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10 Things Shawn Mendes Definitely Does: A List

got this idea from the lovely @aqua-harry :)))

1. He calls you stupid nicknames like “snuggles” and “pumpkin pie” when you’re in public just to embarrass you and see how red your cheeks get 

2. He kicks gently at your legs underneath the table at fancy restaurants while you’re saying your order to the server because he can tell that the whole uptight atmosphere really isn’t your scene

3. He lets you hold all the puppies in Petland even though he knows he’ll sneeze on the ride home because he feels bad that you’ll never be able to have a dog in the house while living with him

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What I Want People Without ADHD To Understand About ADHD...

1. I don’t do things for the obvious reason.

Your mind goes A, B, C, D. Mine goes B, 5, X, cucumber. Don’t try to guess my motivations because you’ll get it wrong and I won’t know how to correct you.

2. I’m deeper than I seem.

My hyper appearance always makes me look superficial. I’m not. I’m a deep thinker.

3. I don’t know how to say my thoughts.

I speak brokenly. Punctuated with “uh, um, like” , and mumbled segments, I speak too fast and rarely communicate what I mean. It’s frustrating.

4. I do not overreact or underreact. I process things wrong.

My brain doesn’t understand the hierarchy of reactions, which is why I’ll calmly talk about how my friend completely dissed me, and then freak out for hours if I get a C on a paper.

5. I feel more than you do.

Are you distracted by humming lights? Will a leaf blowing across your peripheral vision break your train of thought? When was the last time you had to unplug your phone because it was making too much noise while charging? Right now, there’s a clock ticking somewhere, and it isn’t in my room.

6. You will never see things the way I do.

And I’ll never see things the way you do.

7. It’s not on purpose.

I jump from conversation to conversation. I interrupt or ignore by accident. I’m sorry.

8. I have static in my head.

You know those ADHD tests that ask if there is static or “noise” in your head? That’s not a trick. Some of us do have actual static.

9. My thoughts are truly distracting.

When I try to sleep, I hear music in my head that’s so loud it hurts my ears. I’m serious. It’s not even funny.

10. I’m good at a lot. I’m not “lucky,” it really just levels the playing field.

If I was at your level of brain power, I would not function. All of it would be spent on the little focus I have now. I’m wicked smart, yeah. I also couldn’t organize anything if I wanted too and paying attention in class…well…anywhere…

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10 things these girls hate about… ME: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8eby0epOL-o

10 things I’ve learnt in second year med school

1) Keep calm: You can survive med school even without giving 200%

2) Never date a classmate: I mean it.

3) Lectures DO matter

4) Even if you are stressed with your med school life, don’t forget to maintain friendships

5) Chose elective courses you’re interested in, not because they would be good for your CV

6) Never lose your self esteem just because someone broke you: You still need it

7) Study EVERY day: It’ll prevent some really stupid finals stress

8) Go by bicycle: It’s faster, healthier and cheaper

9) Never say no: If you’re allowed to do a procedure, do it, even if you’re scared

10) When your life is breaking, your family will always be here for you

10 Things to Help You Stay Safe at School and Work

As a medical student and a martial artist one of my biggest passions in life is helping people stay safe and teach them how to defend themselves. And one of the things that scares me the most is how my classmates talk about not knowing what would happen if they were alone in a dark parking lot at strange hours. That’s and insane idea to me.

I’ve taught multiple self-defense seminars ranging from children to sororities to LGBT+ organizations to really teach people that they have the right to fight back and how to do it in the best way for themselves. This has given the unique ability to modify and create self-defense strategies for different walks of life. That’s why I’ve taken my time to think of a way to express that online.

I can’t really show you how to take someone down, I can give you a good list of how to stay vigilant and a few intuitive techniques so that you can stay safe. I hope you find it helpful!

1. Don’t trust objects alone

“Oh, I have pepper spray.” Maybe you have a metal defense stick, or a little knife. That’s cool, I guess. But where exactly do you have it? Buried somewhere in a purse? Maybe jammed into your glovebox or perhaps on a different set of keys. In the long run, having an external force of self-protection can be useful but they’re useless unless you always have them on you. It’s really a false sense of security. It’s best to learn to use what you have including your limbs, head, rings, bag and my personal favorite…

2. Learn a new way to use your keys

When you’re walking in a parking lot the first thing you should do before leaving is pull out your keys. You should have them gripped in your hands either than the keys are sticking out from one side or the blades of the keys are between your fingers. If someone comes up to you with nefarious intentions you can literally just swing your keys across their face. Trust me, they will not put up an appreciable chase when you just slashed them full force. 

3. Approach your car with caution

This one is a little specific, but very relevant for current times. As you’re walking towards your car, try to get a glance underneath. For some stupid reason there is a trend of people hanging out under cars waiting for you to talk up to they can slash your Achilles tendon so you can’t run away (how f’ed up is that?) In the unlikely event this occurs, you immediately go into a safe building, call the police and tell them there is a body under your car (not that someone is trying to attack you).

4. A distracted target is an easy target

Do not walk around with headphones in, do not play on your phone, do not absent mindedly speak on the phone in while in a dark or enclosed area. The more invested you seem in something else, the more you leave yourself vulnerable, and people notice that. Even if you are on the phone, keep your head up and looking around while speaking at a moderately high volume. This lets everyone around you know, hey I’m attentive and in-tune.

5. Walk with a purpose

If you look like you know where you’re going and are attentive you give off being a certain type of person. A person who is in control. Basically it says “you don’t want to mess with me, because I am ready to go at all times.” Like a hawk. If you walk hunched over, looking nervous and suspicious, it makes you look too afraid to be able to do anything. So even if you’re afraid, walk like you mean it.  

6. Do the opposite of what is expected

What I mean by this is if say, someone pulls your hair from behind or grabs at your wrists, instead of trying to yank back and get away push towards your attacker. This will disorient them because they weren’t expecting such a reaction. You will also be in less pain, and be composed enough to do something to get away like smash your head into their nose or heel stomp them. If they want your wallet, just give it to them. They won’t expect it and if that’s all they want they’ll leave. You can replace cards and ID, but you can’t replace your life.

7. Find your voice

I’ve taught a lot of self-defense, as I’ve mentioned. And I promise, every time I tell anyone to practice yelling someone always thinks it funny. But you know what’s not funny? How many people completely freeze up when they’re grabbed from behind and or being pulled away. It’s like making any noise at all is an impossibility which is an extremely dangerous place to be. As awkward as it may be, a well-placed scream or yell is a very effective move all in itself.

8. Let someone know where you’ll be

Easy, simple, effective, but easy to forget. Also, establishing a recognizable pattern of when you come and go to people around you is a really good idea. That way, if someone is out of the ordinary the people around you will realize something is not right.

9. Take a self-defense class

I can tell what techniques to use, but honestly that’s not very useful. To really be able to protect yourself you need to know what it means to actually strike something to be able to translate that into striking someone. A good class will teach you wrist releases, elbows, knees and plenty of other ways to escape a potentially dangerous situation. It’s worth the time to go to a class, and who knows? You might really like it.

10. You are the most important person

I hate the idea that a lot of these practices are made to turn attention away from one target to another possibly. I really wish that something that weren’t the case and that we didn’t even have to worry about this crap. But that just isn’t so. As long as people are willing you to hurt others, you must remember that the most important person is you and it is your priority to keep yourself safe. If you can help someone, in anyway, that is amazing. But you are your own number one.

Stay safe out there everyone!

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I hate the way you talk to me, and the way you cut your hair. I hate the way you drive my car. I hate it when you stare. I hate your big dumb combat boots, and the way you read my mind. I hate you so much it makes me sick; it even makes me rhyme. I hate it, I hate the way you’re always right. I hate it when you lie. I hate it when you make me laugh, even worse when you make me cry. I hate it when you’re not around, and the fact that you didn’t call. But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you. Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all.

10 things I wish residents/patients knew

1. Pulling every call light in your room won’t make us move any faster. Be patient.
2. Everyone always has to go to the bathroom at the same time so again, be patient. We are aware you have to go.
3. Be as independent as you can for as long as you can because you will miss the little things when we have to do it all for you. Ex. Buttoning your shirt or brushing your hair.
4. 98% of the time we will be short help so I apologize in advance if I rush you or feel rushed. It’s not you, it’s me.
5. You will fall even if we do everything we can to prevent it.
6. I will be there to patch you up and hold you when you do.
7. Tell us about your family and your childhood. It’s more interesting to us than you think.
8. I know lifts aren’t ideal, but neither is having my back replaced at 25 so bare with me.
9. I will sit with you if you’re afraid to die alone and cry for you if your family doesn’t when you pass away.
10. You make me a better person. Stubborn or not. I know it isn’t easy to need help, but I’m thankful you let me help you anyway.

10 Things I Hate About You (1999) dir. Gil Junger

10 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Did the International Baccalaureate

1. I spend about 50% of time on Art and the other 50% on all my other subjects

There will pretty much always be a subject that drains time and energy, but make sure it doesn’t detract from your other grades.

2. DO YOUR EXTENDED ESSAY EARLY

I did mine in the break between years, and only had editing left for the whole of the second year. Don’t be that guy who still hasn’t done it a few days before it’s due.

3. ToK is not all abstract and subjective, there is a marking criteria stick to it

Get a ToK textbook, they do exist, read it and find out wtf this subject is actually about. Once you’re down with KIs, WoKs and AOKs the essay and the presentation will be a piece of proverbial cake.

4. GET CAS DONE EARLY

Aim to get most done in the first year. Trust me, you will have so little time in the second year it becomes nearly impossible to catch up.

5. 15 hours of homework is a straight up lie

Our school has a 15 hours of homework a week policy, but this is sadly bullshit. The average week for me right now (end of term 1 year 2 of IB) is at the very least 30 hours a week, plus study for May exams, school exams and finals.

6. Sleep becomes a bonus, like when someone puts your pyjamas in the dryer. Not expected, but a pleasant surprise when it happens.

God I miss sleep. Getting to bed before 2 am is a miracle frankly.

7. You will get damn good at writing essays under time pressure

One good thing about IB: essays will become as natural as breathing. I reckon I could bs a 1000 word essay on how a tablecloth conveys the intricacies of the human condition

8. Pick HLs carefully

Pick HLs for what you want to carry on with later in life, you have to have a big interest in it otherwise it will become hell. 

9. Teachers are a factor, but they shouldn’t be the deciding factor

My physics teacher nearly ruined physics for me. Frankly, he is shit. But I still managed a 7 by studying from textbooks myself in the weekend. If you have a passion for something, don’t let a shitty teacher make you change

10. None of this will matter in a few years.

Once you’ve gotten in to universities, who cares how many points you got on your diploma? Nobody will care if you only got a C on your EE. 

Look past the immediate future, it will all be over in at most two years. 

1. Destroy the picture in your head of how you think its all supposed to be. That picture is an illusion. Listen to me, there is no such thing as the best. There is no such thing as a right way to live. It’s an ideal. You have to execute the model of utopia that you have created in your mind, because how do you expect yourself to live up to an imagined place where everything is perfect? You do not want set yourself up for failure. There is not a right way to live and there will never be a right way to live. Once you destroy that illusion of the perfect way to live, you will be much happier.

2. You were born with the ability to say ‘yes’ to things, which means you were also born with the ability to say ‘no.’ Remind yourself this.

3. There will be times when nothing about yourself makes sense. We’re all strangers to ourselves. There are times when it is okay to question everything about our life because we are constantly changing. Instead of letting these times breed into loneliness, give yourself the ability to let these times provide you with strength.

4. It will always be okay to love yourself. Never let anyone tell you differently.

5. Just because other people may have it worse, doesn’t mean your problems are not valid. You are allowed to be upset. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.

6. Liking the cafeteria food at school does not make you weird. I promise.

7. People might tell you your love for a band or for a celebrity or for a certain song is a phase. They will probably be right. But it is important to find the things that bring you joy and to become an enthusiast about everything you love. If you are intrested in something love with everything you have. Love things passionately and wholeheartedly. Don’t compromise your love for something because of what other people say. If it makes you happy, embrace it with open arms.

8. There’s no such thing as a good side. People are full of imperfections which end up turning into such interesting photographs.

9. When people sense that they are being heard, they will always give you something worth hearing. Any time you talk to anyone about something that they love they’re their most beautiful. Never put someone down while they’re telling you about something they love. It’s a really cool gift to get to talk to people about that.

10. I want you to find someone that fills you with light. Be with someone that makes you laugh until milk is squirting out of your nose. Be with someone who falls in love with the way your nose is a little crooked at the end. I hope that in your lovers’ eyes you see raindrops falling down out of your childhood window. I hope that in your lovers’ arms you smell fireplaces and apple cider, and that you feel at home. One day you will find someone to love that reminds you that home is not a place, but that home is a feeling. But most importantly, I hope that your first love is yourself.

—  10 Things I Am Going To Remind Myself Everyday.
Things I learned my 1st year in Grad School

1. You have a lot of professional/adulting commitments. Like a LOT. And a lot of them no one will know about (unlike grades) so you have to learn to prioritize and be proud of yourself for accomplishing things that are scary/new.

2. You can’t please everyone. Ever. So take time to find out who you are so you can use your ideal self as your guidebook to life.

3. As a professional adult, you are responsible for coming to work with the best, most productive version of yourself, because other people are affected by the manner in which you show up. This means you are responsible for sleeping enough, maintaining physical and mental health, and taking care of your emotional needs in advance so you can perform well in your job.

4. Productivity means different things at different times. Sometimes it means sleep. Sometimes it means mental break. Sometimes it means getting in touch with nature to put things in perspective. Sometimes it means dropping that thing you planned to do because something important came up.

5. Nobody’s perfect. Get in the habit of self-reflecting so that you start noticing the things you did right as well as the things that went a little weird or wrong. You are doing so many things in a day now and answering to so many different people that you’re going to slip up occasionally, but you are also learning as you go how to do things right too :) I love my mentors because they remember what it was like to be in my shoes.

6. Write thank you notes to people who have helped you. Especially those who have donated their time to you.

7. Seek help but also give help to those who come after you.

8. Keep good records and keep them organized. You never know when you might have to prove you worked or followed the rules.

9. Your integrity and reputation in academia are gold. Do not put them at unnecessary risk. Be very careful what you post on social media. The safest thing to do is:

10. Be authentic. Take the hard way if it is authentic to who you are. Even if you think no one will ever find out, it is safest to do what you think is right and to have good intentions, because your choices reflect your character. Make sure to always present your character consistently with the incredible kindness and excellence that is your essence.