locals health

anonymous asked:

That trans feel when you have an appointment with ur local gender health center in two weeks to discuss testosterone !!!!! It makes my day 500% better whenever i think about it bc holy heck ive waited so long

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Guess Which 4 Groups Would Be Disproportionately Hurt by "Defunding" Planned Parenthood
Hint: It’s not the old, rich, white men, trying to shut Planned Parenthood down.

Legislation to “defund” Planned Parenthood will hit  people who rely on federal insurance and public health programs. That’s largely people who already face barriers to  accessing health care as people with low incomes, people of color, people who live in rural areas — who make up the majority of Planned Parenthood’s patients. Meanwhile, the impact of “defunding” Planned Parenthood on people in the LGBT community and whose identities intersect would be particularly acute.

So, it’s anti-abortion politicians like these who want to take basic health care away from people like these.

Impact of “Defund” on People With Low Incomes

With the aim of shutting Planned Parenthood down completely, national “defund” legislation would close health center doors to at least 60% of Planned Parenthood’s patients — those who use public programs like Medicaid (the government-funded insurance plan for people with low incomes) and Title X (the government-funded family planning program, which helps people with low incomes).

Of course, public programs are already prohibited from covering abortion. “Defunding” keeps people who use public programs from getting preventive reproductive and sexual health services like birth control, STD tests, breast cancer screenings, and family planning education at Planned Parenthood health centers. Many of these patients couldn’t get these services anywhere else — and, like we said, many of them are people with low incomes, people of color, and people who live in rural areas.

Impact of “Defund” on People of Color

People of color in the U.S. are less able to access quality health care due to the intersecting consequences of racism, sexism, classism, xenophobia, and other systemic barriers. So, they’re more likely to rely on federally funded programs to access health care.

The Black Community

“Defunding” Planned Parenthood would be devastating to Black communities. Key points:

  • Of the 2.5 million people who rely on Planned Parenthood for health care every year, 370,000 identify as African American or Black.
  • Among nonelderly Americans on Medicaid, 11 million are Black.

If they were prevented from accessing Planned Parenthood, many Black patients would have no other place to go for the services Planned Parenthood provides.

This harmful legislation wouldn’t just keep Black patients from getting care – it would undermine their ability to obtain full reproductive freedom. Too often, Planned Parenthood is the only health care provider many patients access. That means their care is more than just reproductive health services – Planned Parenthood connects patients with resources to improve other areas of their lives.

The Latino Community

“Defunding” Planned Parenthood would be devastating to the Latino community. Key points:

  • Around 575,000 Latinos come to Planned Parenthood health centers annually (nearly a quarter of Planned Parenthood’s patients).
  • Among the nonelderly Americans on Medicaid, 18 million are Latino.
  • If they were prevented from accessing Planned Parenthood, Latino patients may have no other place to go for the services it provides.

Planned Parenthood sees patients regardless of immigration status and is one of the only places undocumented people can turn to for care. Given that the majority of undocumented immigrants in the U.S. are Latino, “defunding” legislation would have a disproportionate impact on them.

What’s more, “defunding” would put two crucial Planned Parenthood programs at risk of disappearing: Raíz, which helps Latinos access health care and sex education, and Promotores de Salud, which brings reproductive health education into Latino homes and community-gathering locations.

Impact of “Defund” on People in Rural Areas

If patients who rely on public programs are blocked from care at Planned Parenthood, many would have nowhere else to go. There simply aren’t enough other reproductive health care providers out there. In areas where other providers do exist, many don’t take patients who rely on public health programs. Key points:

  • 21% of counties have no safety-net family planning alternative should their local Planned Parenthood health center close.
  • More than half of Planned Parenthood’s health centers are located in rural and underserved communities.
  • More than two thirds of states already report difficulty ensuring enough providers for Medicaid.
  • Providers of ob-gyn care who accept Medicaid, such as Planned Parenthood, are in particularly short supply.

Impact of “Defund” on the LGBTQ Community

“Defunding” Planned Parenthood also would negatively impact LGBTQ health. Members of the LGBT community face greater health challenges than their heterosexual peers because of stigma and discrimination. People in the LGBTQ community who also are people of color, or have low incomes, or who live in rural areas — or whose identities intersect — have even more obstacles to reproductive health services. For example, LGBTQ people of color face particularly high rates of discrimination from medical providers, and systemic harassment.

Planned Parenthood understands that LGBTQ people have the right to safe abortion services, access to contraceptives, STD testing and a range of other health services free from stigma, discrimination or coercion. Losing Planned Parenthood would lose this safe space for LGBTQ people seeking basic health care.

Say It Loud: #IStandWithPP

If anti-abortion politicians “defund” Planned Parenthood, shut down its health centers, and block its 2.5 million patients from care, a national health disaster would ensue — and the groups mentioned in this blog would be hurt the most. Take a stand against cutting them off from care. Take action to stand with Planned Parenthood and its patients!

I got my period but I’m still worried that I’m pregnant. Help!

Someone asked us:

Hey, about 4 months ago I was messing around with my BF and I touched his penis and I am 100% sure I didn’t have any load of liquid or semen on my hands but my hand was a little damp, after this I touched my vagjnas lips over the underwear I had on. Since then I have had 4 periods that seemed to be very normal but I cannot stop thinking that I am pregnant and it’s making me crazy

It sounds like you’ve been worrying about being pregnant for a long time. I’m glad you wrote to us. It may reassure you to hear that based on what you’ve written here about getting your period and not having had sex, it’s highly unlikely that you’re pregnant. If you want to be certain, you can always pick up a pregnancy test (at the drugstore or at your local Planned Parenthood health center).

But the fact that you’re still concerned, despite your very low risk, is worth thinking through. You might feel better if you ask yourself things like:

  • How ready (or not ready) am I to have sex at this point in my life?
  • How will I get birth control and condoms to protect myself if and when I do have sex?
  • What would I do if I ever had an unintended pregnancy?
  • What would make me feel less anxious about having an unintended pregnancy?

You can always talk to your nurse or doctor or the staff at your local Planned Parenthood health center about your concerns. They can talk with you about birth control, safer sex, and other ways you can take control of your sexual and reproductive health.

-Mylanie at Planned Parenthood

At Your Service - Jughead Jones

request where the reader is dating jughead & has a service dog bc of her anxiety and none of them know, bc she never brings him anywhere, until they go to her house unexpectedly one day and they see her with the dog and she tells them why she has him and jug is kinda upset that he didn’t noticed and she tells them that she didn’t want them to treat her differently so she hid it and just a bunch of fluff between them

Had to do a little research for this once because I’ll be honest, I didn’t actually know service dogs for anxiety were a thing, but IT’S AWESOME! Hope I did it well!

Jughead x Reader

Warnings: - teensy bit of swearing <3

Words:  3,361 (they’re getting longer fam)

In memory of my dog Pebbles (2006-2013)

You hadn’t been in the best place before you’d moved to Riverdale a few years ago. You had faced constantly bullies at your old school, who would use anything whether it be your appearance or your broken family as a reason to taunt you. Your brother had been arrested thanks to drugs when you were 11, causing the existing tension between your parents to grow. They had split a year later, and all the stress had began to pile up.

When you moved away with your Dad out of town, you’d felt even worse about leaving your Mum behind. You hadn’t seen her since.

You began to have issues sleeping, endless nights spent staring up at the ceiling in panic. Frequent headaches and a loss of appetite took your issues to your local health provider. You just needed to know that you weren’t going crazy here, that the rest of your life wasn’t going to be consumed in fear, uneasiness and self-doubt.

That was the moment where you were diagnosed with ‘Generalised Anxiety Disorder’.

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A collaboration between myself, and @varvau

Story is conveyed and built with uncountable methods. A creator’s ability must transcend the Great Lie into Great Truth through varying degrees of Originality, often misidentified with the expression, “Everything’s been done, nothing new.” Lottery ball machines are, mostly, identical but their drawn numbers are unique. Traditional weddings in the Americas happen every week; no two are exactly the same. Originality concerns execution, not the fact something exists. With execution comes perspective. 


Ponder the story above. It is about trade, or is it? Certainly a subject, this trade, for an exchange of items is quite occurring. One could prattle endless an account of these creatures sharing daily trade with nothing more said. If that be the inclination expressed, all within earshot must question the extent of that speaker’s exposure to other cultures and their varying forms of relaying information. 

“But, this is a piece of fiction, it’s not serious!” speak many detractors of those seeking to create stories and worlds for a living, and later express devout love for, you guessed, another work of fiction. Twelve years ago, as of this writing, I was told by a doctor, who knew me since Grade V, my pursuit in creating stories and worlds was a “fantasy”, that I should speak with her whenever I “wished to return to the real world”. Quite, she did not believe in the profession of writing in general. Her entire practice depends on literature. That she worked with youths only increased the importance of fiction in their development—yet there she was, advising someone against creating new things, and making their own life decisions. I had, some years earlier than this encounter, decided for myself the what’s-to-do. I’ve not revisited that doctor, and never will.

Works of fiction are quite real for their creators, and some refer to their work as children. Readers identify with fiction for various reasons, and to them it may be more real than what is. A fictional world can be fabulous or grotesque, and still escape from ugly reality. Experiencing a foreign culture grants the same effect. One can tell a good story alone, a great story set in a well-designed world, or if they choose: deliver an immersion in time and place. The decision depends on goals.

Suppose you were dropped there, in that market, without knowledge of local culture, and didn’t die of shock at the sight of non-human beings, who bear likeness to our feral beasts, engaging in very human-like behavior. They don’t speak your language, no guides exist in your first, second, third, or any language familiar. Perhaps, you’re a linguist and realize none of their languages match recognizable lingual families.


In your face there’s scent as language, unless they’ve come to ignore or subdue natural body odor as humans did. It doesn’t factor within your ears, the possibility they employ hypersonic and subsonic sounds humans cannot perceive without specialized equipment, but—oh dear— you’re not naturalist with such equipment or deign leave a comfortable living for work in the middle of nowhere without many modern conveniences.

You quickly realize they posses no mobile phones, digital music players, any sort of advanced electronics, the internal combustion engine, telegraphs and wire transfer, gas lighting, and manure piles in the streets from who-knows-what that pulls their carts—if they did, then a copy- paste from the human world they wouldn’t be. How ever will you survive when so much isn’t

standard for your time and place? Maybe you should “try everything”, the worst advice ever given, except on desperation or a four-for-one sale at Inspired By de Sade. Following it may result in your demise.

The Didelphimorph on the right sells textiles and foodstuffs. Isn’t that nice? But…can you eat, let alone touch it? Is the Caniform vulnerable to certain foods the other may consume without problem? We’ve plants here, on Earth by example, quite hostile. Nasty little things like Gympie (Dendrocnide moroides), a perfectly normal horse-killer from hell that inflicts enough pain victims prefer suicide. Or, perhaps, your fancy is Manchineel (Hippomane mancinella), the adorably named Beach Apple. That one, dear, is truthfully a botanical death machine: a drop of moisture runoff from this tree blisters skin and corrodes automotive paint. Do you want to blister skin and corrode automotive paint? That’s how you blister skin and corrode automotive paint.


And don’t even think about the water. Travel between countries on your own planet, and you’ll find water of varying qualities to which the local population is immune, but you are not.

Your advantage is disadvantage. For the purposes of this example, they’ve no idea you’re even present. And, in regards to this specific civilization, where would you be without Jerome and myself? We’re to blame for dragging you into this otherworldly soiree where you’ve stuck a spoon in the ceiling but hey, you’re still alive. What’s mundane and automatic for this place is unknown for you: a language of Color, Shape, and Posture.

Let us start with the Caniform left, so eager to spend money. Upon his cape are two layers. Green, in local culture, is life and fertility while Brown’s is commonality of the every day. Technically, it is an off-white baize, but still counts as Brown.

That he wears a cape, not a tunic, tells of simplicity, good spirits, and the colors that he is newly wed and possibly expecting to become a father or has adopted a youth. The ceremony was not extravagant, a casual affair with a small number of close friends and relatives. Take note: local culture. His own native, that he’s possibly abandoned, may not define marriage in the same way, or practice it. Their definition of the “family unit” having two parents may not be.

Continuing down to his pantaloons, here again Green, and White. He comes from a lineage of relatively healthy individuals for legs carry the continuity of bloodlines. White is preparedness, but may speak inexperience and innocence towards the large change in his life. The Black tassels on the closure of his satchel indicate he contemplated life behind a sword; that they dangle free means he chose against, for warriors don’t wear needless items an enemy could grab and use against them.


On Shape, the leading edge of his cape being that color proclaims he’s nothing hidden and the vertical lines in his pantaloons speak twice: Green for a very stable family with little to no internal drama. White for a family young, perhaps 1-3 generations old, not big enough for a massive number of non-immediate members. 

On Posture, outwardly it is engaged in business. His open paws forward money and show he intends no harm. That he stands over the Didelphimorph is protection—he’s watching for anyone who’d steal. If he were bent, leveling their eyes, then an abrasive or unfriendly challenge it would become.

The Didelphimorph also wears a shade of White upon his legs, inexperienced where he is, possibly having moved from another region, or country, and is learning this new place. 

Upon his tunic is the survival and security of Blue. By wearing it close to his face, he proclaims status as a merchant who will not price gouge, dependable with good reputation of maintaining stock, and believes in honesty first. The shade lacks vividness; he is not fond for usurping local government. Here, wearing complete vivid blue on more than 25% of one’s clothes is punishable by execution. The golden bangle indicates prosperity, and that he recently wed.

On Shape, the off-white motif of an arch on the tunic suggests inexperience or preparedness in one particular aspect. The style refers to a building designed for residents, and he has acquired a living space. However, in local mental health definitions of shape, it means “halfway to stability”. This creature suffered from something tragic or debilitating in his past, but has over come it. That the arch is placed on the sleeve indicates confinement of some kind, either physical or social. The leading edge, also of the same color, reinforces his honesty as like the Caniform’s cape reinforces simplicity. Upon his bangle, the circle in his native culture describes a marriage under strict contract, the addition of ovals define immense flexibility within that contract.

On Posture, that his eyes are not on the Caniform entrusts he won’t be attacked, and accepts the other’s protection. They are likely very familiar with each other for the money is not set upon any surface, but held. The Didelphimorph, what most would call an opossum, does not have naturally exquisite eyesight. He’s near sighted, the Caniform knows it, and is aware his kind are mostly nocturnal yet the mid-day sun is high. Here is a merchant pushing his work hours into time of day when he should be asleep.

Bonus Material: The Red Textile

On Color, Red is power, therefore anyone who wears or places for decoration expresses it. Yellow carries various definitions, among them wealth. Black is self-moderation.

On Shape, triangles are important. The diamonds consist of two incomplete triangles, a sign of wealth shared, not hoarded. A bearer gives money to richer folk for investments in various causes, pays their fair taxes, and also gives to the needy below. The inverted, incomplete Yellow triangles near the Black X’s tell of one who gives more to the needy than to the rich. The Black X’s themselves are not viewed as two intersecting lines, but four incomplete triangles, designating establishment of inner peace. The Black Zigzag references inner peace despite unpredictability in life while the Yellow lines around it carry a second, separate definition from the above: financial stability is nearly unbreakable no matter what problems arise. Triangles without bases represent openness and invitation.

Bonus Material: The Money

On Color, the government that issued these notes considers all money equal, no matter who and what circumstances it derives, according to Brown. This includes money from illicit activities with varying stages of illegality and socially negativity. As long as it is legal tender, the government attaches no moral stigma to inanimate money even if it punishes the crime and may deal in shades.

On Shape, the rectangle declares stability of the mint, and the circle is “unchanging”. This society does not rate its money vs. others, being the prime standard. It sets boundary that it does not tolerate counterfeiting, punished by execution for the rectangle is also a block.

Unrelated factors aligned over many centuries, coming together at that precise instant and place, themselves forebears of the future in every aspect where physical and social sciences interact.  

This is World Discipline, more commonly known as Geography. Words are not required, though certainly they help. Walk into a bar in the United States, expect a full serving of beer as the definition of good service, and half considered bad. In another country, let alone world, a full serving of beer may be a local means of saying one should drink and leave, whereas a half- serving means stay: enjoy yourself, and what this place has to offer.

My current birth control method is making me emotional. Is there a method that won’t?

Someone asked us:

Is birth control just not for some people? I’ve tried a few options and I would almost “hulk-out” with my emotions, attitude and physically. I found myself miserable and angry at literally everything. It was worse than my menstrual anger too.

Some people have reactions to hormonal birth control that affect them negatively, but don’t worry — there are lots of options so you don’t have to put up with feeling like the Hulk!

Some people have more mild reactions to progestin-only birth control options, like hormonal IUDs, the implant, and the shot. There’s also a non-hormonal IUD that won’t change your hormone levels at all — it uses copper instead of hormones to prevent pregnancy If you’re looking for minimal side effects, IUDs are a great option worth looking into. They’re super effective and convenient too because they last for years without you having to do anything to make them work.

Take our birth control quiz as well to find out which birth control options might work best for you and your lifestyle.>> And you can go to your local Planned Parenthood health center to talk with someone about which method of birth control might work best for you.

-Julia at Planned Parenthood

anonymous asked:

What tips would you give to a pregnant woman? My friend is 17 and has no idea what to expect from her pregnancy.

Sucking on something sweet can help with the nausea–I prefer fruit gummies or smarties, something that you don’t have to chew at all.

Runs also helps with the nausea and heartburn–I never get heartburn ever except when I’m pregnant.

Prenatals can be really hard, but sadly they really aren’t exaggerating how important they are. If you can’t afford them, you can get them for free or super cheap at your local health department.

If you can, making things that you can freeze soups ahead of time makes a big difference.

You can call the hospital ahead of time and ask what they provide for new mothers to take home, so that’s one less thing you have to take with you for the hospital stay.

If you are planning on retaining custody and can, breastfeeding has amazing benefits for your baby and is waaay cheaper than having to formula feed! You can get a free pump from WIC, too. If you’re in school, you can still pump during school hours, they can’t stop you. You can safely store expressed milk in a thermal lunch bag with an ice pack in it.

In a lot of places, you’re also legally entitled to take a certain amount of time out of physical school without dropping out, where you can get your school work delivered to you.

There’s absolutely zero shame in accepting government assistance if you qualify. WIC, Medicaid, food stamps… it all makes a huge difference at the end of the month. WIC is the easiest to get, and if you qualify for Medicaid all you have to do is take your Medicaid card and photo ID (and proof of address, if it isn’t on your ID) and they’ll hook you up with vouchers for free healthy food.

Try your best to sleep when the baby’s asleep, especially early on when the baby’s only sleeping for like an hour at a time. You need your rest, too.

I hope this helps some!

This is one of my favorite energy cleansing/room deodorizing sprays. It smells fresh and clean, made with (mostly) natural ingredients, and makes a safe, effective rodent repellant! Here’s how I make it:

Combine 1 Tablespoon of peppermint oil, 1 teaspoon of cinnamon oil and 2 Tablespoons of the salt of your choice into a 12-ounce spray bottle (I got mine from Target, but you can find them in the beauty or cleaning sections in a grocery or superstore. I also got my essential oils from my local health food store.). Fill with moon, rain, snow, or any water of your choice. If you’re not of the witchy persuasion, you can nix the salt and use regular old tap water.

Both oils are known for healing, cleansing, protection, sanctifying a space, psychic development, love, and wealth. Peppermint is known for helping with rest and dreaming (and is the main rodent repellant) while cinnamon helps with clairvoyance and brings good luck. 

Rodents like mice and rats heavily rely on their sense of smell to communicate and navigate their surroundings, so although it’s not too strong for humans the smell of this spray is too overpowering for them and they don’t want anything to do with it. It’s safe to use around pets and children, and makes the house smell clean when it needs a boost.

Passive aggressive chef gets a master class in passive aggression

TL;DR: Chef is rude after I politely inform his staff about a bad scallop. Chef loses a sweet contract to host my father’s holiday party.

I posted about this incident recently in a completely different sub, and realized I had a great revenge story!

During grad school, I very occasionally treated myself to a nice meal out. I was at the smallest of the Big 10 schools, and the restaurant scene was surprisingly decent. My favorite local spot was tiny, open kitchen, terrific food. On my third visit, I had a beautiful plate of shrimp and scallops. It was perfect, until I got to the last scallop. Bit into it, and sheer force of will was the only thing that kept me from spewing my dinner all over the table. I’d never had bad shellfish before, and I never hope to have it again.

As I’d really enjoyed my meal, and every other meal I’d had there, I wasn’t going to make a fuss. It happens, I get it. But I did want to give the chef a heads up so he could be on the lookout for more bad shellfish. When our server came over, I told her politely that my dinner was terrific, but heads up to the chef that the last scallop was off.

She brought the plate back to the chef, who is standing directly in my line of sight about 20 feet from me. She smells the scallop, rolls her eyes, he does the same. Then the chef proceeds to visit every table in this small restaurant except ours, dropping dessert tasting plates at the tables who were done. Between tables, he takes time to glare in our direction.

The server brings us our check without a word. Doesn’t ask if we want dessert. I pay, and I briefly considered dropping a business card on the table atop the cash as my parting shot. (I worked for the local health department.) On reflection, I realized that could come back to bite me, so I left quietly.

My parents lived about 30 minutes away, and I brought them to the restaurant on a previous visit. Dad was so impressed, he had decided to hold his office holiday party there. His assistant had done all the legwork, and as it turned out, had an appointment the following week to finalize the menu and drop off the deposit. This was in the days when holiday parties were quite the do and the restaurant was going to get a check approaching 5 figures for a night when the restaurant was closed.

Dad took that meeting for his assistant. By his report, he sat down with the chef and the front of the house manager and a server started bringing out a tasting menu. Dad mentioned the conversation he’d had with me after my last meal there, told them he had no intention of spending another cent at a restaurant where his daughter was treated so rudely.

The chef blustered something about food cost, people trying to scam him out of free food, and what was he supposed to think. I’d eaten everything else on the plate, what were the chances that the last thing on my plate was bad.

The chef offered to discount the price of the party significantly, offered free meals, but dad wasn’t having it. “This is a small town. Word gets around. And FYI, my daughter works at the health department.” The restaurant closed up shop within the following year.

Thank You

Writer: Figgy
For: @myfandomimaginesworld
A/n: I don’t know if this is the kind of protective you wanted, but once I started writing, this is what came out. So I hope you enjoy it!
Warnings: idk poorly written fight scene?

“Heeeey Y/n,” smiled Stiles as he shimmied beside you onto the seat at the lunch table.

“Hi Stiles,” you smiled, vaguely uncomfortable. You didn’t know him very well, but you certainly knew of him. Finstock was never one to keep quiet, despite telling everyone else to “shut it”. Anyone who has had a class with Finstock has heard the story of the “kid who wrote an essay on the history of male circumcision” instead of the actual economics exam.

“So what are you?” Blatancy. Charming. Also, what?

“Stiles, you can’t just ask people what they are,” his partner-in-crime murmured, aghast. “I’m Scott.” Hand extended, you stared it, only because you didn’t know what else to do with his hand extended towards you. You weren’t big on physical contact with strangers.

“Scott says you smell different,” Stiles continues, seemingly unaware of his words.

“I… smell?” You ask, pulling at a strand of hair and pulling it to your face to inhale. Smells normal. This couldn’t be about… could it?

“Excuse him,” says the popular girl with the complicated reputation. You know she throws great parties, but she also apparently runs through the forest naked, and has spent some time in the local “mental health centre”.
You couldn’t help but wonder what these people were doing sitting with you? But you were beginning to get an idea.
Best to play it cool. No need to out yourself as supernatural if that’s not what they’re here for.

“You’re new here, we get it,” smiles Danny the friend you made in computer science earlier. “But this is Beacon Hills.”

A large crowd of people end up surrounding you at your lunch table. The blonde that was sick and now kicks ass, the strong silent guy that goes everywhere with her, a guy with a flashy smile and scarf, a few kids in the grade below you, your history teacher’s daughter, the girl you heard growling in math class, the other lacrosse team co-captain, and the girl in your English class who leant you a pencil earlier and said “I’m just paying it forward,” when you thanked her.
They all seemed friendly enough, but this… this was weird, right? Making friends at a new school is never this easy, right?

Something was definitely off.

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How Do I Make My Relationship Great?

No relationship is perfect all the time; it takes effort. There are many things you can do to help build a healthy relationship, but you can’t do it alone.

Here are our top 10 tips for a healthier relationship:

  1. Love yourself. You’ll be a happier partner. Know your own strengths and be proud of them. Take care of yourself, including your emotional health.
  2. Share your feelings and listen to your partner’s. If you’re upset or concerned, talk about it. Working through difficult situations builds trust and helps make relationships stronger.
  3. Be honest and expect honesty. Be truthful about what you do, think, and feel.
  4. If you want to know what’s on your partner’s mind, ask. Be ready to listen to what they have to say, and don’t assume you know what someone else is thinking or feeling.
  5. Spend time on your own and encourage your partner to do the same. Sometimes people think true love means spending all of your time together. But it’s actually healthier to spend some of your time with different people. That way you can grow as individuals, and have meaningful relationships with friends and family too.
  6. It’s OK to have disagreements. Partners often have different desires, opinions, and ideas. Everyone has the right to think differently. Make sure you respect each other’s unique points of view.
  7. Forgive. Even in a healthy relationship, no one’s perfect — making mistakes is a normal part of life. Apologizing and forgiving helps you move on, and holding grudges isn’t healthy.
  8. Help your partner(s) feel good about themselves and expect the same in return. Acknowledge each other’s efforts and accomplishments.
  9. Talk openly and honestly about sex. This is the only way your partner(s) will know what’s comfortable for you and what gives you pleasure. Make sure you have each other’s consent every time, and never pressure, guilt-trip, or pester.
  10. Take care of your sexual health. In a healthy relationship, partners protect each other’s sexual health. Getting tested for STDs and having safer sex are important. Make an appointment at your local Planned Parenthood health center to get birth control and/or STD testing.
List of Herbs That Treat HERPES

Here is a great list I am compiling for those of you fellow herpes sufferers who are looking for natural or herbal alternatives to acyclovir (Valtrex, Famivir, etc.) for preventing herpes outbreaks as well as treating sores that have already emerged. 

*These methods do not necessarily work for everyone, and there is skepticism among some medical personnel regarding the safety or effectiveness of these treatments. You may want to consult an herbalist or naturopath before beginning treatment. This being said, I have tried nearly every herbal remedy listed here  on my own risk and have not experienced side effects*

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Coconut oil- if you’re not already an advocate for Coconut oil in general, i HIGHLY recommend you include this magic substance in your life! Coconut oil has anti-viral and anti-fungal properties, and alongside promoting healthy teeth, skin, organs and hair when taken orally, it is also an analgesic and anti-inflammatory when applied topically to wounds. The Lauric acid in coconut oil is thought to ward off, fight and prevent replication of the Herpes simplex Virus. I recommend using it daily in cooking, as a moisturizer, and of course, topically to cold sores and genital OBs to soothe the area and promote healing.

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Olive Leaf Extract- One of the first herbal treatments I tried. Research suggests that olive leaf may be a true antiviral compound because it appears to selectively block an entire virus-specific system in the infected host. It then appears to offer healing effects not addressed by pharmaceutical antibiotics. Olive leaf’s broad killing power includes an ability to interfere with critical amino acid production for viruses; an ability to contain viral infection and/or spread by inactivating viruses by preventing virus shredding, budding or assembly at the cell membrane; and the ability to directly penetrate infected cells and stop viral replication. I usually take 30-60 drops daily during the onset of an OB (prodrome phase) and it can prevent the sore from even surfacing. I continue this treatment for the duration of a cold sore, should one appear.

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Essential Oils- Many people believe in the healing powers of essential oils for different purposes. They are commonly used for aromatherapy, to promote relaxation and improve sinus congestion. For herpes, peppermint, eucalyptus, and tea tree oil have been said to be effective in soothing the sores for pain relief, as well as promoting faster healing.

CAUTION: POTENT. NOT FOR INTERNAL USE! Essential oils can be TOXIC when ingested orally! DO NOT USE FOR GENITAL OUTBREAKS. 

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Raw Honey-  Some studies have shown that the microbial activity in RAW, unprocessed, unfiltered honey, can have antiviral properties and fight off herpes simplex from replicating when applied topically. These studies show that participants who applied raw honey topically several times daily had improvement in their outbreak as fast, or faster, than the prescription treatment acyclovir or the OTC treatment Abreva! I recommend Manuka honey, as it has hundreds of strains of beneficial bacteria. Raw honey can also draw fluid away from the sore, reducing swelling, redness, chafing and potential discomfort or pain. 

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Echinacea and Goldenseal-  These herbs are commonly paired in herbal supplements because they work wonders together to prevent sickness. Echinacea boosts your immune system, helping your body fight off the herpes virus, while goldenseal is a powerful anti-fungal, anti-viral herb. These can be taken orally as tablets, pills or tinctures, but also come in some topical products.  These are great to use at the first symptom. Echinacea also comes in tea, which is delicious with a spoonful of raw honey.

CAUTION: Echinacea can increase the effects of stimulant medications (such as those used to treat ADHD, CFS or Narcolepsy) and other CNS stimulants including caffeine. Consult a doctor if you take stimulants. Goldenseal should not be taken an excess of 1-2 weeks at a time and may cause upset stomach. Take with food or find topical ointment. 

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Green tea: Green tea can boost your immune system and help your body fight off herpes virus if your body contains enough of the active compounds (You must drink a LOT of green tea each day for this method to work).  Drink your tea strong, with raw honey. The iced green tea they sell that contains mostly water, citric acid and high fructose corn syrup will NOT cut it here. Always brew your own tea so you know how concentrated it is. Using tea bags is also effective, as some tea including black tea, contains tannins which are anti-viral and anti-inflammatory. 

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L-Lysine: If you’ve had herpes for a bit, you should already know the theories behind Lysine and arginine, two compounds found in varieties of food. Arganine has been linked to increase in risk for OBs, being a trigger for many people. Arganine rich foods include nuts and legumes. Lysine works to possibly prevent OBs and speed up the healing process if the sores have already emerged. Usually taken as an herbal supplement orally, but can also be found in topical treatments.

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Beeswax:  Going along with the raw honey idea, Propolis is a compound made by honeybees which is contained in beeswax. Clinical studies have shown that propolis healed herpes sores faster than acyclovir!  Thanks bees! We love you! Many lip creams/ointments use beeswax as a primary ingredient.

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Lemon Balm- One of the most effective herbal remedies for herpes. It has flavonoids, phenolic acid, and rosmarinic acid, which helps in healing the sores or blisters.  You can make tea and apply it using cotton swabs, take a tincture daily, or purchase it in the form of topical creams and ointments. 

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Corn Starch- Simple right? It seems that applying corn starch to a herpes sore helps keep it dry, drawing fluid away from the wound. This can reduce inflammation, swelling and redness, and prevent chafing. This promotes faster healing as well as soothing discomfort or pain.

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Vitamin C: Everybody knows Vitamin C boosts the immune system and promotes a healthy body. It’s found in citrus fruit such as oranges but often taken as a supplement in tablet or tincture form, or as a drink mix (emergen- C). Taking vitamin C regularly can prevent Herpes outbreaks as well as help fight them when they emerge

CAUTION: Vitamin C may cause upset stomach if taken without food. Though unlikely, In extremely high doses, vitamin C has shown to be an abortifacient by promoting uterine contractions and preventing embryonic implantation (pregnancy). Consult your doctor before taking vitamin C supplements if you are pregnant or planning to become pregnant. 

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Ultimately, I recommend a combination of these herbal treatments. You should certainly do more research before going out and buying these products, just to see what will work for you.  Some herbs can interact with certain medications or substances, so please be aware of this before beginning treatment. See a naturopath or herbal specialist at your local supplement shop or health food store. Most people employed in the store sections with herbal supplements know at least a bit about their properties and uses. 

Send me an inbox, as well, if you’re interested in knowing how these treatments worked for me personally. I do not take acyclovir for my oral outbreaks anymore!