loss of feelings

Iris and Kara can be Sad

Iris’s fiance basically died again at the end of S3. Iris is a smart lady, I’m sure that intellectually she knows that Barry had to leave. That does not make her feelings of grief and abandonment at his leaving any less real. They are a couple and Barry should know her emotional state. Idk if it’s some sort of internalized misogyny that makes you think that Iris has to keep her messy and complicated emotions bottled up as to not inconvenience her fiance. That’s something a 50′s housewife would do.

Kara’s first serious boyfriend and one of her only connections to her home planet was lost at the end of S2. Not only did she lose him, she was the one to send him away. She thought that she had KILLED another person, and not just anyone, someone she was falling in love with. Kara is terrified of hurting other people, her whole persona revolves around her wish to help people. Mon El’s loss stirred up the feelings of grief at the loss of her home planet. Losing him was one death too many. Something like that is bound to take a toll on someone who has already lost so much in her life.

The common thread I have seen in the criticisms of both of these characters is that they are being selfish. They are sad and grieving. They don’t need to be strong and perky, both women didn’t crumble at these losses, but they both did retreat from emotional intimacy with other people. And yes, their grief is related to a man, and why is that a bad thing? To them, the men they loved died. It’s completely normal to be depressed and closed off following that kind of trauma.

Iris and Kara don’t need to stifle their feelings. They can be sad and angry(within reason) at other people for trying to make them “get over it” at their schedule. I get it, their feelings aren’t convenient for the people around them, but they don’t need to be. Loss isn’t convenient, it changes people and perpetuating the idea that someone needs to be totally okay and back to themselves at a set date is nonsensical.

Other, more informal, slightly mean thoughts- It’s just annoying that people think that Kara being sad abt MonEl makes her weak. It is SOOO human to not want to deal with your emotions and just putting things on the back burner. And from what I can tell Kara never dealt with the loss of her family and home properly either. Did she ever see a therapist? Probably not. No wonder all of this is coming out now.

I kinda feel like people who think Iris is being selfish, don’t have complicated thoughts or feelings themselves, that’s why they can’t comprehend Iris feeling the way she does. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Also I think people are being purposefully dense bc they don’t like Iris and Mon El. It’s a little obvious.

“These women fight with unmatched savagery! I’ve never seen their equal. They are… perfect warriors.” - Grom Hellscream

❄️ The Hero and the Fairy ❄️ this piece has been a long time coming~ i originally posted the initial sketch back in December, in fact! so, if anybody still remembers that, and helped choose this piece’s direction - thank you! and i hope it turned out to your liking! and i also hope that everyone who is seeing it for the first time enjoys it as well! (-^   v ^-) i feel like this is they Otayuri piece i’ve been waiting to draw since the first time i saw episode 10. i’ll be posting the WIP shots for this in the next few days, so for anybody who enjoys those types of things, keep an eye out! (^   w ^) <3

I think the hardest part about losing you
was that I didn’t just lose the boy
who called me pretty even when I hadn’t showered in 3 days,
the boy who once kissed me in the rain with tears in his eyes

I lost my best friend
the only person who knows what my favorite time of day is
and why
the only person who’s calmed me down after a day of nightmares

I’ve lost so much more
than anyone can imagine
and I hear what youre asking
I’m just trying to make it easier on you

—  Conscious//kayla

If you’re overweight and you’re eating healthy food, people will not take you seriously (because they expect that eating healthy food means you should have the perfect “fitness” body already, and if you don’t have it yet, clearly you haven’t succeeded or some shit).

If you’re skinny and eating healthy, people will be “concerned” for you because you need to gain weight.

If you’re overweight and you have a treat (that you counted in your macros and calories) or even a cheat meal that you’re aware of, they’ll ask if you’re sure you should be eating that… because won’t one meal hinder your weight loss? (and if you previously felt good about eating it because you know life is about balance, you begin to feel skeptical).

If you’re skinny and you work out, they will tell you that you don’t need to… because exercise is only for weight loss, apparently, and not strength.

If you’re overweight and you work out, people will not take you seriously (see first point) and they will always try to correct you because they will assume you don’t know what you’re doing.

tldr; people don’t know your goals, they don’t know your progress and they don’t know your body. You will be judged whether you choose to go for that salad or if treat yourself and go with the fries. You will be judged whether you’ve just started your weight loss journey or are ¾ of the way there. You will be judged whether you want to lose weight or if you’re happy with the way you are. trust your body and your goals, and do it for yourself x

The Zodiac Signs as Bad Things

Aries: Destruction

Taurus: Surrender

Gemini: Dishonesty

Cancer: Betrayal

Leo: Abandonment

Virgo: Failure

Libra: Injustice

Scorpio: Loss of control

Sagittarius: Restriction

Capricorn: Disappointment

Aquarius: Judgment

Pisces: Heartbreak