Life is about balance. The good and the bad. The highs and the lows. The thing everyone should realize is that the key to happiness is being happy by yourself and for yourself. Happiness comes from within. You have the power to change your own mindset so that all the negative, horrible thoughts that try to invade your psyche are replaced with happy, positive, wonderful thoughts.
—  Ellen DeGeneres

Josh Wilson Singing His Song “I Refuse”. This Song Is Simply Saying That He Refuses To Hold Himself Back From His Purpose. Will You Refuse Your Fears & Go After Your DREAMS Today??? 

Is Your Mind Opened?

I had a conversation with someone very close to me. This person has known me since I was a little girl and she’s watched me grow. I was just told that I didn’t have an opened mind because I have an answer for everything. Typically I would get offended in my mind and respond. I would cut a person off who was trying to tell me about myself. But this time I actually took everything in & didn’t say a word. She said that I needed to SHUT UP!! 

I was told that my problem was that I always share my plans with the wrong people. Then I was told that after I share my plans, I get upset when someone has a negative opinion. Now I had to sit back & think about it & then she gave me an example. This was the realest reality check that I’ve gotten in a very long time & it was needed. 

I’m just learning that everyone isn’t supposed to know my every move. Even if they’ve asked me what I’ve been doing. I also made a commitment to myself that I’m going to start listening more this year. I often do have an answer for everything because I’ve experienced so much in my life. I often do get offended when someone who I don’t talk to speaks on my life or decisions. But I know that they heard it from someone else who I shared something with. So that’s a lesson learned. 

This is all apart of growing. Everything that we go through is trial & error. I also don’t think that it’s cool for people to speak on what someone should & shouldn’t have or do, due to their circumstances. Seriously who are you to speak on someones blessings?? But I will save that topic for a future post. So Dreamers let’s learn to LISTEN to constructive criticism & watch what we share with others….

Think Before You Speak

When I was growing from a teenager into the woman that I God called me to be I was so lost & afraid. I was never unsure of what I wanted to do I just didn’t activate the power that God gave me. I had all these big Hollywood Dreams but I just needed that extra push to get me started. I used to walk around silently hurting because of what happened to me in my life & my family situation. Friends showed their true colors & talked about me behind my back. But of course it ALWAYS came to light from the people who they gossiped about me around. People are gonna talk about you regardless if it’s bad or good so stop stressing over it.

Maybe it’s just me but I find it completely insane when someone randomly asks me about someone in my inner circle. Especially if they don’t talk to them. I dare you to approach me with “Well how is so & so? what are they doing with their life”? Try that & I will politely shut you down in the middle of your questions. I just don’t like it when people inquire about people that aren’t their friends. Like why do you want to know what they’ve been up to if you don’t talk to the person? Is it to have something to talk about? But whatever it is I don’t have those types of people close to me anymore. That type of life is just way too risky for me. I don’t want anyone around me who can’t keep their mouth closed. I’ve forgiven those people & I’ve completely moved on with my life. 

As you're growing you absolutely can’t afford to be surrounded around people who lack communication skills. You can’t feed your energy to people who haven’t changed their negative ways. That type of energy will drain you & completely drive you crazy. Sometimes when people are so stuck in their own way they don’t realize how their actions can hurt others. 

I Literally had someone say that I needed to get my life together. I even had someone who was dear to me say that I had no clue as to what I wanted to do with my life. Back then I didn’t speak up for myself because I didn’t like arguing or conflicts. But that type of reaction from me doesn’t happen anymore. I’m so much more confident in what I say & believe in. Some can’t take it because they underestimated me for so long. Some feel as though my head is pumped up or that I’ve changed. But as long as I’ve changed in positive way they can keep on talking about me. I love the “New Me” & she is such a powerful force. I’m a superwoman & I’m on my way to being fully who God has called me to be!!!!

Now Run & Tell That……

The Truth Will Set You Free

The key tool to living a great life is truth. When truth is absent from our lives it’s impossible to be free. If you’re living your daily life constantly living a lie how do you expect to grow? Lying to yourself & making excuses for your actions isn’t going to help you progress. Start being honest with yourself, admit that you’re wrong, & keep on learning from your mistakes…