very accepting and interested in your country.

Yuta would definitely like dating someone from a different country. He’s already moved from Japan to Korea, so learning another culture would be interesting and quite normal for him too. Out of everyone, he’d be the most likely to learn his partner’s language and move to their home country, because he was that serious.

Taeyong would be open to dating a foreigner - but only if they spoke Korean. Communication would be his number one priority in a relationship and he’s probably the type to talk about his feelings a lot in a relationship. So being able to understand him and not having a language barrier would be important to him.

Haechan would be like Taeyong. He likes to talk a lot and probably would get impatient if he had to explain everything simply and basically and slowly in order for you to understand or kind of understand. If you made the effort the learn Korean in order to speak to him, he’d feel very honoured and would make sure to appreciate you even more in the relationship.

Jaemin, although quite confident and self assured, would be very shy and quiet around foreigners. He wouldn’t know what to say, and with the little basic English he has, he’d find it practically impossible to speak to you. If you spoke to him first and were calm and friendly, he’d definitely be comfortable and date you if he thought you were attractive.

Jeno would feel intimidated by foreigners. He’d be quite cold and hostile towards them without realising, but really inside he’d be intrigued and would want to know you better. If he was with Mark or Johnny or Ten, he might be able to lighten up a bit and speak a couple of words with encouragement, but really, his icy-cold first impression might intimidate some people themselves.

Jisung would feel more comfortable dating someone Korean or someone who was foreign but still Asian. It wouldn’t be that he wasn’t physically attracted to Western foreigners but he’d be thinking further into the relationship, and would worry about where he’d live and if he’d have to move away from the safety of his home country, to be with you.

Doyoung would have pretty traditional Korean preferences when it comes to dating. He’d want a cute, pale, slim, short Korean girl whom he could protect. Maybe he’d date a foreigner, but in the long run, I don’t see him as marrying one purely because he’d still have those preferences and want to marry someone who fit them perfectly.

WinWin would definitely date someone Chinese or Korean or Japanese if it’s Yuta, but he wouldn’t date any other ethnicity. He probably knows the struggles of learning a new language and wouldn’t want to go through it again for his partner. If you learnt Korean or Chinese, maybe he’d date you, but if you didn’t, he’d be a little apprehensive to start a serious relationship.

Taeil is bit like Doyoung. He’d prefer Korean girls and hold traditional Korean values when it comes to dating. I don’t see him approaching a foreigner, whether it’s for friendship or relationship reasons, because he wouldn’t naturally be attracted to them. He’s also pretty shy as it is, so asking out a foreigner would be even harder.

Hansol might be attracted to a foreigner, but he wouldn’t make it clear or obvious. Whether you’re Korean or not, he wouldn’t be the type to make the first move or approach you. So dating a foreigner wouldn’t probably happen for him unless you could read his body language well, could speak Korean, were willing to move to Korea for him and had a similar personality and temperament to him. And that’s a lot of things.

Kun wouldn’t want to date a foreigner because he’d want to stay in China/Korea and have a family with Chinese/Korean values. If you had pretty westernised views on things, you’d clash with him a bit and this might end any chance of a relationship. You’d really have to be special and be willing to have a family/relationship they way he wanted to, in order for things to work out.