The amount of “it’s just a joke” comments I get on my posts here like yeah we know what it’s meant to be genius but that doesn’t mean those sort of “jokes” don’t have an impact on how society views marginalized people (or victims of rape, violence, etc….) or how those of us who don’t have the privilege to joke around about certain aspects of our lives feel when we hear them. Plus like, why even bother commenting? Do you really think your “It’s just a joke” response is some new and exciting concept that is going to change all our minds? Just keep your mouth shut and let the grown ups talk.
Geekdom is the only place where socially shunned males can be save and be themselves. So when women, who exclude them outside geek culture, invade those save spaces and force the scene to conform to their wants and rules they leave the men with nowhere to go. Where can they flee? They're backed into a corner. Attacking invading women is not harrassment - it is defense. Women hate socially inept males. Why should they not hate them back when they try to destoy their only sanctuary.