i’m not saying all gay media has to be perfect. some of my favorite gay media has some glaring flaws in its sensitivity and social awareness. and i’m certainly not going to judge anyone for enjoying dream daddy. the currently-known-to-be-playable content of the game seems really sweet and wholesome, and lord knows the gay community always needs more sweet and wholesome media as opposed to media where every gay person dies or gets their life otherwise ruined.

HOWEVER, it really does upset me on some level to see non-gay-men telling the mostly-gay-male body of people who are criticizing it that they’re being performative, or overreacting, or whatever else. just like you’re allowed to enjoy the game, we’re allowed to talk about how we feel this game wasn’t made for us, or how we’re insulted and upset by the stupid grimdark Cult Ending that’s a slap in the face to gay religious folk and gay cult survivors, or how we don’t like that money made from this game that bills itself as diverse is going to racists, or any number of other things. try to understand how we feel, or try to understand that just because you DON’T understand how we feel, doesn’t mean how we feel is fake or stupid.

anonymous asked:

Not to be a creep but I always appreciate your eloquent opinions that are always backed by evidence and often humorous but address important issues. In the light of the recent post (to which I screamed "YES GP QUEEN FUCK IT UP" ) I especially appreciate your refusal for passivity because you could have easily said "I'm not involved/I don't really ship/this will pass." Lastly, I really like having another POC (I'm also Asian) in the phandom, who happens to be a respectable and prominent figure

Thanks!! It means a lot, especially since this came right after the, uh, “discourse” post. (I spent an hour getting the wording just right and then got really nervous right after posting it.)

I am glad you like my, shall we say, “active” approach to fandom, though it’s also a bit funny because I feel like I am pretty laid-back most of the time. (I mean, I will get confrontational over Christine or Raoul hate, but otherwise I think I’m kind of mellow.) I do see a lot of stuff on here from many different blogs and all my emotions that led to said post had been building up for quite some time, but I hadn’t said anything for probably the exact reasons you said above. (”It’s not that bad, I don’t want to ruin anybody’s fun, I don’t want to get involved in ship wars,” etc.) I’m glad it’s been pretty well-received, though I’ll also note that I didn’t put it in the Phantom tag… maybe if I did, the response would be more mixed…

Thank you again for your lovely words! And Asian pride! :D

Samuel, Hannah, Jade and for the end Elijah were live on facebook for a few minutes and they said:

- this season is in a different world and genre which is high fantasy
- there will be a lot of blackwing
- the characters are heading in different ways than the first season, e.g. Hannah said Amanda was full of fears and anxieties and now she’s a full blown Rowdy <3
- there will be a lot of things happening in a made up US town (i forgot the name) where weird things happen
- Farah is on the run from agencies

We spent the evening with some friends that have four kids age 7 months to nine years. They were hilarious and smart and made us laugh, but I am forever grateful I don’t have any of my own.

Antis, you can go around implying that what was said at the con has “shut down” ships like Shidge and Sheith but what you guys always seem to forget (especially when you love quoting the video so much) is that they started that whole segment off with “All ships are valid”, do you know why? Because they’re adults who have come to understand from years of working in the industry that fandoms have creative freedom and love to explore different areas and aspects of the characters they made. They understand us from years of experience (including being in fandom themselves) and very often enjoy seeing the huge varied pieces that come out of it. 

When they spoke about the ships they were giving their own impression on them, mostly joking around since it was a game after all. Of course, there is nothing like having your top ship given such a positive response from the creators; it was really neat to see them play around with it. However, this does not suddenly give you validation to turn around and yell that your ship is suddenly canon and all other ships mentioned are to cease and desist (and actually mean it). Klance is about as canon as every other ship in the fandom which is; they’re not. There is no confirmed romance. We’re all still sitting here speculating and writing out theories (and having fun while doing it may I add). Shidge shippers are still as valid and free to create content as you are.

With the Sheith comments; it was never mentioned. I’m seeing people insist that it is over and over and yet when quoting you only mention the mentor/brother/father comment but only add Sheith after the quotes. They only said Shidge, not Sheith. I went back to listen carefully a few times and never heard it mentioned. But again, what does it matter because “All ships are valid”. This quote is the only quote needed because it’s to remind you all that you are welcome to make what you want so long as you respect each other and create your own environment using the tools given to you if you wish to steer clear of certain things. It’s okay if certain things make you uncomfortable, that’s what mute/block and various tag-blocking apps are for. 

venusinxi  asked:

For the last ask, k****************n used to be a blog I visited for almost a year. Idk what the hell was wrong with me but it was really unhealthy and I had a bad mentality :/ until I got bored of the blog and realised the blog was cancerous and dumb and made it seem as if us black girls needed validation to the point where we think that if dean breathes close to a chocolate girl he's already written his wedding vows. If anyone follows that blog I suggest you rethink your values.


Dragged my bff @twoshee to the comic cons for the first time ever, so last weekend I made us matching Murder Monk cosplays!

It was SWELTERING yesterday, and it was annoyingly bright so we only managed about 20mins in the full get up between panels and line sitting for Hall H. But for about a day of work for two costumes I’m happy with the likeness :D

She’s coming to visit me in the fall so hoping we’ll do a more expansive shoot then.

Movie Time

While I am disappointed in that none of you, my tumblr people, have replied to my asking you to recommend for me fun cosmic horror/similar movies, my sister continues to come through. Watched Zygote on youtube- lots of really great worldbuilding for a 20 minute movie and a fantastic monster. Also watched Monster Factory for the first time, starting with the Final Pam. If you’d told me that I would genuinely enjoy watching any sort of let’s play much less one that’s like an hour and a half long, I’d have assumed you were a lying sack of shit, but here we are.

My reviews of the movies I’ve watched in the past couple days:

Hellraiser 2: A+. 

It’s what I wanted in a Hellraiser movie all along. Excellent use of themes, worldbuilding, aesthetics, and all around a tightly made movie. Fantastic use of practical effects and makeup. The skinless makeup in particular is just delightfully revolting in the best possible way. Bonus points for making the horror in the psychiatric institute be the psychiatrist, not the patients. Great villainous performances, just nuanced enough. Love, love, love how it goes deeper into its mythology. Fantastic stuff.

Zygote: A+, A.

For what it is (a 20 minute film) I’m giving it an A+. Nothing’s wasted; it’s like a good short story. For what I wish it was (a 90 minute to two hour film) I’m giving it an A. I would absolutely plunk down ten bux to see a full movie of this. Oh, well. Bonus points for an awesome creature design thrillingly reminiscent of The Thing and a shoggoth from At the Mountains of Madness

The Final Pam: A

I laughed so much it caused me physical pain. Pam, Who Death Forgot, is a cosmic horror unto herself. Good stuff.

Event Horizon: A-. 

Would benefit from more clear worldbuilding and a more gradual slide for Dr. Weir instead of “I’m evil now.” CGI is really dated but practical effects hold up. Underuses Jason Isaacs. Uses Sam Neil about as well as In the Mouth of Madness did, so, pretty well. Bonus points for good use of Fishbourne, giving him enough depth to be interesting but still letting him be a stoic badass who says rude words a lot.

The Void: B. 

For a micro-budget Canadian indie film, it’s really great. Atmospheric, creepy, and gross-out body horror done well with practical effects. Could use more worldbuilding, particularly with the cultist angle. They were just sort of a macguffin preventing escape, which was unfortunate. The underlying mythology of it seemed a lot more solid, and I’d like to have seen more focus on that accordingly, but sort of the whole point was that it was Unknowable and I get that so I didn’t mark it down for that- only for the throwaway cultists and opaque motivations (especially for women). 

First of all I don’t blame Katie at all, she was so uncomfortable. Katie tried to stand up for us but kept getting interrupted. She’s always been understanding and supportive of the supercorp fandom. Like we know it wasn’t going to be cannon but it’s something we enjoyed that gave us hope and happiness. Melissa and Jeremy openly mocked something a majority of their queer fans love and look forward to in every episode. We have done nothing but support the show and they made fun of us for what we choose to see.

Happy 7 years, 1D! All the love ❤️

So today marks the best day for already 7 years that ever happened to a 1D fan which is the day when Simon and the rest of the judges decided to form them in The X-Factor.

Just like how anyone told us that it’s a “phase” being a fan of those idiots, we can’t believe the number of times that they’ve brought happiness and pain on us. I know that sometimes they’re such a pain in the ass, though most of the time they made us go crazy.

Okay, now let’s start from the beginning. 2010 might be such a slightly good year (for others) but 2010 was the best year that happened to us. They all auditioned as future-solo-artists and fortunately, God destined them by sending his willpower to Simon to create them. They were kinda awkward at first, well we all know that, but they seem to get closer as the day passed by.

2011. Their audience impact was massive, as if they’re stepping up the game to become the next greatest boy band in this generation—and did it (for the love of God). After they end up as third in the competition, they did gigs within UK, not knowing that they could play in their sold-out concerts in stadiums all around the world.

2012. Our family has slowly becoming bigger as these boys flashed their charms in a short show series in Nickelodeon, though their acting skills are meh af, but actually it became hilarious, thanks to iCarly’s squad. They made us fall in love more when they released their second album, and announcing the most epic worldwide tour (for me). Also, to Mr. X, the little shit that almost end our boys lives that lost our chill.

2013. Admit it. They’re the bomb when it comes at making adlib lyrics when performing in a concert. From the swarms of screaming fans to countless sleepless nights just to make sure that we’re updated about them and the tour (well thank heavens for inventing time zones I hate them all), the fangirling life is so worth it. And of course, 2013 was the best year for the boys—as well as their families, and us, 1DFam. We broke music video records and receive an unimaginable amount of awards. Other than that, we were blessed by an 8-hour live variety show and who cares about sleeping when those boys are your life?????

2014. Words can’t express how proud we are to our boys, and the boys the other way around being thankful for us and making us feel special. Same old routines that we do—breaking records, asking for the boys to follow us, watching their music videos and voting spree. And of course live-tweeting for their concert because it’s their first worldwide stadium concert. Don’t you forget also that we are the FANDOM THAT INVENTED LIVE-STREAMING FOR FREAKING SIX-SECONDS VID ON THEIR FIRST STOP AT BOGOTA thanks to Vine. Also, we were blessed by the staff that made us download Fireproof FOR FREE. If only I can write what happened to boys and us since 2010 with details. They’re too lengthy so lol

2015. When we all thought that this year will be the “another year, another slay”-year again.

When we never thought that the most precious member in One Direction will be leaving the group.

When we thought that our family is the most unbreakable among all fandoms.

When we thought all of us could move on and forget about it.

But we’re wrong. Sometimes we have to think of the unthinkable, and to accept reality. We lost friends and kind of regained some but it’s actually painful seeing that our fandom is slowly crushing into pieces. The four remaining boys assured us that it—we will be okay. We can do the best like before despite of the worst things happened. Lastly, they released an album (of course the best part of our lives) and for the first time in our fandom, announced their short hiatus.

2016. The shocking year of everything (let me say what I’ve experienced since I was so busy in school). 2/4 became dads. Well not a dad-joke but A DAD, FATHER, A FATHER A FAAAAATHEEEEERRRRRR. But anyway, on the funny side of this drama, Zayn’s “Drama time” tweet became the most relatable tweet for two years since 2015. To light things up, Harry also debuted for his acting career and we couldn’t be prouder of our little cherub. Niall, as always, the most unproblematic bread ever, is living in harmony—golfing, watching his favorite game, meeting his favorite athletes and of course, cooking in grills. Additional to that, it turns out that he has surprised us with his solo hit, making us a crying mess. Liam is living in a happy life with Cheryl carrying a new life. When we thought that 2016 is trying to save us, we never thought that someone as so precious as Momma Jay will pass away. We laughed, gone crazy, stressed out and cried together as we think about Louis and the rest of his siblings. 2016 to us is like 2015’s valuable child. We suffered together and it was totally unforgettable.

2017. 7 years. 7.

Our boys showed themselves that they’re not just that boygroup who only got looks through releasing their solos. We made them shine and non-1D fans are appreciating their music. No matter how long we have to wait for them to come back, we know that they will because they promised and we trust each other. It’s been already 7 years. We can make it 8, 9, and if possible, 10 years. Thank you boys, thank you my 1D fam. You are my absolute source of happiness.