m&m analogy

Reasons why the M&M’s analogy is garbage

  • False equivalence: You could, in theory, avoid M&M’s. You don’t have to take the M&M’s. But you will have to interact with men.
  • It sounds just like something a racist/homophobe/transphobe/ anyone else you think can be oppressive would say to push their agenda, to put you where you are today
  • The odds are still in your favor: Anywhere else, you’d jump at the chance for 90% of something (unless the 90% was the bad part, of course). No one’s expecting you to eat the whole damn bowl, but one or two probably won’t kill you.
  • There’s plenty of information out there about warning signs and using that and your gut you can usually tell if a guy is gonna be trouble, unlike an inanimate piece of candy.

I’m sure there are more reasons but this is all I have for now.

Like, I’d really really like someone from the feminist community to write a blog post saying “I was all for the M&M analogy after the Isla Vista shootings. Now, given Trump’s son’s tweet, I am rethinking things.”

Even if the person doesn’t change her mind, I’d like evidence that someone out there is at least reconsidering in light of this…

anonymous asked:

How do you feel about the M&M's analogy and how it basically tells women to constantly live in fear of men and that men should always be feared and never trusted? Saying that implies women are weak when in reality they are stronger than most men (in my opinion).

That doesn’t tell women anything, dude. That message isn’t for women. That message is to explain to men why women are afraid already. Some of us have been afraid our entire fucking lives.

I was afraid the moment I had sex for the first time and the boy didn’t stop when I told him that he was hurting me, I was afraid when he told me it was supposed to and to just relax because this was for him, not me. My friend was afraid the moment her brother sexually abused her and nobody in her own family believed her. My other friend was afraid when her boyfriend sexually abused her for months. I have friends with dozens of stories like this.

Women don’t need to be told to be afraid of men. We already are. But you’re right about one thing, I am strong, I can defend myself if it comes down to it. But that doesn’t mean I want to. That doesn’t mean I’m not afraid.

The poisoned m&m analogy doesn’t make sense to you?? IT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE TO YOU????

IF IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE TO YOU THAT MEANS YOU ARE A FUCKING SEXIST, IGNORANT DOUCHEBAG WHO DOES NOT WANT TO ADMIT THAT YOU CAUSE PROBLEMS AND DOESNT CARE ABOUT ANYBODY ELSE. YOU ONLY CARE ABOUT SAVING YOURSELF FROM BLAME

YOU’VE LABELED YOURSELF AS A 100% GRADE AAA PIECE OF SHIT

anonymous asked:

The M&M analogy is seriously flawed. Most of the other images I agree with but the M&M analogy holds no ground. Replace men with any other group and their stereotype and see how it holds up. For example, Not all muslims are terrorists imagine a bowl of M&Ms 10% are poisoned eat a handful. Not all M&Ms are poisoned. Do you see how it's harmful? It's wrong to assume that a whole group of people are flawed and dangerous by nature. It's wrong to assume that people will be fine being called monsters

Yeah, I was definitely thinking the same thing. Good point too!

anonymous asked:

Hey there, I happened to see the feminist/meninist thing and wanted to contribute my opinion to issues. 1, it blames feminists for the actions of a few (who are frowned upon by many feminists themselves) in the same way that the post says feminists blame men for the action of criminals. 2, basically almost everything else on that list is the same. 3, as a guy, I get REALLY uncomfortable when someone on the train spreads their legs and invading my personal space. It's not about crushing genitals!

You really think that some guys spreading their legs out a bit, which btdubz is how guys are most comfortable anatomically speaking (for some men, sitting with their legs together results in physical pain after a few minutes), warrants a $78000 campaign to stop it? Are you fucking serious? That’s money that could’ve gone countless women’s shelters (or men’s shelters, not that those are at all high on feminists’ list of priorities) or, I dunno, countless better causes. Also I get pissed by women sitting with all their bags taking up room on the bus, but you don’t see me starting a campaign to put an end to that, do you ?

In regards to your first post, I agree, there’s some strawman going on. But you’re also condoning yet another fallacy: no true scotsman. “Oh they’re not REAL feminists, real feminists aren’t like that!” Oh really? Tell that to the hundreds of thousands of self proclaimed feminists who reblogged that shit M&M analogy that was made to counter the perfectly valid “not all men” claim. Cause, yknow, not all men are rapists/misogynists/etc, etc. 

As for your second point, it is completely vague and I don’t know how to respond to it.

God there’s so much stupid coming out of your mouth.