may need to buy this book

My second novel, The Providence of Human Affairs, was released on Amaxon today. It’s available in both paperback and e-book. It’s an urban fantasy that tells the story of spirits working the kidnapping of a four year old boy. They soon discover his disappearance may be linked to an ancient prophecy highlighting another Immaculate Conception and the birth of a child that will save the world from darkness.

Buy it now. My first novel, Blood of my Blood is also available.

anonymous asked:

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

Money

Health

Emergency

Job

Travel

Better You

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Education

Finances

Job Hunting

Life Skills

Miscellaneous

Relationships

Travel & Vehicles


Other Blog Features

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Adult Cheat Sheet:

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

  • wishing to live independently
  • location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
  • conflict with your parents
  • being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

  • Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
  • Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
  • Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

  • They may worry that you are not ready.
  • They may be sad because they will miss you.
  • They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
  • They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

  • Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
  • Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
  • Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
  • Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
  • Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
  • Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

  • Your doctor
  • Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
  • Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
  • Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
  • Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
  • Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
  • Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

  • Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
  • Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
  • Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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Keep me updated? xx

Sun Through the Houses

This is a very basic and simplified version of the Sun in each of the 12 houses. Later, I’ll make a more in-depth list of what you’re like if you have an Aries Sun, etc. in each house! And of course, this is my interpretations, other people may disagree!!

The Sun is where you want to be different than everyone else. It’s where you want to shine, and is a key part of who you need to be to be happy. This is something you have an affect on!! If it says you enjoy volunteering, for example, you will not be destined to volunteer in soup kitchens and the like. You will need to take the initiative to do this, and you will find yourself happier!!

Sun in 1st House
- You like looking good and dressing up
- You are aware of yourself and your needs; probably do buy books from the self-help section
- You like to stay in shape
- You have a big personality, people find themselves drawn to you
- You stick by the rules you have in life; strong set of morals

Sun in 2nd House
- You want to be rich, and probably famous as well!
- Your charisma and natural leadership will help you further your career
- You don’t need to rely on others for your self-worth
- You are quite possessive

Sun in 3rd House
- You value communication
- You’re a tech person (lucky)
- You like to make new friends and get along well with neighbours, family, heck even the man standing behind you at the grocery store!
- You’re very intelligent, or want to be perceived as being smart
- You see each individual tree for what it is, rather than the whole forest
- You always have the newest tea; a gossiper

Sun in 4th House
- You like have a showy house
- You probably blog parenting tips, or read parenting books and pass the knowledge on to everyone you talk to
- You aspire to be the best parent, or to be your children’s best friend

Sun in 5th House
- Similar to the 4th house, you want a good relationship with your children
- You tend to be very creative
- You aren’t afraid to do what you love, despite what others may think of it
- Your love affairs can be quite intense and fast-paced
- You can be risky and impulsive; gambling is fun, but be careful

Sun in 6th House
- You like trying out new diets and always have a gym membership, even if you rarely go
- Your health should be very well!
- You find enjoyment in even the most mundane tasks, like cleaning or washing windows
- You enjoy volunteer work 
- You have divine hygiene

Sun in 7th House
- You are good at personal relationships
- Everyone you talk to feels special 
- Your relationships are intense, including the negative ones
- In marriage, you and your partner typically get along wonderfully and are great at communicating and cooperating with each other

Sun in 8th House
- You have a fascination with death, whether that be your own or others
- You will come into inheritance, or marry someone with a large amount of money
- Sex with you is intense, you give it everything you have, wanting to be the best partner your lover has had
- You will suffer from great loss, and if you allow it, it can teach you how to grow and heal

Sun in 9th House
- You are very intelligent and aware of the world and how it works
- If you’re religious, you are devoted
- You have strong morals
- You love to travel
- Your dreams tend to have more meaning than the usual person’s
- You may not have a lot of knowledge, but you have a very deep understanding of what you do know

Sun in 10th House
- You want to be known
- You are probably involved in your community and enjoy politics
- You have a very positive and powerful reputation
- Fame means more to you than money
- Your public face is quite different than your private face

Sun in 11th House
- You have many, many “friends”, but may not feel like you are actually close with others
- Quantity trumps quality, in your opinion
- You have very big dreams and wishes for your future
- You are also quite aware of yourself

Sun in 12th House
- You want to understand the unknown
- You are probably very involved in the occult, astrology, or something similar
- You are more likely to suffer from severe mental health
- You tend to be caught up in your own thoughts
- You may be a philosopher, with lots of self-reflection
- You have many romantic affairs, sometimes at the same time as each other

guide to the first week of college

hey guys! i’ll be starting my sophomore year of college in just over a week (!!), and while i’m not new to the whole college thing, i will be new to my school this year as a transfer student, so i wanted to share these tips for y’all !

  • figure out where all your classes are beforehand - there’s nothing worse than being late on the first day, especially if you have small classes. don’t start off on the wrong foot! hopefully you’ll have some sort of orientation/tour that shows you the basics, but if you’re living on campus, you’ll likely be at school before the first day of classes - use this extra time to get familiar with campus and find out where all your classrooms are (not just the buildings, find the actual class if possible - some buildings are ridiculously complicated as far as room numbers go, trust me!). if you’re commuting to school, try to come an hour or so early to do this as much as you can (and you can also use time between classes to figure out where you’re headed!)
  • become friendly with the people around you - whether this be your roommate, the people sitting next to you in class, or the other people on your floor, it’s always nice to be on good terms with as many people as possible. make friends early - even if they don’t stick (and a lot of early friendships don’t), it’s nice to know a lot of people! get to know people in your classes, even though it’s harder to do this than it might’ve been in high school since often you just have the one class together. you never know when you’ll have to miss a class, and having someone to get notes from is such a relief (also study buddies !! super important !!)
  • wait until you’ve gone to class to buy textbooks - a lot of teachers will tell you that you don’t really need it, or that an older edition works just fine. whatever the case, it usually doesn’t hurt to wait to buy textbooks until you’re at school (plus, if you’re like me you may end up dropping the class you already bought 7 books for)
  • try out different study spots - there are so many places on a college campus to study: your dorm room, dorm lounges, library, student union, coffee shops, random class buildings, the quad - try them out and see what works best for you! a change of scenery can go a long way toward helping your productivity!
  • call your fam - they probably already miss you and with so much new stuff going on you’re bound to have lots to say - don’t get too caught up in the hustle and bustle of a new year!
  • get comfy with your dorm room - this is your new home for the year, make it work for you! it should be your happy place. figure out good storage systems. & try to have a good relationship w ur roomie(s)! 
  • keep ahead on homework - it’s easy to put it off when it still feels like summer, but come next week you’ll likely be drowning in work and lack of free time - do as much as you can as soon as you can, future you will thank you!
  • look into a job on campus - see how your class schedule plays out, and see if working on campus is a good idea for you. there are so many options and there are usually still a lot of openings by the first week, so take advantage of it now before all the positions fill up for the semester! (also from personal experience working in a dining hall is decidedly Not Fun, would not recommend), however
  • be kind to the maintenance workers and kitchen staff - as well as other workers on campus. usually they go unnoticed, but they’re (from my experience) so so kind when you take the time to say hi and ask them how they are. the kitchen staff i worked with in the dhall were some of the sweetest people i met on campus last year
  • keep your door open and hang out in your floor lounge - (if you have one) first week is prime time to meet new people, since everyone goes into it brand new. keep your door open and have convos with people who walk by (maybe have some treats and invite them in to share - everyone loves free food !). so many of my friends were made by “studying” (i use the term loosely haha) in the lounge
  • go to events - they’re probably free and often give out free food/goodies/t-shirts, plus they’re a good way to meet people and see what sorts of things you can get involved with on campus! esp if you have an involvement fair with clubs presenting, go and try to go to the first meeting of any club that sounds interesting to u! there’s no commitment to keep coming back if it isn’t for you, and you never know what amazing groups of people you could meet! i’d recommend only going to two or three clubs regularly though, any more than that can be a bit much (and try to balance fun with academic! - my last school even had a stationery club)

if you have any questions about college/that first week, please feel free to ask me! (also tag me in ur dorm room pics bc i love that stuff!) good luck w uni, frends!

Dear 2018 me,


Hi


No resolutions. No concrete plans. No detailed lists. You know what is important. You know you have to put in the work. You know if you’re doing something consistently for a few months, the benefits that you will reap will be for years.


I know you want to change a lot of habits. Maybe 90% of your current lifestyle. But let’s pick one. One a month. They say if you do something for 21 days it becomes a habit. I give you 30 days. Make it a good one. Work on one habit at a time. At the end of the year you will have improved in 12 areas and that’s something.


I know you don’t understand much about physics or remember any of it from school but remember gravity? How you studied that every object and person in the universe is attracted to each other by some gravitational force. You are attached by a force to everything you want and everything you don’t want. Think and say things you want to give them more power. Focus more on the things you desire than the things that scare you. Strengthen the force of the things and people you want in your life. It’s that simple. I get that it’s hard to believe in self help books but believing in physics is a lot easier, no?


Math. Let’s talk about simple math. You have limited time and energy. For the longest time you have devoted so much of it to people and for that I’m proud of you. All those hours you spent making cards as a child and all those hours you spent listening to people - best friends and strangers - cry. I am glad you were that person. But now I need to be more aware of your own needs. The more you give the more is deducted out of the total time and energy you have. Love may be infinite but your personal time and energy aren’t.


Don’t buy more than 3 books a month because you never end up reading them. Don’t feel intimidated by the plans your friends have for after graduation. Use your typewriter more often. Learn Korean. It’s okay if it won’t be as useful as French in the Global context.


And in case you mess up, in case situations I cannot anticipate now arise in the future, don’t wait until 2019. Don’t wait until a new year or a new month. Begin again. Rectify your existing plan. Take corrective action. Begin again. It’s okay.


Love Always,
2017 me

underappreciated things from twisted: the untold story of a royal vizier
    • the entire scene of jeff blim reenacting two separate personalities from twisted, but especially the callback to “you live here?” “i’m squattin’ here” where he’s “but i live here” “NOOOOOOOO you’re just squattin’ here”
  • joe walker’s Royal Vizier makeup, specifically the lipstick damn it’s good
  • the way that dylan says “a song is often a prelude…………… to a DIACK
  • robert manion, just in general. the one hit wonder that i fell in love with throughout the course of the musical
  • jim pavolo!!! i love him so much??? that deep voice can straight up eviscerate me and i would say thank you and sorry for inconveniencing him
  • the way that they say “totties” i’m just screeching it’s so cute and also hilarious
    • in the same vein, the little gestures that jeff does when he’s explaining about the princess
  • SHOW ME YOUR MAGIC CARPET
  • in the opening number when lauren asks “why is every one in the kingdom white” and jeff in the background just “mostly welsh actually”
  • “they’re stretch marks. they happen.”
  • he fucked a tigerrrrrrrrrr~
  • joe’s little “what” after they call him a tiger fucker for the last time
  • “usually when you poison my wine it means you wanna talk what’s up are you mad at me”
  • rachael forgetting aladdin’s name and spelling it wrong because that’s the cutest shit ever i’m sobbing
  • mrs. robinson you’re trying to seduce me.
  • “this wouldn’t have happened if you’d fixed the socio-economic inequality like you’d promised, ja’far”
  • dylan’s face after jim walks in after a song is a dick in sheep’s clothing
  • It is you, you’re just wearing different clothes.
  • how fucking attractive jeff blim is, i’m actually screeching he’s a hot boy
  • take off your clothes
  • I’M GONNA LIVE FOREVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
  • robert doing the wooshy noises of the carpet
  • “do you think ja’far could be right about aladdin?” (multiple yes answers, cameraman nods)
  • one person in the crowd says “i don’t think so”
  • “ME NEITHER!”
  • hey where do hippopotamuses come from? “africa” SEE YOU’D FUCKING KNOW THAT YOU SORCERER
  • it’s simple chemistry
  • aU cOnTrAiRe
  • demONIC FURNITURE
  • i only wished to have a COAT made out of PUPPIES
    • why would you do that?!?!?!?!??!?!?!
    • that’s insane! that’s insane.
    • denise’s little “but. but the puppy coat. the puppy coat”
  • Oh. Didn’t my tiger eat your ass? (beat) TIGER FUCKER TIGER FUCKER TIGER FUCKER
  • bring achmed his tiger and nobody gets hurt-
    • SHUT UP. STOP IT.
  • ja’far? Ja’farrr. Ja’FAR!
  • BEHOLD!!! BEHOLD!!!!!!! BEHOLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • the Djinn being super in awe of the audience
  • “i’ve got to become” a Dickfor. “what’s a dick for?” BAHAHAHHAHAHAHAH
  • CHAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGE- oh shit (trips over cape)
  • youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu. you’re the guy who killed my parents.
  • wait. if i’m you? then that means. i KiLlEd My PaReNtS?
  • “what’re you gonna do with the lamp?” WISH FOR STUFF jACKASS!!!!!!!
  • ok jesus christ i don’t know what’s going on here
  • ja’far! you’re like. a devil guy.
  • the smug lil look on rachael’s face after she buys the entirety of Pixar to end the war
  • “don’t you mean….. princess?”
    • “oh. i am so sorry, princess.”
    • darn tootin.
  • joe’s tiny “wait what happened to ja’far?”
  • RACHAEL’S LITTLE “you’re a diamond in the rough” BECAUSE I DIDN’T NEED MY FUCKING HEART
  • phenomenal cosmic powers. shitty, shitty living space.
  • and may the rats ejaculate upon you”
  • maybe if you kept your face out of that motherfucking book like ok belle go back to reading
  • the very subtle gayness of abdul and the captain before abdul dies it’s so cute and pure and i sob
  • first i lost her to the sultan. then i lost her to heaven. DAMN DYLAN YOU DIDN’T HAVE TO GO THAT HARD AND YET
  • the one line that Jim sings all by himself “’cause you STOLE my DAUGHTER’S HYMEN” and it’s surprisingly soulful
  • jezebel??!??!?!??!?!?
  • it’s enough to make me wish i were lowly and poor……… but like. with money!
  • joe walker just in general he kinda stole the show for me a lil because he’s so good at playing villains especially prince achmed
  • uh huh. we put them in burlap sacks and beat them until they were dead.
    • yep. out of the highest window of the highest tower.
  • dylan’s little high note at the end of “1001 Nights” 
  • Science says you’re dead and gone forever, reason says I’m talking to the air…
    • thanks Dylan you’ve hurt me again
  • “is your penis an innie or an outie.”
  • OH YEAH ALSO THE KISS AT THE END LIKE YEAH DYLAN AND MEREDITH GET SOME
  • The Entire Musical Folks Just Please Appreciate This Musical More It’s So Fucking Good
SKAM 4.02 Clip 2 - The secret

N: Wasn’t it nice this weekend?

S: At the party?

N: Yes?

N: I thought it was really nice. There were a lot of nice, new people.

S: Yeah, you liked them?

N: Yes! Such as, or like, that guy Yousef. Do you know him well?

S: Yousef?

N: Yeah, your brother’s friend.

S: No, not that well.

N: He was quite charming though!

S: If you think being immature is charming.

N: I thought he seemed quite mature?

S: Trust me. You don’t want a muslim boy.

N: Why not

S: Because, just trust me, they… They`re together with Norwegian girls just to take advantage of  them. And as soon as they’re serious, when they actually want a woman in their life… They marry a muslim girl and ditch you.

N: Don`t you think that’s generalizing a bit?

S: It’s not generalising. Muslims can only marry muslims. It says so in the Koran.

S: Why are we talking about Yourself, aren’t you together with William?

S: Or, what… What’s going on with you two?

N: Umm. You know. You know that thing with  why I came back from London?

S: Because he worked all the time? Wasn’t that it?

N: But, that’s in a way not the whole truth.

S: Okay…

SN: Hi! I was just wondering. Aren’t you on a bus?

N: Yes! It’s a russe buss, yes.

SN: Yeah, we’re looking for someone to buy our bus, and we’re finished in may so I thought I’d check with you.

S: How much do you want for it?

N: Yes, Sana is in on our bus.

SN: Yes, um, 300.000?

V: What’s that?

SN: We’re selling our bus.

V: Really! That’s something we’re very, very interested in!

N: 300.000?

V: That’s what a bus costs. When can we come and look at it?

SN: Sometimes this week? I can send you a tekst. Bye!

V: Bye!

N: Hello? We can’t start buying buses for 300.000! We’re 5 people!”

V: That’s what a bus costs. I mean, all the buses are being sold at the moment. So if we’re going to try to buy a bus in may 2018, that’s not going to work. We have to buy a bus now, or there won’t be a bus!

M: I could join the bus, if you need people?

S: I agree with Vilde

N: We don’t have 300.000 kroners!

S: It’s not like they need the money by tomorrow. We’ll sort it out.

N: How are we supposed to sort that out?

V: You know what, Noora? You must read a book that I’m currently reading. It’s called The Secret. And it’s about if you just let the universe happen, everything will manifest in your life. You just have to be responsive.

M: You know so much about the universe.

M: How?

V: I’m very interested in the universe.Like planets and stuff. And stars…

V: (In Swedish accent) The stars are shining!

M: You`re my star, did you know that?

V: That I’m yours?

M: Mhm

V: You`re mine! You’re my sun! The sun is a star.

anonymous asked:

What would you recommend getting done in the first week of school (and the week before school starts sicee those days teachers don't really tell you what will be done and everything is just slack?

The preparation part was my favourite during my school years so here we go 

The Week Before School Starts

  1. wash your backpack if possible (don’t tumble dry!) 
  2. you can also wash your pencil case if needed
  3. if you haven’t bought your supplies yet, now’s the time!
  4. also try out your pens and pencils to see if they still work (if not, replace them if needed)
  5. sharpen your pencils
  6. clean your desk
  7. put all your old worksheets and things from last year into files 
  8. label your folders (your name, class name, year) and textbooks, calculator and everything that might get switched up in class 
  9. if you’ve messed up your sleeping schedule, use the last week to try and fix it so you don’t have to run on four hours of sleep on the first day of school
  10. have a look at the curriculum so you know what’s coming up in each subject
  11. if you’re going full-on hermione, have a sneaky look at the first chapter of your textbooks or revise briefly what you did before the holidays

The First Week of School 

  1. make copies of your schedule (one for the fridge, one for your desk, one for your bullet journal/calendar or for wherever you might need one) and memorise it, especially the rooms and break times
  2. if your school has one, get access to the online learning management system if you haven’t already
  3. get your books from the school library if you don’t need to buy them
  4. if you’re at a new school, learn where the rooms are as quickly as possible, especially the bathrooms, the gym, the cafeteria and the principal’s office (and your classrooms of course) – if you don’t know your way around, ask someone to show you everything!
  5. if you get homework, do it right away. don’t let procrastination sneak up on you in your first week already
  6. if you need special supplies for some classes and your teacher told you to buy them, buy them now (especially books because shipping may take a while)
  7. copy important dates into your calendar/bullet journal (deadlines, exams, holidays, school events, trips etc)
  8. if you’re in a new school/class, try to learn the names of your classmates (maybe not all of them, but your immediate neighbours and possible group work partners) or maybe even exchange numbers/open a group chat (might come in handy if one of you is absent or needs help with homework)
  9. if you’re returning to your old school and class, arrange to meet with your friends to catch up if you haven’t seen them during the holidays! it’s usually easier during the first two weeks because you won’t have as much homework
  10. you’ll likely be introduced to new topics in different subjects - pay attention!! those basics are really important and the next weeks’ worth of content will be based on them, and it’ll make things easier for you when you learn more advanced stuff later or when you study for exams. 

You don’t have to do all of that, those are just a few suggestions based on personal experience! I hope you’ll have a great start in school :) 

Friendly reminder: you don’t need a giant book collection to be a book blogger, lover, or reader.

I fell into the trap when I started blogging and when I got a job. Buying books just to build up a collection seems like is a thing to do. Book hauls are bragging rights and it’s a bit of a competition to see who’s got more and whose shelves are the biggest, sometimes even jokingly bragging how now they may not have enough for food or rent (it’s not funny, please don’t). It seems like it’s a thing to strive for amongst bloggers.

Except in the past couple of years of rethinking how I approach reading, I discovered something very important: I don’t care for big book collection or giant TBRs. Spending more money than I should on books made me feel incredibly guilty because I don’t actually make that much money. And the giant TBR gave me a lot of stress and anxiety. Not to mention the fact that as a renter, I don’t have that much space for a giant collection and thinking about moving it to a new place gives me heart palpitations. Suddenly, having giant book collection and a big TBR wasn’t a good thing, it became a burden, one that made me unhappy and stressed. 

So I began cleaning out my shelves. Books I wasn’t gonna read or didn’t want. I donated or gave away a lot! And it made me so incredibly relieved. The stress, anxiety, and guilt went away. I borrow more from the library and read more books I already have, instead of buying new ones. I discovered my happy place. I’m not the kind of person that needs a giant book collection; just my favorites. I’m not the kind of person that wants a giant TBR; just a few books that I really want to read at my own pace.

To be clear: I’m not saying you shouldn’t build up a giant book collection. Or that it’s a bad thing. This is not a shaming post!! If it makes you happy, go for it!! All I’m saying is that it’s not for everyone. If it’s not for you, don’t get caught up in the race that you think you have to participate in to be a blogger or reader.  Do not feel bad about not having a lot of books or borrowing books from the library or buying ebooks. You are a valid reader and blogger nonetheless!

Dear 2018 me

Hi

No resolutions. No concrete plans. No detailed lists. You know what is important. You know you have to put in the work. You know if you’re doing something consistently for a few months, the benefits that you will reap will be for years.

I know you want to change a lot of habits. Maybe 90% of your current lifestyle. But let’s pick one. One a month. They say if you do something for 21 days it becomes a habit. I give you 30 days. Make it a good one. Work on one habit at a time. At the end of the year you will have improved in 12 areas and that’s something.

I know you don’t understand much about physics or remember any of it from school but remember gravity? How you studied that every object and person in the universe is attracted to each other by some gravitational force. You are attached by a force to everything you want and everything you don’t want. Think and say things you want to give them more power. Focus more on the things you desire than the things that scare you. Strengthen the force of the things and people you want in your life. It’s that simple. I get that it’s hard to believe in self help books but believing in physics is a lot easier, no?

Math. Let’s talk about simple math. You have limited time and energy. For the longest time you have devoted so much of it to people and for that I’m proud of you. All those hours you spent making cards as a child and all those hours you spent listening to people - best friends and strangers - cry. I am glad you were that person. But now I need to be more aware of your own needs. The more you give the more is deducted out of the total time and energy you have. Love may be infinite but your personal time and energy aren’t.

Don’t buy more than 3 books a month because you never end up reading them. Don’t feel intimidated by the plans your friends have for after graduation. Use your typewriter more often. Learn Korean. It’s okay if it won’t be as useful as French in the Global context.

And in case you mess up, in case situations I cannot anticipate now arise in the future, don’t wait until 2019. Don’t wait until a new year or a new month. Begin again. Rectify your existing plan. Take corrective action. Begin again. It’s okay.

Love Always,

2017 me

40 tips for incoming college freshmen
  1. “I’ll sign up for morning class because I tookclasses in the morning in high school.” NO DON’T DO THAT YOU’RE GOING TO WANTTO KILL YOURSELF
  2. If you can,try to spread your schedule so it’s 9-5. It’ll get you used to functioning atthose hours.
  3. Go to seminars. Pick up on some random shit. Impress people with random shit. But don’t be cocky.
  4. There’s literally no popularity so you really don’t have to fucking deal with cliques or anything just find your group and branch out and go from there.
  5. If you’re drinking:
    1. POUR YOUR OWN DRINK I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH
    2. Have a cup of water (or a bit of Gatorade) between every drink. You’ll never get a hangover.
    3. Don’t be fucking loud. Everyone hates the loud drunk and you’ll get the cops called on you and that’s bad shit.
    4. Don’t mix your liquor with other liquor and oh my God don’t mix it with anything else like drugs that’s just asking for a crisis.
    5. If your buddy is in a really bad place call 911. Don’t be that douchebag who thinks that someone can sleep it off.
  6. DO EXTRA CREDIT FOR THE LOVE OF FUCKING GOD NOT EVERY PROFESSOR OFFERS EXTRA CREDIT DO THE FUCKING EXTRA CREDIT.
  7. College is for expanding your mind. Talk to friends about their majors. Attend their events or art shows. Talk to someone you met about their religion. Take an English class on Lord of the Rings. Learn things you wouldn’t normally learn in high school.
  8. Love might come. It might not. Don’t worry about it and it won’t be a problem. You’re young.
  9. Don’t be the douchebag who plays acoustic guitar in the lounge.
  10. Have fun because you’re spending a fuckton of money to be there but do your homework.
  11. There’s a general rule of college that if you were sitting in that seat for over two weeks, that is your seat. Not many if any professors have seating arrangements but switching seats will fuck everyone up.
  12. Get there early and stay late. As soon as you get home you will not want to do shit. Stay on campus and do some homework while you’re in the environment.
  13. SIT UP FRONT. The best way to start understanding something is to listen to someone talk about it and you can’t do that from the back of the class trying to listen over everyone whispering to each other. LISTENING WILL MAKE HOMEWORK SO MUCH EASIER. 
  14. Be childish, but be respectful. Have a massive snowball fight across campus, but don’t aim for anyone not taking part. 
  15. SHUT THE FUCK UP IN THE LIBRARY. Some people work there, some people sleep there. It is a quiet space. 
  16. Don’t be afraid to talk to professors. They are not there to flunk you. They would rather you pass than not.
  17. IF YOU NEED TUTORING GET TUTORING DON’T WAIT UNTIL YOU’VE DUG YOURSELF INTO YOUR GRAVE.
  18. Get involved. It will help you make friends, give you new skills to learn, and even help you get a leg up in the work place if you know the right people.
  19. Take time for yourself—buy a planner, figure out when your best study hours are, figure out WHERE you study best, and figure out how much time you need to complete an assignment—AND THEN make sure to pencil in an hour for video games, some time to watch a TV show, or time to just lay on your floor and blow bubbles. Whatever you like. Don’t forget about YOU.
  20. SLEEP. EAT. DRINK WATER. Don’t die. Caffeine =/= sleep. I cannot emphasize that this much.
  21. COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR INSTRUCTORS! If you’re sick, shoot an e-mail and say “Hey, I’m sick today. Can I set up a time to talk to you about what I missed?” If you’ve got a good opportunity (scholarships, to go to another country, to check out a cool lecture, etc.) let your prof know ahead of time. If you just need time to work on projects, all it takes is an e-mail. We understand. I gave a student a free skip day because he e-mailed me and said “Hey, look, I have two massive tests and a project due and I need the time to study.” And THAT IS OKAY
  22. Before signing up for classes, look on “ratemyprofessor.com" and see if the teachers at your campus are included. There may be two or more teachers for the same course, and you want to try and pick the good/easy one. Who your professor is can have a great affect on what grade you make, even for the “same” class. 
  23. Look for a facebook group for your “graduating class” set up, which is a good way to make friends and find people with similar interests (particularly for introverts). 
  24. Look for a facebook group for your “graduating class” set up, which is a good way to make friends and find people with similar interests (particularly for introverts). 
  25. If no one else does it, make a google doc of the exam reviews and post it on the class facebook page. That way everyone contributes to the review. 200 brains are most definitely better than 1. 
  26. During lectures, unless Internet is required, TURN IT OFF. If it’s on, you WILL end up on tumblr or some other site, and you will miss important shit. 
  27. For the love of God, pay attention to your syllabus. Sometimes assignments are listed there, and that’s the only place it’ll be mentioned. Also, if it says to do a reading by a specific date, DO THE READING BY THAT DATE. Otherwise you will get behind, and you will have 200+ pages of textbooks to read in one night before the test, and you will cry.
  28. Yes you actually need to do the readings. Yes it is a lot. Yes it will suck. Do it anyways. 
  29. If you are used to getting all A’s, do not cry when you get a B. Take it from someone who killed herself for two years to maintain a 4.0, it feels like the end of the world when your GPA drops, but it’s not. You’ll be okay. Just breathe and do your best. Your best is good enough.
  30. Try to make sure you leave an open hour around midday so that you have time to get food in you. A lot of people forget to do this. If you have to have back to back classes, check your syllabus or with your teacher—some midday classes allow you to bring in a drink and a snack. Some will even allow you a full meal.
  31. If you can get an online/pdf copy of the book without busting the bank, DO IT. Sometimes there are even annotated versions online. This can make notetaking a shitton easier, because you can highlight printed-out versions of the book and they won’t dock you on the money back. Sometimes professors move through their lecture too fast for you to write stuff down. Shrugging off that old ‘don’t ruin your books’ rule you had in high school may be your only hope.
  32. UNLESS YOU NEED THEM OR REALLY WANT TO KEEP THEM TRY TO SELL BACK YOUR BOOKS—maybe even offer them online to incoming students. You won’t get nearly the worth of them but someone after you will thank you a million times over for providing a used copy. If you take good notes, you can sometimes buy/sell those as well. A lot of professors teach literally the same class every time.
  33. IF YOUR PROFESSOR PUTS NOTES ONLINE GET THEM. GET THEM NOW. TRUST ME. YOU WANT THOSE NOTES. Bring them in with you if it’s possible to get them before class.
  34. Keep change on hand. Always.
  35. The Best Way To Make Friends:
    1. Bring a printer with you to college and offer to print people’s stuff for half of what the school does or for free if you can afford it.
    2. Carry around small candies with you and offer them to people while waiting outside of class. If you are the ‘candy person’ this gives you an in for starting conversations.
    3. Buy a jumbo pack of chalk and find an open sidewalk on a free day. Write the words ‘Come draw with me?’ and begin doodling.
    4. Have a pack of cards.
  36. If you go onto campus and you can’t find what you’re looking for, and you are afraid to go up to someone and ask, find an open, well-populated area, hold your schedule/map in hand, and walk in circles for a few minutes, looking up and around in obvious confusion. Other students know this body language well. Someone will stop and point you in the right direction. (if you are worried that the person’s directions are a joke or faulty, wait for them to leave and take up the stance again; if the directions match-up the second time, they’re legit; do not allow a person to ‘show you the way’ unless EVERY STEP is along an obvious walkway, just in case)
  37. For those of you who fear assault, most campuses aren’t much for small blades or mace. Carry a pocket air horn or a hand bag of those little pop-rock fireworks unless you can get a concealed weapons permit.
  38. Make friends with transfer kids. Chances are, they won’t be able to live in the dorms and it’ll be ten times harder for them to meet people since they have to drive to and from campus. It’s also fun hearing about their experiences before the college you both go to. 
  39. Make friends with an older student. I’m talking about students who have families and full-time jobs. You can learn a lot from them, and they honestly have the best stories. They’re often the smartest and the most dedicated, so they make great study buddies. 
  40. Your teachers are people! Joke around with them, talk to them a bit during break. Make sure they at least recognize you as “that dude with the god-awful puns during break”. In my experience, professors are even more willing to bend over backwards to help the students they know. (But also, in general? They want you to learn! If there’s a way they can easily help, there’s a really good possibility they’ll do it!

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anonymous asked:

I was wondering if any of the mods who have had/are planning on having top surgery, have any tips of how they saved or are saving for their surgery cost? Especially tips that as a 16 I can still do with my limited options. Thank you! :D

Lee says:

What a perfect question for me! I got a part-time job at 16 working as a page at my local public library for minimum wage 3 hours a week to start saving money for top surgery. Now I’m 18 and I still work there but I work 16 hours a week, I have $8,000 saved, and I will be getting top surgery this fall.

I know it isn’t possible for everyone to save money because their parents may take their money, or they have disabilities preventing them from working at all, or there are other things in their life they need the money for more urgently, but if you can save, do it! You don’t know what your insurance situation will be like so better safe than sorry. This is an example of how much top surgery can cost without insurance. 

The below tips should help you whether you’re saving for surgery or hormones or breast forms or a binder because saving is saving no matter what you’re saving for.


Step one: Open a bank account. You should tell your parents you want to get a savings account to start saving money and so you can learn more about how banking works and selecting a bank if you don’t already have a bank account open. 

You don’t actually earn much in interest, but it’s important to have because it is the most secure way to keep your money, you can keep track of how much is there, and it discourages you from spending it because you have to physically go to the bank and withdraw the money and see your balance lower. 

You don’t need to have a bank account if your parents won’t let you, you can keep the money in your closet or whatever as long as you’re saving. My parents didn’t really know that I was saving my money, and if they asked I just said that I’m being financially responsible and may need the money in college.

Step two: Keep track of how much money you spend. When you buy something, ask for a receipt. You can look for apps that can help you keep track of how much you’re spending, or just use a spreadsheet on the computer. Calculate how much money you’ve spent at the end of the month, and where it went to. 

Are you spending it on food when you hang out with friends? Video games? Clothes? Avocado toast? Comic books? Now that you know how much you’re spending, see if there’s any area where you can reduce your spending. You should make a budget and allocate a certain amount of money to use each month. Maybe you won’t spend more than $20 a month on going out with friends, and once you’ve hit that limit you have to exert self-control to stop yourself from continuing to spend. 

Put any extra money in the bank so you won’t spend it and remember you’re doing this for yourself so you’ll be able to get top surgery quicker. If you don’t save money, it might take longer until you’re able to afford it.

Step three: Save any money you get from birthdays and holidays. If you are lucky enough to have an allowance, save all of your allowance. If you ever find money on the ground, save it. 

Step four: Get a source of income. Find a part-time job!  In my state, you can start working most jobs at 16, but you should look at your state’s laws. Make a resume and send it out, fill out applications for places that are hiring, send out word that you are looking to babysit, ask people if they want you to rake their leaves, save your birthday money, do odd chores, tutor elementary school kids, shovel snowy driveways, babysit, sell crafts on Etsy, do whatever you can do to earn a few dollars- then save it!

It’s okay to only work a few hours a week; I started by working 3 hours a week! Take what you can get, and do what you can handle. I wasn’t capable of working a lot of hours, and that’s okay! Don’t overextend yourself- you shouldn’t work more than 20 hours a week max, and 10 hours is the ideal. You can get books from your local library on getting a job and on building job skills, and you can google whatever you’re stuck on like how to write a cover letter.


Saving money:

Insurance:

Trans-specific:

Things to show your employer (From r/ftm)

Getting a job and being in the workplace:

anonymous asked:

Oh my gosh could you pretty please do married with jihyun headcanons?

wym headcanons lol i’m already married to him jk jk jk

  • “hey do you still like like me?”
    “jihyun we’ve been married for seven hours”
    “you never know”
  • the wedding was super cheesy and he wrote his own vows and everyone was tearing up at it (even jumin)
  • he has videos of the wedding and also photos and takes his own photos during his own wedding because he’s extra as hell
  • and you bet your sweet ass there’s a giant portrait of the two in the living room that may or may not have been painted 
  • he’s very persistent about writing love letters on the fridge that mc finds daily and he always has something new to compliment mc on 
  • mc doesn’t realize how many books v has until they reorganize his kind of messy apartment and the books take up a whole shelf wall
  • despite the fact that his vision was horrible v always bought books and when mc tries to throw some out that’s their first married couple bicker
  • seriously, who needs a book on the art of cheese?
  • jihyun buys unnecessary things solely because he grew up with a shit ton of money. so he buys those food shapers and makes eggs in the shape of a heart for mc and it wasn’t worth $20 to pay for that but it sure is cute
  • but they definitely did not need to buy mugs in the shape of camera lenses
  • they always end up in the cardigan section whenever they go clothes shopping and they don’t really keep track of who’s cardigans are who’s anymore 
  • jihyun has a lot of soft clothes and mc wears it a lot because it’s soft and smells like him
  • when he goes away on trips and can’t bring mc along they have very cheesy goodbyes at the airport and when he comes back mc always has a cute sign ready for him
  • they definitely run to each other and there’s a lot of kisses all over mc’s face
  • jihyun, eyelid kisses are cute but please don’t mess up mc’s eye makeup it took them like twenty minutes and he does it anyways
  • museum dates. so many museum dates and they’re always taking dumb pictures at exhibits and they have annual passes
  • jihyuns that photographer who’s always taking pictures of their significant other and posts them on his website like
  • “look at all my photos from this year”
    “that’s all the same person”
    “i know!!! she’s my wife!!”
  • an actual puppy whenever anyone mentions mc and in the most professional way possible but on the inside he’s screaming
  • “oh yes, my wife is quite spectacular company to keep around” is code for “i’m obsessed w my wifey and i wanna be around her all the time”
  • they sit on the floor a lot instead of the couch because he’s always got his head in her lap while she reads
  • mc does the laundry because jihyun turned all mc’s white wardrobe blue once and they’ve never let that go
  • jihyun has this dumb habit of just walking up to mc, squishing their cheeks and then being like, “you look so nice today” and he’s got the weirdest ways of showing affection but it’s very cute
  • he has this weird ability to make the perfect coffee his hipster is showing so it’s usually jihyun on coffee duty while mc makes breakfast
  • jumin always shows up for no reason and nobody questions it. but jihyun has to stop his bad habit of walking around without any pants on because nobody really needs to be seeing jihyun’s gudetama boxers that mc got him
  • jihyun always forgets to buy toilet paper so sometimes there’s a wide roll of paper towels hanging on the hook and everyone goes hysterical upon seeing it
  • everyone in their neighborhood loves them, especially the local bungeoppang seller by their home because they always go there and tip like five dollars every time.
  • they’ve got a bunch of plants growing around the windowsills and jihyun and mc alternate on water duty but sometimes jihyun forgets to water them and he gets a punch to the arm
  • weirdest pda ever in public. all he does to flirt is pinch mc’s cheek and the most normal thing he can do is hold hands but even he misses grabbing for their hand sometimes
  • even after jihyun gets eye surgery he still wears fake glasses to be cool and mc loves how ridiculous he is for it 
  • finds it particularly funny when they whisper something in his ear and his fake glasses fog up
NCT 127 reaction to their S/O accidentally getting hurt by another member

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Anon: can i pls have what nct 127 would do if u accidently got hurt by another member!

Here you go love! I hope you like this! I also just wanna add that I don’t think any of them would be mad or upset if you got hurt and wouldn’t hold it against the member if it did happen. This is purely just made-up for entertainment purposes :-)

Also I am aware that this is crap - please bear with me lmao I haven’t got time to write anything good so I’m posting this random draft lmao  

ALSO LMAO SORRY OKAY I’m sorry about what’s been happening lately jdjebdbkendjejdj let’s just move on lmao❣️❣️❣️


Scenario: You were play fighting with (other member) in the dorms after they had come from practice. Your relationship with (other member) was a very teasing and playful one, so play fights like these were common and basically the norm. However, (other member) was a little too excited after practice, accidentally elbowing you in the nose, causing a stream of blood to start running down your face…


Taeil:

Originally posted by taei

Like Taeyong, he’d feel a little jealous about how relaxed and playful you were Doyoung. Of course, you two had a bff-like relationship but that didn’t stop from him from feeling slightly left out. He wouldn’t want to be around you two whilst you were play fighting, just in case he got a little too annoyed. He wouldn’t be there when Doyoung accidentally hurt you, just walking back in a couple of hours later to find you on the couch, an ice pack to your nose. He’d feel a little smug actually, but also openly irritated at Doyoung. He now had a reason and excuse to use against Doyoung in the future.


Johnny:

Originally posted by nct127

“Jagiya! My baby! Yuta! What have you done, you fool! Hey, don’t touch her. Go to the kitchen. Calm down will you?!” Johnny would definitely take this to heart, more than you. His caring side would suddenly take over, and he’d rush to your side, pressing his sleeve to your nose to suppress the blood flow. He didn’t usually mind if the other members were excitable or if they hurt each other, but if you were involved and got hurt, he’d defiantly be annoyed.


Taeyong:

Originally posted by teeuai

I see Taeyong as being quite insecure and jealous in a relationship ,so I don’t think he’d like the fact you were play fighting and close with Jaehyun in the first place. He’d always make sure he was close by, just in case the younger boy tried something. When he returned from the bathroom to find you with a bloody nose and an apologetic Jaehyun, his fists would clench in anger. “Jaehyun!” He’d bark. “Get away from her, you hear me? Y/N, you shouldn’t hang around him so casually again, okay?” He would forgive Jae though and help you too dw he’s not cruel like that


Yuta:

Originally posted by nctinfo

He’d have mixed feelings on your friendship with Taeyong. On the one hand, he liked how you found a friend in someone he admired as a leader and that you could related to him so easily. But, on the other hand, he felt a tad jealous about how you gushed about him sometimes. Regardless, he’d let you two get on and playfight. He wouldn’t be in the dorms when it happened. Probably writing some music with Mark and Taeil, when he got a text from Taeyong saying that you needed some medication and snacks because he had accidentally hit you. Of course, he would, buying all your favorite snacks and medicine, probably ranting a bit at Taeyong for hitting you too.


Doyoung:

Originally posted by nctinfo

Doyoung would be the opposite of Taeyong and Taeil. He trusted you a lot and he trusted Johnny to know that nothing would happen between the pair of you. He’d be reading or writing in the bedroom, when he heard a light knock n the door from Johnny. “You okay, Johnny?” “Uh, yes… I am…it’s just, Y/N. I may have accidentlyhitherinthenoseandknowshesbleedingalotimreallysorryleasedonthatemeokayplease?” “What?” Dropping his book, he’d walk to you slouched on the sofa, surrounding by the other members, immediately pulling you away and to the kitchen to nurse you awe


Jaehyun:

Originally posted by shutupxiumin

He’d probably laugh seeing you and Mark rolling on the fall, laughing lightly together. To be honest, he’d probably encourage and cheer you on, he’d like seeing you get all feisty and confident, since you were normally quite dainty and quiet around him. When suddenly Mark and you stopped playing, Mark crouched over you in concern, Jaehyun wouldn’t know what had happened, probably still cheering you on. Upon seeing your red and blotched face, he’d rush to the kitchen for an ice pack and towel, to help you clean up.


WinWin:

Originally posted by nct-china-line

WinWin would love your relationship with Haechan. You were like siblings, separated at birth. He watch you two lovingly with the other members, as you two were play fighting. The other members would be cheering you on, betting on who would win. Very quickly, though, you were crying, with a bloody nose and blotchy red face, embarrassed to be seen in such a state. WinWin would pick you up bridal style, bringing you to his bunkbed. He’d have you sit in his lap, as he wiped your face with wipe, stroking your hair in attempt to calm you and reassure you that no one was judging you


Mark:

Originally posted by neotechs

Mark wouldn’t think much of your relationship with Taeil. He wasn’t that interested or disheartened by it, just happy that everyone was getting along with each other. But, when he saw you running to him in the kitchen, blood dripping from your face, he’d get angry, yelling at Taeil for hurting his love, as he held you tightly to his chest. The other members would try to calm him down but it’d just fail, so they left you two be, retreating to the bedrooms. Now alone, he’d apologise to you for getting loud and angry and also immediately regret cursing at the oldest member, suddenly turning very gentle and soft. He’d dab your face softly with wet wipes and make you food to forget the pain.


Haechan:

Originally posted by nakamotens

Haechan wouldn’t know how to help you after he saw how WinWin accidentally elbowed you in the nose. WinWin would be apologising to both of you like crazy, and probably assumed that Haechan was pissed when he didn’t say anything, leaving immediately afterwards. You’d end up looking at yourself by yourself, while Haechan watched you basically learning what to do so he could help you again if need be. Afterwards, he’d take you out though, to see you smile naturally again, taking you out to buy lots of food and drinks.

Each house when: handling their money
  • Gryffindor: Chaotic. Either super rich or on the verge of debt because they don’t realise a lot of little expenses can begin to hit the numbers. Always forgets to check on their account.
  • Hufflepuff: Careful. Makes Excel tabs with their sums, has a box for this month’s receipts, knows exactly who owns how much to them. Will still treat themselves some sweets or a night out if they managed the month like a boss.
  • Ravenclaw: Barely. Hate money and although they understand that they need it and have to be cautious of how they handle it, be in constant check like a Hufflepuff sounds like a bother. Never goes under a certain limit though, they may be the most reasonable. Are always surprised when a friend pays them back (they forgot).
  • Slytherin: Trying. Would save up for months in order to buy something big or start a project or go on a roadtrip but be super late actually buying/doing the thing they want because they’d give in to the temptation of buying a great collection of books or a silky scarf from times to times
Ye Magick Shoppe for 5E

By Dracomortua:

Your players’ ship arrives at the docks at last. They go up to the first stevedore or whombler they see and say: ‘Excuse me there, hard working fellow - but where is the local magic shop?’:

Suddenly this all takes a sharp turn and the DM goes 'Out Of Character’: “What? Magic shop?” You kindly explain that there isn’t such a thing. Says so right there in the DMG, see? It is impossible for one to exist in a 5e D&D world. Period.

Your sassy players do not give up. Someone points out such shops exist here in reality on Earth, despite having no provable magic. There are even different kinds (lots sell incense and religious stuff, some selling bits o’ stone, people may want to stare at your crystal balls and it just goes wild from there). They point out a variant human’s feat can give any commoner a bunch of cantrips and one first level spell. So why doesn’t anyone own anything enchanted?

This guide gives you RaW self-defense. You can have as many magic shops as you like without breaking any rules. The trick is to put items in them that are interesting, fun and even useful despite the fact that almost nothing is an uncommon or rare magic item.

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cynicalmiles  asked:

hey do you have any advice for freshman? i start my freshman year next week and im incredibly nervous about going

Ahhhhh I’ll do my best but I’m also an incoming freshman, lol :3c Excuse the awkward formatting, I’m on mobile.

For me, I cope with my Anxiety by rationalizing to the point that my worries are abated. One way to do this is by over-preparing!!! I like to over-prepare because it helps me feel more in control of my situation. Here are some things to occupy your time with:

Start packing your clothes! My college is close to home, so I’ve been organizing my clothes by the season. That way, when I come home during a break/winter, I can easily switch out my clothes and bring weather appropriate attire. If you’re living far away from home, packing your clothes in advance makes it easier for your family to send it to you via mail!! (Better pray they don’t get lost though lol)

I really, really hope you’ve done your dorm shopping already lol. If you already have the essentials, maybe start thinking about the trinkets! The knickknacks. The crap you bring from home that drips with sentimental value. People always advise freshman to be out of their dorms as much as possible, but as someone who can be easily drained by social situations, it’s important to me that my dorm is a safe space. Also a comfortable one! Which is why I’m bringing lots and lots of pillows. I bought some dog pillows recently, they’re really cute!

I’d also email/text/chat with your roommate if you can! It’s an important thing to do because 1. You need to hash out who’s bringing the rug, and 2. First impressions, even ones online, are important! Also, it’s nice to talk to somebody before you’re even on campus. On that note, if there’s a group chat for your class, I’d try to join it. I’m not too active in mine, but it’s nice to pop in every once in a while. It’s a good way to get people to know your name :) Plus, you can find people who will live in the same dorm as you there! Nice.

If you have your class schedule for the first semester, then you know the names of your professors. If you’re feeling brave, email them and ask them to recommend some outside reading for the class or something like that. If the idea of emailing them makes you shit your pants, avoid talking to them directly and instead sleuth it up online! Google them! Go on ratemyprofessor and read the reviews! Analyze them for weaknesses. Just kidding! But no, seriously, figure them out as a teacher and plan accordingly.

I love school supplies shopping… I love the thrill of micromanaging every single purchase. Also the thrill of preparing for every sort of disaster, and then backup plans for that. Staples is my god. I find organization to be very relaxing! Especially because my executive functioning is shot to shit. Invest in a planner and also some sort of wall calendar that you can hang up so you see any upcoming consequences in real time instead of squirreled away in your book. Trust me, it’ll help. Also buy pens!! Especially sparkly ones. And mechanical pencils. I have a very big budget when it comes to back to school shopping.

BUY A FIRST AID KIT. They’re really fun to make, or you can drop some $$ and buy a pre-made one. Mine is $25 and weighs like ten pounds and has supplies for everything from a paper-cut to someone needing CPR! I love it.

Plan out what clubs you’re going to join! And it may be hard, but try to email the people in charge in advance!! In high school, I constantly missed the join dates for so many cool clubs… to circumvent this, email club presidents and ask for a calendar of all the meeting dates! Or ask them where their booth will be if your school is having a Join-A-Club day. Just make sure to get on the mailing list!!!!!!! Yes. Clubs are 1. A kickass way to spend time, 2. Looks great on a resume, 3. Opens the door to new opportunities like club promotions and other things, and 4. THE EASIEST WAY TO MAKE FRIENDS. For every douche in a club, there are like four overly nice upperclassmen who will gladly take you under their wing and mentor you to the point that it’s kind of overwhelming! So join clubs, but don’t overbalance yourself. College is a time to have fun, but also to learn!! Don’t waste your money on booze.

Hm……… I’m kind of tired so I may be forgetting some words of advice but here is a starter guide!!!!!! Good luck :3c

Sitting in your old dressing gown, isn’t going to make your future any brighter, but it will give you peace for a moment. Watching your favourite crappy TV show may just be the rest you need after the hard days work, find the balance between working and simply enjoying life for what it is. You and I both know dreams don’t come easy, but that does not mean you should not be happy whilst you are searching.
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dreams and dressing gowns by Amy Kennedy

12/02/17

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In my previous post, about summer break, I talked briefly about studying during break for those who wanted to study during the summer. Break is a great for getting extra work done in your spare time.

resources

▸ remember when I talked about saving papers from classes that you think you might need later? go ahead and pull out those papers. (the reason you may need papers from prerequisite classes is because material from most prereq classes is going to be applied in the next class you take, so you got to have the first class down pat first)

▸ in the case that you don’t have important papers from previous classes, or are previewing or learning new material rather than reviewing: don’t worry. there are many resources you can find at your library or at a nearby bookstore as well as  a plethora of resources you can find online for the subject you want to study. here are a few things to look for:

○ a syllabus (look through a couple and choose one that you think gives you a good overview)

○ study guides / reviews / practice tests / prepbooks (you can get these from other students who have previously taken the course, at a library, and online)

○ textbooks (you can find so many online in pdf form oh gosh just use google please you will save so much money instead of buying used books and such)

○ online videos explaining things (ex. khan academy, crash course, etc. because they’re fun to watch, and they teach you a lot too)

▸ if you still have your old notes then use those and if you still have access to any resources (online / offline) that your teacher may have given you, then pull those out.

▸ sort your resources by chapters 

the plan

▸ make a plan. this is crucial if you intend to get any work done during your break. remember that it’s your break so you’ll need to have enough time to relax and do other things that you’d like to do. I plan things out in my bullet journal but you can use any helpful planning method you have (ex. calendar, spreadsheet, planner, etc)

▸ when making your plan, see where you have spare time and fill in those time slots with study sessions. also be sure to decide what subject you will study for and what resources you will go through for each study session (ex. on wednesday I’ll have time in the morning, so I’ll study psychology. I can read three chapters out of yadda textbook and watch the blah video for the next chapter)

▸ if you come across a particularly large chunk of work please spread it out. 

▸ don’t overpressure yourself but then don’t completely let yourself loose either. remember that it is your break, so yes, you should relax and destress but if you have those extra two hours you will otherwise spend doing absolutely nothing, and you know that you planned some reading that day, then use that time. not using it will probably make you feel guilty anyways.

▸ which brings me to my next point: your plan should be real. you know yourself better than anyone which means you know whether you feel comfortable enough sitting through six hours of work during your break or not. so when you plan, think about these things.

now what?

▸ now comes the part where you sit down and get work done like a boss

▸ there are some study tips below to help you out 

study tips

▸ I have a post on random study tips here

▸ set goals. if you have a defined goal in mind for each study session, you will be more likely to focus on achieving it and on getting your work done.

▸ I use an app called ‘tide’ and it’s really nice because it has different white noise sounds you can choose from with a good old timer (except the aesthetic level is a lot higher then the regular timer app heheh). it’s comforting to hear the sound of waves crashing onto the shore while studying in the sweltering months of summer (not sponsored by tide. opinion is entirely my own).

▸ which brings me to my next point: since you aren’t studying in the school year and you have a more flexible schedule as well as more time to go out and stuff, try studying in a new place. studying outside is nice: it’ll let the summer sun give you a lil’ kiss while you’re out (wear sunscreen tho) and you can get some fresh air. try the library: quiet, lil’ study cubbies as my librarian likes to call them, and books everywhere in case you find something helpful or something you want to take home to read. 

▸ but be sure to relax! here is a post on things you can do during the summer.

Good luck! -hana from kiyoko-studies