love letters to tay

A Swiftie response to an open letter to Taylor from the 17 article.

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An Open Letter to Taylor Swift From a Disillusioned Fan

​I love you Tay, but what’s going on with you?

BY ASHLEY DEVINE AS TOLD TO NOELLE DEVOE  JUL 28, 2016

Dear Taylor,

You once said, “People haven’t always been there for me, but music has.” That quote has always been true for me when it comes to you and your music.

From listening to “Cold As You” through my first heartbreak to dancing around my room to “Shake It Off’ after a bad day, I could always turn to one of your songs when there was no one else to talk to.

It doesn’t stop with listening to your albums, either. I’m a full-time Swiftie. I’ve gone to three of your tours when you came to my state, Massachusetts. I even traveled to Florida all by myself to see the 1989 tour. I stood outside in the freezing cold for ten hours in New York to see you perform on New Year’s Eve. And then I watched the 1989 World Tour movie about 1,000 times because it reminded me of how it felt standing in the crowd and taking in your amazing performance live. I have waaaaay more of your merchandise than one person needs.

Basically, for ten years, you’ve been my idol. You were someone I could turn to at my lowest moments. In my eyes, you could do no wrong.

I’ve always wanted the best for you, so when you started dating Calvin Harris, I was totally on-board. I loved you two together and watched your relationship unfold for 15 months. I saw the romantic things you did for each other and how supportive you were. I remember your speech at the iHeartMusic Radio awards after you won Best Tour for 1989. You gave Calvin the most heartfelt shout-out.

"I had the most amazing person to come home to when the spotlight went out and when the crowds were all gone," you said. "I want to thank my boyfriend Adam for that.” It was so #RelationshipGoals, I memorized it.

After watching you go through so many relationships and getting your heart broken over and over again, Calvin was like a breath of fresh air. I actually became a huge fan of him thanks to you. So when the news of your split first started to leak, I didn’t believe it. When Calvin tweeted that it was true, I was devastated.

But the one consolation in your breakup was that it seemed like you would continue on as friends:Calvin tweeted that despite the split, what remained between you was a huge amount of love and respect. You retweeted it. So even though you wouldn’t be Tayvin anymore romantically, I was comforted knowing you’d still continue on as friends.

Sadly, that didn’t happen.

In the past, whenever you broke up with a boyfriend or wrote a song about an ex, I was the first to defend you against haters calling you a “serial dater” or saying your songs calling out your exes were unfair. You were just like me — someone looking to find love and stumbling, getting your heart broken along the way. Why weren’t you allowed to date, explore, and write about it without people bashing you? I would too if I was a lyrical genius.

But since your split from Calvin, I’ve been losing sight of the Taylor I’ve grown to know, admire, and defend at all costs.

After the news about your breakup was confirmed, I was surprised to see pictures of you making out with Tom Hiddleston on a Rhode Island beach splashed across every celebrity news website a little over a week later. It wasn’t that you were moving on that was so shocking. It was the way you were doing it that felt different.

There were pictures of you with Tom in a handful of major cities in the span of just a few weeks. I couldn’t understand how the girl who wrote and performed “I Know Places,” a song highlighting the fact that you could hide your relationship from the public if you wanted to, was all of a sudden being photographed in intimate situations more frequently than ever before.

I couldn’t help thinking that if you still respected and loved Calvin like you indicated on Twitter, then you would have been a little more discreet. If you knew places, you must have forgotten where they were.

This wasn’t the behavior I was used to seeing from you, and watching my idol act in a way I didn’t recognize felt as real as losing a friend. And it only got worse.

When rumors first spread that you co-wrote Calvin’s hit song “This is What You Came For,” I wondered if your own team had planted the story — a suspicion that felt confirmed when your PR team released a statement that you had been involved. The move felt shady: If you and Calvin had, in fact, agreed to keep your collaboration under wraps, it didn’t seem right for your team to A) suddenly take credit without warning Calvin; and B) not refute the claims that his denial of it was the reason you split.

It felt like you were purposely trying to humiliate Calvin, someone you said you “respected,” and using the press to do it. For the first time, I felt like you were being unfair to an ex.

But the nail in the coffin came when you insisted you didn’t approve Kanye West’s “Famous” lyrics.

When the song came out, I thought the lyrics were totally disrespectful. I cheered your brother Austin on when he threw his Yeezys in the trash on Instagram. I loved your Grammys speech calling Kanye out.

Then Kim leaked the tape and it proved you DID approve the lyrics. You pointed out in your response that Kanye left out “that b****” in the call, but that feels like a cop out. You approved the more offensive lyrics that he was being dragged for in the press and you didn’t say a word.

I was flabbergasted. My literal reaction was: YIKES. What did you do, Taylor? Why did you lie? As much as I hated admitting it, that’s what you did. You lied. This was more than a misunderstanding — this was you intentionally staying quiet when you could have spoken up. For the first time, I couldn’t defend you.

It makes me cringe to say it, but I see why people I would have called haters six months ago said you were playing the victim. And that realization makes me so, I don’t know… uncomfortable.

It makes me unsure about things I was so sure of before. Like, why were you so silent on social media accounts all the sudden? During your 1989 tour, you posted all the time, interacting with your fans. You even liked some of my posts on Tumblr (a Tayvin one, at that). Once your tour ended, you weren’t nearly as engaging with your fans.

I don’t know what to think anymore. Part of me wants to call you up (in my dreams, I have your phone number) and yell, “Dump your movie star boyfriend and start being you again!” But then I remember I want you to be happy, and if that’s with Tom Hiddleston, then fine.

But still.

I want you to apologize for throwing Calvin under the bus in the press and trying to make him look bad. It wasn’t cool. But you’re an adult and you can take credit for whatever song you want without answering to me, I guess.

I wish you would own up and apologize for lying about approving those Kanye lyrics. It stings, because you know how it feels to be dragged through the press constantly. I never would have thought you’d let someone else go through it unjustly. But you did, and it seems like your image is more important to you than the truth sometimes. You make mistakes. Mistakes that I can’t defend like I used to.

I know not all Swifties share my opinion, but as you said, “you don’t get to control someone’s emotional response” to watching their hero fall in front of their eyes.

I’m always going to love you, but you’re not the relatable girl I used to know. We’re growing apart, and that hurts.

With all that said, I still have your music. Like “Last Kiss,” your song about having your last kiss with a boy you loved. It helped me through the tragic loss of the boy that I loved.

You may be changing, but you were just like me at one point. I know I can still turn to those songs you wrote when you were going through the good, the bad, and the ugly. That’s the one thing that got me through this.

Love you Tay… but get it together.

Your fan,

Ashley

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There is a great deal about this that I disagree with vehemently, so I will try to put my thoughts and on this matter in perspective without the usual snark and bullshit push back that I reserve for the media attacks on Taylor.

I too am a full time Swiftie in fact I consider myself a Super-Fan check it ts1989fanatic, but I am far older than most Swiftie’s in this fandom and not naive. I know that Taylor Swift is not perfect the last perfect person to walk the Earth could also walk on water, she is however someone who I believe strives to live up to ideals that come pretty close to perfection.

Yes Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris appeared to be as you put it #relationshipgoals, but as someone who has been married to the love of my life for 34 years, I can tell you from experience and a very long life (57 Years Long sue me) that relationships take two people and a hell of a lot of work from both those two people.

We as fans tend to invest in those celebrities that we follow be that in music movies TV or whatever the medium, but we only see what those celebrities allow us to see or the bullshit that the media tend to make up. We have know idea what caused the Tayvin breakup and probably never will know.

So yes when they split a lot of us were surprised or even shocked by it, but like you many of us felt that at least they were parting on good terms. Where I strongly disagree with you is that Taylor threw Calvin under the bus, NOT TRUE when the rumors first started to come out TMZ approached Taylor’s people for comment and according to the initial article published they received a no comment.

The first confirmations came from Calvin himself with a couple of very nice Tweets, this however soon turned rather nasty as Calvin took to Twitter and went on a childish rant against Taylor, and if anyone was getting thrown under the bus it was Taylor not Calvin.

Since then Calvin has continued with very petulant and immature behavior while Taylor Swift has said bupkiss on the subject.

So onto the Tom Hiddleston drama that you reference so disparagingly, people move on sometimes quickly sometimes slowly, were you perhaps expecting Taylor to mope around for months eating ice cream  by the tub full writing sad breakup or revenge songs (she’s not a teen anymore she has grown up certain other parties from the relationship need to do the same.)

I find the double standard faced by Taylor Swift both amusing and sad at the same time, Calvin Harris moved on with Taylor two weeks after he broke up with his ex nobody said boo, yet when Taylor does the same thing omfg the World was out to lynch her including members of this fandom.

As for the public displays of affection that Tom and Taylor have displayed at the start of their relationship, have you considered that Tayvin was not this open because one half of the relationship was not a big fan of public displays of affection and was also very media shy. Tom on the other hand is very much like Taylor loves the interaction he gets from his fans is a very big SM junkie as is Taylor, he is also not afraid to make fun of laugh at himself or be laughed at for things like awkward dancing in front of the camera’s.

Does this mean that Tom and Taylor will last 15 months or longer like Tayvin, who knows maybe yes and maybe no. The way I see this just as a Taylor fan all I care about is her happiness, when Taylor and Calvin became an item there was a lot of talk about Calvin’s past behavior and I ignored it as it wast his past behavior and they looked happy together that’s all that mattered to me.

As for the girl who wrote I Know Places and Taylor hiding her relationship from the public, why should she have to hide at all if Taylor and Tom are comfortable enough with their relationship to show it off to the entire WORLD why should they not.

Just because you love and respect someone does not mean you have to live your life like a hermit to protect an exe’s feelings, Calvin is a 32 year old man not a 10 year old child as he has been acting recently. Taylor moved on Calvin should do the same and he should stop throwing tantrums and shade.

The way you addressed this entire issue lay’s all the blame for this entire situation on Taylor and frankly I think you are way off base, it takes to to tango just as it takes two to have a relationship and as I said earlier we have no idea what, when  or even why they split.

As for responding to the regurgitated garbage you quote about the KARTRASHIAN video, well you claim to be a Swiftie but you would take Kartrashian’s highly edited piece of crap tape of 3.5 minutes of an hour long phone call that was a setup from beginning to end over that of Taylor that I find disappointing.

Finally let me finish my response by stating for the record in my eyes and most of this fandom Taylor has nothing to apologize for, not to Calvin or Mr. Kartrashian in fact she is the one who should receive an apology from certain parties.

I doubt that you will read this and should you do so you may think my response to your letter was out of line and not my business, as a Swiftie we differ in that opinion.

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Dear Tay/taylorswift,
May I call you Tay? If not that’s perfectly fine because I don’t particularly know you that well and do I have the right to call you that? But I do anyways to my friends and family because I do feel like I know you that well.
My name is Megan and I am 16 turning 17. My favorite color is grey but some days it’s purple and others it’s maroon or blue. I would have a milkshake everyday if I could. Napping is my favorite pass time along with watching Netflix.
One day when I was young, I was in the car going to?coming from? the movie theater with my mom, and for some reason I still remember the exact moment and spot where my life changed. I heard you on the radio for the first time. It was Our Song. I made my mom turn it up and I said “I really like this song”. When I got home I immediately went to ondemand and watched the music video for it for an hour straight. I have been a fan ever since.
I’m so happy that you became such a huge part of my life. You have been a part of so many fond memories of mine. Such as camping out in Times Square to see your GMA performance when you dropped the Red album. You were even the first album I bought off of my my first iPod. It was the Fearless album. You were also my little brother’s first concert. It was the Speak Now world tour. I wore the Speak Now necklace everyday until it broke. I went through 3 necklaces before my parents said I couldn’t have anymore. I’ve had so many night with my best friends where we just bake and listen to your music and dance around the house and it’s honestly my favorite thing to do.
You have not only given me my best friends, but you have helped me through my parents divorce. As well as that, you were there for my cousin, Ashley, who was diagnosed with leukemia and sadly passed a month ago. You were such an important person in her life and you were gracious enough to visit her. So thank you.
You have done so much for me and my friends and family without even trying. You have helped me become the person I am today and I could never thank you enough. You’re the big sister I never had and I couldn’t be more sincere when I say that. I love you.
Love,
Megan