love at every size

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Sometimes, we lose ourselves by focusing on where we could be, instead of appreciating how far we’ve come. We all have different attributes and physical features that make us beautiful. I wish we would celebrate that more than making others feel less. Compliment a random stranger; Take time to make people feel loved. The world needs more kindness, not hatred.

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You may already know, but I have a large uterine fibroid that makes me look about 7 months pregnant. Fibroids affect a large number of women, but black women are affected at a disproportionately higher rate. I’ll be having surgery to remove it in about 2 weeks, but wanted to post some cute, round selfies because I believe that it’s important to love your body in every situation.

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“Now you Shouldn’t even get into who I’m given Skins to~
It’s none of your business
So don’t try to change my mind, I’ll tell you one more time~
It’s none of your business”

(If y’all do not know of Salt-n-Pepa, then I highly suggest listening to a few of their songs!)

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“You’re in your element.”


Holby City, 18x36 Missing You Already

a manuscript on how to love yourself:

1. if ancient swordsmen say that a blade is just an extension of your arm, then poetry and the arts are just an extension of your heart and soul put into verse and a painting.

2. rather than wait for someone to fall in love with you, fall in love with yourself. easier said than done, i know. but hear me out. don’t love the way your hair looks? get a new hairstyle. do you feel like a failure? then fail, fail, fail and fail some more. each time, there’s a chance that you’ll succeed. i think that’s worth every ounce of sweat. don’t love your body size? maybe you’re too thin because it’s depicted as beautiful by supermodels, eat some more. your brain needs nutrition. when you see yourself, you’re more than just your body. you are your thoughts. feed your brain and you’ll feel loads better. maybe you’re too large and depression has got you lethargic again. i once sat around in a house for a year straight. i did nothing except for writing sad, sad poetry. you wanna know something? once you get your head out of the past, once you realize that mistakes are there for you to change, once you’re aware that they’re really not coming back– it’s going to be much easier to move on. and yeah, it’s still going to hurt, but you must hurt your way forwards not backwards. have you been high lately? heavily sedated to numb the pain? drank a beer too much and now you’re regretting it? was the joint laced? are your lips poisoned from people you shouldn’t be kissing? that’s your second pack today, right? baby, bad habits will destroy you, but it’s also a part of the process. if you try, try and try again. one day, you’ll slip up and it’ll all make sense. it’s going to feel alright even if you’re a little sore. don’t wait for someone to love you, the best contender is already looking at you while you’re dreaming. when you’re awake and brushing your teeth. when you’re listening to your favorite song. when you’re singing in the shower. when you’re dancing with your shadow while the lonely moon is out. when you’re doing that extra rep while no one’s looking. when you’re running that extra mile just for shits and giggles. when you smile some day because the quote was right. time does heal all wounds.

3. if a rose has a natural defense mechanism, then you must guard yourself from your own negative frequencies. tune into who you want to be. we are what we feel. we are what we think. we are exactly as we want to be. want to be happy? repeat after me: i’ll try again tomorrow and if tomorrow doesn’t work, i’ll try the next day, next week, next month. one day, i’ll get it right. make a pinky promise to yourself. love yourself for your mistakes, love yourself for your flaws, love yourself for your changes, love yourself for your youth, and love yourself back into the universe. the stars are watching.

4. write love letters. lots of it. seal each one in an envelope and randomly date them for the future. when the day arrives. open it. a blast from the past, these little bits of love. it used to be you. revel into yourself. you’re cool. you’re angry. you’re kind. you’re sweet. you’re chill af. you’re hot. you’re gorgeous. you’re beautiful. you’re funny. you’re boring. you’re relaxed. you’re stressed. you’re ugly. you’re too thin. you’re too fat. there must be balance in life. for every bad thing in the letter, add two good things. for every good feeling, kiss yourself goodnight twice. no one’s going to love you like how you will. and if they somehow manage to pull it off, it’s still important to be nice to yourself. you’re human after all. unless you’re an alien, in which case, welcome to earth.

5. did you know that it takes 10,000 hours to master a skill? if you study and apply yourself for about 3.91389432 hours every day, within a year’s time– you’re going to be profound and breathtakingly amazing as fuck.

6. smile. always smile. fake it all the way through. cry. crying is good for you. laugh. loudly laugh at cheesy things because it’s the little details that count.

7. keep a journal and realize that these days– our consciousness being so closely tied to technology… we’re missing something. life’s too short and it’s not stopping for anyone. take a deep breath. inhale. exhale. write it down. you don’t have to be a writer to record your current emotions.

8. if you can’t seem to accomplish any of the above, just know this one thing. i love you. rinse and repeat. it’s a new day. it’s another night. you fall asleep. you wake up. how many days will you live in routine? take the scenic route home from work. running late? laugh about it. the art of letting go is hard to master, but once you’ve achieved even a split second of severing ties with misery. darling, you’ve made it.

9. i’m proud of you. i’m proud of you. i’m proud of you. i typed it three times so that you’d see it three times. if you’re a visual learner, 🌹, that emoji is you. it’s time to bloom. 🌊, this emoji is your soul. it’s time to crash. it’s time to be gentle to yourself. 🔥, this is that one time your friends got too drunk and forgot to put the fire out. embrace the burning sensation of your memories, even if it rattles your bones and intends to fuck up your day. you are loved in the most beautiful way. repeat after me: i am proud of myself for waking up everyday. you can do this. i know you can.

10. you’ve made it this far, why stop now?



11. you always knew that the rain is wet and fire is hot, so you must also know that if your heart is beating and you’re still as lost as ever that it won’t always be like this. you’ve come a long way, regardless if you see it or not. you’ve been through so much for yourself, with yourself, and by yourself. who’s going to love you if you don’t?
—  p.s. you are more than enough
okay?
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Fat Girls go to Kenshus and Practice Aikido. These are some photos someone took of me at a Kenshu in north bay. The first photo is me being uke for Sensei Robert Mustard as he demonstrates a technique compressed for when you don’t have any more space than a phone booth. He was awesome. The second photo is me working with a 1st kyu from my dojo (we had so many people there that it was impossible for all of us to work with someone outside our dojo). 

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Question: What is the last thing that haters want to see?
Answer: A chubby/fat/morbidly obese/chunky/overweight person smile and be content with themselves.

 Happy Bir Girl Appreciation Day!!! XDD

BTS Reaction to dating a plus-sized girl

A/N: thank you for the request! I’m glad you like my reactions! btw i don’t think it’s unlikely at all, i’m sure the boys would date any type of girl. Dating someone is should and always be based on if they make you happy not what they look like :-)

the song i was listening while writing was mistakes like this - prelow check it out i have been obsessed with this song lately

Jin

Jin loves and appreciates everyone. He would love your beautiful curves and always make sure you know how beautiful you are. Whenever you felt insecure he would shower you compliments because it didn’t matter to him, since he loved you the way you were.

Originally posted by bangtan

Rap Monster

Namjoon would worship your body. He didn’t give on flipping fuck about you being plus sized. He loved every curve and every insecure you disliked. If you didn’t realize how beautiful you were he would make sure you knew.

Originally posted by yoonkooks

Suga

Yoongi would be so extra and boyfriend. He would be like Namjoon and have his hands all over you. He would always want to make sure you knew you were beautiful. Yoongi would forever love your body.

Originally posted by notjustaphase

Jhope

Hoseok wouldn’t care what your body type was. He will treat you like a princess not matter what. His appreciation towards your body was almost outrageous, all in all he doesn’t care you’re a plus sized girl.

Originally posted by jeonsshi

Jimin

Chim would love your body, being daddy af Jimin will take any moment to compliment you and make you feel loved. Jimin would be like Hoseok and treat you like a princess and it didn’t matter your body type.

Originally posted by booptae

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Taehyung appreciating your body from head to toe. lol i typed tae by accident at first wtf He like Namjoon didn’t give a flying shiteu about your body, he loved your curves and all. If you ever felt insecure, he would not be having it and will show you have beautiful you are.

Originally posted by jeonthegreat

Jungkook

Jungkook would love your body, he definitely didn’t care about your body type. You were someone he loved, he will care and appreciate you the same as anyone else he loved.

coconut boy

Originally posted by jibeom


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I’m starting a ‘Go Fund Me’ to get Velma Dinkley some contacts because I’m real tired of her losing her optical lenses in every. Single. EPISODE. 👓

To some it might’ve seemed callous, the way she boxed up her pain and set it aside, but I knew her well enough now to understand. She had a heart the size of France, and the lucky few whom she loved with it were loved with every square inch—but its size made it dangerous, too. If she let it feel everything, she’d be wrecked. So she had to tame it, shush it, shut it up. Float the worst pains off to an island that was quickly filling with them, where she would go to live one day.
—  Ransom Riggs, Library of Souls

anonymous asked:

I'm seen a ton of people do MCs that are a little chubby/have a bit of a belly but I've never really seen any with like, a borderline obese MC? Like, they have to wear 4X clothes at least and it really upsets me bc I love body positive posts but I've rarely ever seen one for bigger than a little curvy and well tldr: can I request RFA+V+Saeran with an MC who is obese and really insecure about it?

A/N: I know I said before when I wrote one about MC with a tummy and freckles that it was me but like yo i was wrong this one is me ;A; tho my clothes are usually bigger to fit my shoulders and bust way more than anything else fucking rip i hate clothes Also!!!! Body positivity!!!! Yes!! ~Admin 404

I hope this isn’t too repetitive to the other one I’ve written but??? It’s basically the same thought process??

*YOOSUNG:

           -Loves your body so much!

           -You’re always so warm to cuddle up with!

           -He really doesn’t care what you look like, he loved you for your personality before he even saw you in person

           -You’re so kind-hearted and amazing, why would your looks matter?

           -Reminds you all the time that you’re amazing and absolutely perfect to him!

           -Will buy hoodies that are way too big for him because!!!! He wants you to wear them!!

           -Love love loves to lay his head on your tummy and you play with his hair

           -If you get insecure over it, he cuddles you close and literally refuses to let you go

           -You can get up and try to walk away but he’s literally attached to you

           -When you get tired of dragging him around and give up, he’s ecstatic and peppers your face with kisses- Just wants you to feel good about yourself!!!!

*ZEN:

           -His job relies heavily on looks (and of course talent but shh)

           -But literally does not care what others say about you?

           -Again, you’re so kind-hearted!!! So nice!!!!!! So amazing!!!!!!

           -Personality > looks

           -You look past his looks, so why should it be any different for him?

           - Body worship

           -Tells you there’s no reason to change! Don’t fight him on this MC, he will shut you up with kisses real quick

           -10/10 will straight pick you up and carry you everywhere if you’re insecure

           -“But Zen! I’m heavy!” “Nonsense, you’re as light as the feathers on your wings my angel!”

           - BLUSH BLUSH BLUSH

*JAEHEE:

           -She has to buy bigger clothes as well, to fit her bust!

           -SHE CAN WEAR YOUR CLOTHES!!!!!

           -Really doesn’t care about your body size

           -Judges you by the size of your heart, not your clothes!!

           -Cuddle time is the best!

           -Wants nothing more than for you to love yourself!

           -Will curl up with you, sipping coffee, and watching one of Zen’s DVD’s!

           -When you’re insecure, she will marathon these DVD’s, talk about your guys day, or bring up literally any topic of conversation

           - this lil shit makes you lose your train of thought

           -Once she knows you’re too preoccupied to think about your appearance, she visibly relaxes and puts all of her love into her words and actions

*JUMIN:

           -He’s looking for an emotional connection

           -He doesn’t care what you look like

           -Loves you for you!!! You helped him emotionally!

           -Always holding you close!

           -And??? Elizabeth the Third loves you?????

           -She’s always laying with you! And he loves it!!!!

           -If he notices you’re insecure, he will sit you down and tell you how beautiful you are!

           - will full on make a powerpoint presentation on why he thinks youre amazing

           -Seriously, you’re sitting there for hours upon hours until he believes that you understand his point

           -Enjoys all of the blushing he causes, and at the end of his talk, he’ll drag you to the bedroom to show you just how much he loves it eyebrows wiggling, wink wonk

*SAEYOUNG:

           -You were the one who was able to look past the fake personalities he’s put up

           -You’re the one who’s been through everything with him

           -So he really does not care what you look like

           -You’re so important to him!!!! Looks don’t matter to him!

           -Plus, he loves cuddling with you anyway! More to love! MORE TO LOVE!!!

           -Feels so so so bad when you get insecure!!!

           -He’s insecure as well, so when he sees that you’re insecure he reFUSES

           -DEFENDER OF JUSTICE IS HERE TO SAVE YOU

           -Can and will kiss every inch of you to show how much he loves you

           -Literally lays across you until you give up and admit defeat. Afterwards, he will spend hours upon hours telling you every little thing he loves about you

*V:

           -Devastated!!!

           -How could you talk bad about yourself!!!!

           -He can’t believe it!!! You’re amazing!

           -Why couldn’t you see that?

           -So, you’re plump? Who cares? NOT HIM

           -He thinks you’re soooo beautiful!!!!!

           -You’re his favourite subject matter for pictures!! ALWAYS TAKING PICTURES scream

           -Holds you close every time you’re insecure and makes you go through all of his pictures of you as he tells you every single thing he likes about the picture

           -The moment he has you in his arms though, you will not be leaving. Nope. Not until he knows for sure that you’re accepting of yourself

           -Realizes that it takes a very long time to actually accept yourself and your body, so he promises to help you as long as it takes!! Wants you to love yourself as much as he loves you!!

*SAERAN:

           -Why do you care what you look like?

           -He doesn’t care about what you look like, so why does it bother you?

           - Team Insecure featuring the Choi twins and this MC

           -You’ve helped him through so much!

           -He loves the personality and heart that you possess, so why would the size of your shirt matter?

           -When he catches you being insecure, he will immediately drag you to some place where he can cuddle you

           - saeran i dont wanna cuddle on the floor its cold omg why

           -Will hold you completely against himself, and won’t let you go

           -He lets you get all ranting or crying out while he holds you close, and runs his hands through your hair

           -Waits until you’re almost asleep to whisper how much you mean to him regardless of what you look like, hopefully putting a smile on your face

ASTRO reaction to their s/o being insecure over their chubby arms/body

A/N: I don’t know if this is triggering? But the boys would love you no matter what. I have grouped them together because some I think would have the same reaction.

MYUNGJUN & SANHA;

I feel the boys would have similar reactions because their personalities are similar.

I can imagine them being over it? By that I mean they wouldn’t care it’s 2017! They’d be very understanding you are self conscious about the whole situation and would want to make sure you felt happy and confident around them.

Originally posted by angstro

Originally posted by astrodaily

JINWOO & DONGMIN;

Since the two are close it is only fair to think that they have similar minds. I feel they would want to discuss why you were conscious about them and what they could do to make you comfortable about the situation. They’d love you and think of you the same and your arms/body never changed their opinion on you.

Originally posted by silver-starboy

BIN & MINHYUK;

They would be sad about you being self conscious, you are perfect! They love every inch of you and the size of your arms wouldn’t change that, ever. They thought of you as perfect and would always try to make you feel better when they noticed you were down.

Originally posted by myungjun

Originally posted by binsblush

HELLO EVERYONE! IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO ADMIN MARI AND I ARE HERE! PLEASE DONT FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND YOU DON’T NEED TO FIT SO CALLED “BEAUTY STANDARDS” TO BE “PRETTY” BECAUSE YOU ARE ALL GORGEOUS IN OUR OWN WAY!