It makes me LOL when you call other people dude bro. you're so over compensatingly masc but trying to be femme. You only date people who are masc and only uplift femmes to look good online. You work in a gym and you are such a douche from every part of your persona. Dude bro scumbag to the t. Dude bro.
I tried to explain that I wanted to go on pre-t hormones to my mom and it didn't go well, how do I explain her that I want to present more masculine so people stop saying(or thinking) I'm fucking cis and also bc I would love a more masculine look.
Hmm!!!!! Give her a few ted talks like the one from Norman Spack, he’s my go to guy to explain how hormones and treatments can really help people be who they are!!!!!! Good luck, I know it’s hard but you deserve to feel right with yourself and with how others look at you!! Not everyone will always think what you want them too, but I know you can get through this obstacle!!!
I'm curious.. why are signs like capricorn and scorpio seen as feminine signs when overall they come off as highly masculine? & Sagittarius and Libra and Aquarius all come off as feminine. Like I know it's separated by element but it doesn't make any sense. idk I just don't see it at all, I've never thought of elements as fem/masc, only particular signs and what their main traits are. I'd see air more feminine than earth honestly
Scorpio and Capricorn are receptive to the environment around them. That is what makes them feminine in nature. Take a look at them through the perspective of ascendants to clear up the perspective. Capricorn and Scorpio Ascendants are wallflowers and won’t reach out and engage socially. Sagittarius, Libra and Aquarius are Masculine Extroverted signs that like to go out into the world to be apart of it. This is just the nature of the signs; no if’s and’s or butts. It’s been this way for thousands of years and it will continue to be for a million more.
Is it bad to have a preference if you're pan? People (irl) keep saying that its bad for me to have a preference for male/masc-aliagned but the only reason i have this preference is because i have been bullied/manipulated by several female/fem-aliagned people and they keep saying that's a bad reason to have a preference and it's making me feel really bad :'( (am i a bad person for having this preference?)
absolutely not!!! oh my god, you are nowhere near a bad person for identifying as pan and having preferences!!!! no matter the reason for the preference, it is valid!!! you are still a valid pan!!!! I’m sorry about what you’ve gone through, and that people try to invalidate you and make you feel bad for having preferences. pan people can have preferences and types just like anyone else can. being attracted to all gender identities does not mean that we are attracted to every single person of every gender identity or that we are attracted to each gender identity equally or in the same way. a pan person can be attracted to all gender identities, but experience attraction for one specific gender identity more than others. it doesn’t have to be, and most likely will not be, split evenly. just like how pan people don’t have to date and/or sleep with someone of every gender identity to be pan, pan people don’t have to be attracted to every gender identity equally or in the same way to be pan. you are a valid pan and you are not bad person for having a preference.
Hot doctor in LA named Eric. Only into “masc, straight acting, chill dudes,” but loves to have slim, effeminate twink Asians over at his place for fun. Lives in Arcadia, California. He’s an “exclusive” top but LOVES sucking uncut cock. “Total” top but whip out an uncut dick and he’ll drop to his knees faster than you can blink.
So I'm a white masc. trans male. Would you be against helping me out with my transition or do you only seek to help minorities in the trans community? Iv noticed you're against other companies that mainly help masc. trans men so I was curious your stance on this.
I haven’t ever said at any point that I would be against helping white trans men. In fact, I’ve aided many in the last couple of years. I’ve sent out countless binders and clothing packages, raised nearly $2k for someone with my team, and have helped comfort, share information, etc w other people. In general, I’ve done a lot in the form of reaching out to the community as a whole.
I’m not against companies that mainly help trans masc people. I’m against companies that advertise themselves as being for the whole community when their spaces aren’t safe for trans feminine people or POC.
I’ll even break it down. Here’s a short list off the top of my head of things that make so called “inclusive” companies/spaces unsafe:
-language tailored solely towards masc people(guys, dudes, bros, brothers, etc)
-services tailored solely towards masc people(only doing top surgery or binder fundraisers)
-lack of intersectional commentary/dialogue(not recognizing trans masc privilege, passing privilege, white privilege, class privilege, able bodied privilege, access to resources, etc)
-products made solely for masc people(only having the usual “unisex”(usually men’s) shirts available, not using language inclusive of nonbinary identities)
-failure to have representation of POC, trans fem ppl, ppl w disabilities(only having white trans guy after white trans guy on your feed and only choosing popular white trans people to promo for you)
-culturally appropriative products/models(white models with “dreads”(mats), taking cultural items that aren’t yours and using them for gain of profit or for profit that doesn’t benefit that culture directly, etc)
-appropriating AAVE(being non black and using: fam, my guy, lit, gang, crew, bitter/salty/thirsty, and other terms popularized by the black community)
Not the shortest list but a good start.
I don’t /only/ seek to help minorities within the community. But, as you have also recognized, most companies do not give a shit about POC or trans fem people. Not to mention how that intersects with ableism, classism, misogyny, patriarchy, sexism, etc.
My goal is to create spaces and aid organizations that are safe for the entirety of the community. My goal is to ensure that those who see companies that don’t give a shit about them, that actively prove day in and day out that they don’t care about POC or trans feminine people, know that there’s at least someone who sees it and cares that it’s happening.
My goal is to be an ally and to be a leader. And sometimes being a leader means doing uncomfortable things–like the countless conversations I have had with white trans men to tell them why what they are doing is harmful. Or like all the personal growth I have had to do and still have to do to be a better ally. Or being thoughtful and understanding when I’m called out and working at being better.
My question to you then, is how do you see all of these companies solely catering to white masc people and you don’t care? Doesn’t that seem unfair? You feel like I won’t help you because I create dialogue on intersectionality, but how do more marginalized members of the community feel when they have zero representation, zero help, and all of these people keep trying to pretend they are aiding them? Have you ever thought critically about that?
ok I get that some of what Amy schumer says is problematic but she's a fucking comedian yo and also what is it with Tumblr society only attacking female comedians. Like nobody ever wants to tear down masc comedians, only the females, its weak as heck.
ways to tell if someone is racist crash course:
1) using the word “problematic” in place of racist to try to dilute what the person has done
2) asking about other racist people without first conceding that original person of interest is racist and has don’t racist things
3) not actually caring if other ppl r racist cuz when someone does bring it up u try to say they r just problematic like why would anyone ever try to talk to u then
4) saying “weak as heck”
I had a question- I define as FtM & sometimes I feel more fem & other days I feel more masc but every day I feel like a boy & I like being called male. Some days I like wearing skirts & dresses & makeup & I'm OKAY with she/them pronouns just because I know I don't look male so it doesn't bother me as much when people misgender me when I look fem. On other days I dress & want to be seen as very masc & I ONLY like he/him pronouns. Am I a transboy, a genderfluid demiboy, or something else? Pls help
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i'm also questioning, not sure if bi or lesbian. i've been questioning for years. you mentioned how labels aren't that important, but.. i just want to say that there is a lot of anxiety in the confusion of not knowing which label is accurate. it's hard to interact with your community if you don't know where your place is. unless it's inclusive to all wlw, i don't know what words i'm allowed to use, what topics i'm allowed to weigh in on, what events i can participate in. i feel so isolated.
There’s nothing wrong with labeling yourself as questioning, with announcing to lesbian and bisexual women that you’re still figuring it out- because we’ve all been there. There are plenty of events that lesbian, bisexual, and questioning women all participate in just as LBQ women- you always have a place within our community, simply because you love women.
As for language, butch/femme aren’t the only masc/fem titles in the community of LBQ women- I hear they have stag/doe and tomcat (which are cuter imo, mostly because they remind me of cute animals). It’s not like if you “end up” being bisexual lesbians will suddenly shun you and banish you to live out the rest of your life with bland hetties- there’s a rich bisexual culture that is also intertwined with lesbian culture and history.
It’s also not as if lesbians will shun you for being bisexual, especially if you have a strong preference for women.
Remember, you always have a place within lesbian+bisexual+questioning community and culture, regardless of whether you’re lesbian, bisexual, or decide to leave it at “questioning”. We all support you regardless.