marriage equality


Sometimes lesbians do get happy endings. 

Mum wasn’t going to come to my wedding. It was hard, but I’d made peace with that. My girlfriend and I would get married without her blessing. 

Then, two days before the big day, when we were already in New Zealand, I got a frantic call at 11pm at night. I answered it and it was her, crying and asking if she’d still be welcome. We said yes, of course, and she booked herself last minute flights to get to New Zealand. 

When I first saw her outside the registry, all dressed up with her hair done and holding flowers, I burst into tears. She came up to me and touched my face, saying, “You look so happy. Both of you, you look so happy,” and gave us these roses.

They’re more than flowers to me. 

They’re given to me by a women to cried and shouted and refused to talk about my sexuality for seven years after I came out to her. It may not seem like much: but she had to walk into that flower store and buy these. She had to choose roses - the symbol of love - for her gay daughter and her gay daughter’s ‘friend’. There’s an admission in that. There’s acceptance in that. These roses say, “I know you love each other,” and she gave them to us at our wedding, which she flew three thousand kilometres to attend. 

I sobbed as she placed them in my hand. 

Because nothing will ever touch what it feels like to finally, finally know your mother loves you just the way you are. 

What's happening in Australia

Australia still doesn’t have marriage equality.

Today the government announced that on February 11 2017, a plebiscite (compulsory vote) will be put to the citizens of Australia to answer the question: “Should the law be changed to allow same-sex couples to marry?”

The Australian government is pledging $15 million in public funding (tax money) towards the “Yes” and “No” advocacy groups.

This means $7.5 million dollars worth of tax money is being spent on a campaign against LGBTI+ human rights.

This means 5 dehumanising months of LGBTI+ people being forced to have their humanity “debated” on.

Of children listening to hateful homophobic rhetoric. Of LGBTI+ people’s lives and well-being being put in danger.

Even worse, the fact that Parliament isn’t voting on the issue themselves means the likelihood of the plebiscite passing (allowing “same-sex” marriage) is actually very low. There’s no logical reason for Parliament not to vote on the issue because in Australia, the definition of marriage is civil (governmental), and not religious.

Essentially a tonne of money is being used in a bid to prevent marriage equality passing in Australia and endangering the lives of LGBTI+ citizens.

LGBTI+ people in Australia are hurting today.

#NoPlebiscite is the tag being used on Twitter in protest, please consider helping.

I stumbled across this on Facebook this evening and right off the bat it seemed highly fucking suspect to me. I mean right away, you can see they were careful not to mention what exactly it was Kim Davis wasn’t doing - issuing marriage licenses. So, like, let’s get this out of the way first: weddings =/= marriages. A wedding is an optional ceremony. You do not need a wedding to reap the benefits that marriage provides. You do, however, need a marriage license. K? K.

I decided to do some further fact checking.

Turns out all Tonya Parker did was decline to perform an aspect of her job that was optional. Optional. You know, versus the required part of Kim Davis’s job where she’s supposed to issue marriage licenses? To all couples, because marriage is a constitutionally protected right for everyone.

On top of that, Parker also made sure that heterosexual couples were directed to a judge who would perform the ceremony for them. So she wasn’t actually standing in the way of any couples wanting to get married, where as Kim Davis was.

Parker did this in order to make a point about marriage inequality in Texas, where same sex marriage was not legal.

So next time you see someone post this on social media, go ahead and hit them with a large dose of that’s not fucking true you fucking breadcrumb.