Sisters please take heed!
A man who truly loves you will move mountains to make you his wife and make you halal for himself.
He will spoil you rotten with his love, respect, compassion and trust.
He will enter from the front door and get to know you infront of your wali. He will prove his worth and he will prove why he should be considered to be your husband and put your parents at ease.
A man without a backbone and fear of Allah will destroy your deen and keep you as his girlfriend. He will flirt and talk and chat and meet. And he will keep delaying things because he is “not ready” or he will ultimately end it because “his mother is against it”.
Do not waste your time, energy and love on a jerk who doesn’t care about your akhira or his own akhira.
You donot want such a father for your kids.
Allah has already written the name of your spouse and the date of your wedding. It will happen when its meant to happen.
Do not lower your standard or compromise your deen.