How This Woman Overcame Her Fear of Heartbreak Is Going Viral
Taylor, 22, took the internet by storm with her post on fearing heartbreak and its follow-up on what love really means. (Photo: @acutelesbian/Instagram)
A young poet named Taylor from Ohio has received an overwhelming response after penning a piece about her greatest fear.
The 22-year-old’s post is about heartbreak and was written in response to a class she’d taken at school called Relationships for Life. The four-verse piece was posted alongside hundreds of her other works on Tumblr, but quickly went viral when the topic resonated with more than a million other users who posted notes empathizing with the author.
Here’s the work in full:
A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most.
And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that, when I was 17, I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it.
That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain.
Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life.
After it resonated so strongly, Taylor decided to follow up the piece with a post elaborating on her what she’d learned about love from the class. “I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class,” she wrote. “After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, ‘Is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?’ We were all a bunch of teenagers.Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.”
She revealed that after the class she was tasked with asking married adults about why their relationships had lasted or failed. This experience totally transformed her initial attitude to finding love. “Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment,” she explained. “It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing.” She noted that while married couples said that “when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with,” the divorced individuals said they chose to walk away.
She said this changed her approach to love from then on. “I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.”
She also explained why she no longer fears the heartbreak of losing someone: “I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.”