Hey guys, my friend really needs your help. Her Dad just recently came out as transgender and is struggling to make ends meet so he can safely transition. They need $300 by tomorrow or else its back on the waiting list, and after living his life physically as a girl for 40 odd years he really wants to finally be able to transition and be happy. 

A note from Flyn:

“My beautiful father has recently came out as transgender. He desperately wants his body to match how his felt his whole life.
He needs a mastectomy and hysterectomy. All donations are appreciated no matter the size.
We have struggled for a long time and he has been through everything to take care of me and my brother.
He is a beautiful person who deserves the world, however all he asks is for no more boobies!
Love and kisses Flyn (16yo daughter”

If you could help, AT ALL, even if its only a dollar, they’d be forever thankful

Thank You

“It is reassuring that they see nothing that makes them uncomfortable. They can see my small scars and that’s it. Everything else is just Mommy, the same as she always was. And they know that I love them and will do anything to be with them as long as I can. On a personal note, I do not feel any less of a woman. I feel empowered that I made a strong choice that in no way diminishes my femininity.” - Angelina Jolie

Hello! My name is Ari, if you didn’t know that already, and I made a Gofundme for my top surgery. I decided that I would start early with this because I’m hoping that having some money set aside for it would bring me some peace of mind while I’m trying to cope with dysphoria. If you can donate anything at all I would be eternally grateful.

How I got insurance to pay for top surgery

I live in a state that does not have laws requiring insurance companies to pay for transgender health needs. So how did I get my insurance company to pay for my top surgery?

Long story short, I got pretty lucky and kind of cheated the system a bit, but for anyone out there that might be in a similar situation as me:

I was eligible for a breast reduction because of my size. I was a 30E, but anyone who has large breasts and have experienced shoulder/back pain or any other problems stemming from your boobs might be eligible!

There was a MINIMUM amount that needed to be taken off for insurance to cover the procedure. BUT THERE WAS NO MAXIMUM. So, I was lucky enough to have a really cool surgeon and I explained my situation to him. I told him that I didn’t want ANY boobs because I didn’t even identify as a woman in the first place. I told him that I would like a man’s chest and showed him some pictures and he felt comfortable that he could give it to me.

So I ended up getting a double mastectomy COVERED COMPLETELY BY INSURANCE. Even though they really just think that I got a breast reduction because of my back pain.

Feel free to share so that anyone in a similar situation knows that this is an option! Let me know if you have any questions :)

anonymous asked:

As you're a detransitioned radfem, I was wondering if you could maybe give me ideas for what to do about my chest? As I don't like my chest at all, mostly because it marks me as obviously female and its like they're a calling card for me to be treated like shit because of it. I recognize it stems from social problems, but in the meantime idk what to do??? As I dont want to transition and mess my life up more.

I wish I could offer immediate relief, I wish I could hand you simple advice on managing dysphoria. Wearing sports bras rather than the “regular” bras that tend to be marketed to women may help. They aren’t so traditionally feminine and they also work to downplay your breasts (without engaging in the dangerous practice of binding- which I would argue is not only dangerous physically, but can also be mentally harmful.) 

I know quite a few women who have embraced weight training/chest exercises. One cannot really lose fat in a targeted area, especially not breast tissue, but you can tone your chest, and really, more than anything, perhaps that kind of work-out would help to develop a relationship with that part of yourself that isn’t disassociative and adversarial. 

Which brings me to the final, messy, difficult point: Your chest is you, it’s not stuck on you or some alien thing you need to deal with. I know that seems insane and probably impossible to process, but it’s the truth. And I know that women with particularly large breasts have to deal with a particular type of harassment, but as I’m sure you know, a flat chest wont save you from harassment. If we’re talking solely about social issues and harassment, then this could be a discussion solely about breast reduction (which I’m not necessarily advocating, but which is a very different discussion!) instead of a discussion of “transition” and, presumably, mastectomy. But I don’t think we’re really talking about that so much as about your own relationship with your body. That’s the core issue, that’s the messy difficult issue, and that’s the thing to work toward reconciling. I myself never went so far as to have a mastectomy in an attempt to deal with dysphoria, but it is the position of this blog that transition, including mastectomy, will not save you from the condition of being female in the world, and in the long run it will not truly reconcile your relationship with yourself- because your body is your very own self. That’s something I am still learning myself, something that’s intensely personal, and something I can’t simply give to you right here, today. I wish I could. But here are some books that friends have suggested to me-

The Body Keeps the Score
Getting Clear: Body Work for Women
Trauma and Recovery

I’ll be thinking of you, anon!