The other day my husband and I were having an argument, and in the heat of it all, he asked why I married him. He was really angry, and whatever I was saying or communicating what making him not feel good enough. Isnt that why he would ask?
I have so many reasons why I fell in love with him and why I decided to marry him. First of all, he has the biggest and sweetest heart of any man I know. I fell in love with him for this reason. Many men that I have met in my life seem to have their hearts closed off. I am not sure if it is due to masculinity issues, the ego or fear of being hurt. My husband was a tough nut to crack actually. He was very stoic in the beginning, and I even remember asking him if he was every going to be “mushy” with me…. I could see the glimmer of a man with a big heart, but he was someone who couldn’t quite communicate or express it at that time.
Through getting to know him, I came to know all the difficulties and struggles he had in life that he was able to overcome. I also came to realize the struggles and challenges that he still faced. His life conflicts molded him into the man he is today. A wiser man than he was yesterday, or the day before, and the day before…
I fell in love with him when I learned that he loved listening to reggae. Reggae music has been my love since I was a little girl. When the reggae vibe is in the air, my heart chakhra opens up and I feel A-okay. I realized that Todd felt the exact same way. It was like we both had an inner rasta and our inner rastas connected and fell in love.
My husband is super nurturing. Although he can come across as bossy and somewhat neurotic about our diets, he cares very much about what I eat and that I am eating healthy foods that are organic, and nothing but the best. He makes me smoothies in the morning, and great cafe lattes. I feel cared for by this man of mine.
My husband has had many careers: landscaper, plumber, massage therapist. I like that he has dabbled in a few professions here and there. He has a green thumb and its always great to have a handy man in the house. Its something that I find very attractive and masculine.
Given that he is a Registered Massage Therapist, he has a vibe about him that is very relaxing to me. Almost too relaxing at times… I have a busy profession, so I feel that he is good for me because he slows me down and really gets me into the present moment.
My husband is so supportive of my career, my desires in life (spending $5,000 on Yoga Teacher Training), where I spend money (like clothes and shoes), family time with my mom and sister, and working out and my meditation practice.
He loves his mother with all his heart and has the greatest respect and appreciation for her. Unfortunately his mother is in the process of leaving this world, and transitioning into the next stage of this existence of ours. His mom is for the most part completely immobile and unable to communicate. When he goes to visit her, he takes her to the park, takes her out for coffee and cake, and even takes her to the spa for manicures and pedicures.
Family is number one for him, and it is also for me too. We have similar core values.
He is very deep, and spiritual too. Although we have different philosophical beliefs on religion and spirituality, we can understand each other.
My husband is a wellness and healthy nut! He knows just about everything about any kind of non-traditional healing modality like homeopathics, acupuncture, chiropractic, naturopathy,etc. I feel like he has tried just about every supplement, homeopathic medicine and vitamin gauging my our kitchen cabinets. He knows how to take good care of himself, and me too!
I have seen him rock a baby to sleep. Although when we first met, he was very open about the fact that he didnt want kids (because of a very hard experience he went through), he is wonderful with children and even his own son. One day, one of the babies in our family was crying, and he picked her up, took her outside because we were in a restaurant, and rocked her to sleep. Like I mentioned, he has a very soothing nature about him. Babies can feel it too.
Oh yes, he is also a wonderful friend. He has many relationships with women. I think guys should all have good girl friends too! He is also not jealous of me with other men. I have had jealous boyfriends in the past, and it can be very annoying. My husband fully supports me with having good male friends, and this shows me that he is very secure about himself.
My husband has a lot of gay friends and clients. It surprises me how many men are out there that do not feel comfortable around gay people, or having gay friends. I really like this quality about my husband because I feel that he is really secure about his sexuality, and that he can be friends with everyone.
My husband is friendly to everyone. He talks to all the homeless people in our neighbourhood, and often gives them money and food.
He is always willing to lend a helping hand. Once he took a full day out of his weekend while we were up at a friends cabin over the long weekend to help fix an ATV that a friend broke accidentally. It saved our friend a lot of money. He was so selfless to give his time and energy when he really didnt have to.
He is always trying to save food for the birds. Whenever we have old breads, he leaves it out to dry with the intention of feeding the birds at the park. I dont know another man that does this.
I can go on and on with a list of the reasons I married him.
My husband and I have our arguments, spats, disagreements… sometimes we yell at each other, sometimes we raise our voices, sometime we tell each other to shut up. Sometimes we just drive each other absolutely crazy. I know that sounds awful, but its the God honest truth.
I love my husband with all my heart, and I have been in love with him since the first day we met. It was love at first sight. I fell in love with him so quickly too. He is my best friend, and I feel so blessed every day, and every moment to have him in my life as my husband, my love, my true friend.