1. Try to be as natural as you can when you’re with others. Just be “you”. Don’t put on a false self and try to be someone you’re not. Accept your flaws and imperfections – as everyone has them anyway!
2. Listen carefully when others are speaking. Give them your full and undivided attention. And really listen when other people are speaking: don’t just act as if you’re interested in them.
3. If you say or do something that’s inept or stupid, then be the first to laugh at yourself. Also, don’t blame others if you do something wrong – you’ll be much more respected if you say that it was you.
4. Be quick to notice and to show appreciation for other people, and what they do for you. Also, notice their successes and the things that they do well, and praise them openly, so others know as well. (But don’t usually flattery as it sounds insincere.)
5. Be honest (but tactful) when you’re asked for your opinion. That sends the message that you usually speak the truth.
6. Look for ways that you can help other people, as genuine people are sensitive and caring. As a side effect, it will likely boost your mood – and others will be drawn by your inner happiness.
The idea is to live your life in a way that makes you feel lit up. Alive. Full fledged. Beautiful. Know and find what nourishes you inside out, bones to skin and then you build your world from that alone. All else is not part of your revolution; Or your ultimate evolution.
Do what makes you happy. Take care of yourself. Be carefree. We’re not going to live forever, and when you really think about it, it’s really not that long in the grand scheme of things. So live gracefully. Stop chasing towards material things and being someone that you’re not. Life is far too short to be anyone but yourself and to be doing anything that you’re not completely in love with.
Listen to me, your body is not a temple. Temples can be destroyed and desecrated. Your body is a forest — thick canopies of maple trees and sweet scented wildflowers sprouting in the underwood. You will grow back, over and over, no matter how badly you are devastated.
“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” - Mark Twain
Invoke your inner goddess and find the strength to be comfortable with who you are, it is time you banish the negativity residing in you and welcome in the love.
The Ingredients: 💕Pink Himalayan Salt for self-love 💕Rose Petals or Oil for self-love and passion. 💕Rosemary and/or Sage for purification and cleansing - Essential Oils are fine as well. 💕Lavender for self-love and happiness 💕One White or Pink Candle, whichever you prefer. 💕 Optional Crystals! I recommend rose quartz, selenite or moonstone and it explains why here.
The Spell: Take some time to meditate, light some incense and center your mind, you want to make sure you are calm and only putting good energy into yourself. When you feel calm and focused mix the salt, rose petals, rosemary, and lavender into a small bowl, mortar, etc. Now crush them all up into a fine powder and remember to focus on healing and loving yourself.
When your magical powder is finished put it aside. Bring the candle of your choice in front of you. If you decided to use crystals in your magick this is the time to get them out and place them in a circle around your candle. If you can make it look like your crystals are pointing towards the candle. Now grab your powder and dip your fingers in it, on your candle either around the wick or on the face of it write your initial. Light the candle and wrap your hands around it (if you can, I just like holding my sigil candle) and focus on letting it all go, the pain, sorrow, doubt, insecurities, as the candle burns away so do all of those things. And you welcome in love, confidence, and strength as your initial fades away.
Happy casting witches! 🔮💞 Get your own self-love and ritual candle here.
We all do it. Some of us more than others. We talk about the girl next door or the new guy that just started working here. We talk about how the Brown’s just split up and “Did you hear why they separated?” Did you know that when we talk about people it shows an insecurity or jealousy in us? Boom. Where are you lacking in your life that you feel the need to cut down someone else’s life? Have a think about that for a moment.
There’s no point or purpose to this. Who are you lying to and why? It doesn’t even make any sense to do this and I still don’t understand why so many people still lie. You think the truth hurts, check out a lie. Nothing hurts more than that.
3) Worrying about things that haven’t happened yet.
Let me repeat that if I may. Things that haven’t happened yet. Why would you waste your time and energy worrying about something that hasn’t even happened? I know a lot of us play out a situation in our head and our first instinct is to be play it out with a bad ending. Why do we do that? I’ve done this one myself once or twice. Worry is a natural emotion/feeling. It’s up to you to control it and stop it in its tracks before it spirals out of control. That’s when the stress kicks in and our blood pressure rises. No need for all this now, is there?
4) Holding a grudge.
There’s an old saying “holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. Think about that for a sec. The poison you are drinking is the grudge. You are swallowing every drop and you are mad and pissed off to a point of no return. Expecting the other person to die? Honestly they could care less what you think. Hell they probably aren’t even thinking about you anyway. So why on earth are you wasting your time and energy grudging on someone? Go pick some flowers and bring them to a nursing home. Really. Spend time doing happy things. Not brewing and stewing over silly things.
The girls in the magazine are beautiful. Sally has a beautiful body. Jimmy has a nice car. The Whites just bought a brand new house. With every turn, someone somewhere has something better or nicer than we do. Our first reaction is jealousy. There is no need to be jealous really. We all have something special, unique and beautiful inside of us. We also all have something that someone else wishes they had. Just be grateful for who you are and what you have. You are perfect and blessed exactly the way you are. Embrace it.
6) You’ve already lived the past.
Oh how we love to hang on to what happened 5, 10 or even 25 years ago. We still go on and on about it to whoever will listen. Why shouldn’t we? Who we are today is because of what happened to us yesterday. Well, yes, you’re right. Sort of. Who we are today is the result of the way we chose to handle the past. We didn’t all have silver spoons in our mouths. Some of us were dealt really shitty hands. It is what it is. Be done with it. No one wants to hear it, really. Just tell us something happy and joyful. That’s all we want to hear now.
7) I don’t love me.
Watch how you talk to yourself. You are listening. Make sure your self-talk is loving, kind, compassionate, gentle, caring and supportive. Talking bad about yourself to yourself is probably the worst thing you can do. Treat yourself in a totally loving and positive manner. When you do this, you will be able to see how awesome you are and how much more awesome you will become.
8) Woe is me.
Always the victim never the victor. Sad things keep happening to you and you can’t wait to tell the next person you see. The more you talk about it, the more depressed you get and the more terrible things keep happening to you. You think your life is bad? Go hang out in a city where they just had a devastating earthquake or tsunami. Stop whining. We’re getting sick of listening to it and there will come a point where no one will want to be around you. How lonely will that be?
9) Negative Nancy.
We are really truly sad for you and wish, just once, you could see something in a positive light. Not everything is bad. Honest. Try to find the good in things and when you do you will see that more good things will show up in your life. It’s a universal law. It has to be. You are sucking the life out of us and we don’t want to hang around you anymore.
This list covers many things that we all do almost on a daily basis. Next time you catch yourself doing any of these, stop it. Immediately. Turn it around and tell yourself that your soul is beautiful and deserves only loving, kind and caring thoughts. Once you get into this habit, in no time you will see that these behaviours will become a thing of the past and your soul will illuminate beauty.
I want to love you more
Than you have
Love before this.
I want to love you in
That demonstrate to you
What is good and pure
And worthy about you:
I want to hold up
A mirror to your inner self
That shows you why
I love you.
With Venus in square aspect to your Ascendant you may continually underestimate your worth or value as a person. You may have fallen victim to the idea that your appearance is the only key to your beauty and, whether or not you think you are physically attractive, may never be quite satisfied with the way you look. On a deeper level, you may be dealing with a sense of inadequacy which may stem from a feeling that you are not lovable. Being lovable begins with the way you feel about yourself, and by becoming more accepting and loving toward yourself, you nurture the true essence of love – which resides at the core of your inner self. You may also struggle with the experience of putting yourself at risk or putting forth effort in order to achieve the realization of your desires. You may find that you actually appreciate something more if you attain it through your own efforts than if it were simply given to you.
Self-love means that you love yourself; it doesn't demand the love of others. There is no need to convince others. An internal acceptance is sufficient. It has nothing to do with the viewpoints of others.
I know this is an extremely stressful time for you, but just remember you can only do as much as you possibly can. Then, give yourself a definite break of at least an hour to two, just to give yourself (brain included) a rest, which everyone needs once one reaches their limit. Remember, you will still be alive tomorrow, the sun will still rise the next day, so its not “A matter of life or death.”
My craving for attention is disturbing the peace in my mind and is complicating my relationship with my boyfriend. I seek love and attention, and to feel important, and I lack the confidence I once had. Any words of wisdom? Thank you, Greg.
Give the love and attention you seek outside, to yourself. Spend time with what you feel and give attention to your inner self. Show that you love you, regardless of what others are doing. If they ignore you, turn your attention to yourself and be with yourself. If they praise you and show you affection, feel and turn your attention to that.
This love you want from the outside truly originates within you. Do t take my word for this. Seek its source and simply feel it within you. Keep seeking until you find it. Seek, feel and you may find that you’re whole and complete and worthy of this love regardless of what you were taught or believe about yourself or what others feel about you. You my find that that love is there for you, just because, no cause, no way you have to be or have someone near you or like you. Just because. Just because you’re here and alive.
That love, the love within you and the love that is there for you just because you are here is the love that other love is a mere reflection of and that love is what will never leave you; you leave it. That is the love that will keep you from clinging to the outside world and others. That is freedom.
Choose to expand in self love daily.
》Self love is the foundation of a high vibrational path and journey. It also sets the standard and tone for all that is to come. Truly love yourself and you’ll attract others who do too.