@marinashutup just posted about the Laci video and the response to it and made some points my privileged ass didn't see initially, I'm about to rewatch her video with that perspective to see how I feel about it now but it might be worth having a look if you're still interested in the vid (marina tagged that she might delete it later)
I don’t know if I can bring myself to watch it. I’m really, really tired of being told on all sides why I need to argue with purple or why I need to try and make people see, why I need to put tonnes of effort into conversations that, unlike Laci, I DON’T get paid for.
I have put in that effort, over and over. The thing about arguing with hatred is that hatred doesn’t feel the need to have a source.
So a guy can just say “men are more likely to be sexually aggressive because we are animals, we are chimpanzees, chimps are like that and it’s natural” I can’t just say “You’re a dingus, read a book” … So I spend hours pouring over reference material, creating citations, dedicating entirely too much time to studying the sexual mating habits of bonobos (territorial orgies, in case you were wondering, they settle their differences with consenting sex in order to tell a dude that he’s being lazy and he’s wrong.
And what is my reward? Because most of the time they don’t listen.
And like, don’t get me wrong, I argue when I want to but it’s NOT usually to change the mind of the people I am debating with, is to spread the information to the people who will reblog me, to arm THEM with the information so THEY know and if they see it come up they might feel more equipped to deal.
So anyone even vaguely implying that I am obligated to do this, that I have to open myself up to “people with different opinions” pisses me off.
My life is FULL of people with “different opinions” and I’m white, so it would be a fuck of a LOT worse if I wasn’t.
Laci is white and thin and successful and this stuff gives her a cushion against the reality that everyone else deals with.
I haven’t watched the video but Marina’s usually very… Smart and insightful and she tends to be pretty generous as a person towards other people, so if it’s pissed HER off then it would probably send me into a rage and I might be tempted to comment on a YouTube video, which NEVER leads me anywhere positive.
Long rant was long.