Hello, I am struggling lately with certain feminist qualities being labeled as 'negative'. As a queer, arguably butch, woman with a flat voice, & inability to interact superficially, I don't fit expectations of femininity. However, inside I'm sensitive, sweet, loyal, and passionate. I feel a walking metaphor of a book being judged by its cover. This does feel oppressive, & over time it does impact my perspective. Can you speak a bit to how social expectations of a women's character are damaging?