marvel families

You know what I think about a lot? Tony Stark reeling in the wake of Civil War, going on 72-hour work benders, trying to clean up everyone’s mess and whip the Sokovia Accords into shape and rebuild the decimated team and figure out how he can build Rhodey a new spine and forget about a metal hand squeezing the life out of his mother, and when Happy reports back to him about Peter he hates himself a little for holding the kid at arm’s length, but everyone who’s in his orbit eventually ends up getting hurt and it’s better for everyone if he keeps his distance, but that doesn’t mean he’s not keeping tabs on the kid and sometimes at 4.30 in the morning when stress and anxiety and too much coffee won’t let him sleep he sits in his office and listens to Peter’s inane voicemail messages and can’t stop the helpless smile from tugging on his lips as he learns about a kind old lady buying the kid a churro and for a moment he feels a little less alone and broken.

dating advice: the “captain america” rule

Context: I grew up in a family of nerds, and superheroes were always a really big part of my childhood. Captain America was a favorite, and he kind of became my family’s standard for good behavior and just generally being a Nice Person. (If one of the kids started a fight they’d get hit with, “What would Captain America think of how you’re acting?”, stuff like that.)

So when I got to high school and started dating, my mom told me something that sounds funny but in retrospect actually turned out to be really good advice:

“Date someone who treats you the way Captain America would. Never settle for less.” 

And this has actually helped me so much in my dating life, through high school and into my adult years, because even if it’s a little silly, it’s been really helpful to have that standard in the back of my mind when I’m first going into a relationship. 

Would Captain America ignore my calls? Would Captain America forget my birthday? Would Captain America get mad at me for cancelling a date because a family emergency came up? If the answer is no, then I know that the person I’m currently dating does not meet my standards, and that I need to break things off before they get too serious.

And your standard absolutely does not have to be Captain America, specifically. It can be any person, male or female, real or fictional, who is known for being respectful and considerate. It can even be an imaginary “soulmate” that you make up yourself. The point is to have a specific idea of how you expect to be treated by your romantic partners, and to refuse to compromise or settle for less. (Just make sure you’re holding yourself to the same standards – you can’t expect to date superheroes if you’re going to treat your partners the way a supervillain would.) This is a really good way to keep yourself from falling into bad relationships where you aren’t treated with the respect and care you deserve.

TL;DR: You deserve to date people who are respectful and considerate of you. You deserve a Captain America. Don’t settle for less. 

Black Superheroines (Commission)
Nubia, Darla (Marvel Family), Star Sapphire (Fatality), Bumblebee, Storm, Spectrum, Crimson Avenger, Ladyhawk, Empress, Vixen, Silhouette, Lightning and Thunder.

(Note: The characters depicted are picked by the person who ordered the commission and not meant to be “every black superheroine in comics”)

full offense but when you’ve got idris elba wishing he was a more active part of the marvel family and “i want to be a superhero” then it’s not even about looking for him when you’ve got a marvel movie in production. it’s not even about that

if you’ve got idris elba wanting to play a marvel superhero then the objectively and morally correct thing to do is to personally call him, tell him to pick A N Y superhero that he wants in the E N T I R E available marvel comics canon and then like you give that character a full complete 3-movie franchise plus 3 guaranteed appearances in the next big crossover franchise. this is what you do. if you’ve got idris elba wanting to play a marvel superhero then this is what you’re supposed to do

Peter: [after breaking up with Wade] I miss him.
Tony: Yeah. He was your first real boyfriend.
Peter: I keep expecting him to show up. He used to come by at night and I’d sneak out to see him.
Tony: Yeah, I know.
Peter: You knew?
Tony: His car’s thirty years old and doesn’t have a muffler. And he honked.

  • Tony: If you're nothing without the suit, you shouldn't have it.
  • Me: *wonders where I've heard that before*
  • Mom: If you're nothing without your phone, you shouldn't have it.
  • Me and Peter: Dafuq Mom??
the defenders in a nutshell
  • matt: idgaf abt being a hero anymore i'm fine now but wait elektra is back so square tf up
  • luke: i just wanna protect harlem and it's kids and cuddle with claire but i'm strangely fond of the glowing fist guy
  • jessica: jesus fucking christ y'all weird as fuck ain't got time for this shit but anyways i just gotta make a dramatic entrance first
  • danny: wanna take The Hand down, happens to be the worst CEO in history, also wanna eat some pork

Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2 is a film about navigating family trauma. It’s why the characters are so relatable. Most of us have been there.

  • Peter has never dealt with the loss of his mother or an absent biological father who is as deluded (and controlling) as he is deranged.
  • Gamora and Nebula are navigating the impacts of an abusive father on sisterhood, with unlearning the dynamics of abusive relationships.
  • Drax is coping with the loss of his family by building chosen family with the rest of the team (chosen family is a huge theme).
  • Rocket deploys defense mechanisms at every opportunity to hide the pain of being abused and discarded by his creators.
  • Yondu continues to grapple with his parents selling him into slavery, with similar feelings of abandonment mirrored in Rocket.
  • Groot, just like in real life, is a child bearing witness to a family trying to cope with their pain in the midst of survival.

As children, how many of us have lived the stories we see in the film’s characters? How many are still trying to heal?