Please read this those who are looking to get married
Too many brothers are putting too much emphasis on looks when getting married. This is a serious naseeha to brothers (and also sisters. But I witness this mostly with brothers) and I’m fed up with brothers turning down God-fearing sisters because she is simply not “attractive enough”.
Okay, first of all. A sister who fears her Lord and wears proper hijab is obviously trying to protect her beauty so what you will see of her is a glimpse of her natural beauty. You can simply not expect a sister to be attractive while wearing proper hijab? It’s paradoxal. I get it!!! You may dislike her features which is fair enough!!! You should be pleased with the looks of the one you marry but just don’t go to extremes. Do not expect to marry a model - or a huri - come on now. I believe brothers (not all but some, unwillingly) are a little brainwashed by the sickening sexist western image of women looking a certain way and mistaking it for being something attainable.
Subhan'Allah.. Be grateful if you find a sister who looks decent, has Taqwa, love of deen and is serious. Do not turn a sister down simply because you want someone who looks like a model… This sister is going to be the mother of your future children. What can great looks give children??? Maybe they get to inherit her genes. Awesome okay. But how about upbringing?
And please do not forget that attractiveness doesn’t always equal looks !!!!!! You cannot be fair in you judgement of a person based upon a picture. Sit with them at least! Have a talk. See if there is chemisty. Looks. Is. Not. Everything !!!!!!
General naseeha: How about we start off by judging people by what they choose to carry in their hearts and minds? Why judge someone based on their God-given features they didn’t choose themselves?
I promise, a beautiful person will become the coolness or your eyes if they sincerely fear their Rabb. You cannot help but love them with time. Beauty fades. And trust me sisters can be much prettier than those kafira women who sell their bodies. Sisters are only allowed to show their utmost beauty and be attractive behind closed doors to their husbands. Respect your sisters and be fair in your judgements.
May Allah grant you all righetous spouses. Ameen.