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It was a packed house (sold out) at the El Rey Theatre where Deafheaven made a pit stop on their North American tour. On their biggest headlining show to date, Deafheaven brought their ‘A’ game to the stage giving their lucky fans the experience of a lifetime. George Clarke’s formidable presence on stage is a sight to behold. His mannerisms resemble those of a sadistic prison guard crossed with an orchestra conductor yet at times he shows a peaceful side to him and a sense of vulnerability. If you dare get on stage with Clarke. he will personally make sure you promptly leave. The tones coming from Kerry McCoy and the rest of the band created an atmosphere that was downright intoxicating. They played so hard, drummer Daniel Tracy broke his snare drum in the middle of the set and had to borrow one from Earth’s drummer. Amidst the loudness and aggression, the band manages to carry the crowd to moments of serenity and solitude. Their fans, most of them anyway, are serious metal aficionados and not the “hipsters” some critics proclaim them to be. Supporting act Earth delivered a heavy dose of feedback and pinch harmonics to the audience. Marriages opened up for the night playing a short set of their indescribable music. I can’t wait to hear more from them.

See all Photos and words by Maximilian Ho at L.A Record

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Pamela, 63, and Shafique, 75, a retired restaurant manager, live in Stepney, East London. They have six grown-up children, three boys and three girls, and nine grandchildren. Pamela is English and Shafique is from Bangladesh.

PAMELA SAYS: It was Shafique’s amazing mop of jet-black hair that first attracted me to him. I was 14, and I can still remember seeing him in the kitchen of the local Wimpy restaurant where he was the chef.

The next time I went in he served me, and we got chatting. Nearly 50 years on we are still together.

My family lived near Brick Lane, in East London, and the Fifties and Sixties were a time of great change there. A lot of Bengali men came to London to find jobs, like Shafique, and many moved to Brick Lane, which has since become a strong Bangladeshi community.

A lot of my friends were attracted to the Asian men. They were smart, nice-looking, well-dressed and well-spoken. When Shafique and I started going out, my mother was fine, but my dad was horrified.

He refused to come when we married in a register office in 1965, when I was 19. He thought Shafique wouldn’t stick by me, but once we’d been married a few years and he saw how my husband looked after me, he admitted he had been wrong and Shafique became his favourite son-in-law.

Some people living in our area were hostile — they shouted ‘Paki’ at Shafique when we walked down the street, and lots of nasty things were said to us.

Our first date was to an Asian cinema to see a love story. I did get a lot of looks, though they were more surprised than anything else. We now have a home in Bangladesh and I am always treated like a queen when we visit.


‘Some people living in our area were hostile — they shouted “Paki” at Shafique when we walked down the street’

After we married I converted to Islam, and we decided to bring up our children as Muslims, so there were never any disputes between us at home.

However, we have always celebrated Christmas as well as Eid, and our children, and now grandchildren, love it because it means they get a lot of presents.

SHAFIQUE SAYS: Sadly my mother never met my wife — she died before I could take Pamela back to Bangladesh. But I know she wasn’t happy about my marrying a non-Muslim girl.

My children nearly all have multi-cultural marriages and we are very happy about that — one son has married a Turkish girl, another a Jewish girl, one daughter a mixed-race man and another an Englishman. We have no prejudices — everyone is welcome in our family.



Excerpts from Tony Goldwyn’s GirlonGuy interview

Tony: Yeah, no, I feel the same way. And In many ways it’s been such an interesting thing, playing this part on Scandal, being in a long, complicated marriage myself. Umm, you know, thank God, my marriage is not as extreme as Mellie and Fitzes is.  But, you know, Mellie and Fitz are evolving into a very dear and kind of a mutually, supportive relationship, that’s not sexual, at all. But it’s loving. And, you know what it is, the thing that I feel about Mellie is, and there’s aspects of this that I feel about my wife, Jane. Luckily, Jane and I have a more well-rounded relationship, but umm, but ahhh, ahhh, the sense of knowing someone at their core and like knowing someone’s essence and someone’s true potential. I mean I think the thing that Fitz feels about Mellie right now ,with her whole like wanting to be a politician and all of that. Is Fitz sees, appreciate’s Mellie’s gifts in a way that even she doesn’t and he’s taken it upon himself to ahh, help her, to foster that , to  umm, to help her realize those things, so that she can come back, be redeemed from all of the pain she that she suffered, often, at his hands, you know, starting with the rape by his father. Which Fitz wasn’t responsible for but Fitz feels responsible for. You know, umm. How did I not see it? How was I so blind? And umm, you know and then that, you know, served to deteriorate their marriage. And that was what really what drove the sexual death of their marriage.  And now Fitz knows that. It’s like, and then of course, the death of their son. For years, cos she wouldn’t…imagine? He should have been. You know, ten years of celibacy? What? Who could survive that? Nobody could. You know? Umm, and, ahh, ahh, so they are now at a point where they forgive each other. And I must say in my marriage with Jane,  we are at a point in our relationship where we forgive each other, not only do we forgive each other alot, we, it sounds like such a weird thing to say, but we appreciate each other for our frailties. You know what I mean?  We like, she laughs at me and I laugh at her for our foibles or our weaknesses. Or she’ll give me shit about some pretty dark stuff.  But we can laugh about it, you know? And umm, ahh, so, and we’d gone through, having, raising kids, a substantial period, of sort of dis-communication, you know, where you get so invested in your children, and in your work life and in your professional life, that you literally don’t communicate with each other. About…you. You’re not the priority, we’re not the priority, Ok we’re fine, we’ll get to that, we’ll get to that, we’ll get to that. And it’s a very dangerous thing in relationships. And thankfully, we’ve, you know, found our way to the other side of that and are sort of re-discovering that, now that our kids, our youngest is now in college, and it’s like, Oh wow. But it’s, I’m finding a lot of commonality, ahh, I feel very privileged to explore those things in Scandal. And it’s always honest.

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As part of their recent headlining trek with Marriages, ambient black metal outfit, Deafheaven, visited Cambridge’s TT The Bear’s Place. The intimate venue sold out the night of the show and was filled to capacity. The night was opened by locals, VYGR, prior to Marriages playing a set lasting somewhere close to an hour. The three-piece, ambient, female-fronted band from Los Angeles has quite a different style from Deafheaven, but plenty of similarities as well, especially when it comes to lengthy songs and intricate guitar work. As soon as Deafheaven kicked in with their set, the crowd got rowdy right away. For over an hour, the San Francisco act alternated back and forth between black metal style blast beat, heavy guitar parts and beautiful, melodic guitar parts. - All Photos by Nick Dinatale

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Here’s a small blog post about the Monuments Collapse/Marriages/Deafheaven show last night (photos uploaded in order of the bands). 

You can see all of the photos from the show here.

Monuments Collapse:

I don’t think a band name has ever so perfectly summed what the band sounds like. 

Marriages

Marriages. Oh Marriages. There is this sense of unity that you feel on stage when these folks are playing that is hard to explain. Everything flowed so seamlessly into itself; it was like drifting in a river of stuff and things. It just makes you feel good to see them live. This band deserves the world.

deafheaven

There isn’t much I can say about deafheaven that hasn’t already been said in the past few months following the release of Sunbather. This was the last night of their tour with Marriages and it brought them right back home to San Francisco. Maybe that had something to do with it. Coming home after a long journey. I assume these guys bring it every night, but I have quite honestly never seen anything like it. A band so willing let the weight fall one person and one person so willing to let the weight fall on the audience. I don’t know what that means, but it didn’t sound that good in my head either. Yeah…