making people feel uncomfortable

anonymous asked:

tuafw you're trying to get to know someone and show interest in them so you ask them lots of questions but afterwards you find out that that makes people feel uncomfortable because they feel like they're being interrogated. How do you keep a conversation going naturally?

Well, social skills really depend a lot on the context of the situation, as well as your personality and the personality of the other party. That’s why it can be tricky at times, so don’t feel bad about it. Being someone who struggled with it, and has more or less learned to pass, I would say that it’s really a give and take. 

It’s good to show interest by asking questions, but the way to make it not sound like an interrogation is to give something back. So you’re getting information about them, but you need to give them information about you, like in the scenario below. 

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anonymous asked:

M-mod Ichi I have a crush on you! //////

…W-what?

I-I…? Me? Why me?!

All I ever do is be boring and get lazy and slack off on this blog and occasionally answer asks that make people feel uncomfortable, and on my main blog, I just act like I’m the whiny middle child of the fandom who can’t control her life or her mouth or her ability to maintain friendships…

~Mod Ichi ;; >/////<

My opinion about the signs

Okay… I know this is not really my type of content but I always find these interesting to read so I thought I’ll post one myself.

Aries: you can count on them, don’t take things too seriously, get mad at small things, much fun to hang out with, somewhat egoistic, as soon as they find someone more interesting than you they will hang out with them (though, they will not forget about you)

Taurus: I always become extremly good friends with them, so relaxing to hang out with them, weird humour, very determined and stubborn, talk a loooot, in a relationship they need a lot of physical interaction, they make me feel like home, laughs about every little thing, cute laugh

Gemini: fun people to hang out with, their humour is so… unexpected like they say things you would have never thought about, tend to hide their serious feelings/emotions, take the side of the person they want to impress, think too much about how they can impress someone rather than just beeing themselves (even through their personality is way more charming)

Cancer: a little too sensitive for my taste, can get very annoying but they are too cute to be mad at, need a lot of protection, very giggly, great story-tellers (but they tend to tell you the same story over and over again), materialistic, put you first, loves from the bottom of their heart, pretty smart but dumb at the same time

Leo: warmhearted people, try to be funny and cool all the time (but fail eventually lol too cute), buys you a lot of gifts, attention-lovers, likes to meet new people, very vain when it comes to their appearance, very nervous when having tests/exams, naturally intelligent (unfortunately this doesn’t help them much in school), enjoys good food

Virgo: stress themselves way too much, overthink everything, usually very good in school, gets mad and stressed when things don’t work out as they thought they would, sort of a boring personality, they can talk sooooo much, very sensitive (!!!), tend to be too harsh on themselves, high expectations of themselves

Libra: naturally flirty af, cute smile, scared to be alone, talks most of the time about themselves, makes sure everybody is getting enough attention, very lazy, does things in the last minute, usually the one studying for a test/exam the lesson before, clumsy, needs protection, don’t like confrontations/fights, not good at making decisions or being on time

Scorpio: just like libras they talk a lot about themselves, get veeeeery obsessive over things and people, their staring is so intense that it makes me feel uncomfortable, cares a lot about their loved ones, scared to show feelings, makes very weird but cute compliments you would have never gotten from anybody else, sporty, try to flirt but that’s just a little… cringe-worthy lol

Sagittarius: now… these people are the absolut oppostie of me, always awkward when we hang out together, not the most loyal boyfriend/girlfriend/friend, always wearing top outfits, always looking good, cares a lot about their hair or in general their appearance, not the best in school, party every weekend, straightforward

Capricorn: makes sooo many cute compliments, I have this weird attraction towards them, extremly sexy, intelligent, can’t sit still, they are very weird people, humour consists of sarcasm and dad jokes and can be very dry, know way too well how to seduce people, not the best in expressing their feeling but they try, ABSOLUT SWEETHEARTS, gets shy when being complimented, very sensitive, never forget their mistakes and always regret them (no matter how small it was)

Aquarius: makes me feel like home at the very first meeting, either pretty chill or being pissed off at silly things, don’t like stubborn people, tendency to be very religious, very good friends, will do everything for and with you, works hard to reach their goals, plans everything weeks/months before

Pisces: I either like or can’t stand them, actually quite egoistic, not the best in using the right words, sensitive af 24/7, dark humour, cries a lot, scared to hurt someones feelings (even if they don’t like the person), avoids confrontations/fights by not saying what’s really on their mind, in a fight they will say the most hurtful things (and will regret them their whole life), using the victim-card way too often, most of the time smiling

It’s okay not to love everyone. You don’t have to pretend to like and get along with everyone. Let’s be real, there will be people who are just too different to you or make you feel uncomfortable or unwanted. It’s okay to distance yourself from them. Don’t feel guilty for this.

  • Me: cis straight people make me feel uncomfortable, tbh.
  • An exclusionist, crawling onto my porch: yes, my fellow LGBTPN, i too hate the cishets! that is why we must defen--
  • Me, swinging a broom wildly in their direction: SHOO! OUT! AWAY!!

trimax-na-boken  asked:

But WBC is real with actual documented incidents. What has a real SJW ever actually done besides make stupid people feel uncomfortable on the Internet

There is no such thing as “a real SJW”.  “Social justice warrior” was always a negative label from the beginning, created to designate those that are not representing social justice as it should be (kind of like how the term “weekend warrior” is used to describe someone who’s normally boring from Monday through Friday, but goes out of their way to indulge themselves irresponsibly on the weekends in an attempt to compensate).  Wearing that label unironically is like publicly proclaiming that you’re a bigot.  You’re utilizing the No True Scotsman logical fallacy here.  Also, the fact that you said “make stupid people uncomfortable on the internet” really doesn’t reflect well on you, especially when the majority of anti-SJWs are liberals, LGBTA people, minorities, etc. that are simply “uncomfortable” with how you’re poorly representing what we believe in.  The fact that there even is a divide between people that all desire equality just goes to show that someone is doing it wrong (hint: It’s not the anti-SJWs).  If anything, you’re just showing people exactly the kind of attitude that people hate about SJWs.  It’s the fanaticism.  It’s the extremism.  There are people who simply have faith in a higher power, and then there are people like WBC, who actively use that faith to try to harm others.  This is why they’re really the perfect analogy when discussing what SJWs are to activism.

In any case, are you sure you want me to answer this?  Because I don’t think you’re going to like what you see.

What has tumblr done, you ask?:

    Meanwhile, the sane people of tumblr mocked the shit out of them for intentionally kicking the hornet’s nest, and then whining when they got stung.

    Why?  Because 4chan contributed over $23k to it. 

    I’m sure all of this doesn’t even come CLOSE to what SJWs have done overall.  I could probably spend weeks finding all sorts of bullshit to put on here.  I openly invite others to add onto this, as I’m sure there’s a lot that’s been left out (@takashi0 might have a list on hand).

    This is why people are against “social justice warriors”.  They are NOT representing social justice.  They are NOT supporting equality.  They are only giving liberals, activists, women, minorities, and the LGBTA community a bad name.

    you are not:
    • a burden: there’s a bucket of reasons why you should not feel like one. perhaps you’re overthinking, worried, or feeling down. but don’t ever feel like you’re being such a burden. you are part of the population. you are important. without you, this world would lose the opportunity to be changed in your own simple ways. you are necessary. you are loved and it’s okay to be your own priority.
    • a disappointment: you’re not! i’m proud of wherever you are right now. im proud of your progress; no matter how enormous or minute it might be. if you failed your test, it’s okay. if you didn’t win the competition, it’s alright. im pretty sure you did your best and it’s that part that will always matter. don’t let other people’s “what a shame” bring you down. YOU. ARE. NOT. A. SHAME. you are blooming in your own simple ways. and I am proud and happy for you. continue growing, aspiring, believing in yourself. i’m proud of you.
    • a weirdo: most definitely never a weirdo! if you like doing things that are quite different, that does not make you a weirdo. that makes you special and even more precious. it was such a perfect combination of atoms and dna that led to a beautiful creature that is you and oh dear god, you’re amazing. your way of thinking is creative and the way you do things is totally out of this world. you are beyond the things earthly. you are meant for greater things. and you are most definitely not a weirdo.
    • ugly: whoever said you were, should most definitely need to get their eyes checked. when was the last time they went to the eye doctor anyway? if there’s anything that i’d like to be, it is to be as beautiful and as bright as you, a total human version of sunshine. your eyes light up like a ray of sunlight, your lips are perfectly carved like cherries, and your noise is huge or small and it’s cute. most definitely cute like a button. and the world should be in awe every time you wake up.
    • not good enough: you are good enough. you should feel good enough. if somebody’s making you feel like you’re not, then that only means he does not deserve you, the brightest star light in the universe. you deserve to feel loved. your strength and your smiles make this world a better place. you are good enough: always have been, forever will be.
    • alone: i’m here for you, your dogs are there for you. your cats are waiting for you. your pets will always be at your back, giving sweet and soft head bumps to make you feel loved. your music playlist is there for you to blast when you’re feeling a tinsy bit down. you are never ever alone. we’re constantly caring, loving, and waiting for you. please stop frowning and crying, you are loved.
    • stupid: you are, as a matter of fact, really really intelligent and even smart! perhaps you’re having difficulty in understanding your math or chemistry lessons, but that’s part of the process! at least you’re learning. i’m pretty sure some people will not be able to understand it just like you. but that doesn’t equal to being stupid. you’re just learning. continue to crave for knowledge and continue to make your curiosity work. you are not stupid.
    • annoying: you are never annoying! just keep on talking if you feel like sharing the entire story of your life. if you want to hit me up, that’s perfectly fine too. you haven’t even said anything to make me feel uncomfortable. people would love to hear you out, to befriend you, to be part of your social bubble. no you’re not being extra annoying, friendliness does not equal to being annoying. honestly, just keep on doing you. if that’s what makes you feel happy, then you’re doing fine.
    What Your Sign Seems To Be

    Aries: you can count on them, don’t take things too seriously, get mad at small things, much fun to hang out with, somewhat egoistic, as soon as they find someone more interesting than you they will hang out with them (though, they will not forget about you)

    Taurus: I always become extremly good friends with them, so relaxing to hang out with them, weird humour, very determined and stubborn, talk a loooot, in a relationship they need a lot of physical interaction, they make me feel like home, laughs about every little thing, cute laugh

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    I’m just honest with, you know, my life and my life experiences. A lot of people don’t like talking about negative things. They don’t like people making negative jokes, especially about themselves. It makes people feel uncomfortable. They’re like “oh, you shouldn’t joke about these things, it’s not funny” but I think that the main problem in people’s lives is pride and not talking about things ‘cause they’re scared. Everything comes out of a place of fear. Society makes us feel this fear and guilt for different things and instead of the bad things being something you just harbor resentment, which turns into fear, which lead you to the dark side, if you just wear it on your sleeve and joke about it… If you talk about it and other people relate to it. You know, if I talk about the bad things in my life, it might be a weird concept to joke about them but that will just make someone else go “hey, I’m going through that too” and maybe not take it that seriously.
    — 

    @danielhowell during his live show on the 3rd of October 2017 (x)

    Quotes from Dan (90/?)

    Remember to talk about things and not let them fester and turn into something dark that you’re scared to even think about.

    2

    A Youtuber A Day: Dan Howell & Phil Lester [3/7]

    I guess you could call this “personalities 2.0″ I really, really like the contrast between these two, who I find soft and neat even when they’re summoning satan. 

    please reblog if you liked!! sharing is caring!!!

    Okay something that honestly annoys the crap out of me are friends that think since you’re out, they can out you to people who you don’t know.

    I’ve been out and proud for a little over 3 years now, and I don’t mind telling new people if they ask politely. I don’t mind talking about it with someone who genuinely wants to know and is curious. Please, ask me things. I have no problem with it.

    What I have a problem with is walking into a room full of people I don’t know with a friend and the first thing out of her mouth is “hey guys this is Kendall and she’s my lesbian friend.”

    Stop right there.

    That is not your job. That is not your choice. It is not your prerogative to out me. It is not up to you to decide who knows.

    I do not know these people. They’re brand new to me. I don’t know where they stand on topics like this. And honestly, that’s a little scary. I want to take my time and feel these people out before I tell them something like that. It’s my life, only I should get to decide who knows what about it.

    This has happened to me on multiple occasions and almost every time afterwords someone has come up to me and said “I’m sorry she did that to you.” I know she didn’t mean any harm by it but it still makes me feel uncomfortable. And I’ve seen it happen to other people and my heart goes out to them.

    So please please please please please, if you have a friend who is not cis/straight and you are introducing them to new people, do not start by outting them. Even if they’ve already fully come out, do not rob them of their comfort. Let them do it themselves. It honestly makes a world of difference.

    I really hate it when people try to plant doubt into trans folks’ minds (especially young trans folks) for stuff like surgery and hrt by saying things like “you need to be 100% sure here, NO hesitation” and “this is too sudden a decision, you need to think it over more." 

    Because like, 1) duh. But 2) these are never spur of the moment decisions. Trans people DO think this over. A LOT. And I guarantee we have thought about this way more and know way more about this stuff than any intrusive cis person who thinks they get an opinion on trans bodies. 

     Plus, I feel like the only reason anyone says things like that is to make sure the trans person DOES feel doubtful of their decisions. But hey, guess what, trans bodies are not public property!! You don’t get any say in what we do with our bodies!!! Stop trying to lowkey have control over trans folks. Stop making people feel uncomfortable about their own decisions. 

     Trans folks are already accustomed to feeling self doubt about our identities, so I promise that you really, truly do not have to worry about us being hesitant, especially for these big decisions. You’re not helping by offering unwarranted opinions.

    Originally posted by vernybvitday

    WARNING SIGNS
    • <p> Emotional manipulation is about control. The goal is to gain power over the situation, over you. Manipulation is accomplished through toxic tactics, behaviors, actions and attitudes.
    • Toxic people are controlling, insecure and self-serving.
    • TRUST YOUR GUT
    • (Your feelings are valid. If someone makes you feel uneasy that is reason enough to avoid them.)
    • Over talking, barely listening
    • (If someone controls the conversation and/or doesnt really listen to you, be wary.)
    • Charming, too good to be true
    • (coming as everything you want, agreeing too easily, too perfect.)
    • Overbearing, too many compliments
    • (Preoccupied with a trait, story of yours. An unusual level of flattery.)
    • Asking too personal questions
    • (Wanting you to share personal details. Becoming irritated even jokingly when you refuse.)
    • Expensive, over the top gifts
    • (Unwarranted lavish gifts, trips)
    • Must be right, must “win” the discussion, argument
    • (everything’s a debate)
    • Refuses to apologize
    • (Seems insincere, can’t apologize or excuses bad behavior, blame-shifts. If they spill their drink, it’s the waiter fault for putting it too close to their arm.)
    • Passive aggressive
    • (Eyes rolls, silent treatment, criticisms disguised as comments, stubbornness, intentional mistakes, disregarding time)
    • Drama Queen, Drama King
    • (They are always in the midst of some turmoil that’s usually someone elses fault.)
    • Negativity, Complaining
    • (They complain, find fault in basically anything. Especially if you suspect they’re already upset.)
    • Saying one thing but doing another
    • (Words don’t match their actions. Say they never lie but lie to a stranger)
    • Lyings even the small ones
    • (Omitting information, changing stories, twisting the truth)
    • Grandiose stories
    • (Something feels off. Trying to hard to impress you or others.)
    • Tales of woe
    • (Campaigning for your sympathy or pity)
    • Badmouthing Ex’s
    • (Talking negatively about anyone is a bad sign. Healthy people don’t vent to strangers)
    • Sharing way too much too early on
    • (Telling you stories or details that seem too personal and may make you uncomfortable)
    • Gossipping
    • (People gossip to make themselves feel/look better. They tear others down to lift themselves up. Sooner or later they’ll do it to you too.)
    • Disrespectful, disloyal
    • (Excusing bad behavior like cheating, lying is a small jump to mistreating you.)
    • Talks down to service people, strangers (watch how they treat people who can do nothing for them)
    • Hero mentality
    • (Always the savior, always right, people are lucky to have them)
    • Victim Mentality
    • (Someone else is to blame for their problems; ex, family, friends, strangers, boss and coworkers)
    • Feeling drained after spending time together
    • (The people closest to you should lift you higher. Not deplete you.)
    • Constant Attention/Reassurance
    • (needs validation to feel good. Becomes upset without reassurance)
    • Insecure
    • (Easily upset or angry. Overreactions to perceived slights, injustices or normally minor issues)
    • Little to no boundaries
    • (Invades your space, occupies too much of your time)
    • Too Eager to please
    • (Willing to sacrifice own needs for your wants)
    • Offering advice or opinions, Pointing out insecurites,
    • (Healthy people don’t give unwanted advice or opinions.)
    • History of toxic relationships or failed jobs
    • (Especially if they are never at fault. It was the other person.)
    • Jumping into the relationship
    • (Saying your their best friend, soulmate to early on. Using social media to prove their relationship. Oversharing photos and posts about you. Inside jokes and texts are needed to validate  They may share texts with others to brag or as proof.)
    • Validation, cares too much of other opinions.
    • (Needs to be seen as “good” by others)
    • Put downs, sarcasm, judging
    • (Using sarcasm in place of a real conversation. Putting down you or others.)
    • Expects you to be grateful
    • (Gets upset if you are not as grateful or as impresses as they think you should be.)
    • Makes you feel like you owe them
    • Controlled by their past
    • (If their business failed you shouldn’t start a business. Their past dictates everyone’s future.)
    • Paranoid
    • (Is sure others dislike them or are out to hurt them)
    • Self-centered
    • (Confidence inspires others. Conceited people are unhappy with another’s success and good fortune. They believe that it is owed to them)
    • Jealousy
    • (Makes comments about others. Doesnt like to be upstaged. Feels threatened by others happiness.)
    • Inattention
    • (Selectively ignoring you, paying too much attention to their phone, talking to others instead of you.)
    • If you find yourself making excuses for anothers bad behavior (behavior you would not tolerate from yourself or others) that’s a warning sign.
    • Healthy individuals are respectful, loyal and honest people who value integrity and humility. 
    • Toxic people divert responsibility, blame others, refuse to apologize  and are insincere. 
    • They disregard others boundaries, feelings, wants and needs for their own.
    • If you are disrespected, mistreated, used or abuse you have every right to stand up for yourself.
    • If someone becomes upset or angry at your boundaries then that’s where their respect for you ends. 
    • Remember you are the company you keep. You will bring out your own toxic behaviors if you surround yourself with toxic people.
    • (If you lie with a dog, don’t be surprised when you get fleas.)
    • Emotional manipulation is emotional abuse. 
    • Do not justify or excuse hurtful or harmful behavior and actions.
    • Save yourself the trouble, walk away. Trust your gut and find someone who treats you right.
    • Let it be. Let people live their lives.
    • You can’t save, change or help another person who disrespects you or others, who sees no issue in their actions, who doesn’t want to change.</p>

    *whispers* Alec Ryder was a shitty parent, and the fact that he feels bad about it, and sacrified his life for one of his kids (which he arguably only did to safe his wife the pain of losing a child), does not make up for a lifetime of neglect.

    Posts urging folks to argue or fight with their bigoted relatives always make me so uncomfortable. I feel like a lot of people who make those posts either haven’t thought about or don’t care about the fact that it’s routinely unsafe for people (especially children) to start such arguments when they’re living in an abusive household.

    My dear lgbt+ kids. 

    If you can’t go to any Pride events, you’re not a bad person or a bad member of the lgbt+ community! 

    You don’t need to go to Pride to prove anything to anyone. Your identity doesn’t matter any less if you can’t or don’t want to join any specific event. 

    This applies if

    - you’re in the closet and fear going to Pride would make people around you suspicious 

    - you feel uncomfortable in large crowds 

    - your chronic illness or disability makes it hard to go to events 

    - your mental illness or neurodivergence makes it hard to go to events 

    - you can’t afford traveling (for example because you live in a small town and would need to travel to a big city for Pride) 

    - you’re afraid there might be lgbt+-phobic counter-protesters 

    And any other reason! Don’t listen to anyone who tries to make you feel bad for not going. 

    Saying that people need to go to Pride goes against anything Pride stands for.

    With all my love, 

    Your Tumblr Mom  

    Request: ok how about this, u have sex with the members (preferably yoongi) n after that they leave because they are being dicky idiots and u text them but they hurt u by saying some mean shit and after that they regret it. make it as angsty as possible!

    Words: 2503

    Member: YOONGI X READER

    *Here is PART ONE.*

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    Requests for texts are open!

    enJOYYY


    There were a bunch of situations that could make Yoongi feel uncomfortable in life.

    Take interacting with people for example. He wasn’t very fond of meeting new people because that would mean inviting a string of awkward introductions, cringe-worthy handshakes and unnecessary, nonsensical blabber which people normally referred to as ‘small talk’. Then there was ‘Aegyo’. What the fuck was that shit anyway? Acting dumb to appear cute? Not exactly his cup of tea.

    However, the situation that topped the list of ‘Things that make Yoongi uncomfortable 101’ was receiving compliments. He was not very good with handling praise and by some weird logic that his brain had chosen, being liked by someone fell in this category.

    Which brings us to the situation at hand.

    He had some amazing sex with you, his friend, and bolted immediately after that and if that was not enough to make him feel like shit, he had said some really, really bad things to you. He had this terrible defense mechanism- if he felt threatened (because being liked by you was absolutely terrifying, for some odd reason), he would hit the person where it hurt most. That’s what he had done by calling you an attention whore. It hadn’t seemed this inappropriate at that time. It was something he had said out of spite, to hurt you, so you would just back off. He didn’t want to talk about the reasons- why you had sex, what were you guys supposed to be now, why did he leave- it was all too much.

    However, now as he sat on the edge of his dining chair with an eternal frown on his face and his phone in his hand, reading the texts he had exchanged with you over an over again, he came to the conclusion that his defense mechanism had fucked with him so bad that now he was left feeling more uncomfortable than ever. The last text he had sent was a week ago. You had not talked to him for a week.

    He felt guilty, no doubt. However, apologizing did not come easy to him. He had just figured that after his pathetically childish text saying ‘good fuckn bye to you’, you’d mope around for a while and in some time just come back to annoying him with your torturous puns…but you were nowhere in sight, literally.

    “Yoongi-ah, is that you?”

    Yoongi turned around in his chair, the frown not leaving his face, and saw Jin coming towards him with an amused expression on his face.  “You look like death.”


    “I feel like it too.”

    Jin raised an eyebrow at his younger friend. “What happened to you? Having problems with the new album?” He said as he sat down on chair next to Yoongi’s.

    Yoongi groaned into his hands as he whined, “That’d be so much easier, hyung.”

    “What do you mean?” Jin asked him, confusion painted on his features.

    Yoongi hit the power button on his phone to bring it back to life and reluctantly clicked on your icon. With a frown, he handed the phone to Jin.

    “____? Okay, let’s see what you did.” Jin said.

    After a moment, the silence in the room was broken with a surprised- “Woah, you had sex with her?” by Jin.

    Yoongi nodded an affirmative.  

    “’Yahhh~” He patted Yoongi’s back and went back to reading the messages excitedly. “Let’s see…okay, she asked you where you were and…” Jin’s eyebrows knit themselves together in a frown as he continued reading. “Yoongi…what have you done?”

    Yoongi avoided Jin’s eyes and looked down at the table with his hands in his lap. “I know…I messed up.”

    Jin hurriedly moved his chair forward and he leaned towards Yoongi, with a frantic expression on his handsome face. “Messed up? No dude, you didn’t mess up. You fucked up! And royally fucked up. What the fuck, Yoongi? Why would you call her that?” Jin asked.

    Hearing Jin say it seemed to waken Yoongi up, not in a favorable way, albeit. The situation seemed much more real now. In that moment Yoongi had a couple of realizations. He did have sex with you. He did bolt(from his own house). He did say shit. He did hurt you. However, the worst of the lot? He really, really liked you.

    Needless to say, Yoongi couldn’t believe his timing. If he had only come to terms with this fact before he started behaving like rotten bastard, things would have been much different.

    “Hyung.” Yoongi looked towards Jin. Jin nodded for him to continue.


    “I like her.”


    “O-kayy~” Jin dramatically banged his hands on the table. An action, which was a huge contrast to the smile he had on his face. “You’ve finally gone mad! Great. I’m outta here.”


    “Hyung!”


    “What?! You want me to believe that?” Jin whisper shouted for no particular reason before he sighed and sat back in his chair. “You like her and you called her an attention whore? You’re impossible, Yoongi-ah. She won’t believe you. Heck, even I can’t believe you.”

    Yoongi slumped in his chair, unintentionally pouting, as Jin continued to scold him. His mind, however, had already jumped to you. What were you doing? You would take an apology, wouldn’t you? Yes, you would. You had to.




    “______!” 


    You looked away from the television to see Jin taking of his shoes and giving you a bright smile as he entered your apartment, which was open because you knew he would be coming. You gave him a small smile and motioned with your hands for him to sit beside you. “How’ve you been?” He said as he took his seat on the couch, to your right.

    “I’ve seen better days,” You sighed. “But yeah, I’m not too bad. How about you? We haven’t met in ages, it was great to receive your call today.” You said with narrowed eyes.

    Now, it’s not like you were intentionally trying to make him nervous but you knew he had come because he wanted something and you wanted to know what it was. Of course, Jin was a great guy and both of you were good friends but that was it. You never hanged out together or chilled with each other. Your meetings just happened because you were at the same parties due to being in the same social circle.

    Needless to say, you had been more than surprised when you received a call from him last night asking you to meet up.

    Jin nervously laughed as he looked around your living room uncomfortably, avoiding your eyes. Finally, after a minute of looking here and there, he straightened up and met your eyes. “___, I’m here to request something.” He said and you nodded for him to continue.

    “Yoongi feels bad. Won’t you give him a chance?”


    Ah, so that’s what this was about.


    You levelled your eyes with Jin and frowned. “Are you serious? How old is he? He can’t even come and speak for himself?”

    “No-no,” Jin hurriedly interrupted you, “ He’s here. Downstairs. He just didn’t know how to break the ice, so I’m doing that for him.” You raised an eyebrow at that but Jin continued. “Look, he really likes you. Honestly, I have never seen him this stressed. All I’m asking for is one chance. Talk to him just once, hm? If he fucks up this time, I’ll make sure to drag him out and keep him away from you.” He looked at you desperately. You shrugged. Talking was fine with you, although you would definitely not make it easy.

    Jin’s face immediately lit up and he took out his phone, giving Yoongi a missed call, which was his cue to come up. Then he got up, as did you, and gave you a light hug. “ Thanks and I’m sorry. He can really be dick sometimes. I hope it works out for you guys.” With that, he put on his shoes and left your apartment. A few minutes later, you heard a knock on your front door and saw Yoongi awkwardly standing at the entrance.

    “Come in.” He came in and sat down beside you. 



    “I’m sorry, ___.”



    You looked at him. His usually laid back demeanour had all but vanished. In it’s place, you could see shame and guilt. His eyes were on the floor while his hands, those beautiful hands, were fidgeting with each other and it seemed like his feet could not stay in one position for too long.


    Yeah, nervous was an understatement.


    It wasn’t enough to soothe your anger, though. You could still vividly recall how terrible and miserable you had felt after he left you, in his house, and then told you to get out. Then, there were some things he’d called you- an attention whore, annoying etc.- and while that did sting, what really hurt you was something different.


    “Yeah? You’re sorry?” You scoffed. “Wow, the world must be really coming to an end.”

    Yoongi looked up upon hearing this and frowned as if debating what to say. Finally, he came up with, “N-no. I really am sorry.”

    “And pray tell Mr. Min, why would that be?” You said, your words oozing sarcasm.

    Yoongi sighed, as if he was expecting this. “Because I was a dick to you after er…you know, we uh h-“

    “After we had sex?” You completed his sentence. “Yeah, dick is an understatement.”

    “Look, I’m trying to apologize here.” Yoongi snapped. “And you’re not making it easy. I’m truly sorry that I called you all those horrible things okay? I didn’t mean to. It just…happened.”

    As soon as he said that, it was like some switch flipped inside you. You metamorphosed from a sarcastic listener to a beyond angry and hurt woman.

    “You didn’t mean to, you say?” You spoke in a glacial, steely tone, surprising even yourself with the iciness of your voice; however, you were too angry, too hurt to pay heed to that realization. “It just happened? You arrogant bastard!” Your voice was now rising with each word.

    Yoongi looked at you, taken aback by the sudden change in your behavior but you were not about to console him. How surprised or shocked could he possibly be? Surely not more shocked than you, when you were told that you’re an attention whore?

    “Min Yoongi. You’re one shameless twat.” You scoffed out, while Yoongi kept looking at you, his eyes full of guilt and pain. “But you know what? I could have handled that because I could believe that you called me names in your immaturity. You know what really hurt me Yoongi?” Your voice slightly faltered. Immediately, Yoongi stood up, coming closer to you.


    “You knew it. You knew I liked you.”


    Your lip was quivering now, your eyes full of unshed tears. Yoongi kept coming closer to you until he was no more than half a feet away. By now, your tears were falling freely. No, you weren’t bawling but you weren’t wiping them away either. You were hurt and you had lost the energy to hide its rawness. Meanwhile, Yoongi stood his ground, half a feet away from you. Slowly, he starting bending down on one knee and then he brought down his other knee to the ground. He rested both his hands on his knees and hung his head low. He was giving you the most sincere form of an apology.

    “___, I…I didn’t want to do that,” He began. “I just bolted and I didn’t know how to deal with it.” He looked up at you, his face colored with a tint of desperation. “I like you too, ____. I really do. I am so sorry about that night; I acted like an absolute dick. Please forgive me this one time ___. I swear to fucking god I will never give you a chance to be angry with me again. Please.”


    “Okay.” You said, without a second thought.


    Yoongi looked surprised, and you could see why. You were behaving like Hulk one second and forgiving like Jesus the other. It was an odd combination.

    “R-really?” He asked you.

    “Yes. I’m not completely okay, I’ll let you know that but your apology and will to change that rotten behavior of yours make a big difference. This was your first mistake, Min Yoongi. I’m willing to forgive you for it once. Just…don’t do it again. Live up to your words.” You said.

    Yoongi got up and in one long stride; he took you in his arms. It wasn’t a tight embrace full of passion. It was thankful embrace. He was thanking you.
    You removed your hands from the sides and hugged him back, sighing softly.

    Yoongi broke the hug first but he didn’t remove his hands from your waist. You put your hands on his chest. “Thank you, _____.”

    You closed the distance between both of you and gave him a light peck on his lips. Before you could pull back completely, he moved forward to capture your lips in his again. He kissed you and the world fell away. It was slow and soft, comforting in ways words could never be. Warmth spread throughout your body. This was it. You’d kissed him before; heck- you’d had sex with him, but this felt so intimate. This wasn’t just a bunch of horny adults eating each other’s faces out. These were a bunch of horny adults who were in love.

    As your lips crushed together, you felt like you were walking on air. You savored his lips and the quickening of his breath matched your own. A kiss like this was a beginning, a promise of much more to come. You finally pulled away and smiled. Truly, genuinely smiled. Yoongi reciprocated your expression and minutes went by before he spoke again.

    “So,” He looked at you fondly, his arms still on your waist and yours, still on his chest. “We’ve chilled together a bunch of times, yeah?”

    You looked at him confused, “Yeah, what about it?”

    “Well, I was thinking about taking you out for a real date.” He smirked.

    He completely shocked you with that. You knew he didn’t do dates. “Really?”

    “Yeah,” He pulled away from you and took you by the hand, pulling you towards the couch. “I’ll decide the place and everything. You up for it?” He asked you as you sat down on the sofa cross-legged, facing him.  You deeply studied his face for any hint of sarcasm but couldn’t find any.

    “You serious, sleepyhead?”

    “Hey!” Yoongi protested. “I’m serious, really. Will you go?” He asked you once again, biting his lower lip, waiting for you to answer him.

    You, on the other hand, were screaming inside. What would you not giveaway to see Yoongi going through the torture of planning out his date with you but here he was, asking you himself and that too voluntarily. You were beyond excited.

    “Well?” Yoongi tugged you back to reality.

    You looked at him and produced something between a happy smile and an evil smirk. Boy, was this going to be a ride.

    “A thousand times, yes.”