marilyn: her life in her own words

Marilyn Monroe + Pregnancies and her dream of being a mother

“The thing i want more than anything else? I want a baby! I want to have children! I used to feel that for every child i had, i would adopt another.” Marilyn Monroe for George Barris - “Her Life In Her Own Words” (1962)

She loved children and the children adored her, Marilyn talked about her dream of being a mother in many occasions, but sadly, her dream was never accomplished - Marilyn suffered with chronic endometriosis, endometriosis can have both social and psychological effects, causing pain and inability to have children. Marilyn took pills since a very young age to relieve her strong pain during her period, her professional contract even had her off work whilst on her period. When she married Arthur Miller in 1956, she wanted to start a family with him, and she tried: Marilyn suffered her first miscarriage in late August of 1956, whilst filming ‘The Prince and The Show Girl’, “my heart is broken’, she said to her half sister, Berniece.
Marilyn’s second miscarriage was in August 1957, when she had found out she was pregnant in July (Marilyn was pregnant of approximately 2 months on the famous pictures of her with that white bathing suit, taken by Sam Shaw, which are often used to spread the myth that she was plus size, when in reality she was pregnant). She suffered an ectopic pregnancy in august, and when she left the hospital, there was a lot of paparazzi and fans out of there, she stayed strong and kept a smile on her face.
Marilyn’s final known miscarriage was in 1958, Marilyn learned she was pregnant in late October, whilst filming Some Like It Hot; on December 16th she tragically miscarried again. You can see her baby bump on the pictures of this post


Marilyn Monroe by George Barris, 1962. These were the last professional photographs taken of Marilyn before her death in August 1962.

“ She was a person of passion and great love, even when things were not going well for her. Sometimes I felt a sadness watching her, a beautiful girl who had achieved the impossible, a dream of all beautiful, talented girls - fame as an actress on the silver screen. I could see a sadness in her eyes; she had learned to smile, laugh, and clown, even though her heart was breaking. 

- George Barris in “Marilyn: Her Life In Her Own Words

Marilyn Monroe was a legend. In her own lifetime she created a myth of what a poor girl from a deprived background could attain. For the entire world she became a symbol of the eternal feminine.

But I have no words to describe the myth and the legend. I did not know this Marilyn Monroe. We gathered here today, knew only Marilyn – a warm human being, impulsive and shy, sensitive and in fear of rejection, yet ever avid for life and reaching out for fulfillment.

I will not insult the privacy of your memory of her – a privacy she sought and treasured – by trying to describe her whom you knew to you who knew her. In our memories of her, she remains alive and not only a shadow on the screen or a glamorous personality.

For us Marilyn was a devoted and loyal friend, a colleague constantly reaching for perfection. We shared her pain and difficulties and some of her joys. She was a member of our family. It is difficult to accept the fact that her zest for life has been ended by this dreadful accident.

Despite the heights and brilliance she attained on the screen, she was planning for the future; she was looking forward to participating in the many exciting things which she planned. In her eyes and in mine her career was just beginning. The dream of her talent, which she had nurtured as a child, was not a mirage.

When she first came to me I was amazed at the startling sensitivity which she possessed and which had remained fresh and undimmed, struggling to express itself despite the life to which she had been subjected. Others were as physically beautiful as she was, but there was obviously something more in her, something that people saw and recognized in her performances and with which they identified.

She had a luminous quality – a combination of wistfulness, radiance, yearning – to set her apart and yet make everyone wish to be a part of it, to share in the childish naivete which was so shy and yet so vibrant.

This quality was even more evident when she was in the stage. I am truly sorry that the public who loved her did not have the opportunity to see her as we did, in many of the roles that foreshadowed what she would have become. Without a doubt she would have been one of the really great actresses of the stage. Now it is at an end. I hope her death will stir sympathy and understanding for a sensitive artist and a woman who brought joy and pleasure to the world.

I cannot say goodbye. Marilyn never liked goodbyes, but in the peculiar way she had of turning things around so that they faced reality – I will say au revoire. For the country to which she has gone, we must all someday visit.

Marilyn Monroe’s Eulogy presented by Lee Strasberg

“The one thing a person wants in life, is usually something basic that money can’t buy.” –Marilyn Monroe. [Marilyn: Her Life in Her Own Words by George Barris.]

Another genuine quote by Marilyn herself! Photo is by Milton H. Greene, 1956, and is designed by yours truly~ 

The next time I read that people believe that The Secret Life of Marilyn Monroe is accurate I will scream.

Read these books and then come back to me and tell me it’s accurate:

Marilyn Monroe The Biography by Donald Spoto

My Sister Marilyn by Bernice and Mona Rae Miracle

MM: Private and Undisclosed by Michelle Morgan

The Marilyn Encyclopedia by Adam Victor (looks at a lot of different viewpoints of each topic)

My Story (ghost written by Ben Hecht, released after her death)


Marilyn; Her Life In Her Own Words by George Barris

Read this and you will see that there are so many flaws in its accuracy it may as well have been about someone else.

And Marilyn said in 1962 “Lies! Lies! Lies!”

anonymous asked:

hey megan :) do you know where i can find some (real) marilyn quotes ?


“I am not interested in money. I just want to be wonderful.”

“No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they are pretty, even if they aren’t.”

“I’m going to be a great movie star some day.”

“I learned to walk as a baby and I haven’t had a lesson since.”

“There was my name up in lights. I said, ‘God, somebody’s made a mistake.’ But there it was, in lights. And I sat there and said, ‘Remember, you’re not a star.’ Yet there it was up in lights.”

“Gee, I never thought I had an effect on people until I was in Korea.”

“That’s the trouble, a sex symbol becomes a thing. But if I’m going to be a symbol of something, I’d rather have it sex than some other things we’ve got symbols of.”

“I am invariably late for appointments–sometimes as much as two hours. I’ve tried to change my ways but the things that make me late are too strong, and too pleasing.”

“Sex is part of nature. I go along with nature.”

“He [Arthur Miller] wouldn’t have married me if I had been nothing but a dumb blonde.”

“I don’t want to play sex roles any more. I’m tired of being known as the girl with the shape.”

“[Hollywood is] a place where they’ll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul.”

“I don’t mind making jokes, but I don’t want to look like one.”

“Everybody is always tugging at you. They’d all like a sort of chunk out of you. I don’ think they realize it, but it’s like ‘grrr do this, grr do that…’ But you do want to stay intact–intact and on two feet.”

“It stirs up envy, fame does. People…feel fame gives them some kind of privilege to walk up to you and say anything to you–and it won’t hurt your feelings–like it’s happening to your clothing.”

“She [Sadie Thompson] was a girl who knew how to be gay even when she was sad. And that’s important–you know?”

“I want to grow old without facelifts. I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face I have made.”

“Fame is fickle and I know it. It has its compensations, but it also has its drawbacks and I’ve experienced them both.”

“With fame, you know, you can read about yourself, somebody else’s ideas about you, but what’s important is how you feel about yourself–for survival and living day to day with what comes up.”

“I knew I belonged to the public and to the world, not because I was talented or even beautiful, but because I had never belonged to anything or anyone else.”

“Only the public can make a star. It’s the studios who try to make a system out of it.”

“It’s all make believe, isn’t it?”



So how can you be certain that a Marilyn Monroe quote is authentic? Find the source and make sure it’s really originating from her. Old footage of press 
conferences, interviews in vintage magazines, and books by trusted and reputable people. Be cautious- there are a lot of books authored by people who can't 
verify that they ever even met Marilyn, let alone quote her verbatim.

My Story: Many famous Marilyn quotes are found in this slim  autobiography. While there has been heated discourse on just how much Marilyn 
contributed to it and how much was ghostwriter Ben Hecht, Marilyn did sit for interviews for the book, and did approve the final writing before abandoning 
the project over printing issues. Also giving it some credibility is that the anecdotes presented in My Story are echoed in Marilyn’s own voice in her 1960 
interview with Georges Belmont.  These are some quotes found in My Story that we can safely attribute to Marilyn:

“I used to think as I looked out on the Hollywood night, ‘There must be thousands of girls sitting alone like me dreaming of being a movie star. But I’m not 
going to worry about them. I’m dreaming the hardest.”

“In Hollywood a girl’s virtue is much less important than her hairdo.”

“Hollywood’s a place where they’ll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul. I know, because I turned down the first offer often 
enough and held out for the fifty cents.”

“I knew how third rate I was. I could actually feel my lack of talent, as if it were cheap clothes I was wearing inside. But, my God, how I wanted to learn! To 
change, to improve! I didn’t want anything else. Not men, not money, not love, but the ability to act.”

“The real lover is the man who can thrill you just by touching your head or smiling into your eyes- or just by staring into space.”

“The truth is, I’ve never fooled anyone. I’ve let men sometimes fool themselves.”

“I knew I belonged to the Public and to the world, not because I was talented or even beautiful, but beause I had never belonged to anyone or anything else.”

Will Acting Spoil Marilyn Monroe?–This excellent little book by journalist Pete Martin is based on actual interviews with Marilyn and was printed in 1956. 
It spends  time examining “Monroeisms’, those off-the-cuff but incredibly witty classic Monroe comebacks, as well as several of her well known quotes:

(on being asked if she wore falsies) "Those who know me better….know better.”

(on sex) “It’s a part of nature. I go along with nature.”

(on posing nude) “I did too have something on. I had the radio on.”

(on being asked what she sleeps in) “I sleep in Chanel Number Five.”

“I like to feel blonde all over.”

“I don’t care about money. I just want to be wonderful.”

“The Johnston Office spends a lot of time worrying about whether a girl has cleavage or not. It seems to me they ought to worry if she doesn’t have any.”

“I’ve been asked, 'Do you mind living in a man’s world?’ I always answer, 'Not as long as I can be a woman in it.”

“I learned to walk when I was ten months old and I’ve been walking this way ever since.”

Marilyn, Her Life In Her Own Words: This oft-overlooked interview conducted by George Barris just a few weeks before Marilyn died was supposed to have 
been a book collaboration between the photographer and the actress. Quotes included here are:

“Respect is one of life’s greatest treasures. I mean, what does it all add up to if you don’t have that? If there is only one thing in my life that I am proud of, it's 
that I’ve never been a kept woman.”

“It was my fans who made me a star.”

“I’m thirty-six years old. I’m just getting started!”

Richard Merymen Life Interview—This last interview with Marilyn appeared in the August 3, 1962 edition of Life Magazine and can be found in audio form 
as well. In this candid and direct interview, Marilyn said such things as:

“The least I can give them is the best they can get from me. What’s the good of drawing in the next breath if all you do is let it out and draw in another?”

“It’s nice to be included in people’s fantasies but you also like to be accepted for your own sake. I don’t look at myself as a commodity, but I’m sure a lot of 
people have.”

“You can read about yourself but what’s important is how you feel about yourself.”

“That’s the trouble, a sex symbol becomes a thing. I just hate to be a thing. But if I’m going to be a symbol of something I’d rather have it sex than some other 
things they’ve got symbols of!”

"What I really want to say: That what the world really needs is a real feeling of kinship. Everybody: stars, laborers, Negroes, Jews, Arabs. We are all 

“Who does she think she is, Marilyn Monroe?”

“Fame will go by and , so long, I’ve had you fame. If it goes by, I’ve always known it was fickle. So at least it’s something I experience, but it’s not where I live.”

““Please don’t make me a joke. End the interview with what I believe. I don’t mind making jokes, but I don’t want to look like one … I want to be an artist, an 
actress with integrity.”

This just scratches the surface  of the fabricated Marilyn quotes as well as the genuine ones. If you can’t find a source, Marilyn was clever, introspective, and 
relatable enough that there are plenty more quotes out there that you can be certain originated from her. Check and see if Marilyn actually said what you 
think she did before you make it your status update or yearbook quote. And for Heaven’s sake, double check it before you get a tattoo.



It has often been said that the biggest tragedy of Marilyn’s life is that she put her trust in the wrong people. After a childhood filled with a bewildering array of adults who were in loco parentis one day, out of her life the next, putting her personal faith and trust in anybody must have seemed a very risky business. In particular, Marilyn always found it hard to make friends with women her own age. In the words of Elyda Dougherty, “She was just too beautiful. She couldn’t help it that men’s wives looked at her and got so jealous they wanted to throw rocks!” Friendships with older women were much easier. Marilyn maintained lifelong relationships with Xenia Chekhov and Mary Karger Short, though in Arthur Miller’s view these bonds were not without their own complications, “veering from sentimental idealization to black suspicious that they disapproved of her.” For the most part, Marilyn friendships with women were only with those who she did not consider to be sexual competition.

During her young adult life Marilyn was so driven in her desire to become a star, that the people she associated with all had something that could help her achieve her dream. They tended to be studio bosses (Joseph M. Schenck) or agents (Johnny Hyde); at least these are the relationships that have been documented by biographers. Even after she became an established star, Marilyn continued to seek out the company of people she felt could be useful to her intellectually or professionally, or whom she admired (for example Michael Chekhov). Undoubtedly her initial attraction to Arthur Miller had much to do with his status as a prominent left-leaning intellectual; her devotion to Lee and Paula Strasberg also had a hint of this. Marilyn’s longest friendships, surviving the length of her career, were with a select group of journalists and photographers, such as Sidney Skolsky and Eve Arnold, on whom she felt she could rely for allegiance, support, and, sometimes, guidance. 

Fickle as she may have been in choosing and losing her friends, Marilyn was loyal, kind, and dedicated to those she considered to be her friends. Marilyn’s generosity is well-known. If, while out shopping, a friend expressed admiration for some item, she quite often made a mental note, called back later, and had the item delivered. She was also very solicitous of friends who were sick, and would make caring visits to make sure ill friends had everything they needed. This generosity of spirit extended to a loyalty to people she respected. For example, Marilyn refused to play along with the Fox publicity ploy of rivalry with fellow actresses Betty Grable and Jane Russell, with whom she was working on Gentlemen Prefer Blondes (1953). Marilyn also stayed very close to the children of her ex-husbands, long after her relationships with their fathers had failed.

Several times in her life Marilyn dropped a whole set of friends, either because she felt she had moved beyond them, or because she thought that they were no good for her. Journalist W.J. Weatherby put it to her directly that she discarded people. Marilyn replied, “I’ve never dropped anyone I believed in. My trouble is, I trust people too much. I believe in them too much and I go on believing in them when the signs are already there. You get a lot of disappointments.” And indeed, there were plenty of people, men and women, with whom she came into contact who were not interested in Marilyn the person, but Marilyn the trophy, Marilyn the status symbol, Marilyn the source of anecdotes. To this day, a number of people who claim to have been Marilyn’s “intimate friends,” despite little evidence to back this up, make a decent living from the Marilyn chat show circuit.

Marilyn was not, it seems, one to talk around an issue. If she was upset, or when she fell out with friends, she spoke her mind to the person concerned, and that was that. However, she avoided the many opportunities available to her to voice her personal grievances in public, or to respond to accusations made publicly about her.

Biographers agree that Marilyn’s most loyal friend of all was former husband Joe DiMaggio. Either side of their bitter nine-month married life together, Joe was always there for her when she needed him; he never exploited her for his own ends, and he cherished her memory in death by maintaining a complete and respectful silence about their relationship.

Marilyn had many actor friends: Robert Mitchum, Dean Martin, Montgomery Clift, Tom Ewell, Alex D’Arcy, David Wayne, Frankie Vaughan, Casey Adams, Zero Mostel, Wally Cox, Marlon Brando, Eli Wallach, Jane Russell, Peter Lawford, and Frank Sinatra. Montgomery Clift was a special friend. He once said, “Maybe Marilyn and I would have got together one day if we weren’t so much alike.”

Arthur Miller experienced the full course of Marilyn’s affections from admiration to friendship to love to disappointment to loathing. Referring to the first year they were together,1955, Miller writes, “She was at this point incapable of condemning or even of judging people who had damaged her, and to be with her was to be accepted, like moving out into a kind of sanctifying light from a life where suspicion was common sense.” By the end of their relationship, he too had become one of the traitors: “She had no means of preventing the complete unraveling of her belief in a person once a single thread was broken, and if her childhood made this understandable, it didn’t make it easier for her or anyone around her to bear.”

To some degree, Marilyn psychoanalysts fulfilled the listening ear function of friendship from 1955, when she first began regular sessions. In the last years of her life she was having sessions with Dr. Ralph Greenson almost every day of the week, sometimes even twice a day. Add to this brew Marilyn’s sometimes debilitating feelings of low self-esteem, occasional feelings of being unworthy of true friendship or incapable or reciprocating it, and friendship becomes a part of a general equation of unhappiness.

Marilyn was a big phone fan, particularly during nights when she could not sleep. She would call at the oddest hours and seek solace or just some chat from her friends.

A major source of support for Marilyn was the entourage she built up around her, a family of people who were there for her partly out of genuine feeling, but originally because she paid their wages: her hairdressers, maids, masseur, publicists, and secretaries. With these people Marilyn indulged her intense curiosity about social behavior, about how “normal” families are and behave. She was constantly asking her New York maid Lena Pepitone about her routine, her family in Italy, and her husband and sons, almost as if she was desperately seeking to learn the lines for a role she wanted so much to fill.

Marilyn used to ask her friends to “hold a good thought” for her. To this day, countless fans around the world continue to do so.

- The Marilyn Encyclopedia by Adam Victor.

anonymous asked:

Did Marilyn ever said anything about getting older?? was she scared or she didnt mind getting older??

“I sit in front of the mirror for hours looking for signs of age. Yet I like old people; they have great qualities younger people don’t have. I want to grow old without facelifts. They take the life out of a face, the character. I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face I’ve made. Sometimes I think it would be easier to avoid old age, to die young, but then you’d never complete your life, would you? You’d never wholly know yourself.” - as told to W.J. Weatherby in Conversations With Marilyn 

“When my looks start to go, so will most of the fans. So long, it’s been nice knowing you. But I won’t care. I’ll be ready. There’s other kinds of beauty, other ways of impressing people and getting over. I hope to do it by sheer acting, I do.” - as told to W.J. Weatherby in Conversations With Marilyn 

I read once the role of Blanche Du Bois in Tennessee Williams’ A Streetcar Named Desire. I’d like to play that on Broadway when I’m older.” - as told to W.J. Weatherby in Conversations With Marilyn 

“Women as they grow older should take heart. They’ve gained in wisdom. They’re really silly when they are twenty.” - as told to George Barris in Marilyn: Her Life in Her Own Words

‘On this day, the sun had disappeared over the horizon and the sky was turning dark. She looked at me with tears in her eyes. “I’m sorry,” she sobbed. “Is there any way you can take pictures without light?” How could I get angry at her? There was always an excuse, and I was sure it was legitimate. I gave her a hug and said not to worry, we’d do it another day. And to prove her sincerity, the next time we worked at the beach she gave more than her all, with never a complaint, never a break. She was determined to make it all up to me. Marilyn was a real trooper. Even when the sun went down and the wnds blew and it became cold, and she shivered, her skin turned red and her lips blue, she hardly whimpered or complained. Only when the day was almost over and I had just one last bit of film in the camera, she said, “This is for you, George.” Then she puckered up her lips and blew a kiss my way as I took the last pictures of her ever on that beach. It was around 7.30pm, Friday, July 13th, 1962.’

Marilyn Monroe photographed by George Barris, 1962.


“I am revealing no breathtaking secret when I say that Marilyn had a reputation for not being the easiest actress in the world to work with. Her eagerness and ambition cause her to tense up. She has difficulty remembering lines. She has been known to drive directors stark, raving mad. However, an interesting thing happened during the shooting of Itch. My favorite scene in the picture comes close to the end. It is a kind of serious and extremely difficult scene in which The Girl explains to the hero why she finds him exciting and attractive and why his wife has every reason to be jealous. Because of it’s difficulty and the fact that it ends with a long speech from The Girl, it was generally assumed that the scene would need several days to get on film. Billy Wilder patiently struggled through dozens of takes for every scene except this one. Three minutes later it was all over. Marilyn had done it, letter perfect with an emotional impact that caused the entire sound-stage to burst into applause at the end, on the first take. There was no need for a second. She told me later she was able to do the scene because she believed every word of what she was saying and because it seemed to her like the story of her own life.”
- George Axelrod on Marilyn’s performance in a scene from The Seven Year Itch.

anonymous asked:

saw this on twitter ((not my words)) & wanted to see what u thought of it "Marilyn Monroe had 3 failed marriages, multiple affairs with married men & died in a pool of her own vomit. Yet every girl quotes her."

Well I think that anyone who is stupid enough to not do any research to post such claims needs their head examined. But here are a few little pointers for anyone who comes up with a ridiculous statement: 

  • Marilyn Monroe may have had 3 divorces, but if that’s how you judge people in life, good luck to you.
  • She had one affair, which was common in the 1950s/1960s - wrong but it happened. Audrey Hepburn and Elizbeth Taylor did too. I don’t recall people slagging them off. 
  • She died of an overdose of medication given to her by her Doctors- the same as Michael Jackson. There was no vomit, it was an accident. 

I just correct the ignorance and put it behind me. People are twats sometimes haha


“I think I had many problems as the next starlet keeping the Hollywood wolves from my door. These wolves just could not understand me. They would tell me, ‘But Marilyn, you’re not playing the game the way you should. Be smart. You’ll never get anywhere in this business acting the way you do.’ My answer to them would be, ‘The only acting I’ll do is for the camera.’ I was determined, no one was going to use me or my body—even if he could help my career. I’ve never gone out with a man I didn’t want to. No one, not even the studio, could force me to date someone. The one thing I hate more than anything else is being used. I’ve always worked hard for the sake of someday becoming a talented actress. I knew I would make it someday if I only kept at it and worked hard without lowering my principles and pride in myself.”- Marilyn Monroe (George Barris, ‘Her Life In Her Own Words’, 1962)