longing for your approval

What's the key to successful relationships?
  • Without quality time, your relationship will not survive.
  • You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
  • Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need them, but don’t cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.
  • Encourage them to listen to you, by showing appreciation when they do. By the same token, show interest when they talks to you.
  • Make them appreciate you. Don’t wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for their agreement.
  • Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship - giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.
  • Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-curlingly annoying habits. Learn to love them, warts and all.
  • Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. 
  • Learn that punishing your partner won’t work. It may make you feel better to give them a hard time, but it will actually make them dig their heels in more. A better tactic is to reward the things you like and ignore what you don’t like. 
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Fic Recs: You Show Me Yours by endingthemes:(~11k)

When Erik receives nudes in the middle of the night from an unknown number, he’s confused and mildly amused. He doesn’t expect it to turn into an actual conversation…with feelings.

As if that’s not baffling enough, his friend’s brother ends up crashing at his place, further complicating everything.

Comments: Amazing, incredibly sweet, wonderfully written fic, please kudo this to outer space. It’s in Erik’s pov, but you can see Charles pining - both of them pine like the idiots they usually are , and there are misunderstandings and texting sass and all that jazz of a good fluffy rom com. I have reread this at least three times

anonymous asked:

Hey there, I registered on the Aibo Life forum, and was wondering how long it takes for your account to be approved?

I don’t actually remember personally since I joined way back in 2008, but I assume it’s probably 1-3 days or so. If anyone has joined more recently and remembers how long it took for their account to get approved, feel free to share!

anonymous asked:

and how do I do that? all I've done so far is pushing a guy over the edge but I didn't do that on my own, he was already doing heroin and cutting himself lol

Make him desire you and become so emotionally entrapped within the being of his dreams that you personify that he does anything you want. You can make a person long for your approval so desperately that they grow to need it like the air we breathe. Then you tell to do whatever you want, they’ll follow your orders blindly. It’s simple once you figure out the ways of binding them to who they wish you were.

Distraction- Murphy Imagine

Here’s your tri-day-erly upload! (idk how to say here’s your new once-every-three-days-upload in a cool way so) Be sure to request for more stuff like this!! Thanks to whoever requested it, and sorry for taking so long! I hope this meets your approval hehe!! Xxxx

SIDE NOTE: I was craving some readerxbellamy best friend au, so I added it in. I’m not sorry :3

Originally posted by immortalmurphy

John Murphy x Reader

Word Count: 757


*Hey so let’s pretend Murphy didn’t leave for the CoL in season 2, ok? Ok, good*

You were worried. So worried. Though Bellamy had assured you that he would be okay when he left for Mount Weather, that didn’t stop the worrying ache in your chest grow each passing day. He was your best friend, your rock. He was like a brother to you and if something ever happened to him you didn’t know how you would go on.

Deciding to see if he was available to talk to via the radio, you headed to that area of the now dismantled ark, the memory of its landing imprinted in your brain. Stopping just outside the door, you peered in, seeing Raven and Clarke talking, just loud enough for you to hear. You ducked your head back into the hallway, leaning against the wall so you could listen in on their conversation.

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what-is-determination  asked:

Dear person I like,

Dust does Snail Mail: here


Dear person I like~

Latte, you are obviously repressed and need to do some good ol’ fashioned killing, so I’ve come up with this nine-step plan to-

Okay, now that I’ve caught your attention or at least earned an eyeroll, I’ll be serious now, friend. 

Don’t confuse your needs and wants. 

Your desire for companionship - your longing for approval - for family - for friends - are all just wants. You don’t need any of them. You don’t need Toriel, You don’t need Mocha. You don’t need that obscure random monster living next door. You don’t need me.

Why am I telling you this? 

I’ve had this feeling since we’ve first met, and the sensation’s only gotten clearer since you’ve told your Chara ‘no’. 

A downtrodden person would’ve given in to his demands, y’know. An optimistic person - or a delusional one- would’ve done the same. On the other hand, an even-remotely-vindictive person would’ve used his moment of weakness and served him his just deserts. 

But you chose none of these options. 

Because you have that spark that kept me alive when I should’ve rightfully stayed dead. 

Latte, you are a survivor. And it’s a shame that you don’t appreciate it. It’s not the curse you think it is; it’s a blessing that makes life sweeter and more beautiful. 

If everyone close to you were to drop dead, I know you would still choose to live. You might be broken and a little more crazy for it, but you would live. That’s because you don’t need them. 

However, though you might not need them, you still want them in your life. And that makes the bonds of friendship and family you do have so much purer. Because those bonds you choose to have are made because you genuinely want to have those bonds, not simply because you need them. It makes you the master of your relationships, not the other way around; if a bond starts becoming a chain, it’s in your power to sever it. 

And no, being a survivor does not mean you’ll end up like me… though I’d admittedly prefer if you were a little more murder happy. It’ll at least give us something else to talk about. :)

Anyway, appreciate who you are.  Only then can you be free.  

Sincerely,

Dust

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