I don’t know how many times I have heard people accusing someone of “faking” their sexuality for attention.
As a bisexual, this makes me extremely scared to come out. My closest friends have said things to me like (talking about another person) “yeah, she says she’s bicurious, but she’s just doing it for attention.” or “She came out as lesbian in like seventh grade but I don’t know, I think she’s faking it.”
I proceed to get very offended, but play it cool, because i don’t want to give my friend a fucking lecture. I say something like, “No, I don’t think so. I don’t think ANYONE would fake that. I mean, that’s so disrespectful to people who actually ARE gay. And besides, that’s such a lame thing to lie about for attention. Who cares? She could be faking it, and she could not be. Either way, it’s none of our business.”
That usually shuts ‘em up. But that’s besides the point.
NEVER. Accuse someone of faking their sexuality. Especially don’t say they’re doing it for attention. Because you know what? The person you’re talking to could be thinking about coming out to you, but you’ve just lost their trust and respect.