Hello! Long time fan here. I just caught up on your blog and saw that you mentioned that you identify as aro/ace. I apologize for the rudeness of the question, but I was wondering if you could tell us how you came to identify as such? Y'see, I'm questioning everything I thought I knew about myself, and I would very much appreciate hearing about your experience. Please do not hesitate to disregard this question if you'd rather not answer. Cheers!
Hi!! Well at first, in high school and at the start of college, I realized that I didn’t feel any distinction between the way I felt towards different genders. My first thought as an explanation was, “I must be bisexual.” I never really desired any romantic relationship like a lot of my friends did, but I didn’t think much of it–the classic “maybe I just have to wait and some day I will feel that way?” I loved spending time with people and making friends, but just in the platonic sense.
But then, this past spring, I realized, “huh, maybe my inability to distinguish how I feel towards different genders is not a sign that I am bisexual, but is actually because I just… don’t experience romantic or sexual attraction. I just am interested in platonic relationships.” And then a lot of stuff started making sense, haha.
I used to think I couldn’t be ace because i thought I had a crush on different people in high school, but I think, again, that was just me misidentifying my affection for people in a romantic sense, just because that’s what’s drilled into you as a kid you know? I’m still a Young Adult so I am not really 100% sure of any aspect of my identity, but the longer I have identified as aro/ace the more I have felt like it is truly what I am, and it’s the label I’m most comfortable with. It’s made me really happy seeing lots of you guys excited to see an aro/ace person just because it seems like there’s not many of us haha. I hope my story is able to help you!!!