male engineer

anonymous asked:

Hello, I think I wrote you over summer saying that I was going to start mechanical engineering and how excited I was... I remember being super motivated by your tumblr. I've finished the first semester now, and I feel like I don't fit in a all. There are barely no girls, boys are really pretentious and never actually help others, 400 people in lectures which are really useless, as they teach easy basic stuff but then the exercises for the workshop are unreal... any survival advice ? Thanks xxx

This literally describes my freshman year in a nutshell.

A hard fact of engineering is that there are just not going to be any females. It’s a fact, it’s unavoidable. We’re underrepresented to an extreme, but we come out stronger for it (at least we try).

The boys are going to be pretentious, but there is also going to be a small group of them, usually the super quiet ones you haven’t noticed yet, who aren’t asshats. Be friends with them. They’re helpful, and will actually ask you for help (most engineering males subconsciously don’t think they need help from women (but they do)). Also, you’ll end up running away to drink margaritas with them on Thursday nights after finishing a computer program that made you want to punch someone.

The lectures will get smaller, the people will chill out and realize engineering is a team sport, and you’ll get to know your professors on a more personal level. You just have to make it through your first year. It gets so much better, I pinky promise. Harder, more time consuming, but oh so worth it.

Olicity and Fanboys!

@emmilynestill asked  me after 520 if I thought Felicitys apology was to appease the fanboys, so here is my take:

As I have mentioned before, I am an engineer, so ever since the age of 17, as a female in STEM, my life has been basically surrounded by males, engineers, trekkies, big bang geeks, and yes fanboys!  

I am also a mother of 4, 3 are scifi/comic book geeks! I guess it runs in the family; and in all honesty, they are much easier to deal with in real life.There is no drama, they are practical, they are into scientific concepts, we fan over the same ideas; and they are extra helpful to the females in the field.  I have been lucky not to experience misogyny from my class mates or co-workers of the same generation.  I can even say the same about my professors and most of my employers, they expected the same deliverables and there was equal pay!  

My point is what you see on reddit/twitter and youtube is not reflective of what you get in real life.  These guys would never repeat what they write on reddit in real life in the presence of real females.  Social media is where they huff and puff and let out their inner misogyny that they don’t dare practice in real life because they are smarter than that; because they know it’s wrong!

Do I think Felicity’s apology was to appease the fanboys?  

I must say that partly yes.

The fanboy reaction from the guys I know for last nights was this:

1. Felicity looked superhot, she should not wear her glasses and she should keep her hair down
2. Why is this happening only in the 20th episode when they have had a whole season to treat this?
3. And how did she go from this to Billy?
4. We need more stunts like that; and more toys (T-sphere)
5. Second set of T-spheres should not have worked either as long as the EMP was functional (some of the science of EMP was done wrong)
6. We never doubted that Olicity was endgame
7. Glad that Felicity apologized because the whole breakup was unnecessary drama and the apology signified that it’s over; and now they can have their Oliver back; because they did not like weak soppy Oliver!

The fanboys are not as in touch with the emotions of the situation; but they are smart enough to see the pattern that Felicity’s speeches does to Oliver; and they partly resent his dependence on her for good judgement.  They see it as weakness on his part and it partly displays the inferiority complex that they have with regards to females who are smarter than them in their own STEM field which Felicity represents; something they will deny till their death bed!

Going back to your question over whether the apology was to pacify fanboys? Yes partly!  

The other part comes from two things:

1. The fact that the 4.5 flashback was not planed, the writers may have left Olicity ambiguous knowing they will have to address it by 5.20, but you only use a flashback when you realise you can’t advance a plot without setting a bar for it. A bar you had previously dropped or omitted!  

They needed 4.5 to tell us that:

a) Felicity apologized for walking out in 4x15 and 4x16

b) They stayed broken up because she couldn’t come to terms with why he didn’t trust her

c) He didn’t explain why he didn’t trust her because he didn’t know why or was in denial of why he couldn’t trust her so he didn’t have an answer

d) she needed more time before they could talk again.. (that did not make sense) because where did Billy come from? How did we go from there to a closed door? That’s what happens when you rush a storyline, you leave big gaps, and you drop threads!

This is proof that 4.5 was an after-thought.  Because Hello where did Havenrock factor into this? She had not met Rory yet, and had not received absolution from his storyline.  Felicity was very happy in that 4.5 flashback, it seemed her only issue was that she didn’t want to settle for a part of Oliver, she wanted him wholly to be hers.

2. The way all of season 5 was planned; the whole waste of 5A on introducing the recruits took so much time from the original story line that by the time Oliver was confessing to Adrian that he liked to kill, and the revelation of 5x17; they had written themselves into a deep dark hole, that they needed Oliver to recover from fast in order to defeat Prometheus by the end of the season.

 I think they realized at some point (if I am to believe Marc that they don’t write for the ratings) that the only way to get Oliver out of his funk is for Felicity to give him that speech!  But how can they do it now, after what they have spent 18 episodes separating them? So they write 19 and 20 and the 4.5 flashback; to tell us that Felicity has always loved Oliver, and that her issue was that he didn’t trust her; and that now that he finally explained; she could forgive him; and give him that speech so they could move on to vanquishing Prometheus together.  

The writers needed a speedy recovery; hence the apology.  And although they fumbled the apology words; they sacrificed clarity for the immediate need to get Oliver and Felicity out of the hole so they could fight united and wrap up 19 episodes of misery. Her experience with Helix is not what changed her position; its his confession; its Oliver answering the 4.5 question of how its not about mistrusting her, its about mistrusting himself, that is what made her understand, forgive and regret judging him. In all fairness had he confessed in 4.16 it would have been resolved then; and she would have stayed. 

I have to point out that in their rush to finish this season; the writers sacrificed many things; and dropped many threads:

  • How did we go from I need time to dating Billy?
  • What happened to Felicity’s abdominal scars from 4x09?
  • What happened to her Havenrock PTSD that she should have still had by 4.5?
  • Where was this subconscious self mistrust in season 3? Because that Oliver was very confident when he went to rescue Malcom and make deals with Ras? Shouldn’t that have tainted most of his decisions and made him mistrust his own flawed judgement in season 1, 2 and 3?

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I can’t draw, so I’m just gonna dump my oc team and their physical descriptions on you lmao. I present you, Team Burg

Matthias Müller – Finish – Spy class (male)
Platinum blonde hair (medium length, slightly curly), dark blue eyes. Tall and muscular, pale skin.

Alice Müller – British – Sniper class (female)
Coal black hair (Long length, always tied up in a rolled up bun, straight), dark brown eyes. Tall and slim, pale skin.

Henry King – British – Engineer class (male)
Dark brown hair (Medium length, always tied up in a bun, slightly curly), dark brown eyes. Dark skin, Medium height and very muscular. 

Sophia Chawka – Polish – Medic class (female)
Greying Blonde hair (Extremly short, bob hair cut), light brown eyes. Pale skin, medium height, slightly muscular. 

Haluk Abdil – Turkish – Scout class (male)
Coal black hair (Very short, straight), green eyes. Dark skin, tall and slightly muscular. 

Adam Castle – British – Pyro class (male)
Bald, dark brown eyes. Tanned, medium height and very muscular. Burn scars on left side of the face.

Emil Beaufort – French – Soldier class (male)
Blonde hair ( Very short, straight), bright blue eyes. Tall, very muscular, pale skin.

Sabrina Winterberg – German – Heavy class (female)
Ginger hair (Very short, curly), dark brown eyes. Tall and very muscular, pale skin.

Akiko Oshiro – Japanese – Demolition class (female)
Coal black hair (Very short, straight), dark brown eyes. Medium height, muscular, pale skin.

I’m convinced that half of them are elves, half are vampires, and all could kick my ass

obligatory raven cycle teacher AU

Okay, but—imagine medieval history teacher!Gansey, and the very first thing he says to his students isn’t a greeting, isn’t an introduction to the class, isn’t even his name, but the question: “How much do you know about Welsh kings?”

Imagine tiny, angry botany teacher!Blue, who the little raven boys poke fun of at first, whispering behind their hands, because she’s a woman, she’s so small that she looks like she could be a first year, she wears clothes that she obviously made herself, and she teaches what they think is a silly elective, an easy A, but somehow, by the end of her first year teaching, she makes sure that there are raven girls as well as raven boys admitted to Aglionby Academy, and that there are more scholarship students in general. Of course, her Raven Boys aren’t the least bit surprised. In fact, Gansey is super proud, and may or may not finally get off the topic of Glendower to start rambling about how wonderful and opinionated and smart (and pretty! did he mention pretty?) Blue is. The raven boys (lowercase) never make fun of Blue again.

Imagine Latin teacher!Ronan, who takes advantage of the fact that all of his students suck in order to (not-so-)surreptitiously hit on Adam, the engineering teacher, in Latin. Adam gets all red and flustered, and they have entire conversations (arguments) in Latin about Ronan’s lack of professionalism, and the freaking bird he lets fly around the school like she owns the place, while their students look on, slack-jawed.

Imagine engineering teacher!Adam, finally comfortable in his own skin, finally secure enough not to cringe when some smug little raven boy makes a snide remark that they think he won’t hear because of his deaf ear, and then one year, he sees this girl sitting in the back of his classroom, listening so intently. Girls are already a rarity in the school, and so much more so in a male-driven field like engineering, so he reaches out to her, trying to encourage her to speak up, but everything about her, from her lowered head to her huge, frayed sweater, screams that she’s too shy. She quickly becomes his top student, though, and he becomes her favorite teacher. Then, one day, he notices the bruises she can’t quite hide, and she meets his gaze even less than usual, one eye ringed in blue, and he holds her after class to say, “I’m sorry if it means you never trust me again, but I have to report this. I have to make sure you’re safe.” And she must see some truth in his eyes, something of that abused little boy he could never quite walk away from, because she says, “Okay.” Even after a social worker takes her into custody, he can’t quell the tremor in his hands, but Ronan wraps his own around them, and they both go home early, and Ronan holds him for the rest of the night. Eventually, she comes back to thank him, and it’s the best moment in his entire teaching career.

Imagine Noah, who was once a teacher at Aglionby too, but it feels so long ago now that he can’t even remember the subject anymore. There’s something special about the school, though. That’s why he holds on, wandering through its halls aimlessly, sitting behind desks that feel both familiar and unknowable, sitting in the teacher’s café with peers who ignore him, eating nothing, but holding on. Except, one day, teachers who can see him show up at last, and finally he’s included in their conversations when he sits next to them in the café, and he knows he was right about the school being special after all. For the first time in a long, long time, he’s happy. He’s found his place in the world.

Why ARE so many the larger male engines in Thomas the Tank Engine so… oddly attractive-looking?

They’re not typical cutesy kids show characters. 

Look at their big, sensitive eyes.  Their defined lips.

Who the hell would they be trying to appeal to with this kind of thing? The moms who have to watch the show with their kids?  The fairly small portion of the older fanbase that isn’t a straight male?

Maybe I’m out of my mind and it’s just elements of the model series carried over to CGI.

But, still, I want to know the reasoning behind this.

The Lonely Path of This INTJ

As an INTJ female, I often struggle to find my place in the world around me. As a child and even now as an adult, I rarely am able to connect with other females. I never was or am the type now to go along with the crowd. I want to get along with others and connect, but their interests just never seem to align with my own.

I do not obsess on outward beauty, fashion, or being “appealing to a man.” As a child I was actually a tomboy, but the boys often gave me a hard time too because I wasn’t one of them. As I grew older and entered teenage life, I got more in touch with my “feminine” side, but I still was ridiculously independent in my pursuits. I take a certain amount of pride in my appearance, I’m always clean and presentable, but I relish a more natural beauty approach. I don’t obsess or over complicate it.

Today as an adult, I find it difficult to truly connect with most people, male or female. Most do not think as deeply as I do or appreciate the pursuit of knowledge as I do, (I know that can sound arrogant, but it’s just a fact). Many men just see me as female and try to approach me in a flirty or condescending way, which just pisses me off. Many women see me as too stuck up or bitchy or “unfemine” in my manner. I have little interest in fashion, interior design, or “cuteness.” My apartment is very clean and organized, but not very “pretty,” because I really don’t care about these things and I have far better things to spend my hard earned money on. Also, my natural interests and pursuits tend to be in more male dominated fields like engineering, sciences, math, and many others. As a musician, I have focused on playing “lead” guitar, especially blues, hence the origin of my username, but once again I find this pursuit rare among other females.

When I do happen to stumble upon a person where a natural flow of conversation and connection takes place, I greatly value that. But then again a problem arises. With men, most often much older than myself, occasionally younger, they misinterpret our connection as something more like romantic interest. This is not so in my viewpoint, but they act upon that notion and just ruin it. I’m not interested in dating much older men, married ones, or those much younger than myself, and once again I find myself alone. ( I will say the younger cutes ones are tempting, but the huge gap in mental states is just too much to bare!)

I tend to connect with females that are either much older than myself, or younger. That is great and I don’t dismiss that, but once again there is a void with those my own age. This is just my reality and I speak of it to simply put it out there, because I feel as if others may experience the same. I get it, you are not alone.

I would be interested in feedback upon this matter with other female INTJs, and also the unique perspective of the male INTJs as well. Even if you are not an INTJ, but can relate, please share!

anonymous asked:

hi i am here to grab u by your cheeks and tell you that you can totally work in special ed if you think that's what you would enjoy. i think that the world has opened up to a lot more gender blindness in careers like male nurses and female engineers, as well as a huge amount of progress in lgbt+ rights. if you think that special ed is where you would fit into this world, i believe that you can do it, and if anyone gives you shit, you can always start again at another school. i believe in u buddy

i want to thank y'all for sending me encouraging messages like this one because it’s given me a boost of confidence and i think i’m going to seriously start considering special ed as a career choice 💕

Being a Woman in STEM

It’s interesting. You don’t hear women in STEM jobs talk about this enough.

I’d like to talk about how I felt at my first job out of college. I had a Master’s degree in geography, I had just written and successfully defended my Master’s thesis, I’d presented my work at conferences. But at my first job as a GIS Specialist, I felt like I was just that cute GIS chick. Ugh!

Let me tell you how that happened…

I got hired for my first job at an engineering firm while I was still in graduate school. It was kinda like a co-op, I interned part-time while in school, then upon completing my degree, was offered a full-time job as their GIS Specialist for the entire company (which had a handful of branches around the country).

I wasn’t sure what to expect, because all I knew before that was academia, being in a geography department where there are people my age, people from different countries, races, ethnicities, and a good mix of men and women. I loved grad school, the camaraderie and support was awesome. But my first job was nothing like that. It was mostly white men. Now, there’s nothing inherently wrong with white men, of course, what matters more is how specific people treat one another professionally.

Going in, I kept an open-mind and a pleasant attitude. I was happy to help people better understand how to utilize GIS, since they had never had a full-time GIS employee. I got to learn a lot about the crossover between GIS and CAD, how engineers utilized geography (such as always use a projected coordinate system since most engineers work in State Plane), and how GIS works in the real world with environmental analysis. I did learn a lot during my time there. However at the same time, socially, I felt so miserable. At first I wasn’t sure why, this was all new to me, but I just had this nagging feeling that I was uncomfortable all the time, and it took me some time to articulate what that nagging feeling was. Eventually, I started to get it. It was this subtle feeling of experiencing sexism. Weird, right? Haven’t we moved past this already? Why the fuck am I dealing with sexism in the 21st century? 

Originally posted by boldlygiffing

I never saw myself as the social-justice-warrior Tumblrina type, but still, this was happening! What do I do? I need a job, I want to work in my field and be treated just like any other GIS person, perhaps not even like any other GIS person, but a very competent GIS person. Anyway, here are some actual experiences I had, that I felt was sexism in the workplace.

I remember when I was working there, the way the good ‘ol boys treated me. The older engineer coming into my cubicle to supposedly ask me about this GIS toolset he heard about for his engineering project and he wanted me to explain how it worked. No problem, I’m happy to help. He took the other chair I had in my cubicle and dragged it right next to me, like 5 inches away from me to my right, and smiled at me with googley eyes while I tried to explain how I thought those GIS tools would work. This guy was a dad, married, middle-aged. And he didn’t say anything inappropriate, which is the tricky part. You can’t exactly take action when a coworker hasn’t explicitly done anything to create a hostile work environment. But it made me so uncomfortable because I could tell he wasn’t fully listening to me. You know how to make a young woman in STEM feel small? By making her aware of her gender and age while she’s trying to talk to you as another coworker.

Originally posted by theweekmagazine

Then, after I explained everything he asked me about, he patted my shoulder and said “Thanks, sweetheart.” That’s when my gut-feeling was confirmed. But I was 22, this was my first job. What was I supposed to do? I didn’t quite know. This guy had worked there for many years, it was my first year. I didn’t want to make waves at my first job, especially since getting started in GIS was hard enough. Was this enough reason to talk to HR? I didn’t have much to compare this to, other than my days working as a cashier in the lumber section at Lowe’s. But being a college girl working at Lowe’s, it doesn’t come as a surprise. You just roll your eyes and look forward to the day when you don’t have to deal with that shit. But then going into the supposed “real world” and it being the same shit all over again, maybe not as overtly suggestive but the feeling is the same, you wonder how far have we really come?

I want to clarify though, it wasn’t every guy I worked with there. There were some really cool dudes that I absolutely enjoyed having as coworkers. Unfortunately none of them had any authority over my position or influence on my workload.

I felt so aware of my gender and age whenever I had to talk to some of these male coworkers. One of my male coworkers would just go into my cubicle when I wasn’t in the office, and rummage through my desk or log on to my computer without telling me. I would come into work the next day to see his username on my log-in screen, or some binder I was using missing. That didn’t happen to anyone else in the office. But that guy was very chummy with my boss, so when I came forward about those issues, my boss hardly took me seriously. I remember my boss saying to me “Well, if you REALLY want to do something about this, I can bring him in here right now and we can all have a conversation about this together. What do you think?” His tone of voice made me feel like I was being dramatic, I needed to take a chill pill, since I was making something out of nothing. Was I though? It made it so hard for me to want to talk to anybody the more this happened. I just wanted to be treated as an equal, is that so much to ask?

Originally posted by ohxoz

Over time, I became increasingly outspoken because the office hired more outspoken women who encouraged me to assert myself more, since they were doing it too. It finally started to feel like I had some allies. I started calling some of these guys out for treating me like a doormat. You know how that went? Hint: not that well. When I became more outspoken, it became “WHOA HO HO! Look at Rachel, she’s being so sassy! I like this new Rachel.” While they all surround me and laugh about my sassiness. Yes, that actually happened. I started honing in my poker face at that point.

The main thing is, and maybe you’ve figured this out by now, it seemed like from the start they looked at me like I was just some cute chick who wasn’t serious about the job and didn’t know diddly-squat about the the industry. I felt like a source of amusement to them, not an equal, and even though their words didn’t confirm it, as a woman you get a gut feeling when it’s happening. You start looking at other situations differently, and assessing the way other women work in this environment. I looked up to the few middle-aged moms who held their own there, and wondered how they did it. Maybe since they were closer in age to the management, those guys didn’t look at them the same way? Or perhaps those women just didn’t care because they didn’t have to work under them, it didn’t affect their positions.

I will also add that it wasn’t just me that felt this way. I became friends with a couple of other women who held professional roles at the company, and they felt the same way! I couldn’t believe it, for so long I thought it was all in my head. It was funny because eventually it started to feel like that movie “9 to 5″ and had us all questioning what year this was again. 

Originally posted by thecountryfucker

Over time as we started realizing we all were going through the same frustrations, and we started having each other’s backs. There were some younger men who worked there who saw it too, that we felt were our allies. They witnessed the way these men would talk to us and it pissed them off too. One woman was getting suggestive IMs from a male engineer that was married with kids, another was having some of the men forge her signature to sign off on projects she was managing while she was out of the office for meetings. Truly astonishing how disrespectful some of these men were to us. And when we took action, they all scoffed and downplayed the issues as hard as possible to cover their asses. And of course nothing happened when we complained. So what happened? We all left.

But here’s one thing I remember thoroughly enjoying. Once us women realized what we were all going through, in meetings, we would compliment each other so all the men could hear it. Compliments on feminine things, like our fabulous shoes, a new haircut, or even just a job well done on a recent project. If we weren’t going to hear it from management, someone had to remind us we were still doing good. Because we were! No matter what they tried to tell me, I knew I was doing great. So great that I was able to get another [better] job as a researcher at a huge university, in another part of the country. I patted myself on the back for that accomplishment.

Here’s a funny tidbit–a year after I moved away for my new job, they had the gall to reach out to me asking for GIS help on a project. Apparently the employee that replaced me didn’t know how to do some GIS stuff, so they were wondering if I could call this new employee and walk them through it. I basically responded saying that I found that request inappropriate, and that I had written documentation on that project before I left. Come on.

Originally posted by wifflegif

I apologize this post wasn’t technical or about some helpful technique for using GIS. I know I haven’t done a post like that in a while, and it’s because work has been busy lately. But I also think it’s important to talk about our experiences, so that it might help someone else going through these experiences. 

Not every feminist is a man-hating tumblrina; some women are feminists through their actions and their expectations of being treated just like anyone else. That’s how I like to practice feminism. If something like this ever happened to me again, I think at least this time I would notice it immediately, and call them out on it. Don’t be afraid to tell someone they’re making you uncomfortable, because you have a better chance of nipping that behavior in the bud the earlier you establish boundaries.

Thanks for reading!

A male engineer explains why so many men in Silicon Valley behave so badly toward women
Many men who work in the tech industry are over the recent stories of sexual harassment of their female colleagues. Even so, few of them are surprised by them.
By Julie Bort

The best explanation we’ve heard in recent weeks about why Silicon Valley seems to breed so many men who behave so badly came from an engineer who cut his teeth at Facebook. His take is that the big money Silicon Valley often throws at young engineers who are right out of college stimulates this “frat house” mentality.

“It’s like, here you go, you’re 21 years old, here’s a $100,000 signing bonus,” said the engineer. “Then they think they are hot sh-t. They think, ‘Now people are going to respect me. Now women, who may have ignored me, they are going to respect me.”

And with that, a sense of entitlement can be born.

I never make posts on here but I am so goddamn excited about the new Stargate show I am shitting my pants. 

This show was so formative for me. When I was a kid, I worshipped SG-1. I wanted to double major in astrophysics and archeology when I was 8 and I sure as hell wouldn’t be where I am today without it. Mechanical Engineering is male dominated and challenging to say the least and part of the fuel for the fire driving me was having role models like Sam and Janet in SG-1 and then Elizabeth and Teyla in Atlantis. 

The idea that we’re getting a brand new take on Catherine Langford’s story and by a director who is a woman on top of that is so freaking cool I can’t even contain myself.

This could spark a whole new generation of Stargate fans and inspire more girls to be whatever they want. 

tl;dr Stargate is my favorite show that has probably existed and this prequel is going to be so freaking hype

Over time, however, web work professionalized. By the late 2000s, Ehmke says, the profession began to stratify, with developers who had computer science degrees (usually men) occupying the back-end roles, and self-taught coders and designers slotting into the front.

you don’t even need good marks to get into a computer science course, just fuckin’ do it!

women have higher representation in fields that are much harder to get into and much more intimidating, like medicine; are male engineers really that offputting to (white) women