loving someone and being in love with someone is different

Teen Wolf 6x14+15

Can someone fucking leave Liam alone? Just because someone is different doesn’t give you the right to KILL THEM!
Also, that “The sun, the moon, the truth!” scene as he was being beaten up was so damn amazing.

“What did you think we were gonna do? Run?”- Scott; my sassy child. I loved that scene. Literally, I LOVED IT.
Can someone kill Gerard? Nolan? And that other hunter bitch?

Once upon a time, I wanted people in Beacon Hills to survive everything. Now, I want them all dead. Like, I literally want all of them to just fucking die.
Theo was amazing as always. How he teased the guy that was torturing him? And how he looks so bored but still down to murder someone.

What The Signs Are Afraid Of

Aries:
Showing weakness - Anybody who has never been close to an Aries would never know that they are actually very sensitive and emotional people. They hate showing their more emotional side because they see that as showing weakness.
They fear that showing their sensitive side will end in others walking all over them or pitying them.

Taurus:
Not being in control - As a fixed sign, Taurus’ hates not being in control. When things change too fast that they can’t process or really accept the fact that things will no longer be how they were before, they get really depressed. They isolate themselves and try to hold onto what they are familiar with instead of following the stream to the unknown.

Gemini:
Not doing enough - Geminis’ are hard workers, even though they have a hard time focusing on one thing at the time. They always get things done, but they fear that they aren’t doing enough and that everything they do constantly need improvement. They are never 100% satisfied with their own work - even with others admiration.

Cancer:
Being rejected - They are very sensitive people and don’t take things like rejection very easy. They don’t care about who or where they are rejected from, it is the fact that they aren’t wanted somewhere or by someone that they are afraid of.

Leo:
Being forgotten - As everybody know, Leos’ love being the center of attention, so when they get forgotten they start fealing small and unloved. No matter how much confidence a Leo has, they still need some type of validation from others and without that, they start feeling invisible and unimportant.

Virgo:
Not being needed - Virgos want others to need them. Feeling need means a lot to them because it means that someone can’t do something withouth their help. Helping others distracts them from thinking about their own problems, but directs their attention on fixing others problems. So when they aren’t needed, they get sucked into their own deep and dark thoughts.

Libra:
Telling people how they really feel - Libras are always trying to solve other peoples problems or be the shoulder others lean on. This is why they never say how they personally feel about the situation - To uphold the balance they have already established.
They fear saying what they really feel because that might make others look at them diffrent and ruin the balance.  

Scorpio:
Finally opening up only to getting hurt - They are very emotionally closed people which is why it is rare that they open up to others - because they fear getting hurt if they do. That is why they go out of their way to keep their distance to others. 

Sagittarius:
Getting too close to others - They have a fear of getting too close to others and committing. The idea of no longer being able to do whatever they used to do, without considering others feelings is terrifying to them and it makes them feel trapped. This is why they tend to distance themselves from others before anybody gets too attached.

Capricorn:
Having their hard work go to waste - Capricorns put a lot of time and energy into everything they do. They bust their asses to get to where they want to be, so when all their efforts goes to waste, they break down.  Things like this stay in the back of their minds till forever. Even with their will power to start over, they have a doubt in the back of their minds that their abilities to do it all over again won’t be enough…again.  

Aquarius:
Being seen like everybody else - Aquarius hold a certain pride in being different, so when they are generalized or put in a category with others, they start feelings small and insignificant. This is why they often are protective of what they see as ‘theirs’.

Pisces:
Not being able to help someone they love - Watching someone they love hurting is hard because they put themselves in their loved ones place. They make their loved ones problems their problems, so when they can’t help them, they personally feel affected because of how emotionally invested they are in helping.

4

I remember being teased relentlessly throughout my childhood and my teenage life where people would say that because of my skin I’ll never be beautiful enough, they would even recommend skin bleaching products. So as a child I quickly realised that as a dark skinned girl I was not considered beautiful enough… At that time I didn’t know that it was the negativity from the people around me that was causing me to hate my skin and myself for that matter. I remember a time during school photos where a girl shouted “she’s too dark! You won’t see anything on her ID but her teeth!”, of course everyone laughed it out… And so did I…. Because I didn’t want to make it seem like I was offended… Their feelings felt more important than mine… After all growing up I was always reminded of how unlikely I was of ever being beautiful or finding someone that found my darkness beautiful…..
As a 19 year old today I sit here and say “I never gave in to skin bleaching”, “I was constantly reminded of how ugly I was but that only made me love myself even more….. I began considering myself as someone different, someone beautiful and out of the ordinary.”
Your skin no matter how dark it is that when you smile you can only see the glow of your teeth is worthy of love, your skin is that of a goddess and you should never feel anything about your skin but self love. I write this to all of the people that have gone through similar and worse, you don’t need to learn to Love your skin, the love is already there… You just gotta unleash it.

I would like to hear some stories of yours if you’ve ever gone through the same thing…. Message me on Instagram.
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There’s a difference between missing someone and missing having someone.
—  you don’t miss me, you’re just lonely // a.s.m
PSA

(( OOC: Guys, you’re fucking beautiful. Your body is beautiful, your shape is beautiful, Your skin is beautiful, Your straight or curly hair is beautiful and so is the color, the clothes you wear are beautiful, the way you do or DON’T do your makeup is beautiful, Your brown/green/blue/yellow/purple/WHATEVER colored eyes are beautiful, your nose is beautiful, your smile is beautiful, YOU as a WHOLE are beautiful. 

And you know what else? Your personality is beautiful. You’re kindness is beautiful, your happiness is beautiful, the way you empathize with others is beautiful, the way you help those around you is beautiful, your goodness is beautiful. 

You’re talented. The way you dance, sing, draw, write, cook, sew, read, play sports, game, put together puzzles / problem solve, comprehend academic issues, understand other human beings, WHATEVER… talent is not limited to what is seen

Do not base your self love off of what the media tells you to love. 

Do not base your confidence on a few likes or comments on your social media. 

Do not compare your beauty to someone elses unless the purpose is to appreciate the beauty in our differences. 

Do not diminish your worth because someone tells you you’re not good enough.  

If we all allowed the negativity in the world to tear off the pieces of us that it didn’t like, the pieces that make us unique, the pieces that make us US, then we’d have nothing left. 

You are not a blank canvas to be altered by everyone with a paintbrush. You’re already a masterpiece… You are whole, you are beautiful and you are unique. Start believing it. )) 

“Do you know what it’s like to be named for the dead?” James asks his father in the middle of one of many arguments. “Do I remind you of a man we’ve never met? Am I in honor of someone you watched die? Because I don’t want it.” When James Sirius Potter looks at himself in the mirror, he sees a mess of reddish brown curls and slightly askew glasses and freckles everywhere. He sees hands that climb trees and grip tightly to broomsticks. He sees his mother’s smile and hears his father’s voice. Because James seems like the thick goofball of the family, but he reads history book after history book, wishing to never repeat the sins of their fathers. If he saw any of James Potter he wouldn’t recognize him at all, and maybe, he fears, that’s where he falls short.

“Do you know what it’s like to be named for the dead,” Albus says one day to Rose as they sit by the Great Lake. “Names of men who I think aren’t the heroes I’ve been told about. Men I’m told are brave but seem just as bad as the rest.” Albus Severus Potter loves being called Al and having his hair ruffled by his friends. He loves sitting on high ledges and looking out at the vast sky and thinking about what is on the other side of the earth. Albus Potter sticks his nose in old books and keeps to himself and has no desire for greatness in any form. He doesn’t want to lead a war or be a spy. He wants to be Al and bake with his grandmother on Sundays and give his sister piggyback rides. And, most days, that feels like admitting failure. 

“Do you know what it’s like to be named for the dead,” Lily shouts one day with tears in her eyes. “I’m not her, I’m not her, I’m not her,” she repeats over and over again. Because Lily Luna Potter is a Slytherin and brutal and fierce and full of fire and made of stone. She is not soft and kind - she is not the woman who saved her child from death. Because she can be selfish and harsh and unforgiving. She spends her mornings running through the icy, frozen woods and her nights leaning over windowsills because the rush is just right.  Lily Potter will fight to the death, but for no one but herself. And does that make her somehow distorted, she wonders as she flips through photo after photo of a young woman with pretty eyes she doesn’t have and gentle hands that she will never understand. 

“Do you know what it’s like to be named for the dead?” Fred chokes through sobs as he rushes past his mother. “Do you have any idea what it’s like to be named for someone who haunts us every day and every night? Can you imagine being named for someone you can never look like because of your skin?” Because Fred Weasley ties up his wild dark hair into a thick ponytail when it’s time to play Quidditch and sees deep brown eyes when he looks at his reflection. Because Fred is dark skinned like his mother and will never look like his namesake, and is he resented for that? Is it worse to look like the brother that his father lost or to not resemble someone he loved at all? Because, most days, Fred is already different than the rest of his cousins and friends. Fred loves to laugh and play the highest caliber of pranks, because Fred is a Weasley…but that is something that no one can physically see, and that’s what’s the most terrifying. 

“I know what it’s like to be named for the dead,” Teddy tells them all at some point, his hands on their shoulders or pulling them into a tight hug. “I know what it’s like to remind the person you love of all who they’ve lost. How much it hurts.” Because Teddy Lupin is named for a man who was killed alone and frightened in the woods over twenty years ago. He is his mother when he decides he likes the color pink and his father when his eyes morph into an almond amber. Because he is an orphan and no different from Harry…and he can understand how their father feels, because he wishes to honor those who died for him, too. Because he knows he is nothing like Ted Tonks, and yet his name carries a piece of his grandfather with him and that’s why Grandmother can only call him “Teddy,” otherwise she’d burst into tears. Because Teddy Lupin lives in between Harry and George and their children - born into war and only knowing peace. And so Teddy understands exactly what it is to be named for the dead, and knows exactly why it is so important to do so. 

And even as he tries to tell them all this, he feels hot tears running down his cheeks and wonders to his parents, who have never been there, “Do you know what it is to be named for the dead?” 

Protips

-Dont think too much about your decision
-dont let fear or other people’s actions /judgement around/about you change you.
-hug your friends
-BE SELFISH IF YOU NEED TO BE SELFISH
-BE KIND IF YOU WANT TO BE KIND
-pet every living thing except humans (with some exceptions).
-Do the things that make you happy.
-Try to find beauty around you.
- don’t be too hard on yourself.
- Appreciate every little achievement you make.
-get a little close to your family, try to get to know them.
-Get away from your family if they are not good for you. Just good vibes.
-cry every time you need to cry
-you are enough, embrace yourself.
-eat ice cream every time you want to eat ice cream.
-go to downtown and just get lost walking around.
-Pet All Dogs you see .
-take your pet to an adventure(If you don’t have a pet take your friend pet to an adventure)
-go on a date with yourself. DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF.
-hug your friends.
-take all the “me time” you need.
-hold hands with your friends no matter what.
-Really.hold.hands.with.your.friends.
-Get dressed in fancy clothes with your friends and take a nice photo
-hug your friends just bc you can.
-smile .
- don’t be Alone when you can be with someone who loves you.
-go outside
-go inside
-go to big adventures
-go to small adventures
-dye your hair
-love yourself
-eat
-cosplay your favorite gay character
-cosplay your favorite straight character
-cosplay something of any gender/orientation
- bake some cookies
-bake some blue cookies
-run as fast as you can
-scream as loud as you can
-go to concerts from your favorite bands
-get to college and study something you love
-learn a different lenguage.
-Become a volunteer.
-Go to the supermarket with your friends just to hang out.
-Watch a romantic movie with your pet.
-read.
-read more.
-dont be afraid of being different.
- don’t be a jerk to people who look “normal”.
- don’t be a jerk.
- help someone.
-help someone, again and again but not bc I’m telling you bc u want!
- GO TO A WAFFLE’S FANCY RESTAURANT.

💗💜💙If you are bisexual I love, respect, and support you. I know it does not make you a cheat, or greedy, or untrustworthy. I know it’s not a phase or a stepping stone to being ‘fully gay’. I know you are not just straight and looking for attention. I know that finding someone and falling in love doesn’t mean you’ve ‘picked a side’. I know that being bi doesn’t mean you will always be on the brink of being tempted by someone of a different gender, even when you are in love. I know you are no more likely to be unfaithful than anybody else. I know that you are important, and valued, and deserve to be happy. 💗💜💙

Brutally Honest Venus in Houses

Venus in House I
Aren’t you miss Marilyn Monroe? You present yourself to the world with charm and cuteness and get stuff on your way like that. You’re very flirty and love to play dumb so stupid people thinking they’re too smart will lecture you and you will even get out of the situation pretending you’re a good learner when in fact you’re just being diplomatic and shady. You like to be sexually admired and know how to use it in your favor without being obvious. How not to like you? Not even you know that.

Venus in House II
Here comes Lana del Rey in her Sugar Baby phase. Maybe is not even conscious but your love life has to be luxurious and you will probably fall for rich people - not that you are actively looking for this kind of thing. To you, romantic means financial effort, and if they care enough they will do it for you, right? Also you’re pretty obsessed with stability. Love comes with a price, and you won’t marry and put your being in the hands of someone who can’t even pay its own bills. Maybe you have a heritage or come from a wealthy family, and you will keep at least the same pattern of life you already have with someone stable that knows how to $ enjoy $ life.

Venus in House III
You probably fell in love for a teacher once. You just can’t resist a sweet talk and somebody that can share stories, knowledge, with good humor and a mind sharp… you’re so done. You also like to be with someone that can talk about anything without making a big deal of it, and if they don’t have anything interesting to say anymore you get bored and that’s it, the end. Also because of your endless need for new information and learning you may feel polyamory is something considerable, maybe even desirable. So many people with so many stories to share! Or maybe not, if you date a true nerd with a good heart. Is very likely you will find romance in school or college, or any study group, and maybe inspire you to follow an academic or scholar career.

Venus in House IV
You are very, very, very romantic and sentimental. Love means marrying and children, or at least marrying and having loving pets to raise. Sometimes both. You like the traditional bound - you may even say is not for you but honey, you don’t fool anyone. You like the idea of having a ring in your finger and showing off your sweet partner while making up names for your future children (or pets). You probably came from a family that gave you this traditional view - or from a so fucked up family you desired your whole life yours were better than that and decided to make your new family the closest thing possible from a traditional one. Either way, you will look for someone that can handle your family or be among the other half’s family as it were yours. And you are a hard worker to keep things as perfect as a butter advertise.

Venus in House V
You are so in love… with yourself. And everything you create. You are expressive and people love your presence - they better do, you’re a fucking genius - and you know how to attract people, how to flirt, how to keep them interested. Is like they say: work on your garden and the butterflies will come to you, and geez, your garden is a stage with high quality lightning while Mozart plays in the background to make the flowers grow more beautifully. You work on your appearance, on your expressiveness, you know exactly what you’re doing and those who don’t know how to appreciate it are not worthy of you. Your partner is someone you picked from your fans, they must admire you too - better saying, they have to understand what you are and what you do. Otherwise why even bother to lose your time with them? Losers.

Venus in House VI
You love someone who is responsible and hard working. Love to you is something a bit colder than others, you have high standards for what you want in your life and need someone to help you achieve it. This someone must work as hard as you do, must cooperate with you and stand still facing critics because you’re really mental, and your relationship is one of the things you will analyze more than feel it. The problem is you might over analyze it and ruin things when they were supposed to be ok. Chill, man. You do a good work, trust your standards, you will do fine. And so will the person you coldly chose to be with you. You will probably fall in love for a competent co-worker, maybe even your boss, or someone with a very practical view.

Venus in House VII
You’re the Venus itself. You’re a social butterfly and diplomatic af, everybody likes you and you don’t even give them the chance to not like you. You’re so fucking nice and loving, how can they not like you? Unless you have a stellium in aries or something, geez, you’re good at attracting people. You will probably fall in love for pretty people, be pretty yourself and want pretty things surrounding you. You’re all about beauty - inner and outer, but c'mon, everybody likes the outer more. You’re well behaved, gentle, you talk looking into people’s eyes and genuinely asks if everything is ok. You will probably marry and be very happy since the person that will be attracted to you will admire every piece of you, and feel lucky to have you around. Just run from people that use other people (they might perceive you’re too nice and use the shit out of you) and creeps (they might see your kindness as openness and try to do creepy shit).

Venus in House VIII
The more complicated, the better. Not because of drama, you just like… intense things. Normal relationships bore the shit out of you, you need something that will change your life completely, change the way you see things, you feel things, someone that can divide your life in “Before my partner” and “After my partner”. Someone to do new things, develop new dreams, and someone to take care emotionally and trust completely. You’re not the type of going around telling everyone you’re in love - sometimes you don’t even feel it coming. Is just there, and then you want that person all for you, in a very possessive way, and do everything to mark your territory without being obvious. You like mysterious people, or just really different people, because they will make you feel beyond the obvious and share dark secrets - the ultimate love proof for you. You may have a thing for people you shouldn’t - be the other person, or even cheat. You also are a bit traditional… but a darker version, like Morticia and Gomez - to die and kill for it. Partners in life, partners in crime. Usually in life, though, if you’re healthy.

Venus in House IX
You want to PaAaARtYy. Woohoo. You have energy, passion, attitude, and you fall for very optimistic people that will take you out of your comfort zone and go beyond with you. You might fall for college teachers and researchers, maybe people that traveled the world, or even high knowledged religion leaders, like priests. Or just a parter for crazy ideas. To you, a relationship must be something to add flavor and spice to your life and make it something incredible. Make you do incredible things, go to places you never - or always - dreamed of. The ultimate romance is to take you in a trip where you will experiment so many new things and cultures. You’re all about expansion and your love will take you beyond, make you learn something new, master a new technique… love is something almost religious that will bring you salvation. The problem is when you notice the patterns of things and get bored, or if your beloved is passing through dark times of regression. You feel lonely and that energy becomes irritation, and you may go alone with hope to find new love since you have no time for sad people.

Venus in House X
You’re the boss here. You know exactly what you want for love, and this comes with traditionalism, effort and a good status. You like the idea of marrying and having kids but indifferently from your gender you will be the “man” of the house, the boss. You will lead the relationship, take the initiative, ask to go on a date, decide when to marry, choose where to live, what to do, how to do. You are very hard working and security is important to you - and if the person doesn’t give you enough of it you will just fire them and leave the spot open to better candidates. You may seem cold but you don’t play with your life and love is something strong for you, so you just don’t give it for anyone that messes with your head. You actually know very well the difference between love and lust and are able to have lustful relationships without love, just to relieve your carnal needs. Cold, right? But real. You take responsibilities and obligations very seriously, and if you decide to bond with someone you will do it in the right way.

Venus in House XI
You’re popular and care about everyone. When it comes to love you have to find someone that will bond with your friends and coworkers. You go along with everybody and important people tend to like you. You may get involved with someone very political, or with strong political views, particularly with the power to actually do something for the masses. Or maybe a technologic nerd that is developing solutions for daily problems. You’re all about improvement and will want someone to share this view, and work together to something that will help others somehow. You’re here to make things better and your partner must recognize this. You don’t fall a little tiny for selfish bastards, even if they look pretty af - at this point you’re probably questioning the beauty standards and laughing at people that tries too hard to look good. You’re different, unique, and sometimes this is a blessing, sometimes a curse. You know you’re out of the place and fall for smart all of the place people like you. And if your morals and political views matches you will probably going to die together, holding hands and shit.

Venus in House XII
Your love is unconscious. You’re dreamy and imagine a life together with an ideal you’re afraid it doesn’t exist. This may indicate your love is in a past life too, someone you’ve bond so strongly you miss him/her and don’t even know its face. Your love makes you better as a person, grow and learn more about you. You might feel you’re infantile and this is so strange for you, while it seems so obvious for others, and will want to hide and never try. You’re too ashamed to show your feelings and always expect the worst, sometimes making a self fulfilled prophecy, and then going after easy escapes such drugs, games, porn. Bonding is specially hard for you because that’s what you need most to grow, and growing is never easy. You might break up as soon as you realize the person is not what you wanted it to be, not wanting to deal with their problems. Don’t run. You’re lovely and you can make your big dreams come true if you stay and keep on trying. Or at least the closest thing to true, which is fantastic anyway, because you’re a fabulous dreamer and that’s a great gift.

love headcanons!
  • 😍: How does your muse act different once they start to like someone?
  • 💞: In which way would they like to ask their significant other out for a date? And how do they do it eventually?
  • 💗: At which point do they realize that they've fallen in love?
  • 🌹: What are weird things they start to do once they've developed a crush?
  • 🥀: What would they do when they fell in love with someone out of their reach?
  • 🍫: In which ways do they deal with being lovesick?
  • 🎀: How do they make themselves look attractive for their significant other?
  • 💍: What do they like about being in love?
  • 💔: What do they dislike about being in love?
…I have never understood the concept of infatuation. It has always been my understanding that being ‘infatuated’ with someone means you think you are in love, but you’re actually not; infatuation is (supposedly) just a foolish, fleeting feeling. But if being ‘in love’ is an abstract notion, and it’s not tangible, and there is no way to physically prove it to anyone else… well, how is being in love any different than having an infatuation? They’re both human constructions. If you think you’re in love with someone and you feel like you’re in love with someone, then you obviously are; thinking and feeling is the sum total of what love is. Why do we feel an obligation to certify emotions with some kind of retrospective, self-imposed authenticity?

anonymous asked:

I was thinking about Dean falling in love - apart from any specific person, (hypothetically) what kind of characteristics do you think this person would need to have? How would their realtionship need to progress so that Dean would fall in love? To have a healthy and serious realtionship? There is a lot of meta on why Dean and Cas are perfect for each other, but I didn't find any from this point of view. Love your blog and your meta :)

Hi!

Dean :

From the start is set up as sublimating, so we have to look deep beyond what he is repressing, we learn little by little who he is and what he wants:

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- he’s overcompensatingly straight ergo he will end up with a dude / in a queer relationship of some kind.

- he has no faith ergo he will end up with someone associated with faith.

- he has no self worth ergo he will end up with someone who gives him faith in himself and helps him achieve self worth.

- he does not accept himself as he is, warts and all, ergo he will end up with someone who will know him inside out and love him regardless and tell him so openly.

- he craves love and affection ergo he will end up with someone who will give this to him with no preconceptions that this is unmanly or strange.

- he craves things that are not macho-manly things like disney movies, comfy socks, nesting, cooking, again, he will end up with someone who doesn’t have preconceptions or think these are unmanly or weird.

- he is a hunter of the supernatural, ergo he will end up with someone who is a supernatural being. He doesn’t believe in Angels, then believes they are all dicks, an Angel is pretty much set up as his endgame very early on.

- he needs someone he can be an equal with, who will treat him with love and respect but also take no shit. Someone strong minded yet soft when the time arises.

- He has always given up his life and himself for others, ergo he will end up with someone who gives something huge up for him.

Cas

Has always been different, with a chink in his chassis so his endgame is to be himself completely and experience Humanity for himself.

- he needs someone to make him feel like he is important for himself and not as a tool. Someone to think of him as CAS, not an IT.

- he needs someone to make him feel like he belongs as part of a supportive family with no orders and ultimatums but being treated as an equal. Someone to think he is FAMILY.

- he is in love with Humanity and loves watching it, but he wants to experience it.

- he needs someone he can be an equal with, who will treat him with love and respect but also take no shit. Someone strong minded yet soft when the time arises.

- He needs someone to introduce him to all the aspects of Humanity and experience it together, to be his guide, someone who embodies Humanity would be a plus…

So…

Cas is repeatedly said to be in love with Humanity, the Winchester’s love slave, that he always chooses them, it’s usually always focused on Dean. DEAN IS HIS HUMAN WEAKNESS…

Dean is also repeatedly told that he is ‘pretty’ or has queer jokes made about him. He is repeatedly threatened with the fact that Cas doesn’t feel the same way for him, made to believe that he doesn’t deserve love and has learned over the years that love can be a good thing, especially queer love (repeated MoTW queer couples and being told to follow his heart e.g. 11x11,11x16,11x19) or is even baited with Cas because of his love for him (e.g. Naomi, Meg, Amara).

Then we have Kripke’s own comment about Dean’s ideal love interest:

“Dean would be attracted to someone who walked in the door, slaughtered everybody and walked out, then he would say “who’s that?””

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I wonder what this could all mean?

So what’s happening? Are audiences such mule-fucking sociopaths they can’t go a minute without a blood-covered spectacle? Or are elite critics so far up their own asses that their next whitewashing complaint will be about the backs of their own bleached teeth?

Sorry to say – the answer might be neither. As I’ve noticed from purely anecdotal experience, none of these films are beloved or hated by the same group of people. Someone who loved It Follows might hate The Witch, and someone who loved The Witch might hate The Babadook, and et cetera. And some people (like me) might love all of these films, and have friends they respect and admire who don’t like any of them.

So I have a theory – one that doesn’t force me to repeatedly suplex all my friends. The reason these movies stand out as being polarizing isn’t just because they are slower and more atmospheric. It’s because they’re actually an entirely new genre of horror that works drastically differently on different types of people. Why? Because all of these films are extremely allegorical to some real-world problem or philosophy. And while critics and movie nerds are more likely to pick up on this, the casual horror-goer isn’t going to care unless it’s an analogy they are specifically attuned with. Nine times out of ten they just want a fear-induced rush to enjoy with their date.

I’m gonna call it “Parable Horror” and hope that it sticks. Or maybe “Alle-gore-y”? Wait. Let’s call it “Scarable.” That’s way better. Are we all cool with “Scarable”? I feel like I shouldn’t be the only person in charge of naming a new genre… but I also feel like I just hit it out of the park.

How ‘Get Out’ Is Pioneering A Brand New Genre Of Horror

The Signs with a Broken Heart

This post is essentially based on my/my friends’ real life experiences.I’ll also try to include some advice how to get over this struggle. Your Sun & Venus Signs matter!

I think that today, after having written some love posts, I had to think about those who spent this day alone, because they are comfortable with it, because they don’t need anyone, or maybe because their heart isn’t healed enough to start dating again. And it’s totally fair. Heartbreak is way too underrated lately in my opinion, we think about those with a sickness, we think about those who are poor, we say that as long as you are healthy, have a place to sleep, have something to eat, you must be happy, but sometimes an emotional wound is a lot harder to heal than a physical one. When you love someone, they become the most important part of your life. You share your days with them, you miss them, you decide where to go for a dinner together because you want them to be happy too, you basically change your whole lifestyle to fit theirs. And then if one day, they decide to take their love away, it feels like only half of your life is left and you ask yourself questions how it’s possible to make it stop just like that, from one minute to another. This is why it’s so hard to get over a broken heart. And sometimes it’s even worse to lose someone who never even was yours. You start questioning everything, why does life play such a prank on you and makes you meet them, like them, fall in love and all this for nothing, because they don’t share your feelings. A person questioning themselves, thinking that they aren’t good enough for a person they love, that someone else is and they aren’t, is probably one of the most hurtful feelings.

So here’s how I see the signs being hurt and hopefully this will help a few of you. Not because you will read this post and your pain will suddenly go away, no way, I just want you to know that there’s always someone to understand exactly how you feel, that you’re not alone.

ARIES:

As an Aries, you can be very emotional, but real feelings don’t reach you too often. Quite careless in your young years, you might be attracted to people physically, like them in different ways, call it love, feel sadness about losing them, but only the pain of a broken heart will tell you it was real. Because 

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AQUARIUS: writing a poem you like for the first time in months. learning how to love yourself. when a stranger smiles at you. screaming the words to your favorite song. smoking cigarettes in the backseat of a car.

PISCES: going to your first therapist appointment. making amends with someone who wronged you. giving a speech in front of a classroom. talking about the things that used to hurt and realizing they don’t anymore.

ARIES: exploring someone’s body like a treasure map. the first time you drank alcohol in your friend’s basement. writing until your fingers are sore. running so fast you can’t breathe. screaming profanities out of a car window.

TAURUS: coming home for the holidays. hiking up a mountain and enjoying the beautiful view. someone standing up for you. hot chocolate warming your throat after being out in the cold. reading a poem that’s about you.

GEMINI: when someone says i love you for the first time. laughing so hard your stomach aches. crying so hard but feeling better afterwards. showing up at your ex’s house half drunk. flowers blooming in the spring after a long winter.

CANCER: how it feels when someone is afraid to lose you. loving someone despite all of the mistakes they have made. feeling bad for somebody else. turning your hurt into artwork. hanging your feet over the edge of a dock.

LEO: talking to someone under the stars at 2 in the morning. drinking wine with your mom. baking chocolate chip cookies and eating the dough. tasting snow on your tongue. when you make a joke and everyone laughs.

VIRGO: sitting at home curled up with your favorite book or tv show. the shy longing looks at the beginning of a relationship. the satisfaction you feel when you help others. acing a test. looking up at the stars at night.

LIBRA: looking into someone’s eyes and knowing exactly how they feel. having deep conversation with someone and feeling like they understand you. sprawling across your best friend’s bed. your hair being played with.

SCORPIO: making love in a restaurant bathroom. sneaking out of your parents’ house in the middle of the night. sitting around a blazing fire singing songs and sharing stories. kissing someone first. saying i love you and meaning it.

SAGITTARIUS: dancing in the middle of the street. autumn leaves crunching underneath your feet. taking a vacation to a different country where you don’t speak the language. looking into the mirror and liking what you see.

CAPRICORN: meeting your significant other’s parents for the first time. eating ice cream and getting brain freezes with your best friends. saying goodbye to someone you thought you couldn’t live without. standing up to your fears.

—  what the signs remind me of

I’ve realized lately why I have been pushing away all the guys that are so nice to me. It’s because i’m afraid of falling in love with someone that’s not you. I am afraid of having my heart broken again. I am afraid of being committed to someone that could leave at any minute and not look back. Because right now I am faced with many different obstacles in my life. Within the next year I could be faced with the opportunity of a life time and I don’t want to fall in love with someone and have to leave them behind. 

Ten Women I Have Been Warned Against Becoming:

1. The Girl Who Takes Up Too Much Space, always, her shoulders too wide in stairwells, her hips too big in doorways, her voice too loud in classes. This woman does not understand the art of crumbling, of curling herself tight like the spiral of a fern, soft, delicate, unwilling to reach out the ivy of her fingers to grasp onto what should rightfully be hers. This is a beast, an elephant, a moving mountain and she is capable of flattening you, she is capable of ruining you, she is capable of making you feel as small and insignificant in her life as she is supposed to be. You are this woman’s footnote to history, you are her side note in song lyrics, you are constantly interrupted by her with a witty joke you wish you thought of. I asked what the problem was with being a steamroller instead of a sunflower and I was laughed down.

2. The Beautiful One, the long hair or the slim waist or the pretty eyes or the lips like bowstrings. This woman looks good in everything because she’s confident in whatever you put her in. She’ll cut her hair short on you no matter how you like it, she’ll wear high heels and step on your opinions, she’ll look hot as hell no matter what size she is. See, the reason you can’t trust her is because women like this don’t need your permission, they’ll do as they please and get away with it. They’ll say no to you, over and over. Teach your daughters that beautiful means dangerous, teach them to distrust women who love themselves. Equate beautiful with vapid, equate pretty with stupid, take their power from them. Say they’re vain for their makeup, refuse to see them without it. These women are snakes, they are serpents. I said maybe the problem lies with you being unable to control yourself and was told to get off my pedestal.

3. A Bitch. Women are supposed to be ladies in the street but will tear skin under sheets. I’m told: Never raise your voice. Speak gently. Submit. Hold your opinion against your lips and when you admit to it, make sure it comes out as a butterfly wing suggestion. Don’t disagree. Don’t undermine someone else’s authority, regardless of whether or not they deserve your respect. Someone touches you, just move away from them. Don’t hit. Don’t talk back. Be like the ruins of Rome, only beautiful if you can’t hear your quiet death.

4. The Needy One. I have heard how others spit when they talk about how she gave you everything and you shoved it back down her throat until she choked on it, until she came back crawling and asked you what she did, until her palms and knees were scraped for want of just a little affection - never be this woman, I’m told, because she’s a joke and the joke is that she dared to have more emotion than you did. The truth is, I’m told, the one who cares less in a partnership is the one who wins. I didn’t know this was a competition.

5. The Cock Tease, certified stripper, how dare that girl look like that and not want me to sleep with her. Lust is always personified as a lady in red with a dress slit up her thigh. Lust is sinful because it’s power, it’s not asking for attention - it’s demanding it. I’m told she is the worst kind of woman, that looking good is supposed to be some kind of shame on her kin. I’m told not to leave the house in such a short skirt, not with a shirt so low, not with a lace back, not with high heels, not dressed like that. My lipstick can’t be too red, my hair can’t be too mussed, I can’t just “turn someone on like that and then leave them wanting.” I mentioned that instant gratification actually ruins our psyche and was told that being led on was “exhausting.” I said that there was a difference between purposefully tricking someone into liking you and just being attractive or friendly. I was told there’s also a difference between coffee and tea but both result in caffeine. I said, “I’ve been turned on in class by the girls I talk to but I didn’t expect anything from them,” and they said, “It’s different, you’re not a man,” but couldn’t explain where that difference was.

6. A Slut, obviously ruined by another person’s touch. It doesn’t matter how many people she’s actually been with, it’s all about the rumors she carries with her. Easy. Harlot. You’ll still try to get with her, you’ll still take her into your bed and kiss her and say things you don’t mean - but you’ll defame her name when you talk to your buddies. My father used to say “A slut is fine for the night, but the virgin is who you take home and marry.” Maybe he didn’t know he was teaching his daughter to hate her sexuality. Maybe he didn’t know that every time she’d be kissed, her whole system would shake until she felt ready to combust, shame and self-hatred shivering against her spine. Maybe he didn’t know she’d disconnect emotions and sex because he always told her, “Boys are different, they won’t care about you.” Nobody said to her that it was okay to experiment. See, the funny thing is, I’m a dancer so I know exactly where my center of gravity is. I know how hard I’ll fall in each direction. Yet out of fear of getting hurt, I won’t let a single person inside of my bed.

7. The Soulmate. Never love romance more than you love being cynical. Never show weakness, never like pink, never think maybe you might find someone nice and settle down with them. Someone will find you, I was told, And if you’re lucky, he’ll put up with you when you start getting old. Never be the woman who believes in happily ever after, never be dumb enough to think maybe someone could love you after all of your mistakes. It has nothing to do with whether or not a family is important to you and you’re in a good place where a relationship would make your life better - you’re not a princess. You don’t get married, you settle.

8. The Girl With Strength, who can outrun everyone and who is stronger than her boyfriend. “See the thing about boys,” says my daddy, “Is that you have to let them win.” I sat at home and read stories about Artemis and wanted to become the huntress, too. I wanted to howl at the moon, I wanted to slay the beasts that bested me, I wanted to rule my kingdom with bloody fists. But girls are never athletes, never supposed to be “built,” regardless of the fact civilizations were constructed on our spines and we made homes in war by the steel of our ribs. Never be strong. We are supposed to wilt.

9. The Lady CEO: because if you choose work over family, are you really a girl? How dare you fight your way to the top through every pair of eyes that bore through your blouse, through every meeting where you were hushed by the sound of someone else talking, through every time someone called you “sweetie,” how dare you yearn for something. Is your husband the stay-at-home one? I can’t imagine how that is going. He’s not a real man, after all. I don’t give it long before the divorce. How dare you decide you’re happy being single. Don’t you know you’re supposed to bear children. Where is your honor? Where is your wisdom? Who cares if you are the leader, the best suited for your position, the quickest-thinking, the one who makes the hardest clients come back again. Don’t you see? Across history, women have been terrible at success. They always lose their man in the end. (When I said, “I would rather be a famous author than a mediocre mother,” I was told, “No, don’t worry, you’ll be a fine mommy.”)

10. THE GIRL I AM: FIRECRACKER AND DON’T YOU FUCKING FORGET IT I’LL RIP YOU TO SHREDS AND I WON’T FUCKING REGRET IT I’M NOT YOUR PRETTY GIRL I’M NOT YOUR ANYTHING I’M PERFECT, MOTHERFUCKER, AND I’M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP WHAT I’M DOING. I DON’T WANT TO BE “LADYLIKE” THAT LITERALLY MEANS NOTHING I’M NOT GOING TO STOP STANDING UP AND DEMANDING WHAT’S COMING TO ME. I’M GONNA BE SOMEBODY. I’M GONNA MAKE THEM REMEMBER ME. I REFUSE TO BE OVERSHADOWED IN HISTORY. I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WERE TRYING TO CREATE BUT YOU MADE ME A DRAGON YOU PUT ME IN THE FIRE AND WHEN I STOPPED BURNING I LEARNED HOW TO GLOW DON’T THINK YOU CAN STOP ME YOU CAN’T TAME A TORNADO.

—  In respectful response to a poem tilted, “Ten men women have warned me against becoming.” /// r.i.d
Love Transits

Transits got me thinking about love again, so here you go, a master post on transits that involve love, meeting people, etc etc (Probably only going to include positive ones). Hopefully I don’t miss any.
(keep in mind that these are like, unafflicted aspects so don’t be like “this isnt happening for me” because chances are something is afflicting it or you are literally not taking advantage of the power it’s providing you with)

Retrogrades

Mercury Retrograde
Increases likelihood of reconnecting with people from your past (can either be a good or bad thing). Especially effective in houses that deal with relationships (3rd, 5th, 7th, and 11th), but really it can happen in any house, like for example, in the 9th house it might be due to traveling that you meet someone from your past.

Venus Retrograde
Increases likelihood of reconnecting with a past lover. Again like the Mercury Retrograde, it can be bad or good, depends if you wanna see your ex again.

Venus Transiting Specific Houses

Venus transiting your Third House
A good time for confessing love/reassuring your loved one’s that you love them.

Venus transiting your Fifth House
Increases likelihood of finding a love interest while working in your area of creativity. Finding a love interest during this transit without having to surrender who you are means you can be yourself around this person.

Venus transiting your Seventh House
Helps all relationships,  whether it be friends, a lover, or enemies. Expressing love is easier during this time. Increases likelihood of meeting a new love interest as well.

Venus transiting your Eighth House
Relationships that begin in this transit leave big impacts on your life whether they be good or bad. Gives existing relationships closer intimacy and intensity. During this time, you are able to see the whole ocean your relationship represents versus just its surface.

Venus transiting your Ninth House
Attraction for people who are strange or different increases during this time.

Venus transiting your Tenth House
The likelihood of falling in love with someone who’s older or above you increases during this time.

Venus transiting your Eleventh House
Likelihood of falling in love with a friend increases. Existing love relationships may bring in new friendships.

Venus transiting your Twelfth House
Denial of being in love.

Other Planets Transiting the 5th and 7th House

Sun transiting your Seventh House
Likelihood of meeting a new love interest during this time is increased. You will also take relationships some what lightly during this time.

Sun transiting your Seventh House
A time to discuss with your partner about the importance of the relationship, examine your roles in each others lives.

Moon transiting your Fifth house
Emotional experiences with love are brought out during this time. You may also be very protective of your lover during this time.

Moon transiting your Seventh House
Relationships and marriage will be important to you during this time.

Mercury transiting your Seventh House
A good time to discuss any issues in a relationship.

Mars transiting your Fifth House
You’ll be thirsty af. No other way of putting it. Mars transiting the 8th house has this same affect.

Jupiter transiting your Fifth House
Expansion and growth in relationships. New relationships started under this transit may be with a person who is dramatically different from you so you can learn and experience new things from them.

Jupiter transiting your Seventh House
The topic of marriage runs smoothly during this transit. New relationships started under this transit is likely to be with someone who is older (physically or spiritually) and more experienced in life. They may also come from a different background or country than you.

Saturn transiting your Fifth House
A love affair with someone who is either older or younger than you may begin under this transit.

Transiting Venus Aspects

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Sun
Makes you appear more attractive to males.

Transiting Venus Trines Natal Sun
Little to no difficulty showing affection towards people. You are comfortable being yourself around love interests during this time.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Moon
Dreamy romantic moods. You view romance on an emotional plane today.

Transiting Venus Opposition Natal Moon
Desires between you and your loved one to take care of each other.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Mercury
Increases chances of making good first impressions, especially towards potential love interests.

Transiting Venus Trines Natal Mercury
A good time to confess love to someone.

Transiting Venus Opposites Natal Mercury
A good time for discussion about the relationship. Communication is important and it will happen during this time.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Venus
Increases likelihood of meeting a new love interest and making new friends. Also a good time to confess love for someone.

Transiting Venus Sextiles Natal Venus
New relationships made under this transit are beneficial for the future and most of the time very successful.

Transiting Venus Trines Natal Venus
Attraction for considerably beautiful people increases during this time. Lots of unusually romantic encounters during this transit as well.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Mars
People with lots of masculine energy will be likely more attracted to people with a lot of feminine energy and vice versa during this transit. Symbolizes actually seeking out a love interest. Indicates the likelihood of meeting a new love interest. Relationships are very passionate during this time.

Transiting Venus Sextiles Natal Mars
Attracts the people you actually want to attract into your life.

Transiting Venus Squares Natal Mars
Desires for a more physical relationship is indicated at this time. Not the best for starting a relationship during this time as you will be more attracted to looks than personality.

Transiting Venus Trines Natal Mars
Relationships started under this transit will likely last a long time and be satisfying. During this time it is easier to charm people.

Transiting Venus Opposites Natal Mars
Likelihood of seeking for casual/sexual relationships

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Jupiter
REALLY good for weddings. Love is a celebration when Jupiter is involved.

Transiting Venus Sextiles Natal Jupiter
New relationships started under this transit bring out the best qualities in you. Attraction towards people with a very vast mind is indicated.

Transiting Venus Trine  Natal Jupiter
May attract a new love interest, but might not lead onto anything significant

Transiting Venus Conjunct Natal Saturn
Relationships started under this transit are loyal and long lasting.

Transiting Venus Sextile Natal Saturn
If you have an existing relationship, you may want it to become more serious during this time. Seeking out new relationships during this transit may make you consider deeply about what exactly you are looking for.

Transiting Venus Trines Natal Saturn
Indicates taking relationships seriously at this time. You may seek out someone who is very stable during this time.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Uranus
Unexpected relationships occur under this transit.

Transiting Venus Sextiles or Trine Natal Uranus
Attracts casual and unconventional relationships.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Neptune
Sensitive and romantic energy is presented by this transit. Daydreaming or having fantasies about potential relationships in your life. During this time you are willing to sacrifice for your lover.

Transiting Venus Sextiles Natal Neptune
Similar to the conjunction, only more subtle.

Transiting Venus Trines Natal Neptune
Like the sextile, it carries sensitive and romantic energy in subtle, pleasant ways. New relationships started under this transit feel very spiritual. May make you feel as if you’ve found your soul-mate (whether that be true or if it’s Neptune tricking you). If you are in an existing relationship, it may be time to evaluate whether or not you guys are soul-mates.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Natal Pluto
May make you seek out intense relationships. Meeting new love interests under this transit makes you infatuated and obsessed with them.

Transiting Venus Squares Natal Pluto
Emotional transformations generally happen during a transit like this. Could be for better or for worse.

Transiting Venus Sextiles/Trines Natal Pluto
Brings intensity to existing relationships; overwhelming feelings for your partner. New relationships started under this transit seem to have some sort of magnetism to them. They are intense and magical.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Midheaven
Good transit for marriage and a good day to confess love to someone.

Transiting Venus Trines Midheaven
A good transit for sorting out difficulties and mending a relationship. Time to put everything out in the open and allow love to heal it.

Transiting Venus Conjuncts Ascendant
The likelihood of meeting a new love interest during this time is great. It is also a good time to mend broken relationships.

Transiting Venus Trines/Sextiles Ascendant
Like the conjunction, increases your chances in meeting a new love interest, but in order to do so, you will need to put yourself out there. Go out with friends, have a good time and then you will be able to seek a new love interest.

Transiting Venus Opposites Ascendant
A good day to introduce yourself to potential love interests. Indicates the beginning of new love relationships. Very good time to be going out and meeting people.

Other Transiting Planets Aspects

Transiting Sun Conjuncts Natal Venus
You will crave attention during this time and you will do a great effort to get the attention you think you deserve. You may also find a new love interest.

Transiting Sun Sextiles/Trines Natal Venus
During this time you are more open to meeting new people and spending time with friends.

Transiting Sun Opposites Natal Venus
Brings awareness to how much you need your lover in your life.

Transiting Moon Conjuncts/Trines/Sextiles Natal Mercury
A good time to talk about your feelings.

Transiting Moon Conjuncts/Trines/Sextiles Natal Venus
Strengthens existing relationships.

Transiting Mercury Conjuncts/Trines/Sextiles Natal Venus
You or someone will confess their love. Also a good time to talk about your relationship with your lover.

Transiting Mars Trines/Sextiles Natal Moon
Emotions are intense during this time. Indicates love-hate relationships and tension. You can’t decide if you wanna punch a person in the face or kiss them.

Transiting Mars Conjuncts/Trines/Sextiles Natal Venus
Indicates new love interests and physical relationships. Sexual desires run high.

Transiting Jupiter Conjuncts Natal Venus
On the rare occasion that a relationship starts under this transit, it is extremely favourable and successful. Also beneficial to existing relationships.

Transiting Jupiter Trines/Sextiles Natal Venus
You may feel like flirting with and impressing a potential love interest during this time. New relationships started under this transit are often very significant. The sextile symbolizes a longer lasting relationship than the trine, but you should check other transits to see the success in that.

Transiting Saturn Conjuncts Natal Venus
Relationships started under this transit are likely due to fate and bring great significance to your life.

Transiting Saturn Trines/Sextiles Natal Venus
Symbolizes a lover with an age difference (physically or spiritually). Relationships will be looked at more practically and seriously with this transit.

Reggie Mantle Stan
  • What they say: I'm fine.
  • What they mean: I'm not fine, why do people think he's clueless clearly he's a smart lil bean that needs to appreciated more. He lives for attention because he doesn't get any at home. His parents work for good causes but forget all about him. He doesn't get the whole teen scene because he's never really had people with him and his pranks is what he enjoys to do for attention. My boii got a dog from a shelter for god sakes because he was lonely. He names it VADER could he be any more of a dork. You would think someone with his built would pick a different dog but he picked the smallest one that needed a home because he knows what it's like being lonely and having to fend for himself. He doesn't love Midge he likes the idea of someone like her in his life loving him for who he is. He has such a big heart but nobody knows because he hides it so well and I just want to grab him and hug him and tell him everything is gonna be alright and that he will find happiness.
  • *Catches Breath*