I don’t plan on ever raising my hand to a child under the pretense of discipline, ever, but I do plan on raising my hand under the pretense of fuck-you-fight-me to any adult that dares to say my father – who did use physical punishment – was a bad and dangerous person that shouldn’t have raised children.
I don’t think that form of punishment did anything helpful for me. But as a child I almost got taken away from a parent that loved me and shoved into a system that doesn’t, simply because someone at school found out that I get spanked. And I guarantee you, whatever trauma being spanked might have caused me is nothing compared to the trauma that being taken from my home and put into the foster-care system would have caused me, a neurodivergent black female child.
Plus, all that aside, I love and appreciate and respect my father regardless of his misguided and potentially-traumatic approach to discipline. The good he’s done in my life for a child whose mother didn’t even want it is not invalidated by this one wrong choice.
So, you know, watch your fucking mouth when you start making generalisations.