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Sugar Tip #3

When speaking to a POT earlier today, he asked what my allowance expectations were. I told him, he agreed, but added:

“I’m reluctant to hand that sort of money over in one go, so I’d like to do a PPM arrangement while we build trust.”

More often than not PPM is not going to be worth your time and is a tactic used by splenda and salt daddies alike. 

Never the less I smiled sweetly and replied:
“Of course - I’m happy to have platonic PPM dates while we get to know and trust each other.”

This is a great counter move; if he’s saying he doesn’t trust you enough to give you your allowance in full at the start of the month (which is understandable!), it’s unreasonable for him to expect you to trust him enough to be intimate with him. 

He’ll either accept your terms or run to the hills, either way you haven’t lost anything.

What makes a good Sugar Baby?

I’m often asked: “What makes a good Sugar Baby?”

Unfortunately there isn’t a magic potion that transforms you into Aphrodite, nor is there a definitive set of qualities you need to succeed in the bowl. However I’ve noticed a few common traits that almost all genuine Sugar Daddies look out for.

1) Confidence

Possibly the most important thing for a Sugar Baby to possess, confidence is essential for every situation you encounter. This means you should feel confident in everything from the way you look, to the way you walk and the way you talk.

You don’t have to love everything about yourself, just be aware of your best qualities and make sure you showcase them to your Daddy. Be warned though, there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance!

2) Flexibility

This doesn’t mean you need to be a super supple contortionist! – It does mean that you need to get used to your Sugar Daddy’s schedule. There’s a good chance that you are not the only commitment in this man’s life; he’s likely juggling a high-flying career, friends and potentially has a family to think about too.

With this in mind it’s not unheard of for plans to be made, cancelled and rescheduled last minute; so the ability to be spontaneous whilst maintaining your independence is a great skill to master. A Sugar Daddy doesn’t want to hear you moan or whinge – if he’s genuine he’ll know he’s let you down and will find a way to make it up to you!

Of course, it’s not unreasonable for you to have commitments too; make sure your Sugar Daddy respects these and is aware of any boundaries you may have.

3) Attentiveness

Being attentive doesn’t mean you need to cater to your Sugar Daddy’s every whim –whatever he might like to tell you! However a good Sugar Baby quickly learns to assess what her Daddy needs from her. Some men are lacking intimacy in their lives, others are searching for a companion or confidant, and some just want to relive their youth or unwind after a long day at the office.

Does your Sugar Daddy want a relationship or something more casual? Does he want to be told he’s fantastic in bed or does he just want to feel desired?

The sooner you can work out what your Sugar Daddy wants, and whether that’s something you can realistically give him, the sooner you’ll start seeing some serious sugar coming your way.

4) Ambition

The chances are your Sugar Daddy has had to work hard to get to where he is today; he’s not likely to want to share that success with a girl who behaves like an entitled princess (unless that’s a fetish of his).

A common complaint I see from Sugar Daddies is that aspiring Sugar Babes lack ambition or are only interested in materialistic things. So if you’re looking to fund your education, dazzle him with your smarts; if you have entrepreneurial flair, suggest a business idea, or simply show you’re passionate about something more than Louis Vuitton and Louboutin’s. 

Share these dreams with your Daddy – you never know, he might be able to help them come true.

5) Honesty

Girls, you know how frustrating it is when you’re talking to a promising POT, you meet him, only to discover half of what he told you was false… well, it turns out a lot of Sugar Babies are guilty of the same crime!

If you’ve never been horse riding, don’t say it’s a lifelong interest; if you’ve never been to the ballet or opera, be honest about it; if you’ve never ventured outside of the M25, don’t pretend you’ve been backpacking around the world. You will be found out!

Never feel like you have to lie about yourself in order to attract a ‘certain type’ of Sugar Daddy. Anyone who is genuine wants to hear about you and what you’re interested in, not the ubiquitous activities that pseudo ‘posh’ ‘rich’ people do.

That doesn’t mean you need to be totally honest when he asks the inevitable: “Did I make you cum?” ;)

As you can see from these tips; there aren’t any special or mysterious qualities that Sugar Babies are blessed with but mere mortals can only dream of… almost anyone could become a Sugar Babe if they wanted it badly enough.

~ KittensPeach ~ x 

Sugar Tip #48

This tip is aimed at sugar babes who have a certain level of financial security to rely on without working in the sugar bowl.

Don’t ask your Sugar Daddy to reimburse every little thing! Remember you’re trying to come across as an independent woman that doesn’t *need* a man to live this luxurious lifestyle… 

You’ve arrived at the bar early? Buy yourself a drink, better yet get one in for your Daddy too. This not only shows you’re mature and confident, but reassures front of house / bar staff that you’re not on the ‘look out’.

If you’re meeting him in the town / city you live in, there’s no need to ask him to pay your fare. Girl, you’re a grown woman, you should be able to afford an oyster card or a train ticket for a few stops down the line. (Of course he should pay if you’re travelling out of town)

Don’t ask him to pay for your weekly grocery shop at the local supermarket, this should be something you can cover yourself! However there’s nothing too wrong if he wants to take you to nice restaurants or foot the bill for your excursion to Fortnum and Mason’s.

The point is; if you expect him to pay for every little thing you do, he will start to lose interest. He will also see this as a form of control over you. In his eye’s you’d be lost without him - after all, you’re implying you can’t afford a train ticket or basic groceries…

Not the look you’re going for!

6 stages of becoming a Sugar Baby

Every sugar baby’s journey through the bowl is different; however there are a few stages to becoming a sugar baby that nearly everyone will experience. I’ve outlined some of these below:

 1) Researcher baby

You’ve read a book, seen a documentary and reblogged more ‘how to’ guides and tumblr tips than you can count. You feel inspired and have an insatiable appetite for learning about this new found lifestyle.

The thing is no matter how much research you do, it will never be enough. Each person you meet will be different and will come to the table with a unique set of requirements and expectations for their arrangement.

Sooner or later you’re going to have to take the plunge; go slow, be safe and be prepared to learn the hard way.

2) Naïve baby

The naïve optimist has done some research and made the decision to dive into the dolce head first. They have set up a profile on a site like Seeking Arrangement and feel overwhelmed by the amount of responses they get.

Their zealous enthusiasm to get started often means they sell themselves short and accept low ball offers. Common utterances from the naïve optimist include; “£100 for a night of sex? – Count me in!” and “£1000 to meet ten times a month? – OMG, sounds great!”

It won’t take long until these people become disillusioned by the bowl and adopt a more practical approach.

3) There’s more to this than sex baby?

At some point every sugar will realise there’s a lot more to the lifestyle than simply spreading your legs and moaning a bit.

The main difference between escorting and sugaring is that escorting is primarily sex based whereas sugaring involves the entire relationship experience for the time you spend together.

These men want to feel loved, desired and cared for. You’re there for his convenience, his ultimate fantasy girlfriend; a confidant, companion, masseuse, chef, therapist, stylist, secretary and of course lover; he doesn’t want PMT and a gluten intolerance!

This can come as a bit of a shock to the system and is made immeasurably harder if you don’t genuinely enjoy spending time with your daddy.

4) Burn out baby

The lifestyle is stressful! Don’t believe me? Think about it; there’s the duplicity and lies you’re telling people, constantly maintaining and cultivating your sugar persona and minimising any hint of reality, making time to balance your sugar commitments as well as your everyday life, not to mention dealing with all the flakes, fakes and time wasters that continually crop up.

There’s no such thing as an ‘off’ day, you’ve got to forget your stresses and focus on your daddy and making him feel like a King; this can be exceptionally draining if you’ve got other things on your mind.

There will come a point where it gets too much and you’ll burnt out. You’ll walk away from the bowl and vow you’ll never come back. I’ve done it, and all the other sugar babes I know have reached that point too; most of us have returned but not everyone…

5) The real deal baby

You’ve found an arrangement that works for you, life is sweet!

6) Nothing lasts forever baby

Sadly, nothing lasts forever, even the sweetest arrangements will end eventually. You’ll be left to decide whether you can face going through it all over again…

The Ethical Sugar Baby

Brilliant news – your Sugar Daddy wants to take you shopping for some new designer gear -but wait – how do you know which designers are ethical?

It’s a complete myth that every Sugar Baby dreams of owning a fur stole and python skin handbag; there are plenty of Sugar Babies that don’t support the fur trade or cosmetic testing on animals, many more are concerned about environmental factors and the issue of child sweat shops.

With this in mind this article will provide you with a list of cutting edge and luxury designers, who won’t put a blot on your conscious.

Clothes

Stella McCartney – A lifelong vegetarian, Stella McCartney doesn’t use any fur or leather in her designs.

Leanne Mai-ly Hilgart (Vaute Couture) – the former Ford Model’s brand Vaute Couture (the v stands for vegan!) aims to create high-end fashion that is vegan, created from recycled fibres and produced locally. The brand is favoured by the likes of Emily Deschanel and Alicia Silverstone.

Vivienne Westwood – Doesn’t use real fur in any of her designs.

Tommy Hilfiger – Stopped using real fur in 2007.

Calvin Klein – One of the early adopters of animal friendly designs, Calvin Klein has opted for fake fur since 1994.

Shrimps – The zany London brand uses bright colours and faux fur to create a bold statement. A coat will cost around £600

Huit - an ethical swimwear brand committed to transporting goods by sea rather than air thus reducing their carbon footprint. Celebrity fans include; Kate Moss, Keira Knightley and Sienna Miller.

Shoes

Olsenhaus – Brainchild of Elizabeth Olsen, Olsenhouse creates shoes that are animal product free. Shoes range from £100 - £250.

Beyond Skin – Brighton based company selling vegan footwear. There’s a wide range of styles available. Prices start from £80 – £250. Natalie Portman has also been spotted wearing them.

Noah – Italian vegan leather - sounds like a dream come true! Noah offers a range of hand-made Italian shoes that are 100% vegan. Prices start from £100 - £250.  

Cult of Coquette – Vegan shoes that are made out of the most environmentally friendly materials available. The brand states its handmade shoes are for women who aren’t afraid to rock a heel.

Bags

Stella McCartney – A lifelong vegetarian, Stella McCartney doesn’t use any fur or leather in her designs.

Matt & Nat – The name Matt & Nat stands for Mat(t)erial and Nature, which is the ethos of the company. Patrons of the brand include Charlize Theron and Natalie Portman.

Melie Bianco – An affordable, chic, animal friendly range of handbags for every occasion; think Balenciaga, Celine and Miu Miu styles, but without the cruelty.

Wilby – All products are animal friendly and the brand is well known for being eco, and environmentally friendly. Prices Range from £40 - £120.

Accessories

Mirabelle - Worn by the likes of Kate Middleton, Mirabelle makes handmade fair trade jewellery. Think pretty pendants at reasonable prices.

Helen Moore –brightly coloured, patterned and innovative designs. She creates faux-fur clutches, muffs, collars and scarves. One of these fun accessories will cost £40 - £150.

Polly Wales - Polly uses vintage and rough jewels to produce unique and imperfectly perfect rings, necklaces and earrings. Her designs use ethically sourced gems that shun the use of child labour in diamond mines.

Please be aware that this guide is not exhaustive and is subject to change at any time. If you’re in any doubt – it’s best to e-mail the customer services department of the brand you are interested in and ask for their policies and commitments to animal and human welfare.

I hope this guide was useful and you (or your Sugar Daddy!) can enjoy shopping for some ethical high-end luxury!

~ KittensPeach ~ x