marriage ideals


Casting Runes

Fehu: domestic cattle, wealth | possessions won or earned, earned income, luck / abundance, financial strength in the present or near future / sign of hope and plenty, success and happiness / social success / energy, foresight, fertility, creation/destruction | reversed or merkstave: loss of personal property, esteem, or something that you put in effort to keep / indicates some sort of failure / greed, burnout, atrophy, discord / cowardice, stupidity, dullness, poverty, slavery, bondage

Uruz: auroch, a wild ox | physical strength and speed, untamed potential / time of great energy and health / freedom, energy, action, courage, strength, tenacity, understanding, wisdom / sudden or unexpected changes (usually for the better) / sexual desire, masculine potency / the shaping of power and pattern, formulation of the self | reversed or merkstave: weakness, obsession, misdirected force, domination by others / sickness, inconsistency, ignorance / lust, brutality, rashness, callousness, violence

Thurisaz: thorn or a Giant | reactive force, directed force of destruction and defense, conflict. Instinctual will, vital eroticism, regenerative catalyst / tendency toward change / catharsis, purging, cleansing fire / male sexuality, fertilization | reversed or merkstave: danger, defenselessness, compulsion, betrayal, dullness / evil, malice, hatred, torment, spite, lies / a bad man or woman

Ansuz: the As, ancestral god, i.e. Odin | a revealing message or insight, communication / signals, inspiration, enthusiasm, speech, true vision, power of words and naming / blessings, the taking of advice / good health, harmony, truth, wisdom | reversed or merkstave: misunderstanding, delusion, manipulation by others, boredom / vanity and grandiloquence

Raidho: wagon or chariot | travel, both in physical terms and those of lifestyle direction | a journey, vacation, relocation, evolution, change of place or setting / seeing a larger perspective / seeing the right move for you to make and deciding upon it / personal rhythm, world rhythm, dance of life | reversed or merkstave: crisis, rigidity, stasis, injustice, irrationality / disruption, dislocation, demotion, delusion, possibly a death

Kenaz: beacon or torch | vision, revelation, knowledge, creativity, inspiration, technical ability / vital fire of life, harnessed power, fire of transformation and regeneration / power to create your own reality, the power of light / open to new strength, energy, and power now / passion, sexual love | reversed or merkstave: disease, breakup, instability, lack of creativity / nakedness, exposure, loss of illusion and false hope

Gebo: gift | gifts, both in the sense of sacrifice and of generosity, indicating balance / all matters in relation to exchanges, including contracts, personal relationships and partnerships |  merkstave: greed, loneliness, dependence, over-sacrifice / obligation, toll, privation, bribery

Wunjo: joy | joy, comfort, pleasure / fellowship, harmony, prosperity / ecstasy, glory, spiritual reward, but also the possibility of going “over the top” / if restrained, the meaning is general success and recognition of worth | reversed or merkstave: stultification, sorrow, strife, alienation / delirium, intoxication, possession by higher forces, impractical enthusiasm / raging frenzy, berzerker

Hagalaz: hail | wrath of nature, destructive, uncontrolled forces, especially the weather, or within the unconscious / tempering, testing, trial / controlled crisis, leading to completion, inner harmony | merkstave: natural disaster, catastrophe / stagnation, loss of power / pain, loss, suffering, hardship, sickness, crisis

Nauthiz: need | delays, restriction / resistance leading to strength, innovation, need-fire (self-reliance) / distress, confusion, conflict, and the power of will to overcome them / endurance, survival, determination /  time to exercise patience / recognition of one’s fate / major self-initiated change / face your fears | reversed or merkstave: constraint of freedom, distress, toil, drudgery, laxity / necessity, extremity, want, deprivation, starvation, need, poverty, emotional hunger

Isa: ice | a challenge or frustration / psychological blocks to thought or activity, including grievances / standstill, or a time to turn inward and wait for what is to come, or to seek clarity / reinforces runes around it | merkstave: ego-mania, dullness, blindness, dissipation / treachery, illusion, deceit, betrayal, guile, stealth, ambush, plots

Jera: a year, a good harvest / the results of earlier efforts are realized /  time of peace and happiness, fruitful season / can break through stagnancy / hopes and expectations of peace and prosperity / the promise of success earned / life cycle, cyclical pattern of the universe / everything changes, in its own time | merkstave: sudden setback, reversals / a major change, repetition, bad timing, poverty, conflict

Eihwaz: yew tree | strength, reliability, dependability, trustworthiness / enlightenment, endurance / defense, protection / the driving force to acquire, providing motivation and a sense of purpose / indicates that you have set your sights on a reasonable target and can achieve your goals / an honest man who can be relied upon | reversed or merkstave: confusion, destruction, dissatisfaction, weakness

Perthro: lot cup, vagina | uncertain meaning, a secret matter, a mystery, hidden things and occult abilities. Initiation, knowledge of one’s destiny, knowledge of future matters, determining the future or your path / pertaining to things feminine, feminine mysteries including female fertility etc. / good lot, fellowship and joy / evolutionary change | reversed or merkstave: addiction, stagnation, loneliness, malaise

Algiz: elk, protection | protection, a shield / the protective urge to shelter oneself or others / defense, warding off of evil, shield, guardian / connection with the gods, awakening, higher life. It can be used to channel energies appropriately / follow your instincts / keep hold of success or maintain a position won or earned | reversed: or merkstave: hidden danger, consumption by divine forces, loss of divine link / taboo, warning, turning away, that which repels

Sowilo: the sun | success, goals achieved, honor / the life-force, health / a time when power will be available to you for positive changes in your life, victory, health, and success / contact between the higher self and the unconscious / holeness, power, elemental force, sword of flame, cleansing fire | merkstave: false goals, bad counsel, false success, gullibility, loss of goals / destruction, retribution, justice, casting down of vanity / wrath of god

Tiwaz: Tyr, the sky god | honour, justice, leadership and authority / analysis, rationality / knowing where one’s true strengths lie / willingness to self-sacrifice / victory and success in any competition or in legal matters | reversed or merkstave: one’s energy and creative flow are blocked/ mental paralysis, over-analysis, over-sacrifice, injustice, imbalance / strife, war, conflict, failure in competition / dwindling passion, difficulties in communication, and possibly separation

Berkano: Berchta, the birch-goddess | birth, general fertility, both mental and physical and personal growth, liberation / regenerative power and light of spring, renewal, promise of new beginnings, new growth / arousal of desire / a love affair or new birth / the prospering of an enterprise or venture | reversed or merkstave: family problems and or domestic troubles / anxiety about someone close to you / carelessness, abandon, loss of control / blurring of consciousness, deceit, sterility, stagnation

Ehwaz: horse, two horses | transportation / may represent a horse, car, plane, boat or other vehicle / movement and change for the better / gradual development and steady progress are indicated / harmony, teamwork, trust, loyalty / an ideal marriage or partnership / confirmation beyond doubt the meanings of the runes around it | reversed or merkstave: not really a negative rune / a change is perhaps craved / feeling restless or confined in a situation / reckless haste, disharmony, mistrust, betrayal

Mannaz: man, mankind | the Self; the individual or the human race / your attitude toward others and their attitudes towards you / friends and enemies, social order. Intelligence, forethought, create, skill, ability / divine structure, intelligence, awareness / expect to receive some sort of aid or cooperation now | reversed or merkstave: depression, mortality, blindness, self-delusion / cunning, slyness, manipulation, craftiness, calculation / expect no help now

Laguz: water, or a leek | flow, water, sea, a fertility source, the healing power of renewal / life energy and organic growth / imagination and psychic matters / dreams, fantasies, mysteries, the unknown, the hidden, the deep, the underworld / success in travel or acquisition, but with the possibility of loss | reversed or merkstave: an indication of a period of confusion in your life / you may be making wrong decisions and poor judgements / lack of creativity and feelings of being in a rut / fear, circular motion, avoidance, withering / madness, obsession, despair, perversity, sickness, suicide

Ingwaz: Ing, the earth god | male fertility, gestation, internal growth / common virtues, common sense, simple strengths, family love, caring, human warmth, the home / rest stage, a time of relief, of no anxiety / a time when all loose strings are tied and you are free to move in a new direction / listen to yourself | merkstave: impotence, movement without change / poduction, toil, labour, work

Dagaz: day or dawn. | breakthrough, awakening, awareness / daylight clarity as opposed to nighttime uncertainty / time to plan or embark upon an enterprise / the power of change directed by your own will, transformation / hope and happiness, the ideal / security and certainty / growth and release / balance point, the place where opposites meet | merkstave: a completion, ending, limit, coming full circle / blindness, hopelessness

Othala: ancestral property | inherited property or possessions, a house, a home / what is truly important to one / group order, group prosperity / lLand of birth, spiritual heritage, experience and fundamental values / aid in spiritual and physical journeys / source of safety, increase and abundance | reversed or merkstave: lack of customary order, totalitarianism, slavery, poverty, homelessness / bad karma, prejudice, clannishness, provincialism / what a man is bound to

When I judge a man for marriage, I mentally take away his looks, his money, his cars and everything materialistic and then ask myself what he really has to offer. Is he honest? Loyal? Caring and kind? Loving and trustworthy? Because let me tell you, while his good looks and money will make you weak in the knees now, at 3am when your child is crying to be fed. And your eyes are heavy and your body is weak from postpartum, it will not be how he looks or all that he owns that will matter. It will be the compassion in his heart, the mercy in his nature and the love for you in his soul that will push him out of bed to quickly feed the child and tell you “don’t worry honey, I got this.” That’s what I really envision long-term. Little moments like these that differentiates an ordinary man from an extraordinary husband and father. And that is all I need.
—  Nashiha Pervin

Spouses are not claimed, but chosen. Couples forged in the fire of service to each other; those whose actions lift them above life that came before.

Marriage is an ideal, a symbol, the embodiment of love, determination, and reliance upon another. You are each other’s right hands, instrumental to each others well being and happiness.

Spouses bear a great responsibility. Both your first and last companion each day, the well being of each other is yours to uphold.

Because of Mass Effect, I discovered characters and worlds I fell in love with. Because of Mass Effect, I met friends that I traveled the galaxy with. Because of Mass Effect, I found my Real Life Romance option.  

Because of Mass Effect, last month I got to bring the characters and friends that I love together in order to marry that romance option. 

They even revived me when that stupid marauder took me out on the beach. 

Thanks, Mass Effect. For everything. Happy N7 Day!

Juno in the Signs


Juno, known as the Goddess of marriage, traditionally symbolized the idealized life partner. She represents the values and attitudes, which reveal themselves in the institution of marriage.

In the signs, Juno represents how we deal with our intimacy needs, what we look for in a mate, and qualities we present in a partnership.

Juno in Aries: Requires full autonomy and independence in relationships. They tend to be attracted to strong, dominant, assertive, leading individuals.

Juno in Taurus: Requires stability in relationships. They tend to be attracted to dependable, trustworthy, reliable, and steady partners. Needs a lot of physical contact from partner.

Juno in Gemini: Requires open lines of communication and verbal stimulation in relationships. They may desire more than one mate, or a multi-talented/faced partner. Attracted to intelligence, wittiness, and spontaneity.

Juno in Cancer: Requires emotional intimacy and nurturance from their relationship. Tend to be attracted to Mother archetypes; caring, gentle, trustworthy, loving, nurturing, etc.

Juno in Leo: Requires admiration and pazazz (think exciting, unpredictable teenflick drama) in their relationship. They are attracted to grandiose, glamorous, hearty, warm, exciting, outgoing, and complimenting types of people.

Juno in Virgo: Requires a partner who wants to reach for perfection with Juno Virgo. Are attracted to hard-working, put-together, clean, intelligent, and charming types of people.

Juno in Libra: Requires a sense of equality in a relationship. If the relationship is off-balance, off goes Juno Libra! They are attracted to social, charming, magnetic, diplomatic, conversationalist types.

Juno in Scorpio: Requires emotional intensity and intimate connection (both sexual and non-sexual) to partner. Attracted to mysterious, sensual, radical, quiet, professional, and intelligent types.

Juno in Sagittarius: Requires adventure, and open-mind, and intellectual stimulation from partner. Tend to be attracted to outgoing, philosophical, thinker, adventuresome, open-minded, exciting, and zesty types.

Juno in Capricorn: Requires stability, depth, and commitment in a relationship. They are attracted to hard-working, independent, aloof, and provider types of people.

Juno in Aquarius: Requires freedom and eccentricity in a relationship. They are attracted to wacky, quirky, individualistic, confident, intellectual, and humanitarian types.

Juno in Pisces: Requires emotional, spiritual, and mental transcendence from unity of a relationship. Tend to be attracted to dreamy, sensitive, psychic, intuitive, martyr, spiritual, and romantic types.

 NOTE: Venus and Mars signs provide a general insight on why and who we are attracted. Juno signs represent more of who we are attracted to when searching for a life partner.


Till Death Do Us Together: SteveTony (A Mr.& Mrs. Smith AU)

Tony Stark and Steve Rogers-Stark are the definition of the suburban perfect couple. Their neighbours are equally in awe and envy of them for their perfect lifestyle, perfect romance, and perfect marriage. It’s the ideal life. Except for the part where they’re both numb with boredom about their lives, go through their marriage by rote, and have awkward silences when they’re together. It probably doesn’t help that neither of them is who they say they are. Tony is the genius hacker and chief specialist of the Legion, an elite private task-force, and goes by the name Iron Man on the field. Steve is the mastermind strategist and retrieval specialist of STRIKE, the rival task-force to Legion, and is called The Captain on the field. Where Tony and Steve are together, Iron Man and The Captain are the ultimate enemies. Things get complicated when their professional lives bleed into their personal life, and both of them get a mission that will test everything. Will Mr. & Mr. Stark lie their way to each other’s death or will Iron Man and The Captain finally rediscover what their love meant? 


Last week he was supposed to buy gas, but instead he bought novelty cookie cutters. Now everything we eat is shaped like a dinosaur. He’s amazing.

anonymous asked:

Are you serious about Namjoon and Jungkook meeting their soul mate in their dreams? :'D What exactly do you mean with that?

their juno is in the 11th house which rules our dreams, hopes, and wishes. i think this is especially true with them because jungkook has moon in the 11th and joon has venus in the 11th, two romantic emotional planets. what i mean is that they probably have frequent dreams about their ideal marriage and marriage partner

Business and Pleasure - Part 6

Summary:  Bucky AU. After a major deal falls through, your father’s business almost falls apart. In a desperate attempt to save his livelihood, he seeks the help of his oldest friend, George Barnes, who happens to be the CEO of one of the most influential businesses in New York. He agrees, but on one condition. You have to marry his son.

Word Count: 1,456

Warnings: Swearing, implied smut

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Originally posted by stuckwithbuck

The next morning you woke suddenly as the sun crept into the room, peeking out from behind the blue silk curtains. Where am I, you wondered in confusion. This definitely wasn’t your apartment, and it certainly wasn’t Wanda’s either. The moment you glanced at your hand, the ring glinting in the light, memories came flooding back to you. You were in James’ apartment, which was now yours too.

The events of the previous night washed over you almost like a wave. You had fought with James again. It had all been a misunderstanding. You had kicked Steve out. He probably wasn’t too happy about that, and you made a mental note to apologize to him once you arrived at the office later in the day. He couldn’t stay mad at you if you brought him food, after all. That reminded you. Where was James? He had slept on the couch last night, letting you take the bed. Was he still asleep?

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queersandcommies  asked:

Purely out of interest, why is homosexuality a sin?

First of all, we must distinguish homosexual desires from homosexual acts. Experiencing sexual attraction to a person of the same sex is not inherently sinful, but engaging in any form of sexual activity with that person is. An individual may or may not be able to control the former, but the latter is a deliberate choice. Only things which we choose can be sinful.

As for why homosexual acts are sinful, human sexuality has a dual purpose: it is intended both for the unity of the spouses and for procreation. The catechism tells us that “the union of man and woman in marriage is a way of imitating in the flesh the Creator’s generosity and fecundity”. (CCC 2335) When a husband and wife have sex, each makes a total gift of self to the other, and they are at least open to the possibility of creating a new human life. Any sexual activity that is not ordered towards both of these ends is sinful because it works against God’s plan for nature, the dual purpose for which human sexuality was created.

For this reason, the Church condemns as sinful any sexual activity outside the commitment of marriage (a sin against unity), sexual activity between two men or two women (a sin against fecundity), and the use of contraception (a sin against both).

For further reading, the relevant passages from the Catechism are paragraphs 369-372 on the creation of man and woman, 2331-2336 on human sexuality, and 2357-2359 on homosexuality.

In religious debates about homosexuality you’ll often see the levitical prohibition cited as the scriptural justification, but the creation of man and woman in Genesis 2 is actually the foundation of the Catholic teachings on sexuality and marriage. The idea of Adam and Eve before the fall as the divinely intended ideal for marriage is reinforced by Christ in his response to the pharisees questioning him about divorce in Matthew 9.

An Ideal Marriage - A Beauty and the Beast/Downton Abbey AU

Adam Savoy is the sole heir of the Earl of Villeneuve, living a lavish life of spending and gambling. But where he goes, scandal always seems to follow. After a way of paying off Adam’s spending sinks with the Titanic, the Earl orders Adam back to their country home and marry an eligible girl from a good family as soon as possible, or he loses his inheritance. 

Belle Deveraux lives a modest life with her father in a small village in Kent. Longing for more than the life of a farm hand, she accepts a job as a housemaid at the village’s big house,Theron Hall, home to the Earl of Villeneuve and his son, to save up enough money to see galleries, universities, and libraries.

When the two meet accidentally, Adam becomes immediately intrigued with the woman who loves Theron’s library as much as he does. But he knows that a relationship between them would not be taken well by society, and least of all by his father. Belle tries to avoid the handsome heir’s advances at first, as she knows that any sort of romance would never be a success, but nevertheless the two are drawn towards each other, despite the world of obstacles that would prevent them from being together. | AO3

me someday with my husband:
  • me: *lays my head lazily on my husband's lap* will you marry me?
  • husband: we've been married for 15 years.
  • me: ok but will you marry me?
  • husband: you ask me this almost every day.
  • me: ok but like will you marry me??
  • husband: *sighs* yes I will marry you *under breath* again
  • me: *kisses him* I love you
  • husband: I love you too you loser
What does it mean to be a husband?

Becoming a husband will change your life– for the better, of course! The very special relationship between spouses is a wonderful and humbling experience: your wife is the person that you have chosen to spend and share your life with, through all its ups and downs. When things go well, she is there to celebrate with you; when things go wrong, she gives comfort and support. She does not judge you on your failures and is all too often working behind the scenes to ensure that your life together runs smoothly.

The bond shared by a husband and wife is best summed up as follows:
“They are your garments and you are their garments.”
[Al-Baqarah 2:187]

So, what does it mean to be a husband? How should a husband behave and how should he treat his wife? The Quran shows us the standards expected from an ideal Muslim husband, the most important of which are summarised below.

In Islamic custom, men are regarded as “guardians” of the family. Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) has made them stronger and they are expected to expend of their means to provide for the family. This does not mean that they are superior to women; rather they are expected to act as protectors and providers.

“Men are protectors and maintainers of women.”
[An-Nisa 4:34]

Imagine you own a dating website called (I checked; it doesn’t exist). Because you’re so smart and popular and successful, every single person on Earth uses your website and will faithfully follow your dating recommendations. However, if you match everyone up, and there are two pairs of people such that person A from the first couple prefers person B from the second couple, and person B also prefers A, then A and B will elope and leave their former partners lonely. So don’t do that!

Another important note: the only distinguishing factor of a potential mate is their Myers Briggs type. Body type, age, languages spoken, race, sexual preference - none of these affect the chemistry between any two potential mates. Just mbti. Got it? Great.

So here’s where it gets interesting, even with all of those convenient assumptions: ISFJs are super common, comprising roughly 14% of people, and ISTJs are not far behind. However, ISFJs are “ideally matched” with ESFPs, which make up a far smaller slice of the population. So when you run out of ESFPs, maybe you hook up the remaining ISFJs with ESTPs, their second best match? Well, if you do that, the poor ISTJs will have no one left, and the ESTPs that you paired with the ISFJs will prefer the ISTJs, who in turn will prefer the ESTPs. So that doesn’t work. Now what?

Well it turns out that this silly little conundrum is actually an extremely important problem to mathematicians - and not for the obvious reasons! Turns out that this problem - referred to as the Stable Roommates Problem - is part of a class of matching problems that shows up all over the place in really important ways. For example, a variant called the Stable Marriages Problem is used to match servers and clients on the internet, doctors to patients, and even design efficient markets, which is why the Nobel Prize was awarded in 2012 for an efficient way to solve this problem.

So, being a programmer myself, I quickly set to work coding up a little simulation of 100 representative people. 14 were ISFJs, 2 were INFJs, etc. I used mbti theory and a little bit of intuition to create preference lists for each of them. I think it’s too much to go into every single reason why I designed the preference lists the way I did, but here’s a quick explanation:

My preference list as an ENTP is as follows:

My reasoning in making this list is based solely on my type, so I think it’ll apply mostly to all ENTPs, and the same pattern should work for any other perceiver-dom. If you’re a judger-dom, however, I altered it slightly. If you’re an ESTJ, for example, instead of going to ISFP after ISTP, you go to INTP, because INTPs lead with the inverse of your first function, making them preferable to a feeler with whom you’d have much less in common.

Here’s the full chart:

Then, I ran the algorithm, dumped the data into Excel, and made this Radar chart to show the quality of the relationships. The 1′s mean that those types are paired to their ideal match, while the big numbers (like 14) mean that that type is with their 14th best match and thus are going to have a crappy relationship.

As you can see, most people are pretty happy. The island of death is relatively small, and includes several unhappy ENFPs. However, of all the types, I have the most faith in the ENFP’s ability to adapt to a relationship against which the odds are stacked, especially since these unhappy relationships are most frequently between two ENFPs. ISTJs are also among the unhappy spouses, and I think that ISTJs will leverage their patience and dedication to make the most out of a poor situation. The other types are paired with partners relatively close to optimum, so overall, people are quite happy.

This brings up an interesting question, though: Why is it that the frequency of types doesn’t correspond to the frequency of their ideal match type? Why must we have imperfect marriages at all? And how is it that there are so many ENFPs that they’re forced to unhappily consort with one another?

The best I can come up with so far is that ENFPs must be really good at relationships - so good that they can reproduce far more often than expected given their typology. So, uh, kudos to the ENFPs, I suppose? Or perhaps we should be mad that sociocultural influences idealize ENFP relationships so much that ENFPs are unhappily common? You decide.