Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.
Yelling at him in front of his friends
Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like
Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you
Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him
Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend
Forcing him to spend every moment with you
Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws
Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake
Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want
Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want
Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you
Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes
Telling him you are the best
thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love
Physically attacking him when ever you are mad
Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to
Invading his privacy by going through his phone
Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is
If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.
Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.
Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.
And you need to stop feeling ashamed of:
• being hairy
• having boobs that don’t look like perfect round porn boobs
• having no boobs!
• stretch marks
• curves in the “wrong place”
• wobbly bits
• dark circles under your eyes
• “big pores”
• “uneven skin tone”
• anything your body does naturally that isn’t an indicator of a health problem and that society wants you to change for the male gaze
“We do not need to reward men for doing what should be considered the basic minimum of decency in regards to gender equality…Women are not obliged to make room in the feminist movement for men to be given space, leadership and microphones - we have far too many women we need to make room for before we invite men to take the floor.
It is a false premise to insist that feminism must be conciliatory to men if we want it to succeed. If liberation for women could be achieved by politely asking men to give it to us, don’t you think we would have it by now? Structures of power aren’t dismantled by the kindness of those people they oppress - they are only strengthened.
Glamour might just be a silly magazine, but their actions still have impact. Women do not have enough space in the world. That’s the point. Stop giving away the little that we do have in some kind of weird attempt to curry favour with the boys.”
-Clementine Ford, ‘Feminism is not obliged to make room for men, and that includes Bono’
Injected male contraceptives are now 96% effective. But since 6.25% of men had side effects like “depression, muscle pain, mood swings, acne and changes to the libido,” drug trials have been halted. (Read the article here.)
Weird. Of the roughly 50% of young cis-women who take the pill, many (way more than 6.25%) experience the same. damn. side effects. And, surprise, they’re expected to. For the past 50+ years, women have been taking on these burdens to have heteroSEXual relations that don’t involve pregnancy.
In other words, grow up, guys. If you have a penis and it produces viable sperm, it’s time to step up to the contraceptive plate. Do your part, or don’t expect your female partners to do theirs.
As we know, women have to break down many barriers on the road to success. One of those barriers is the way we are constantly reminded we are not men, as if it is a flaw. People call me one of the “world’s greatest female athletes”. Do they say LeBron is one of the world’s best male athletes? Is Tiger? Federer? Why not? They are certainly not female. We should never let this go unchallenged. We should always be judged by our achievements, not by our gender.
The ultimate sign that women accept their colonisation, that they accept the domination of men, is when they agree to police other women and try to ensure conformity among their daughters, sisters, friends and acquaintances. Rather than their oppressed state engendering a solidarity and mutual sympathy among women, the all-too-urgent need to attract male protectorship makes women competitive. They see each other as rivals and often become hostile to one another.
All men support and perpetuate sexism and sexist oppression in one form or another … Like women, men have been socialized to passively accept sexist ideology. While they need not blame themselves for accepting sexism, they must assume responsibility for eliminating it.
bell hooks, Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center