marriage and domestic partnership

Accidentally Married: Not just for fanfic anymore!

Housemate Xed works for the Secretary of State, in the bit that registers businesses and, for a few years and for somewhat convoluted political reasons, domestic partnerships. 

Yesterday their office received the… complaints? Of a somewhat distraught pair of people (notice I do not say ‘couple’) who, at some point in the last few years, had decided to go into business together – a nail salon or something, I think – and been advised that they should form a Partnership. Pretty standard for a small business with two owners.

…except they didn’t understand and formed a Domestic Partnership instead. 

Washington State legalized same-sex marriage in 2012, and as part of that, this June ALL non-senior domestic partnerships became marriages automatically.

These two business partners accidentally married each other.

And now they’re trying to figure out how to undo it.

…short of divorce.

🔊 Let me tell you something about long term relationships; the stuff no one talks about

This shit hard work. You hurt each other, you say mean things to each other, you do things you completely regret. Then you have to look the love of your life in the face, watch them cry and explain yourself. Explain what was so important that their feelings took the back seat.

‼️We share our cute weekend pictures📸, our baecations✈️, and cute memes📱 that directly pertain to us! People repost our flipgrams and caption them “😍❤️Relationship goals💍🔐” without really knowing what happens behind the close doors🚪.

Here’s what the pictures don’t show. It’s crying at night because you can’t explain why you are sad. It’s having the same argument constantly hoping the results change. It’s saying I’m sorry even if you don’t feel you were wrong. It’s forgiving the person after completely shattering your trust. It’s rebuilding after all the mistakes that destroyed your happy home. It’s saying I love you even when it’s hard to like them. It’s holding each other engulfed with tears. It’s not giving up despite how much you just want to walk away.

Love is easy, but keeping your relationship when love doesn’t feel like enough, that takes work ‼️
It won’t always feel like love, but if you truly love them; you will put in the work ♥️

anonymous asked:

Hi... if you still doing prompts i loved to read one were oliver and Felicity are living in the same house and he sees her naked and that vision taunts him until he just goes for it

Surprise! I wrote a thing! (Note: NOT accepting prompts right now. I still have some from months ago. Oops!)

….

This may not have been such a good idea.

Maybe.

Probably.

Most likely.

When Oliver had come to her on a Tuesday night and asked if he could crash at her place, Felicity had thought it would be a one-night thing, a week tops. But then one day turned into two days, which turned into two weeks, which turned into two months.

Honestly, there were a lot of benefits to having Oliver as a roommate. They worked well together; very much aware of what the other needed without having to ask. Felicity had invited Diggle over for dinner one time and after observing her and Oliver preparing the food together and setting the table, he had joked about how they worked together better than most married couples he knew.

That had brought on some blushing and rattling off of statistics about studies on domestic partnerships versus marriages and how the label could put a strain on some relationships. Not that there was anything wrong with marriage. Or that her and Oliver were in a domestic partnership, or a relationship at all. Because they weren’t. They were just two really good friends. Really good friends who lived together. And occasionally fell asleep on the couch together after marathoning a show that Oliver swore up and down was completely inaccurate when it came to methods of wilderness survival. (She found him looking up spoilers for the upcoming season in his browser history the following day while she was cleaning it out.)

The point is she and Oliver actually worked pretty well as roommates. They had similar sleeping schedules, coming home way too late (or early depending on how you looked at it) after their nightly activities and getting up early to start their day jobs. (Felicity had, thankfully, been offered her spot back in IT at Queen Consolidated and Oliver had started working at a cafe down the street while trying to find a way to get his family’s company back.) So really, things were going pretty smoothly.

Until last week. When Oliver walked in on her naked. (Well, almost naked.)

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March 2004 we made an in-prompt trip to Portland Or to get married. 2 months later they returned our check and said we were not legally married. June 30 2014 Washington state is going to make us official by changing our domestic partnership into a marriage certificate. In 14 years together I have never once regretted taking her hand and starting our journey together. I am never lost with her, because we are always on an adventure.

LGBTQ+ HISTORY MONTH: Ellen Degeneres

Since October is LGBTQ+ History Month , we decided to take a little time to talk about some famous allies or activists in the LGBTQ+ community that, from as early as the nineteenth century represented and fighted for gay rights, thus becoming some of the most important LBGTQ+ rights advocates.

Let’s talk about a recent figure: Ellen.

Ellen DeGeneres is an American comedian, television host, actress and producer.  She starred in two television sitcoms, Ellen , until 1998, and The Ellen Show from 2001 to 2002. On the 14th of April 1997, after months of rumors going around about the actress’ sexuality, she appeared on the cover of the famous magazine Time with the now celebrated quote: “Yep. I’m gay!”.  When she was asked why she didn’t come out earlier, her answer was: “Don’t think I could have done this a long time ago, and I don’t think people would have accepted it as readily as they do now. Now I feel comfortable with myself, and I don’t have to be fearful about something damaging my career if it gets out, because now I’m in control of it–sort of. No one can hurt me now.” On the 30th April of the same year, after an interview with Oprah Winfrey, “The Puppy Episode” aired on national television and her character, Ellen Morgan, also came out as gay. This made her the first openly lesbian actress to play an openly lesbian character on television.

In her book, Ellen’s mother, Betty DeGeneres admits that she was quite shocked by the coming out of her own daughter, but now she has become one of her strongest supporters, she is in fact now a member of the PFLAG project, for Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays.

In 2004, after having different relationships, DeGeneres started her relationship with the actress Portia De Rossi. After the invalidation of the same-sex marriage ban in California, DeGeneres and de Rossi were engaged, and married in 2008.

In 2013, DeGeneres jumped into the debate Prop 8, California’s voter-approved ban on same-sex message, with a playful post on her blog. She writes: “Portia and I have been married for 4 years and they have been the happiest of my life. And in those 4 years, I don’t think we hurt anyone else’s marriage. I asked all of my neighbors and they say they’re fine. But even though Portia and I got married in the short period of time when it was legal in California, there are 1,138 federal rights for married couples that we don’t have, including some that protect married people from losing their homes, or their savings or custody of their children. […] I hope the Supreme Court will do the right thing, and let everyone enjoy the same rights. It’s going to help keep families together. It’s going to make kids feel better about who they are. And it is time.”

More recently, DeGeneres has commented and gave her opinion about Caitlyn Jenner’s view on same-sex marriage. After Jenner’s statement in which she declared that she was against same sex marriage, DeGeneres was “taken aback” by this statement. In a interview, she said of Jenner that:  "She still has a judgment about gay marriage, you’re wanting people to understand and accept you … and you still have a judgment about gay people and marriage. “ Despite this misunderstanding , DeGeneres is keen to stress that she only wants Jenner “to be happy”.

Even more recently, DeGeneres was the latest celebrity to join in the fight against the Boy Scouts of America’s controversial anti-gay policy. On an episode of her TV show, DeGeneres addressed at the issue with a playful comment: "If the Boy Scouts start treating gays equally, they’re going to become the first group to do it… after the Army, the Navy, the Air Force, the Marines, the Coast Guard, all of the United Kingdom and Cher. […] They won’t let their members be gay, or openly gay, anyway, but they’re letting them wear neckerchiefs and green short shorts!” On a more serious note, DeGeneres recalled the case of Ryan Andresen, the 18 year old recently denied the Eagle Scout award because he is openly gay. “The more that we teach people how to accept people for who they are, the more self-confident they’ll be and the better leaders they’ll become,” she said.

“I would love to have the same rights as everyone, as everybody else. I would love,  I don’t’ care if it’s called marriage. I don’t care if it’s called, you know, domestic partnership. I don’t care what’s called”
Ellen DeGeneres

And of course, nearly 20 years ago, when Ellen made the choice to stand up and become the public face for many lesbians, she had this to say: Ellen DeGeneres on Coming Out, Gay and Lesbian Rights Issues - Speech (1997)  

anonymous asked:

i thought canada was really homobic and conservative ? ? ?

are you dumb, Canada was the fourth country in the world to fully legalize gay marriage back in 2005 (many provinces/territories made it legal in 2003). Domestic partnerships had been granted since 1996 before that. It is cited in many lists as being one of the most gay friendly countries in the world. While it’s not perfect here (as anywhere else), I’m pretty damn proud of this country as we have some of the most advanced gay rights in the world. Traditionally, I live in a “conservative” province (compared to British Columbia or like Ontario) but support grows stronger with every poll that is released and our “conservative” government has really been losing it’s footing lately. I use conservative in quotations because our conservative party is waaaaaay less extreme than the Republicans in the US. So before you come for my country like that please check your basic information.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_in_Canada