make life a ritual

spellbound (m)

Pairing:  Jimin x Reader
Genre: witch!au (sort of based on the secret circle), smut, comedy, slight angst
Warnings: dom-ish!jimin, magical sex rituals (so slight blood play, breath play, temperature play), rough sex, cumplay
Word Count:  10k+
Summary:  The only reason you agreed to do this magical ritual with Park Jimin’s Circle was for the sake of your own Circle - to strengthen your individual magic. Yes, that means you’ll have to fuck him, but no, you weren’t happy about it because you hate Park Jimin. Once again, you were only doing this for your Circle. 

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here’s some more lil tips 4 u all

1. this might seem obvious, but wash your pants too. if ur like me and rewear those same leggings for 3-4 days in a row AND wear thongs or lace undies or bikini cut or really any underwear… just fucking wash your jeans trust me.

2. seriously just use moisturizer. ik ur reading this and just had a thought starting with “but…” girl there is no excuse for you not to. i’m a greasy ass italian bitch who sweats every fucking day and the right moisturizer changed the game for me.

3. be patient with skin products/regimes. shit doesn’t change overnight, but it works. although if you do experience redness or dryness stop using that product immediately.

4. just go to the doctor. if you have insurance or are still on a parent’s insurance, visit the doctor any time there’s even the slightest issue. they can help with mental health as well as physical health fyi.

5. treat the doctor like your best friend. don’t hold back. if your pussy hurts, speak the fuck up. if you’re smoking hella weed and it’s causing u issues, just tell them. some of them can be assholes but generally speaking they’re really there to help and will appreciate the honesty.

6. don’t freak out over a pimple. this isn’t just a “ohh ur still beautiful!!” thing it’s also a “the more u think about it, the more you’ll subconsciously touch it, the more it’ll get irritated” thing.

7. excercise. walk. get out in the air. offer to go grocery shopping with ur parents. walk around the block. exert yourself just a tiny bit every day, you’ll sleep better.

8. if your sleep schedule is off, don’t try to pull an all nighter to fix it. you will fail. work it back up to a normal time hour by hour daily.

9. busty ladies, invest in a nice bralette or other wireless bra from an online vendor. i’m a size 38F so finding them in stores can be tricky but they’re worth it. on days where i wanna just be casual and comfy but like yaknow in a cute sexy way, they’re perfect.

10. be confident & be unique! don’t sweat it if u are or aren’t atm, just find the things about yourself that make you YOU and go fucking HARD on that one thing (or few things). don’t be afraid to stand out, but also don’t be afraid to be misunderstood.

11. soap. cleanser. exfoliator (twice a week MAX). toner. moisturizer. in that order.

12. go to a movie alone. pretend nobody else is in the theater. react like you would at home watching a movie on netflix (with your parents or roommates home so that u don’t talk loudly in a theater).

13. go vegan. even if you don’t care about animals (lord knows i don’t), it’ll encourage you to eat better by boxing out bad foods. somebody brings in cookies to work? tell them you can’t have any cause you’re vegan. they’ll respect it or fear you’ll start ranting to them if they push you anymore.

14. go a little while without shaving your pussy, see what happens. if you don’t like it, shave it again and you’ll have a smoother-than-normal downstairs :)

15. have a go-to mindfullness place. an image in your head that doesn’t remind you of anything that causes worry. mine is an imaginary field in the middle of a forest, and i pretend i’m a big grizzly bear feeling the grass on my back. try to really make this image come to life in your mind. think of this when you’re suffering from insomnia, when you’re panicking, when you’re sad, when you’re alone.

16. speaking of depression tips! go buy a journal right now. when you’re having a meltdown, open up the journal and start listing things you love. this includes (but is definitely not limited to) mundane things like socks or hardwood floors. it forces you to be in a mindset that thinks positively about things and simultaneously reminds you of the good in the world.

17. are you sad? put on fun/goofy music and deep clean your room.

18. wash your pillowcases you dirty bitch. i know you drool in your sleep. and your nasty face is rubbing all on it all the food you ate today is just rubbing all over that motherfucker ew just wash your pillowcase.

19. hate prepping for extended-family holiday visits? ask for lush spa giftcards for christmas. and if they think that’s too impersonal, just tell them to order whatever at all from their website. you can’t really go wrong with lush products.

20. make a playlist that makes you feel sexy and put it on. listen, dance and wiggle in your bed or chair, and then masturbate for the best nut of your life!

21. do rituals. something that makes you feel like you’re in control of the universe. it can be as simple as lighting a candle and thinking really hard about the same sentence over and over. it’s hella empowering.

22. binge watch 2 shows at once. one for comedy/lighthearted fun and another that’s maybe more serious but something you’ve wanted to see for a while. switch them out as you see fit.

23. listen to audiobooks! find a use for them, whether it’s sleeping, walking around, or just mindless daily tasks.

24. don’t over caffeinate if you are prone to anxiety. if your absolute maximum is 4 cups of coffee per diem, start replacing your regular daily coffee intake (let’s say it’s two cups) with 4 cups of black tea. don’t drink any caffeine after 6 unless it’s a special occasion.

25. nobody is staring at you. and if they are, it’s because they’re trying to fully process all the uniqueness that they see in you, and that’s a good thing. no exceptions.

The Twisted Yarn

One of the simplest and yet most complex tools in magic is also one of the oldest – and that is the yarn, cord, or string. Whether it is the Gyre-Carling at her wheel, the valkyries at their macabre loom, or the Fates measuring and cutting the strings of men’s lives, the symbolism was all through mythology that later seeped into popular folklore and fairy tales from Rumpelstiltskin to Sleeping Beauty. All of these have elements of magic in them, but a little-known tale from the Brother’s Grimm is an even better example for the witch’s arsenal.

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The DEH teens and the five theories of deviance

Of course I don’t think this was intended, but it’s something I was thinking about today. Each of the five teenagers in DEH seem to fit into the five different theories of deviance- the reactions a person will have when a deviant act is committed.

1. Conformity- Jared. Throughout the show, Jared constantly tells Evan that he is only a “family friend” and he tries to blow off Connor Project things by saying “I said I was going to hang out with my real friends” or things along those lines. He also tells Evan “just nod and agree. Don’t make shit up!” when Evan reveals he’s lied to the Murphys about his relationship with Connor, and even goes right along with the plan to fake emails. Jared tends to be the funnyman who is also somewhat representative of all of the other students who think Connor is crazy and while they have no reason to really hate Evan (in the beginning, at least) they also don’t have any reason to go out of their way to talk to them. While he doesn’t seem to be pinned to the “typical conformist” archetype, when an act of deviance is committed (i.e. Connor’s suicide, Evan faking the emails, the truth getting out) Jared goes right along with Evan’s plan and when things don’t work out, he molds himself right back into the world of the other students. Jared tends to follow conformity whether it be to the rest of the student body or to Evan’s plans.

2. Retraction - Connor. The most obvious example of this is obviously his suicide. While it’s not stated whether or not Connor’s suicide was intended or accidental, in the idea that it was, Connor was dealing with his broken family life and his depleted relationship with his sister. He also deals with the entire school believing he’s crazy and not having any friends. Due to all of this buildup, Connor escapes, or retreats, by using drugs. The drugs are a sort of release from the everyday terrors Connor faces, unfortunately, when Connor is high he is irritable and abusive to his family and others and it only drags his life further down into the hole he’s trying to release himself from temporarily. This goes on for a while until Connor finds Evan’s letter and sees Zoe’s name in it. While Connor was mean when we see him alive, he’s also super high, and it’s also known that Connor has a super protective instinct over his sister, and seeing this letter from someone who didn’t even know her may have been the last thing Connor needed to end his life and retreat for good. Evan’s letter (the deviant act) is responded to with suicide (the retraction).

3. Innovation - Evan. When Cynthia and Larry think that Evan’s letter to himself was actually written by Connor, and Evan doesn’t have the heart to tell them it wasn’t, he starts the first of a long fabrication about this friendship he had with Connor. In For Forever, he simulates the day in which he and Connor go to the old orchard where Evan falls out a tree and breaks his arm and Connor is there for him. Sincerely, Me is about Evan and Jared creating fake email exchanges between Evan and Connor to show the Murphys and prove they were actually friends. In If I Could Tell Her, Evan tells Zoe all the things he loves about her, but passes them off as if Connor said them and never got a chance to tell her. He even goes so far to create a social media movement during Disappear, ‘The Connor Project’, dedicated to 'keeping Connor’s memory alive and that everyone should matter’. All of these things, however, all stem from a letter that Evan wrote to himself and Connor found- during one of the two’s only interactions, the other one in which Connor pushed Evan to the ground. Evan doesn’t know how to say no to people or tell the hard truth, so he continues to create a world of lies for the Murphys to hide under while dealing with Connor’s death- Evan doesn’t necessarily represent positive innovation, but it’s definitely innovation.

4. Ritualism - Alana. Alana is the super smart girl who is always ambitious to start new projects and learn new things, obsessed with getting new things to add to her resume. Alana is a perfectionist, and she barely refers to anyone as “friends” only “acquaintances”. When Connor dies and Evan starts the Connor Project, Alana jumps at another opportunity, especially one that can prevent anymore kids who feel invisible from killing themselves. Alana does multiple extracurricular activities and devotes almost all her time to them, and she spends every day doing so many of these similar things. When she realizes that everything Evan’s done is a scam, she flips, and promptly goes back to the life she knew before, the extra activities she did and the acquaintances she had, falling back into her old routine.

5. Rebellion - Zoe. When someone loses a sibling, the expected response is to be sad or depressed or angry, especially when they’re a teen and it’s to suicide. Zoe is all of these things, but for all wildly different reasons. When Connor dies, he and Zoe had a fractured relationship that would have taken a while to fix had either of them tried or wanted to. Connor’s suicide leaves Zoe sad that she never knew her brother better, but she’s mainly angry. At his suicide note. The letter that Zoe thinks is Connor’s suicide note says that there were a lot of underlying circumstances to Connor’s situation, a lot of mental health issues and personal struggles, and it angers Zoe because in her entire teenage life, all of Connor’s “issues” were taken out on her and she believed it to be just him being a genuinely terrible person, and this letter is trying to change her entire perspective of him, like it has to everyone else, yet Zoe refuses to believe it. Zoe starts to soften up when Evan tells her all the things Connor loved about her (which are actually things Evan himself loved about her) but by “Only Us” has let Evan into her life but still wants to leave Connor out of it, saying that their relationship didn’t need to revolve around Connor or his death. In “Requiem”, Zoe says “after all you put me through/don’t say it wasn’t true/that you are not the monster that I knew” saying that she refuses to believe that Connor was anything less than abusive, like he was to her, thus rebelling against the normal reaction.

When a deviant act is committed (Connor’s suicide, Evan’s plan, the Connor Project formation), you react by going along with it (conformity/Jared), getting away from it (retraction/Connor), making something new of it (innovation/Evan), continuing your everyday life (ritualism/Alana), or breaking the status quo and not following the new order (rebellion/Zoe).

Yes, Buddhism is a Religion

by Scott Mitchell

In the American imagination, Buddhism has long been associated with counterculture drop-outs — Beat generation iconoclasts, Age of Aquarius hippies, woo-woo New Agers. This unfortunate stereotype identifies Western Buddhism with the 1960s-era and later converts who popularised it, and ignores the actual people who brought Buddhism to the West — Asian immigrants. It reinforces the idea that Buddhism is not to be taken seriously. At best, Buddhism is seen as something esoteric and disconnected from the world, and at worst, as something flighty and faddish.

On the other side of the coin, proponents of mindfulness meditation and other Buddhist-inspired practices have positioned themselves as level-headed advocates of practices whose benefits, they claim, are proven by science. It’s not hard to imagine that this secular–scientific turn is in part an attempt not to be tarred by the popular stereotype of Buddhism as cultish and downright weird.

Both perspectives are incomplete. In reality, Buddhism is a religion, complete with all the aspects and depth that implies and the respect a great world religion deserves.

Depending on how you slice it, Buddhists account for up to ten percent of the world’s population (and at least one percent of North Americans). People were practicing Buddhism nearly five hundred years before the birth of Jesus. Before the modern period, Buddhism spread across virtually the entirety of Asia, and in the modern period you can find Buddhism on every continent.

Across all this space and time, Buddhists developed a wealth of approaches, practices, art, and literature in service to the religion’s central claim — that there is suffering and a path toward the alleviation of suffering in nirvana. To reduce all of this history, all of these cultures, all of these perspectives, to a hippy caricature or a single secular-scientific technique is to overlook the fullness of one of humanity’s great religions. To acknowledge Buddhism as a religion is to appreciate its long history and endless cultural manifestations (including our own).

“But isn’t Buddhism really a way of life? A philosophy?” some ask. Yes, of course. Like all religions, it has a philosophy. Like all religions, it becomes a way of life when it is practiced. As scholars such as Jay Garfield and Dennis Hirota have long argued, Buddhist philosophers from Nagarjuna to Dignaga, Zhiyi to Fazang, Dogen to Shinran, have been wrestling with philosophical concepts for centuries, long before the likes of Kierkegaard, Heidegger, or Derrida befuddled American liberal arts majors.

To say that Buddhism is a religion is to take seriously not only its philosophy and its practices (its “way of life”-ness, if you will) but also its art, its literature and mythology, and its rituals.

Ritual is not a bad thing. To paraphrase the late anthropologist Roy Rappaport, ritual (and religion) make humanity possible. The ritual marking of transitional life events is as old as homo sapiens itself, so let’s not discount the various ways that Buddhists, both at home and abroad, have responded to this deep need for ritual with their own ceremonies for marking births, marriages, and deaths. (If you doubt the importance of ritual, ask yourself why you keep celebrating birthdays. Or, better yet, stop celebrating birthdays and watch what happens.)

A purely New Age perspective of Buddhism might take all the mythic aspects of the religion a little too seriously; it might assume that devotional rituals refer to some literal truth or some “unseen” cosmic reality (no doubt related to the dawning of the Age of Aquarius, thus losing half the audience in the room).

Perhaps this association motivates some to make the secular turn: to treat Buddhist practices as just that — practices — in service to non-religious ends, such as stress reduction, anxiety reduction, increased focus at work or home, weight loss, and so on. All of this might be of value, but a purely secular–scientific perspective rejects Buddhist literature and mythology as pure fiction, on the assumption that none of it can be “proven” — that none of it can be literally true and therefore should not be believed.

This perspective, that religious myths must either be believed literally or rejected, overlooks the function of myths — not as a literal telling of events but as narratives, morality plays, and inspirational stories meant to convey not actual facts but how to live.

One doesn’t need to believe in some literal sense that the Buddha taught the dharma to the demon Alavaka in the Alavaka Sutta to be a Buddhist or benefit from the dharma. One doesn’t need to debate the veracity of this story or, like a good academic or philologist, debate its authorship or why it was included in the Pali canon. If you leave all of that aside, you can read the Alavaka Sutta as a story about how to live, how to respond to difficulty, and how to be virtuous, truthful, and giving — whether the story is “true” or not.

The ability of a not-true story to be inspirational should not be controversial. I’m quite certain you (or someone you know) has taken inspiration from the phrase “Do or not, there is no try,” despite the fact that no one in their right mind believes that Dagobah is a real planet in a galaxy far, far away. That is how narratives and myths function. Don’t get hung up on belief.

When we reduce the totality of Buddhism down to one thing — whether New Age stereotype or cure-all for the modern world’s ills — we engage in the practice of reductionism. Reductionism flattens difference and complexity. Reductionism always forces us to focus on one thing while overlooking others.

The world today is complicated, and simplistic solutions will not cure its complexities. There is no magic pill that will erase suffering for all persons in all places. This is why Buddhists talk about boundless dharma doors and the eighty-four thousand paths to awakening. For Buddhism to be a vigorous voice for positive change in our world, it will need to engage the world from multiple places — from philosophy to politics to art to myth to ritual and, yes, from the Age of Aquarius to secular science. Fortunately, Buddhism as religion is already well equipped for the job.

It’s been doing it for over two thousand years, after all.

An Introduction to Servitors

Over the past few months I’ve been looking into chaos magick and whilst doing so came across “servitors”. A servitor or thought form is a being which you can create to serve a purpose. For example you could create a servitor to help you develop your intuition, to assist in spell casting or if your feeling like it to menace a certain person.

A few things to note before creating a servitor:

Servitors can easily take up thoughts and actions of their own, it’s extremely important to create a very firm agreement with your servitor on creation.

A servitor is not a familiar.

Start creating a servitor with a small task like assisting a spell or help find an item. Trying to create a servitor with a more complicated task can easily lead to it spinning out of control. It’s also wise to note that you can create servitors with an automatic off switch, if you created a servitor to assist in a certain spell you could make it so the servitor is released as soon as it’s assisted.

If you create a servitor and just leave it or fail to “look after it” this could lead to it taking a vengeance against you and menacing you. It’s alot nicer to release a servitor from it’s duties instead of neglecting it.

HOW TO CREATE A SERVITOR.

It’s wise to start with a purpose and name for your servitor. Let’s say my servitor is going to be used for assisting my spellcasting.

I’d then proceed to find a “vessel” for my servitor, you can pick anything from a chess piece to a wand. You dont have to have a vessel but it helps when giving it orders and “feeding it”. I’d then make up a contract consisting of the servitors purpose and it’s rules for example:

You “Ace” are my servitor your purpose on this plane is to assist in my spell casting. You shall not interfere with any other being or entity. You shall not feed without permission.

Nothing fancy as you can see.
To create a servitor cast a circle and place it’s vessel on your alter or workspace in front of you. You might want to make a sigil with its name or purpose. Think of what your servitor will look like and hold your hands above it’s vessel whilst chanting something like you “ace” are being brought into being to serve me and only me. Whilst chanting your chant imagine the energy from your hands and other objects near by candles etc flowing into the vessel and giving it life. I recommend doing this for atleast 20 minutes for 3 days. Say your contract after each time doing this.

After your certain your servitor has life you might want to make your own ritual for feeding it. It can feed on your energy or you can put it’s vessel in a container with food or crystals and leave it to feed.

If you want your servitor to turn off or be released after its purpose simply say so in your contract. Its alot nice to do this than neglect it, after all it’s still a being.

I’m not an expert in servitors so I’ve probably missed alot. I just wanted to put this up to help share what I’ve been learning. Blessed be.

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Bones' favorite sex position? (If you do this sort of headcanon)

(Uhhhh, you better believe I can write this type of headcanon! I don’t write real, super long fic smut but I can write these)

-It really depends on your height when it comes to sex with Bones

-If you’re a normal, average sized person, Leonard highly enjoys scissoring or old school missionary style. Not only is it pleasing for both parties, it provides a perfect view for the other person, and gives a lot of options for touching.

-If you’re shorter, you and Leonard found standing up to be an exciting experience. You are easily able to wrap your legs around his waist/hips, as he holds you up. He’s most likely drilling you against a wall or the kitchenette counter. It also opens the opportunity for kissing, since you become more eye level with him, making kissing a whole lot easier.

-You once convinced him to have shower sex, even though he protested against it. Running water, combined with rough, uncoordinated movements is a recipe for disaster. Still, you managed to convince him. As he held you up, he lost his footing multiple times, and it finally got to the point where he moved you both out of the shower, and finished business on the freezing bathroom floor.

-Leonard likes the idea of trying new things, so you’ve pretty much tried everything in the book, including every place possible. To name a few: on a bio bed (it happens a lot more often then the others), in his office, on the bridge (when the ship was docked and deserted), a supply closet, among the machinery in engineering, and even on James T. Kirk’s bed (he really pissed Leonard off that day).

-You learn something new every. single. time. Whether it be about him, yourself, basic human anatomy, or random historic sex rituals, Leonard always makes your sex life more interesting.

🌸 Lunefrog's 30 Day Witchcraft Challenge 🌸

I couldn’t find any I liked so, I decided to make one myself. This is a 30 day challenge covering all (Or a lot, at least) types of witchcraft. Good luck! Use #challengethefrog &/or tag me :p

🌸 Day 1 : Make an enchantment for a small object
🌻 Day 2 : Make a spell inspired by a cryptid
🌸 Day 3 : Make a potion the protagonist of your favorite book could’ve used to help them
🌻 Day 4 : Make a spell or blessing to assist an endangered animal
🌸 Day 5 : Include dandelions in a magickal working
🌻 Day 6 : Witch-ify a favorite recipe
🌸 Day 7 : Try making something from a form of magick you’ve never tried before, like emoji spells, sigils, etc

🌻 Day 8 : Make a curse for someone who’s wronged you
🌸 Day 9 : Make a hex you could use in everyday life
🌻 Day 10 : Make a ritual/spell for thanking your local protective entities
🌸 Day 11 : Go to a random item generator and make a spell with the items you get
🌻 Day 12 : A form of magick inspired by a tarot card
🌸 Day 13 : Find some local plants and see what you can make with them
🌻 Day 14 : Make a magickal item to fight sickness

🌸 Day 15 : Make a magickal gift for a friend
🌻 Day 16 : Learn about superstitions of your area, or any that particularly interest you
🌸 Day 17 : Make a sigil using a new or interesting method
🌻 Day 18 : Make a spell or magickal object with some strange items in your room
🌸 Day 19 : Enchant a book or notebook
🌻 Day 20 : Make a sigil to help in areas that you are really bad in (organization, memory, etc)
🌸 Day 21 : Make a spell or enchantment designed to linger

🌻 Day 22 : Put a protection spell on an animal. Could be your animal or any animal
🌸 Day 23 : Make your own constellations and give them stories and meanings
🌻 Day 24 : Make a spell to aid in divination, dream work, or astral travel
🌸 Day 25 : Make a spell to help your lgbt siblings in the witch community
🌻 Day 26 : Make a protection spell inspired by a good memory
🌸 Day 27 : Make an enchantment for pencils
🌻 Day 28 : Make some sort of magick involving glitter or confetti

🌸 Day 29 : Make a spell jar to help your local area
🌻 Day 30 : Plant some local wildflowers, do some witchcraft with them

The way to begin to truly see beauty in yourself...

The way to begin to truly see beauty in yourself is to begin to see beauty in all of life, and to realize you are connected to life, and that you are a part of life’s great beauty. Believing in your own inner-beauty as a wondrous and unique being will begin to shift your perspectives about the world from cynicism to reverence. If you cannot immediately change your external circumstances, start with your words. We are all constructed out of our self-dialogue. Start with your inner-voice. Your inner-dialogue has a profound impact on your life. Make sure your ritual is not a daily prayer for failure through negative self-talk, ruminations, and gossip. Understand and challenge your personal narrative. Narratives become choices and actions — which become your life. Choose thoughts that give you the emotions of feeling alive and excited about life. Make a truce with your inner-voice and speak ever so kindly and respectfully of yourself. What you talk about you anchor yourself to, so if you want to change your life — change your dialogue. Making peace with your negative inner-voice is like making peace with a great enemy. Your inner-voice can become a protector and champion of your life. You give life to your problems with your words. If you really want change, then begin to use your words to give life to solutions. Your struggle is your strength. If you can resist becoming negative, bitter or hopeless, in time, your struggle will give you everything.

— Bryant McGill

The Totem of the Wild.

This is something that I personally draw a lot from, and will be referring back to in future articles. The Totem of the Wild holds strong and diverse symbolism, and can be looked at from many perspectives under different circumstances.

One basis is the Totem’s representation of key Ideals to strive towards in our lives. Spirits of these animals (and others) that we can invoke in the process of bettering ourselves mentally.

Raven - Knowledge and Wisdom
Knowledge - To learn important lessons from the Gods, Nature, our Ancestors and our own Past. Knowledge of the Old Mysteries, the Runes, to be self-sufficient and sustaining, caring for and protecting your family. Learning new skills and keeping an active mind through study. To be able to pass this knowledge on to further generations.

Wisdom - Having the Wisdom to interpret these lessons when presented to you, and to take something from every event in your life. Having a wise judge of character towards those around you. Wisdom transcends all times, an old shaman can be considered as wise as a modern woodsman, there’s a time and a place, and wisdom to be found in all aspects of your life.

Stag - Honor and Pride
Honor - Act with Honor at all times. Give respect where respect is given, and live in a way that others will respect you. Honor must be earned. Honor all things in life, nature, the Gods and those deserving.

Pride - Have Pride in yourself and your achievements, and always strive to achieve acts of pride. Self-pride and vanity are not the same, it is healthy to be proud of your deeds and actions. Have pride in your heritage and your ancestors, and in turn make them and your future generations Proud of you.

Wolf - Courage and Loyalty
Courage - Courage is the ability to face fear, adversity and the unknown and to persist for a higher cause. The act of destroying the lower self and becoming the higher self in one moment, standing strong against all odds. Be courageous in all acts, and fear nothing, stand up tall and proud, and power ever onward.

Loyalty - Being loyal to those you would consider family, by blood or oath. Keeping to your word and oath, and living by it. The loyal man is a man of action, not of words and excuses. Loyalty means mutual trust within your family and working together for a greater cause. The wolf hunts as a pack.

Bear - Strength and Solitude
Strength - BE STRONG! Strong physically, mentally and spiritually. Be brutal and strong and physical, protect your family like the mother bear. Be strong of mind and will, stand firm for who and what you are, and give way for no one. Be strong spiritually, in your beliefs and your practices. Make your life a living ritual. Project your strength to others, be both the immovable object and the unstoppable force. The bear is a beast! Not a rug to be walked over.

Solitude - Solitude is a regression, a hibernation. This is a time for inward sight and self-discovery, a time of spiritual and mental rest and rejuvenation. Understand that solitude is integral in growing. Closed and secluded contemplation will lead to a wider, wiser, knowledge of all around you.

Relationship Tips for INTJs

Relationships are a continual interplay of giving, receiving, and compromising. Although every MBTI type has its strengths and weaknesses, your type need not determine your behavior. Moving outside your comfort zone opens up the opportunity for healthy personal and interpersonal development. There are certain human needs that are universal and this makes it possible for any two types to connect with one another. If two people are willing to lower their defenses and genuinely attend to each other’s needs, then the relationship has a great chance for success and happiness. 

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hystereksekai  asked:

Hi! Could you possibly update the pining/unrequited love tag? Thanks!

i like how you see the same author 3 times in a row 

Secondhand Soulmate by AnnoyinglyCute, Inell (7/7 | 25,211 | PG13)

Not always, not even most of the time, but sometimes – 24% of the time, statistically speaking – people meet their soulmates and live happily ever after.

THIS isn’t that story.

This is the story of Stiles Stilinski, whose soulmate died before he was born. This is the story of all the sorrows and heartache Stiles experienced, all the bullying and oppression from those who should know better but didn’t. This is also the story of the friendships Stiles made along the way, of the battles he fought – and won – and the love that endured through it all.

Please Come with Me by laDouleurExquise (1/1 | 3,074 | PG13)

Set in London’s 60’s, Stiles and Derek have been coworkers at a successful magazine and friends with benefits for the past few months. It’s their last night together before Derek moves out of the city and Stiles- well, Stiles is not okay.

Something More by Inell (1/1 | 1,835 | PG13)

Derek and Stiles get together twice a week to hang out. This time, they decide to watch a movie after dinner, and their friendship becomes something more.

Dance With Me by Inell (1/1 | 3,003 | PG13)

The pack is at a dance club to celebrate Malia’s 22nd birthday when Stiles realizes maybe his unrequited feelings for Derek actually are reciprocated.

Rebirth by Inell (1/1 | 1,550 | PG13)

Derek trusts Stiles with his life, but rituals always make him uneasy.

There’s a Wolf in My Bed by halcyon1993 (5/5 | 20,366 | PG13)

Soon after helping Derek stop his uncle, Stiles returns home from school one day to find the new alpha fast asleep on his bed. He doesn’t know what to do about it, especially not when it keeps happening.

Laura’s Lillies by brokenpromisesandhope (1/1 | 2,008 | NR)

Stiles buys one purple lily every day.

25 Things You Need to Stop Wasting Time On
  1. Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people. – Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together.  Go for long walks.  Indulge in great conversations.  Count your mutual blessings.  Let go for a little while and just BE together.
  2. Compulsive busyness. – Schedule time every day to not be busy.  Have dedicated downtime – clear points in the day to reflect, rest, and recharge.  Don’t fool yourself; you’re not so busy that you can’t afford a few minutes of sanity.
  3. Negative thinking about your current situation. – Life is like a mirror; we get the best results when we smile.  So talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems.  Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing.  Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there.
  4. The needless drama around you. – Be wise enough to walk away from the nonsense around you.  Focus on the positives, and soon the negatives will be harder to see.
  5. The desire for everything you don’t have. – No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but remember this:  There are lots of people who will never have what you have right now.  The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for.  Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have.
  6. Comparing yourself to everyone else. – Social comparison is the thief of happiness.  You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything. 
  7. Thinking about who you were or what you had in the past. – You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago.  You’re always growing.  Experiences don’t stop.  That’s life.
  8. Worrying about the mistakes you’ve made. – It’s OK if you mess up; that’s how you get wiser.  Give yourself a break.  Don’t give up.  Great things take time, and you’re getting there.  Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses.  Decide right now that negative experiences from your past won’t predict your future.
  9. Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about you. – Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal.  Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them.  You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you.  All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.
  10. Self-deception. – Your life will improve only when you take small chances.  And the first and most difficult chance you can take is to be honest with yourself.
  11. A life path that doesn’t feel right. – Life is to be enjoyed, not endured.  When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays.  Success in life is for those who are excited about where they are going.  It’s about walking comfortably in your own shoes, in the direction of YOUR dreams.
  12. Everyone else’s definition of success and happiness. – You simply can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations.
  13. Those who insist on using and manipulating you. – What you allow is what will continue.  Give as much as you can, but don’t allow yourself to be used.  Listen to others closely, but don’t lose your own voice in the process.
  14. Trying to impress everyone. – One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK.  No matter how you live, someone will be disappointed.  So just live your truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end.
  15. All the fears holding you back. – Fear is a feeling, not a fact.  The best way to gain strength and self-confidence is to do what you’re afraid to do.  Dare to change and grow.  In the end, there is only one thing that makes a dream completely impossible to achieve: Lack of action based on the fear of failure.
  16. Doubting and second-guessing yourself. – When in doubt just take the next small step.  Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.
  17. People who continuously dump on your dreams. – It’s better to be lonely than allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your destiny.  Don’t let others crush your dreams.  Do just once what they say you can’t do, and you will never pay attention to their negativity again.
  18. Thinking the perfect time will come. – You can’t always wait for the perfect moment.  Sometimes you must dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been.
  19. Band-Aids and temporary fixes. – You can’t change what you refuse to confront.  You can’t find peace by avoiding things.  Deal with problems directly before they deal with your happiness.  
  20. Close-minded judgments. – Open your mind before you open your mouth.  Don’t hate what you don’t know.  The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed.
  21. Other people’s mistakes and oversights. – Today, be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights.  Sometimes good people make bad choices.  It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it simply means they are human.
  22. Resentment. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance.  It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness.  Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes.
  23. Any hateful thoughts at all. – Set an example.  Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are.  Make kindness a daily ritual; it’s what makes life happier and more fulfilling in the long run.
  24. Regrets of any kind. – You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do.  Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret.  Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not.  Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened.  Leave the unchangeable past behind you as you give yourself to the present moment.
  25. Every point in time other than right now. – Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone.  Don’t stress too much about the future, it hasn’t arrived.  Do your best to live NOW and make this moment worth living.