Watching Derek dote on someone is hard – harder than Stiles
thought it would ever be, despite the fact he knows it’s insincere; despite the
fact it’s the job and nothing more.
It’s hard because
Stiles hasn’t had those arms around him in months, hasn’t had opportunity to
arrange a chance meeting on a crowded street in weeks, hasn’t had Derek’s eyes
meet his and watched his mouth curl into a smile for him.
Derek’s team have
been fairly indulgent, letting Stiles tag along on the assignment to observe
and allowing him to blend with various crowds just to be close to Derek. Early
on, before Derek insinuated himself into their mark’s life, they even allowed
them to talk on the phone, but that might as well have been in another
hates his job, hates Derek’s job, hates the fact they’d never have met if it
wasn’t for their jobs because then he can’t hate it as much.
Stiles is across the
restaurant and he can’t tear his eyes away from the back of Derek’s head for
more than a few seconds at a time, usually at the prompting of the agent he’s
sitting across from.
This spell is actually inspired by something my tarot cards told me, to let go of the pain and hurt and let it be swept away. This is a powder you’ll scatter into the winds.
Wormwood - for all of the bitterness and pain you’ve been holding in Salt/salt water - to symbolize tears and sadness Rosemary - to let go of the memories that hold you back Ashes - to symbolize the things around you that have been painful and unsuccessful, the ways you’ve been burned Rue (optional) - for regret (I don’t have any rue on hand right now, but it would be a fantastic addition to the spell)
Blend your ingredients together in a small bowl. You don’t need to grind them up if you don’t want to. Mix them, and while you do, think about all of the sadness and pain you’re holding in. Pour out all of your emotions of what’s pent up and hurting. Think of the past hurts and wounds. Pour that sadness into this powder.
Stand outside. (Crossroads would be great for this, but not necessary.) Take your mixture and hold it in front of you. Call forth the elements as you see fit. If you work with spirits/deities, now would be the time to call on them to aid you in this spell. Take a handful of powder and toss it into the wind at one of the four cardinal directions.
If you like to speak during your rituals (I personally don’t, so feel free to skip this), say something along the lines of
To the North I toss my regrets To the South I toss my sorrows To the East I toss my sadness To the West I toss my pain
May the winds carry them away from me So shall it be.
As you toss your mixture into each direction, picture the wind blowing it away and carrying your sorrows and struggles far away from you. Take a deep breath, and let it all go.
Thank the directions and elements for their assistance and end the spell as you see fit. Then go do something to cleanse and love yourself as a way to welcome in hope and love in place of sorrow and regret. (Write out a list of goals, do a self love spell, etc. Lots of options here!) Take a deep breath, your problems have been blown into the wind!
I wanted to make a post about this weird culture we have right now where we make it seem like boys are obliged to put up with female abuse.
I think a lot of people look past it but there definitely are a large amount of people who think things like girls kicking or punching their boyfriends is okay and that the solution is to have him ‘pull her closer’, or that girls demanding that he not talk to other girls is okay, or that a girl asking for his password to everything is fine, or that if a girl says “leave me alone” and he actually leaves her alone and gives her space, the guy is the one being the asshole. I think a lot of people genuinely believe in the whole ‘hard to get’ thing or the ‘testing’ thing (ex. “I just said I was breaking up with you to see if you’d beg for me back but I guess not, asshole! You don’t really love me after all!”), and a lot of things that I see in mainstream relationships tend to be super abusive and manipulative.
So that being said, boys, if a girl is abusing you, or a boy, or anyone for that matter, do me a favor and leave their ass if they aren’t willing to effectively communicate and fix the situation. A relationship is about being happy- contrary to popular beliefs, it isn’t about sacrifices, it isn’t about how “if you TRULY loved them, you’d never leave them!” and while love is a big component, and sacrifices may happen, the most important aspect is that you feel loved, safe, and like you both put equal effort into it to create a healthy balance.
here’s a list of the scenarios/imagines, texts and reactions that I’ve written. i’ll be updating this from time to time so that you guys can see or check out if you want to :) I hope you guys enjoy reading these imagines/scenarios that I’ve written and have a nice day! enjoy! :)
Self love isn’t just about eating healthy food and taking bubble baths. Self love is refusing to regret the night you went out with your friends and only slept for 30 minutes. Self love is recognizing that sometimes you need to eat that cupcake. Self love is waking up at noon without feeling bad about missing the entire morning because lets be real, mornings are overrated anyway. It’s skipping the gym to watch Netflix and never feeling guilty about it. It’s drinking tequila at 2 am and having a dance party by yourself without worrying about the morning. Self love isn’t only about doing things your future self will appreciate you for. It’s about allowing yourself to make mistakes, to be lazy, to have fun and go crazy once in a while and never make yourself feel bad for something you had a great time doing
Take comfort in the fact that it is Stefan and no one else that had the biggest impact on Elena’s life. Take comfort in the fact that Stefan is still the person that knows Elena best. These are all canon facts. Take comfort in the fact that if circumstances were slightly different Stelena would have found their way back to each other . I mean is there even a question? Take comfort in the fact that Stefan was the best choice. Take comfort in the fact that Stefan brought Elena back to life and then it was Stefan again who gave her a chance at a normal life gave her life back to her. Take comfort in the fact that it was Stefan who understood Elena’s dreams and wishes the best. Take comfort in the fact that it took Elena changing into another species entirely to pull her away from Stefan. Take comfort in the fact that Stelena was light Delena was darkness. Take comfort in the fact that Stelena was selfless till the very end. Isn’t that what love should be? And this is who Stefan is he just wants to see Elena happy he wants Elena to live and fight another day even if it isn’t with him. I mean we all remember the girl who cried and told him she wants to grow old she wants the choices ( The Last Day) and he wasn’t even mad that she didn’t say I’m ready to be a vampire with you. He understood. Which will always be the eternal difference between him and Damon. Take comfort in the fact that Elena’s last scene was her thanking Stefan and no one else and basically sitting there smiling. Remembering Stefan fondly like we all will. Take comfort in the fact that Stefan never compelled Elena or tried too because it was always supposed to be her choice. Take comfort in the fact that Stelena was is and always will be the anchor of this show. Take comfort in the fact that the show started with Stefan saving Elena and ended with Stefan saving Elena.
Take comfort in the fact that Stelena is the best choice and do not regret anything. Because we made the best choice we ever could by supporting this beautiful ship.