matromony

Sealing The Sacred Bonds Of Holy Matrimony
Freedmen’s Bureau Marriage Records- National Archives

Scattered among the aging volumes and paper files of the Freedmen’s Bureau at the National Archives in Washington, D.C., are an impressive number of marriage licenses, certificates, registers, and reports documenting the federal government’s efforts to aid in the legalization of marriages of former slave couples.

While there are other valued federal, state, private, and published sources that help document ex-slave marriages, the Freedmen’s Bureau’s marriage records are arguably some of the most important records available for the study of black family marital relations before and after the Civil War. For the increasing number of African American genealogists and family historians, this unique body of marriage records may hold the only formal proof of a slave ancestor’s marriage.

Many cases of polygamy surfaced after the war when freedmen located their spouses. Slaves frequently remarried after their spouses had been sold. Many polygamous relationships arose from attempts of freedmen to care for the two or more wives and families whom they had been reunited after the war

http://www.archives.gov/publications/prologue/2005/spring/freedman-marriage-recs.html

http://www.archives.gov/research/african-americans/freedmens-bureau/

If I had But One Wish

~If I had but one wish

my wish would be of you~

~To kiss your sweet in pouting lips

would be my wish come true~

~To walk with you in holding hands

as lovers often do~

~Barefoot in the Ocean’s sand

would be my wish come true~

~To know the tender of your touch

lying next to you~

~To hear you say three words of love

would be my wish come true~

~To ask in that be of your hand

hear you say I do~

~To know in that I am your man

would be my wish come true~

~In fifty years to celebrate

in that of kissing you~

~Locked in that of full embrace

would be my wish come true~

~My every wish upon of star

is only that of you~

~Marry me in fill my heart

make my wish come true~

Duke Sherman

Bibi Fatima (s.a) as wife (#2)

It is important that a strong understanding exists between the couple so that misunderstandings can not pave their way in between the relationship. It is also important that both, the wife and the husband be kind and considerate towards each other and profoundly be aware of each others nature so that a sense of tranquility and contentment remains and strengthen. 

This is is clearly portrayed in the marital life of Imam Ali (a.s) and Bibi Fatima (s.a). As little as we know about their relationship, it is very clear that both of them understood each other with ultimate perfection. 

Imam Ali (a.s) performed his duties as the head of the house while in his absence his beloved wife, Bibi Fatima (a.s) made sure that nothing remains undone from her side too. Imam Ali (a.s) used to perform various laborious task to earn living for his family. 
He used to farm the fields, and work in gardens to yield to fruit (mostly dates) and if the opportunity of trade came his way he never refrained from making the efforts and working hard to earn for his family. However, at the end of each day he came home with enough to feed his wife and children for a day because he considered that any excess of his earnings belong to the orphans and needy. 
He used to sometimes give away all that he earned from his hard work in way of ALLAH Almighty and return empty handed. 
Bibi Fatima (s.a) perfectly understood his nature and she herself had similar views. She never complained nor demanded and was always pleased with what she had for time and was always Thankful to Allah and affectionate towards Abul Hassan (a.s).

One day Imam Ali (a.s) returned and was feeling hungry. Then only Bibi Sayedda (a.s) explained to him in most humble and polite way that there was no food to eat since last two days and whatever little she had served before Imam Ali (a.s) were the left overs she had saved for him rather than herself because she considered him important than herself.
So, Imam Ali (a.s) asked her, “Why didn’t you tell me that you had nothing to eat?” 
She said, “ O Ali (a.s)! I did not want to bring discomfort to you by asking you for anything because my father (p.b.u.h) had advised me to never agonize you.” 
(that is never trouble her spouse for anything that her better half may put himself in trouble for).
At which Imam Ali (a.s) responded, “ No doubt that the words of Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.w) are true about my better half. He said my wife is the best wife in the entire world.” Imam Ali (a.s) left after saying this so that he can make arrangements to provide food for his family. He however returned in a while empty handed and spoke to his wife, “Fatima! I took a dinar in loan from someone so that I can buy food for you. When I went to the market I met Miqdad (r.a) who was very worried. When I asked him the matter he explained that his family has been starving and for them there has been nothing to eat. So, I could not bear his grief and gave that one dinar to Miqdad (r.a).”
Hearing this Bibi (s.a) smiled and said, “Indeed there is nothing better than suppressing one’s own needs and desires for the sake of Allah to help his creation and seek Allah’s pleasure.”