love is not about gender

Just a little question

what’s it called when you basically give 0 shits about religion/afterlife, would basically love anyone without judging appearances(includes genders etc), would legit let you call me by any pronoun just because I either don’t care or I think it’s funny (I prefer she though/it’s hard to mistake irl with my cup size), hates basically nothing/forgives easily(like I will tell whoever I don’t like that I do not like them but slowly try to understand them so I don’t hate them/become friends (that’s the story of one of my best friends atm))???

Am I just a chill mother fucker or is there some unique term for this I have no clue please fill me in??

I just want to take a moment and shoutout to all of the lovely people I follow who have taught me a lot about sexuality and gender identification.
I am an Old who grew up with no social media. People were either gay or straight, and that was it.
I think it’s brilliant that the internet has been able to connect people in these amazing ways where people can find each other and talk and know they aren’t alone and discover things about themselves.

I don’t ever chime in on conversations about sexuality because I know I don’t know much, but I read what you all write and I absorb it and file it away and use that information to be better in my understanding of others.

Anyway, thank you all for being yourselves and being honest in your triumphs and your pain. I’m a better person for getting to read and learn from you.

anonymous asked:

you've probably gotten this before, but how can you be gay and nonbinary? I mean, isn't gayness homosexuality, and homosexuality the attraction to the same sex or gender? I love your blog btw, just curious about this.

“homosexual” is a bad word to use unless someone self ID’s that way fyi.

and it’s real easy to be gay and nonbinary lmao. you’ve got nonbinary lesbians and nonbinary gay guys, so people who ID partially as women or men in some way as well as nonbinary and are exclusively into their same/similar gender.

then you have people like me, like when i’m attracted to someone of any gender it feels gay. like it sure as hell isnt straight lmao!! like while i’m agender for the most part, when it comes to being attracted to people, i often feel some sort of gender similar to the person i feel attracted to in a very gay nb way. so if i’m into a guy, i feel a bit like a gay guy in a way.

i know it may seem strange at first but it’s really not that difficult imo. if someone says they’re gay or anything else, just take their word for it tbh.

To be honest, the tumblr witchcraft community taught me more than any book on witchcraft I ever read.

All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm’s way.
—  bell hooks, all about love

october 25th, 2016.

hey yall guess what

trans boys are allowed to like “girly feminine things”

trans girls are allowed to like “masculine boy things”

nb people are allowed to like whatever they want

stop making people feel gross and guilty about their gender identity

stop trying to dictate how people choose to express themselves

its disgusting that some of yall want to force people into outdated gender roles

dont fucking do that shit please for the love of fuck

stop. making. people. feel. bad. about. their. gender. and/or. their. gender expression.


october 18th, 2016.

i’m really sick of bisexual being erased constantly like!!! leaf us alone!!!

honestly, my life got 2000% better on the day that I realized that I didn’t need to shun all things traditionally feminine to be seen as a strong woman, that I didn’t need to somehow publicly advertise my toughness by dressing and behaving in a masculine way. 

inner strength and aesthetics have absolutely nothing to do with each other and femininity ≠ weakness/inferiority.

Headcanon: Susan is passionate about equality, whether racial, religious or gender. She doesn’t understand why people would condemn others for being different. Because, if she learned anything from Narnia, she learned to love and respect other people for who they are.

Before you type out some shitty Discourse™ about Yuri On Ice, consider this tweet by one of the show’s two directors

The entire purpose of YOI is not to appeal to fujoshi or to bait anyone. It is meant to be a safe world for same-gender-loving people to find comfort in. Think about the significance of a Russian character and a Japanese character – men from countries where gay marriage isn’t even legalized – NOT experiencing homophobia.

Think about the fact that we all KNOW homophobia exists and is terrible, including these Japanese directors. Think about how lgbt people suffer because of homophobia. WE ALL KNOW IT IS REAL. For the creators of YOI to create a refuge for us is TOUCHING and for people in this fandom to be reaching for reasons to call it problematic shows a basic disregard for the fact that some of us same-gender-loving ppl need hope and comfort in the media we consume.

Also, consider how fucked up it is to complain that a series doesn’t have enough homophobia. The fuck?

I, personally, will be disowned if I come out to my parents bc they cling to homophobic cultural beliefs. And speaking from that perspective…well, if I wanted to see homophobia, I’d go home to my parents. I’d go on any social media and read people’s stories about experiencing homophobia. I’d look at literally any piece of western media involving gay people. I’d look at most anime with gay ppl in them. Etc etc. homophobia is everywhere. It’s not rare. What IS rare is media where a same-gender couple is healthy and happy and uplifts each other and everyone cheers when they get engaged.

I’m going to tag this excessively so everyone complaining can see it and maybe, possibly, if they are humble enough, can understand and perhaps stop being shitty.