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not-so-perfect-porcelain  asked:

No matter what I do, I can't make myself try in school. I'm a solid B student, but I know if I applied myself fully,instead of procrastinating until the last minute and handing in first drafts, I could be a ninties student. Ugh. I keep fucking myself over. Advice?

Hiya there!
omggg i understand. i really do. this happens to me too :((
thing is procrastination strikes at times just as this & youve got so much potential & can easily score well. but dont worry, with some time, hard work & patience you can tackle it!
i haven’t put the basic things you find on websites cuz you prolly know/ read em. i put a few things i use & find helpful. 
(sry if somethings sound harsh, it’s just that being honest is the best thing you can do to combat procrastination)

some tips: 

  • do you have a goal in life? a thing you’re working towards? maybe an ambition, or something personal that you want to achieve in life? everyone you sit down to study & feel like you dont want to, remember it. think of it. remember why you stared in the first place. maybe if you dont have a career choice for yourself yet, maybe have some small goal.
    for egs i want to be happy in life. if that’s your goal, do something that makes you happy. prioritize things that make you happy. 
  • a lyric by eminem i stand by:
    ‘look if you ever had one shot or one opportunity to seize everything you ever wanted in one moment, would you capture it or just let it slip?’
  • procrastination is the thief of time. i know its cliché lol but look at it this way; you have 2 weeks for an exam, you can either spend 2 weeks spreading out your work load and studying OR you can spend everyday wasting time & cramming in the last 2 days. 
  • what’s something that you procrastinate doing? like for me its reading books or youtube or just scrolling through tumblr. i cut out reading books during exam time & read only at night. i cut out youtube during exam time as well. tumblr is something i come to once a day fr a few minutes. this all took time & it wasn’t easy.
    so cut out things that you procrastinate on. one by one. every small action matters. 
  • try the pomodoro method. give this a read & try it. you can download the app as well!
  • read this from this awesome site:
    “ I have friends who almost never let themselves do the really fun things they want to do during the semester.
    They’ll talk about how much they want to play a certain game or watch a new movie, but when I suggest that they just go play it, they’ll say: “I really can’t; I have way too much homework and I’d feel guilty.”
    Five minutes later, though, I’ll see them scrolling through their Facebook feed.
    I call this low-density fun.
    Scrolling through your news feed or watching a few funny videos on YouTube is easy, and it’s sort of fun to do.
    However, because it’s so easy and feels so unlike “real” fun, it’s easy to not feel guilty about it – which leads to a lot of procrastination.
    The solution? Commit to having your high-density fun.
    If you want to play a video game later, commit to starting it at 8 p.m.
    Then, make sure all your work is done by then.
    Let your high-density fun create a deadline that propels you into focused work. “
  • a quote i LOVE:
    “effort never betrays you”
  • try the 2 minute method. 
    study for JUST 2 minutes. and then maybe just 2 more minutes? then maybe just 2 more! 
    trick your brain like this. trick your brain into thinking that studying is actually fun & that you’d want to do it just for 2 more minutes & keep going on. it really works for meeee!
  • try this study method: 
    • do the easiest or most fun thing the first
    • then do the hardest
    • then the 2nd hardest
    • then something that HAS to be done
    • then finish off with something easy & fun!
  • eat the frog lol pls not really
    if you have something which you HATE doing, do that first. finish that first & then go ahead with the rest.
  • is there something you really like doing? for egs if you loooove chocolate, you can buy a small stash & keep it away. then you sit down & do some work & then IF and ONLY IF you’re satisfied with yourself, indulge in yourself. if you’re unhappy with the work done, do not take it.
  • if youve got a lot of things to do, make a timetable for yourself or a to-do list. also allocate an hour of activities/ exercise/ something you can do to get fresh air. it gets the blood flowing & helps a lot!
  • if its a subject you hate:
    just using my egs here, i hate physics & I’m bad at it but doing sums & questions make me happy cuz then with some hard work, i get the correct answer! so if you have a subject such as this, try to do something which helps you get an answer which might motivate you!
  • if you’re an audio learner (you can find you which type of learner you are here) try listening to some videos while you jog/ exercise. Khan academy (an app) lets you download the videos you want and u can listen to em offline. they’re really really good!!
  • if you know what type of learner you are, study using those methods!
  • think of the effort you have put in, in the past few years!! youve been in school for so long & if you dont put in the effort for this year, you’re basically wasting the time you spent in the past few years!
  • think of the effort, time & money your parents put to get you this education. work hard & make em proud ☺️
  • do you have a park in your area/ a coffee shop/ library? go there, DO NOT GET WIFI!!! delete all the games off your phone  a well if you want to, & study there.
  • think of all that you can do for this world. youve got so much potential & so much to give. why waste it? 
    if you ever fail in anything, that is okay, you can always try again! just remember, its the effort that counts.
  • be a sincere student. you’re not only lying to your teachers, you’re lying to your parents & yourself.
  • if it really gets out of hand, call your mum/ dad/ sibling t sit with you in the same room & study while they’re there, or better, teach them! that way they can call you out when you’re wasting time.
  • switch off your wifi modem? ask ur family members if its okay lols
  • give ur phone/ computer/ tablet/ etc to your patents, tell em to lock it in a cupboard & not give it to u. tell them to hide the key as well 😂
  • study with friends if that helps you! prom each other when you waste time 
  • try fear?
    the day before your exam, work up all the things that might happen if you dont do your exam well or if you dont study. that might get your motors running? warning: this is kinda pessimistic. this is not for everyone. also if you have anxiety pls ignore this 
  • remember, just be you. having fun is no crime but trying to escape your responsibilities is well kinda. try to get eternal happiness NOT momentary happiness.
  • do not let the toxic mixture of laziness & fear mess everything up 
  • watch this 😂 
  • watch this as well! then get back to work k!!
  • this post by @emmastudies on how to beat procrastination is v v good!!
  • make a good timetable if you’d like & stick to it. again u can force your fam to help u
  • discipline is MUST. try to follow a strict routine!
    “suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”
  • do NOT compare yourself to others.
  • everybody makes mistake, everybody has those days but the goal is to nOT make the same one again. try not to!
  • look, you can do it. set your mind to it. sit down, get your things out & just begin.
    i know you can. YOU know you can!!!! the only thing stopping you is you. do not let your dreams be crushed by a the needs of momentary happiness.

sry if this post is kinda long oops
i hope this helped! 
ace this, hun! you can do it. if you ever want to talk/need help, pls do send me an ask/ message.  
i know that its hard to break procrastination but trust me, you will get over it. just keep trying, k?
take care & good luck. 💕

anonymous asked:

Omg, u saw kaisoo irl ???!!! How luckyyyy!! T.T, I really would like to know how did you feel when u saw them, and I would like to know how they were irl!!

I’ve only seen them twice in my life, both being exoluxion concerts held in my country (SG) and I’ve always been exceedingly lucky because I somehow always managed to squeeze through the pits of hell and end up in the first/second row. 

I got into kaisoo before I legitimately got into exo, you could say they were the reason why I got sucked into this bottomless pit of hell and pain that is this fandom so THE ANTICIPATION WAS UNREAL. I’m not a screamer in concerts, I just stand there and stare to be quite honest, so the members I get to make eye contact with always do a double take cos imagine in throngs of raging screaming faces there is silent one there unmoving and quiet (i tell you it actually really gets their attention, you really stand out from the crowd tbh, but then again I have really bright hair so). 

But yes back to kaisoo. I’m telling you they are unreal. Idk if you want to know about just them tgt or seperate so I’m just gonna ramble because I am trying to ignore my real life responsibilities.

Individually they are very striking. I kid you not when I say Jongin is a fucking Adonis in flesh and blood. Jongin comes real close to Kyungsoo in my list but he knocks him out of the ballpark irl. He is so goddamn good looking, you can’t help but stare at him and try and catch your breath tbh. And it doesn’t help that he is very aware of the fact that he does things to you. His legs also goes on for miles. But his solo baby don’t cry stage is the one that will get you, I’m not a crier but his stage belongs to him. It feels like he’s telling a really sad story and it is so beautiful, I was shocked when I felt tears rollin like a buffalo down my cheeks ok. Tumblr pictures and gifs do no justice to the emotion he emanates in that concert stadium. 

Kyungsoo is just super duper adorable and he is very handsome irl. For such a small person he has quite the presence. He is extremely professional, it’s very personal and impersonal all at the same time with Kyungsoo. He draws the line between idol and fan as well as the fact that it’s a job and it’s very very clear (at least to me and I appreciate that). He waves and bows a lot at his fans and sometimes seems a bit scared tbh hahahhaha its adorable. His live runs makes my ears bleed

But together, daMN. I can’t even describe them tbh. Everything you read online about the atmosphere is really real, don’t even take it with a pinch of salt, just take it. I would consider myself not in the least bit delusional lmao I’m not the kind that overexaggerates every moment they stand within a 5 ft radius of each other but they really do gravitate towards one another in a way that is very very fascinating to watch tbh. I spent the entire concert just watching them tbfh hoping to catch kaisoo moments, and I’m not lying when I say the entire concert is the moment. It always seems like Jongin trying to get Kyungsoo’s attention at first, he always looks around as though looking for someone, then glances in the direction Kyungsoo is in, then in the next one minute is lurking in the background behind Kyungsoo. And it is very obvious he tries to be subtle about it but it’s really not lol. This sounds delusional but really it’s very hard to put words to that unless you see it for yourself. I said at first in front because Kyungsoo actually reciprocates but he is the subtle one, he doesn’t try to get Jongin’s attention at all tbh, it’s more through actual actions like caring for him etc. He doesn’t stare at Jongin except when they are talking privately and guys.

When they are standing near one another, you can literally FEEL THE TENSION. I can’t find words to describe it, it’s just different. And it’s just with them. It’s not like kyungmyeon or sekai or chansoo or baekkai or any other ship. It feels very intimate(??) like you feel abit embarrassed and intrusive when you look at them just talking to each other, let alone whispering. Like you feel like you’re looking at something you shouldn’t be looking at? It’s almost like you want to look away to give them their space and to look away is the last thing I want to do as a kaisoo shipper but you just do. If I had to put a finger on what makes it so intimate is the way they look at and move around each other. The way Kyungsoo looks at Jongin is beyond my comprehension tbqh. It’s so gentle. Like the way you look at a child because they are so endearing and precious, that’s how Kyungsoo looks at Jongin. He softens his edges for Jongin and you see it through his actions and the way he treats and looks at him compared to the others. That day of the concert was the famed “kaisoo birthday hug”, and if I’m not wrong that was abit after that period where the kaisoo tag was “dead”, that’s why that moment was all the rage. 

The hug was, imo, a little awkward, compared to say this hug;

but they were in front of a HUGE crowd that was watching them, if I were them I would be equally as awkward and embarrassed, it felt more of an obligation than a real “aww hpbd bro”. And they are known to be very private individuals and imo don’t exactly love to be in the spotlight esp when it comes to personal relationships/lives etc, making them do such an intimate thing on stage when everyone is obviously watching and focussing on just them and the act of hugging is gonna be weird and uncomfortable. 

But it doesn’t mean that it wasn’t genuine. The tension during the hug was so real it was almost scary, even for me tbh. I think that was what made it look uncomfortable. Imagine if it were any other ship, like say sekai or baeksoo or kyungmyeon or chankai, they would have bear hugged the life out of each other

Its the fact that kaisoo was too real and they knew very well that everyone had their eyes on just them, I swear to god the tension was palpitating and rolling off in waves, I felt uncomfortable for them tbh. But other than that, kaisoo is a force to be reckoned with irl. I can only say this much because it’s so unexplainable, you have to see and feel it for yourself to really really see what tumblr and fanaccounts don’t do justice to.