What’s good fam?
I’ve noticed a trend in the wake of some recent posts, the feeling of loneliness. Ironically, there is an incredible community of people that are feeling lonely. People are searching for their identity in things that don’t complete them like they so desperately desire. We spend so much time and energy trying to cultivate intimacy with idols in our life that can’t and won’t reciprocate our efforts. Every so often we’ll respond to fleeting moments of joy with large amounts of investment, and it never pays out, we come up empty. Every. Single. Time. Whether people know it or not, they are seeking intimacy with Jesus, but they keep looking in the wrong places. The Lord of the universe desires intimacy with you, there is nothing that can replace that loneliness you feel except for Him, sprint to Jesus’ loving embrace.
"Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world." James 4:8
The desire to find our identity in something is so natural. We desperately want to tie ourselves to something, to a community, a person, an idea, a movement, or anything, when really we should wrap our identity in The Gospel. I think a great example can be found in my generation’s idolizing of romantic relationships. Everywhere I look, at least once or twice a night I see this tweet, “one day I’ll be married to my best friend and everything will be ok.” Talk about pressure. When I talk to my Mom about getting married some day she’ll sometimes say, “you’re about 80% awesome and fun then about 20% painful to be around (My mom is the single wisest person in the world). You need someone that loves The Lord more than she loves you because she will need Him.” That cracks me up because it’s 100% truth. Good luck leaning on me to make everything ok, it won’t happen. This is how it goes, we get high on the idea of finding perfection in something/someone that isn’t Jesus, and when we realize that isn’t how it works, the fall is drastic. We begin to feel self-reliant and lonelier than ever before.
A romantic relationship isn’t the only place where we search for wholeness and come up empty and lonely, often times it’s elsewhere. It’s porn, alcohol, other people, our time management, and a multitude of other sins. If you haven’t discovered this yet, then you will, but save yourself the time. Loneliness often stems from severe disappointment in ourselves, and from being let down by things or people that we put our identity in. This world offers nothing like the wholeness of knowing Jesus Christ. Perfection is found only in Christ, He’s the ONLY place you can put your identity without being let down. He hasn’t let anyone down before and He won’t start with you. Cultivating intimacy with Jesus is the only situation where you can invest your time and energy while experiencing wholeness. Draw near to Him, and He will draw near to you.
You are not alone. Jesus lived this life and He identifies with our struggles. Thankfully, He did not waver and was perfect through it all. He was the perfect sacrifice. He who know no sin became sin, our shortcomings were nailed to the Cross and covered with His perfect blood, washed away for good. That same perfect sacrifice rose after three days and is with us now. You are not alone. Did you read that? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. He is with you tonight, in this very moment. The Lord of the universe desires intimacy with you. Yes, you. That sad person that believes nobody loves them, believe this: You are loved, you are cherished, you are forgiven, your sins are paid for, you are never too far, and you are His. Take the time to cultivate a relationship with Him, He already reached out to you when He extended His arms to be nailed to the Cross on your behalf. He loves you, all of you.
Don’t pick up porn tonight, pick up your Bible.
Don’t write horrible things about yourself in your journal, read the incredible promises He has for you.
Don’t run to the alcohol that leaves you as empty as the bottle, drink from the never ending spring of water welling up to eternal life.
Don’t put your identity in a person that has used and abused you, submerge yourself in the blood of someone Who has died, risen, and redeemed you.
Don’t sit in your sins and sorrow, bask in His love and grace.
You’re worth so much more than what your mind tells you as you drift into the late hours of the night. You are loved by Jesus, and He’s waiting to hear from you. He wants to know you and for you to know Him. He is a prayer away. Even if you’re unsure about this whole “Jesus thing” crack open a Bible, send up a prayer. You don’t need to be sure about everything you have to say, He hears our hearts even when we lack the words.
I’m praying for each and every one of the lonely hearts reading this tonight. Jesus loves you so much.
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