masc fem

man honestly? shoutout to trans guys who dont fit either archetype, gruff’n’ruff or flower prince. shoutout to trans guys who float between them. shoutout to trans guys who wear a mix of masc/fem clothes, and have both masculine and feminine behaviors. trans guys who lift and do sports and wear cargo shorts and drink beer but who also wear crop tops and listen to gaga and are gay. s/o to more androgynous trans guys

beautiful french words ✿
  • ange – angel (masc.)
  • baleine – whale (fem.)
  • bisou – kiss (masc.)
  • brindille – twig (fem.)
  • brûler – to burn
  • brume – mist (fem.)
  • câlin – hug (masc.)
  • chaleur – heat (fem.)
  • chatoyer – to shimmer
  • chaussettes – socks (fem.)
  • chouchou – my little cabbage, said as a term of endearment (masc.)
  • citronnade – lemonade (fem.)
  • citrouille – pumpkin (fem.)
  • coquillage – seashell (masc.)
  • croquis – sketch (masc.)
  • dépaysement – the feeling of being in another country, the weird feeling you get from things being different from what you’re used to.  (masc.)
  • doux – soft
  • écarlate – scarlet
  • éclatant – brilliant, dazzling, gleaming
  • effleurer – to touch or brush against
  • empêchement – something that keeps you from doing something (masc.)
  • épanoui – blooming, joyful, radiant
  • éphémère – ephemeral
  • étoile – star (fem.)
  • feuilles – leaves (fem.)
  • flâner – to stroll aimlessly
  • floraison – bloom (fem.)
  • grelotter – to shiver
  • hirondelle – swallow (bird) (fem.)
  • libellule – dragonfly (fem.)
  • loufoque – wild, crazy, far-fetched
  • luciole – firefly (fem.)
  • myrtille – blueberry (fem.)
  • noix de coco – coconut (fem.)
  • nuage – cloud (masc.)
  • orage – thunderstorm (masc.)
  • pamplemousse – grapefruit (masc.)
  • papillon – butterfly (masc.)
  • parapluie – umbrella (fem.)
  • pastèque – watermelon (fem.)
  • piscine – swimming pool (fem.)
  • plaisir – pleasure (masc.)
  • pleuvoir – to rain
  • plonger – to dive
  • retrouvailles – the feelings of seeing someone again after a long time (fem.)
  • sirène – mermaid (fem.)
  • soleil – sun (masc.)
  • sortable – someone you can take anywhere without being embarrassed
  • tournesol – sunflower (masc.)

anonymous asked:

So it's not only that ks has a beautiful thighs and butt. He also cute without even trying, he likes to be pampered, and also he is clingy. Yet people complain when fic writers write ks this way. They want the "manly and buff daddy u.u" ks. Which is probably something ks isn't.

LOLz that’s why i’ve been calling them hypocrites. these people are too obsessed with ks masculinity to the point they would use arguments that contain bottom shaming or basically putting feminine boys in bad light. it’s ughlee and really detestable.

imo, ks has certain traits that can be considered to be ~traditionally feminine~ (mm bet some of y’all are triggered right after your brain decipher ks + ‘feminine’ being associated together, better read it ‘til the end) such as;  

- he likes/is good at cooking* (remember when he cooked for the entire filming staffs in 2015? remember how he cooked in vlive?),

- good at cleaning* (ji said in radio interview ks folded his shirts before and jd admitted ks nags a lot about hygiene/cleanliness in their dorm),

*cooking and cleaning are basic requirements to stay alive tbh, don’t get why these stuffs are considered ~feminine~ but i include them here to match the current society standard™

- many people have said he’s caring, as in “mother-like” (remember he used to be referred as the “mom” of the group during 2012~2013? even ji called ks “mama” before. funny that thing suddenly stopped after some rumors surfaced… also, remember that japanese dance group talked about meeting exo backstage and how caring ks is cuz ks basically handed them lunch boxes?),

Q: “how does ji call you (ks)?”

A: “ks-hyung” and “mama*”

i know mama in kr means “your highness” but during this period ks was often being called as the “mom of the group (e x o - k)”, so it makes more sense to interpret mama as mother. 

- he does pilates which is an exercise that’s popular among women instead of men, because it tones your lower limbs (such as thighs and buttocks) and increases your flexibility. plus it’s kinda similar to yoga and we know yoga is also popular among women. 

some might argue that he does this for comeback (like bbh has said in their vlive, but then again, if so, why others aren’t doing it?) or for his upcoming movie (the movie is gonna be filmed in sept.. it’s too early to prepare. ks started training for hyung when the filming began.) imo he’s doing this for personal reason.

- he once helped around at his mom’s salon (he even said he had thought of becoming a stylist. there’s pic of him styling osh hair) which means he has some skills/knowledge about stuffs like this. he often carries that vaseline lipbalm as well. anyway, this one isn’t necessarily traditionally feminine trait/character imo, but ppl who deal/care about things like this are mostly women (it’s just like the pilates thingy).

- like you’ve mentioned; he likes to be pampered (his boyfriend ji said it himself that ks is “駄々っ子” (read: dadakko) which literally means “spoiled child” or “pampered child” and if it’s translated to korean it has similar meaning to aegyo–as in someone who behaves cutely like a child), contrasting the ~traditional masculine~ trait where men are expected to pamper their partner.

- and he’s clingy (which he had admitted by himself during pure love interview and even ji kinda confirmed this one by saying ks is similar to koala bc ks clings on ji)

all of these traits do not make ks less than a man. im really tired of these people (particularly his stans–and this is coming from a ks biased person. although there are some of ji stans who are like this too because “ji is the cute one!! uwu”, not saying ji isn’t cute ofc, he can be adorable as well just like ks.. still, it’s not a valid reason to argue/get mad about ks being portrayed as a soft & smol boy™ bc it has no correlation. you know what’s funny? ks has never called ji cute. it’s always ji who calls/compliments him with that word. ks has called/complimented ji as “cool”, “handsome”, “sexy”, “has the best body”, “most mature member” but never cute. anyways.)

it’s really aggravating seeing them bitching about ks being portrayed in the ways that have been mentioned above because it ~effeminate~ him!! uwu, even though those things are still part of him. it makes me questioning them tbh; are they ashamed that their fave has those particular traits?

also, his body description. i rmmber back then in 2015~2016 some people were legit triggered if you say ks is smol or tiny or short or has narrow shoulders. this makes no sense whatsoever…. bc that’s just basically how his body is. why people are getting mad over this shit? jesus christ. 

i still remember people argued over his and ji’s hand sizes. it’s obvious ks’ hand is slightly smaller (pics)…. honestly, why ppl even fought over this dumbshit. god. 

if we compare him with those tall members ks is smaller/shorter (and he’s def shorter than the official height SM published + he often wears shoes with thick soles that prob elevate his height to become 5~7 cm taller), and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

there’s nothing wrong with a guy being small or undersize (he even admitted this by himself during ‘hyung’ interview; “im undersized so i had to exercise to fit the role, although now the muscles are gone”). and there’s nothing wrong for a guy liking/doing stuffs that are considered to be ~traditionally feminine~.  

if you find such thing to be offensive, it’s your problem. if you dislike there’s a possibility for your faves to not be able to fulfill your macho/masc/hetero bs standard, you’re the problematic one. 

honestly, this topic reminds me of the phrase; “masculinity is such a fragile concept”. i thought it’s only str8 men who get triggered when their masculinity is endangered but turns out some girlies have this sorta mindset too. sad. 

it’s kinda ironic cuz ks once wore that shirt with “gender equality” written on the front area (which i assume he supports the idea behind the mssg) yet some of his stans love to spew out words that are basically bottomshaming and/or degrading fem! boy. they also seem to be so overly crazy (and highly aggressive) with the idea of ks being masculine/dom. it’s a bit…..yikes. no wonder ks only shows his aegyo/soft side to his closest ones lulz.

anyways, y’all who think “men being associated with femininity (such as being complimented as pretty/beautiful/soft/curvy) = insult” are just plain bizarre to me….and unlikable. if you’re one of those people, please stay away from me and my blog. just pretend that im dead or something. block me.

p.s: im not proud that i remember all of those stuffs (the interviews etc)… they just… sorta…. stuck in my head.  also, wow this is a long answer. somehow i feel like im gonna regret answering this cuz the topic seems to be sensitive… oh well. 

p.p.s: dks is a beautiful, adorable, smol and clingy soft boy who loves to be pampered/spoiled by his boyfie (kji) and there’s nothing your crusty ass can do to change it. literally not-a-thing. not even sending h8 anons to my inbox can change it. 

if your feelings are scratched by my words, please contact my lawyer here;
1-800-go-cry-me-a-river

Here’s the thing.

I am a transgender man (see photo of my mug for context).

I love all trans people and I love non binary people. But lately some of my trans spaces (both on the web and irl) that are mainly non binary have started to feel a little hostile.

I want to make something perfectly clear before I continue - I love and respect non binary people, I think their genders are valid and I am in no way suggesting they are any less important that myself or any other binary trans person. I also need you to understand that this isn’t meant to be a post calling out non binary people at all, it is just me talking about my personal experiences in the hope that it can get people to be a little more considerate sometimes?

In university spaces, it seems that there is a growing population of non binary people that tends to dominate trans groups. Which is good in lots of ways, especially since it shows how this generation has become much more relaxed and aware that gender is a construct and fluidity is key. However, amongst people I know there is a lot of ‘ew gross men’, or 'ew gross trans men that are masculine’, while at the same time being predominantly DFAB populations.

Now trust me, I very much understand the dislike a lot of dfab trans people have of men. A lot of us are survivors and I think that does play a big part in how we feel about the gender overall. Not to mention it is not uncommon for men to be, for lack of a better word- wankers. However, I don’t think people consider trans men when we are talking about this.

Making a comment like 'ew men are so fucking gross’ to a room of trans people means that to a trans man you are saying one of two things - 1) you are gross, or 2) you aren’t gross because you’re not a Real Man, and you are excluded from this statement because you are and always will be, partly a woman. Even now I feel uncomfortable 'complaining’ about this. I have to remind myself that just as suggesting that a trans woman is somehow different to other women would be considered incredibly offensive, so is it for trans men.

I didn’t realise how much this stuff affected me until it did. Constantly being around people that talk about, how body hair on men is gross, masculinity is by default toxic, making jokes about my masculinity being toxic when I excitedly tell people that I’ve started going to the gym and its making me feel better about my body. No, it’s not funny. It’s MY dysphoria I’m trying to ease. I as a trans person want to feel supported and loved when I do things that have a chance of making me feel good about my body.

It hit me like a brick wall when I realised how much it had affected me. I was with my partner, and was trying to have sex, but I just broke down. I felt so incredibly disgusted with my body and myself. So much hair, so masculine. The noises I made, gross. The way I touched him, creepy. I couldn’t get out of my head the idea that later in life he would talk to people about how gross and unshaven I was, just like I had heard friends describe ex boyfriends so many times before.

I felt cheated because these were the changes I WANTED my body to make. But now they felt ruined. Spoiled.
It was after that realisation that I decided I had to get out. I stopped going to some of student socials and instead started attending a group for older trans people. It was so refreshing to meet other trans men for once (just because I rarely meet them at uni, and it was nice to talk to someone similar.) It was awesome to be around people who weren’t shitty about trans people being stealth (as I remember I once was.)

There are some important things to take away from all of this:

1) Telling trans boys and men that they are disgusting for wanting to be like men will only destroy self esteem and feed into the toxic environment that a lot of cis boys grow up in.

2) Non binary people are extremely valid and awesome, but also must accept they have a responsibility to cultivate a supportive and friendly atmosphere in spaces where they are dominant (I put this in here for university spaces especially)

3) Laughing at a trans man/woman for being excessively masc/fem presenting if you are a dfab nb person who mainly presents as fem or androgynous is facetious and not respecting that they may have to present that way to stay safe, (especially in the case of trans women that may be more 'obviously trans’) and that despite suffering prejudice in many ways, the one thing you are not realistically facing is street violence and such because you inevitably are not going to be clocked as trans. (which yes, does NOT make your transness invalid but we have to respect the different struggles people in our community face.)

4) Someone being stealth does not mean they are adhering to 'toxic gender roles’. It means they are either 1) trying to be safe or 2) surprise surprise they want to live their life as the gender they identify with. Trans people are not less legitimately trans because you think they are 'acting cis’.

5) Being a binary trans person does not give you privilege over nb people. Like seriously, trans women are literally the most likely to be murdered. Don’t be a dick. Erasure is a problem yes but it’s not the same. I read names out at the TDOR vigil and pretty much all of them were trans women of colour. Respect that. Help the community. This isn’t about scoring points over who has it the shittiest.

6) The idea that the only good kinda of trans men are 'soft sensitive kinda trans masc guys that don’t have surgeries and shave all their body hair’ is shitty and offensive (tho that kind of trans man is totally valid, that not what i mean). Its shitty because one you’re sexualising them either as more childlike or more feminine (both is rude, former is creepy), but its perpetuating the idea that trans men aren’t really men and the best ones are the ones that YOU think still kinda look suitably enough like women.

i was cute today✨

Je T’aime

Peter Parker x Reader

Summary: You have a huge crush on Peter. You know he doesn’t know French as well as Spanish, so you randomly flirt with him in French. Until Peter catches on.

I try to keep these as gender neutral, I’m sorry. French is very specific with masc. and fem. words, I tried.

(This is my first one, it’s short and sucks, sorry. Btw I am taking French, and I’m terrible at it so I used Google Translate. If you notice something totally off and want me to fix it, please let me know.)


     You grabbed your backup, pushing past students towards the cafeteria. Please, walk slower, it’s not like people have places to go, you thought angrily. You pushed open the lunch doors, looking around for your friends. You made eye contact with Peter from across the room, quickly smiling and waving at him. Peter smiled back and waved you over. Butterflies filled your stomach, making your face feel warm. Why is he so amazing? 

      “Hey Y/N!” Ned cheered when you sat down.

      You smiled at Ned, “What’s up guys? Anything new?”

       “Well, we have a math test next period. I hope you studied,” Peter answered.

     “Of course I did, beau garçon.” You winked in his direction, causing his face to turn a soft shade of pink. Handsome boy

    MJ snorted next to you, not even looking up from her book.

    “You know, I may not understand French, but one day I’m going to find out what you’re saying.” Peter promised.

     You shrugged, laughing. You highly doubt Peter would spend five minutes looking up the words you’ve said. Especially when he spends all of his time at that Stark Internship.  

    The bell rang, signaling the end of lunch. You packed your stuff up, before turning towards the boys, “Au revoir Ned. Au revoir, ma lune.” Goodbye Ned. Goodbye, my moon.

    Peter furrowed his eyebrows, watching you walk away with MJ. “Do you know what she said? Isn’t Spanish similar to French?” It drove him nuts not understanding what you’re saying. Sometimes he think you’re flirting with him, but he doesn’t want his hopes to get too high.

    Ned shrugged, “Doesn’t May know some French? Ask her.”

    Peter faltered his walking for a second, May knows how much he likes you, but does he really want her to be involve with it? “Yeah, okay I’ll ask when I get home.”


     The next day, you walked with MJ towards the steps of the school, talking about your science project due next class.

     “Whatever, I had it done for two weeks. But the real question is, when are you going to tell Peter you like him?” MJ casually slipped out.

     “I already did, like everyday. Not my fault he doesn’t understand me.”

     “You know he’s smart, but he’s oblivious. You call him handsome, love, moon, and you told him you loved him in French! He’s also taking Spanish, I don’t understand how he doesn’t get it.”

    “Wait, you know French? Since when? You’re not in my class.”

    “Maybe I am, you just don’t see me,” she blankly stared ahead, walking faster. 

     Shaking your head in confusion, you followed her to the doors, walking after her. Spotting Ned and Peter at their lockers, you both walked up to them. When you got closer, they glanced towards you, their conversation quickly stopping.

     MJ rolled her eyes, “No please continue your nerdy conversation. We totally care about what you have to say.”

     You elbowed MJ lightly, “Tais-toi.” Shut up. You turned towards Peter and Ned, “Salut les gars. J'aime ta chemise, Ned. Peter, tu es très beau comme toujours.” Hi guys. I love your shirt, Ned. Peter, you are handsome as always.

    Ned smiled brightly, glancing down at his shirt. While, Peter’s face turned red, he tried to cough to cover up his anxiety. Confused, you panicked for a second. They usually didn’t react, or paid attention to what you say in French.

   MJ seemed to get it, though, “Ned, they’re selling ice cream for free at the stand. Let’s go.”

   Ned looked at her, “They don’t sell ice cream here.”

   “Woah, it’s a miracle. Let’s go.” Dragging Ned away, MJ glared at you like a warning glance.

    You turned back to Peter confused, “Um, what was that?”

    He was  nervously playing with his fingers, blushing a deep red. He glanced up at you, down at his hands, and back up, holding eye contact. “I was curious about the things you’ve been saying to me. So, I asked- I asked May about some of the words you told me.”

    He didn’t actually asked May, she barely remembers how to say hello in French. He asked Pepper while he facetime Tony, Pepper being more than happy to help him out. Tony wouldn’t stop teasing him over his crush, but it’s one hundred percent worth it if you felt the same.

    Your heart loudly pumped in your chest, he knows I’ve been flirting with him, it’s all over.

     “You love saying how handsome I am,” Peter smiled widely at you. You groaned, burying your face in your hands. You were doing so well, why did he have to find out?

    “I’m sorry, I didn’t think you’d actually look it up. I’ll stop, I was just trying to practice French,” you mumbled, making up some excuse. 

    “No, please continue. I actually learned something in French, ‘Tu es belle, et j'adorerais être ton petit ami’.” You are beautiful, and I would love to be your boyfriend. That’s what Pepper told me to say, right?

     You stared at him for a second in shock, before laughing. His accent clashed with the french language, but you understood what he was saying. 

   “Je serai ton/ta petit(e) ami(e),” you couldn’t stop smiling, taking a step towards him. I would love to be your boyfriend/girlfriend.

    “I’m assuming you said yes in French,” Peter mumbled, leaning towards you, tilting his head slightly. His eyes wide, feeling excited and nervous at the same time.

    “Oui,” you whispered, meeting him half way, pressing your lips against his. YesMaybe I’ll speak more French to him.

vimeo

M or F is a documentary that promotes the visibility of trans men and women, as well as those outside the gender binary. The terms “gender” and “sex” are pulled into question, as they are redefined through the words of the individuals within this community. This piece addresses barriers put into place by this narrow understanding of gender, and sends a message of support to those struggling to overcome them.

you’re still trans if*:

♥️you’re pre op

❤️you don’t want op

⭐️you’re pre testosterone treatment

🌟you don’t want testosterone treatment

🌸you’re pre estrogen treatment

🌺you don’t want estrogen treatment

❄️you’re in the closet

💦you’ve come out but nobody believes/accepts you

☘️you’re a trans woman but present masc

🍀you’re a trans man but present fem

🌿you’re nb and present either masc or fem

*applies to any and all people who are trans/nb no matter pronouns, age, presentation, closet status, hormone status, ANYTHING. If you’re trans you’re trans period.

Femcat, Jackhound and Neufox: the meaning behind the terms.

I’ve seen posts about how butch and femme, stag and doe, aren’t just about presentation. It’s specific to the experience of sapphics who subvert and deny gender norms. So I feel it’s important to point out that femcat and jackhound aren’t necessarily just presentation terms either. If you want to use them as such, that’s fine, but it goes deeper than that for those who helped coin them.

Non-binary people are expected to have to be androgynous in order to be ‘actually’ non-binary.

Being a femcat is denying the expectation that non-binary people can’t be feminine, that non-binary has no place for femininity. It’s being ‘feminine’ but challenging that femininity is linked to being a woman.

Being a jackhound is denying the expectation that non-binary people shouldn’t be masculine, that non-binary is about achieving androgyny, not being NB whilst choosing to only portray yourself or identify with masculinity or femininity.  It’s being ‘masculine’ but challenging that masculinity is linked to being a man.

Therefore, you may think neufox is therefore, the nb version of ‘gender conforming’, since it’s equivilent would be androgynous. However, it’s also denying gender norms. In the binary world, people are expected to be categorised as either male or female, masculine or feminine. Whilst non-binary people are criticised when they are being only masculine or feminine and told they musn’t “really” be non-binary, they’re also criticised and punished for not following the gender norms and expectations of BEING either masculine or feminine.

In short, cis binary people get mad when they can’t easily categorise us. In their world, there’s no room for both, for an inbetween or mix, for genderfuckery. Belonging to this third category, saying “fuck you” to this ‘you can only be one or the other’ binary mindset, is a denial of gender norms that goes beyond simply looking ambiguous. It’s a refusal to be categorised by binary people under their rules.

PSA

Hey kids, I shouldn’t have to say this but please be aware that omegaverse is inherently homophobic and transphobic and omegaverse content will never not be disgusting. You may think you can do it in a way that’s “good” but the reality is that the very foundation of omegaverse is built around homophobic ideas about gay men (that they’re predatory, animalistic and can’t control themselves sexually, that our relationships always fit into some heteronormative dominant masc/submissive fem dynamic, that gay sex is equivalent to rape) and transphobic ideas about bodies and how those interact with gender and temperament (instead of acknowledging that there are men who can get pregnant and attempting to treat the subject respectfully, creating a new set of genders and a totally nonsensical new system of human biology to accommodate your fetishism that is, again, based on homophobic and frankly also misogynistic stereotypes). Gay relationships are real, they’re not fantastical playthings for you to impose homophobic norms on uncritically. Omegaverse is awful. Seeking it out is awful. Creating content for it is extra awful. Again, no matter how well you think you’re doing it, it doesn’t matter because it is, by definition, awful. If you create/consume OV content, you need to either self crit or realize that this makes you a homophobe and a transphobe, point blank, and I for one am not going to cut you any slack.

Additional note: omegaverse is often abbreviated “abo” but this is a strong racial slur in Australian English, so it should be avoided. OV works just as well.

I woke up to 4,000 followers on Tumblr this morning. Thank you for following my blog that’s mostly about daddies and my journey as an overweight gay male navigating our body obsessed culture. I’m always humbled by your likes, comments, shares, private messages and kind anons. Hugs to you all

-daresaypj

Western Europe

France - France (fem.)

Monaco - Monaco (doesn’t take an article!)

Germany - Allemagne (fem.)

The Netherlands - Les Pays-Bas (masc. pl.)

Belgium - Belgique (fem.)

Luxembourg - Luxembourg (masc.)

Switzerland - Suisse (fem.)

Liechtenstein - Liechtenstein (masc.)

Austria - Autriche (fem.)

The British Isles

England - Angleterre (fem.)

Scotland -  Écosse (fem.)

Wales - Les pays de Galles (masc. pl.)

Ireland - Irlande (fem.)

Northern Ireland - Irlande du Nord (fem.)

The United Kingdom - Le Royaume-Uni (masc.)

Great Britain - Grande-Bretagne (fem.)

Northern Europe

Norway - Norvège (fem.)

Sweden - Suède (fem.)

Denmark - Danemark (masc.)

Scandinavia - Scandinavie (fem.)

Iceland - Islande (fem.)

Finland - Finlande (fem.)

Estonia - Estonie (fem.)

Latvia - Lettonie (fem.)

Lithuania - Lituanie (fem.)

Eastern Europe

Russia - Russie (fem.)

Belarus - Belarus (masc.),  Biélorussie (fem.)

Ukraine - Ukraine (fem.

Poland - Pologne (fem.)

Czechia / Czech Republic - La République Tchèque (fem.)

Slovakia - Slovaquie (fem.)

Hungary - Hongrie (fem.)

Moldova - Moldavie (fem.)

Romania - Roumanie (fem.)

Bulgaria - Bulgarie (fem.)

South-Eastern Europe

Slovenia - Slovénie (fem.)

Croatia - Croatie (fem.)

Bosnia and Herzegovina - Bosnie-Herzégovine (fem.)

Montenegro - Monténégro (masc.)

Serbia - Serbie (fem.)

Kosovo - Kosovo (masc.)

Macedonia - Macédoine (fem.)

Albania - Albanie (fem.)

Greece -  Grèce (fem.)

Cyprus - Chypre (fem.)

Turkey - Turquie (fem.)

Southern Europe

Spain - Espagne (fem.)

Andorra - Andorre (fem.)

Portugal - Portugal (masc.)

Italy - Italie (fem.)

The Vatican - Le Vatican (masc.)

San Marino - Saint-Marin (masc.)

Malta - Malte (fem.)

So here you have it! All 50 countries of Europe, along with three extras. However, French isn’t my native language, so if you see a mistake, feel free to tell me and I’ll happily change it! (also someone help me with Belarus)